FabSwingers.com forum: Do nice guys win ?

By *eppo OP Man
over a year ago

London Colney

I class myself as a real nice guy ...but does it take a fair bit of selfishness to make things happen ?

ie. Being polite / respectful hoping things will progress rather than going for what u want ?

Thoughts ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being open with people and telling them what you want isn't a bad guy trait, although depending on how you say it you could come across badly. You can seize the day and still be a nice guy. My opinion is that, on here in particular, what you want won't just fall into your lap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I class myself as a real nice guy ...but does it take a fair bit of selfishness to make things happen ?

ie. Being polite / respectful hoping things will progress rather than going for what u want ?

Thoughts ?"

Always be polite and respectful.

If you gauge after them opening messages of being yourself and they seem keen you go for what you want and see if it's reciprocated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a bit of a problem with the whole "nice guy" thing and men thinking that because they are a "nice guy" it almost entitles them to meet. Being sure and knowing what you want doesn't make you any less of a "nice guy".

Most the men I have met from here have been really lovely nice guys. But they haven't felt the need to make it one of their "selling points"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too get a bit suspicious when men feel the need to sell themselves with these qualities, especially as I think 'nice, polite and respectful' go without saying. All the men we play with are this, but it takes sex appeal and an understanding of what someone wants to push things to the next level. 'Nice' on its own is not an aphrodisiac.

Mrs

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

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"I too get a bit suspicious when men feel the need to sell themselves with these qualities, especially as I think 'nice, polite and respectful' go without saying. All the men we play with are this, but it takes sex appeal and an understanding of what someone wants to push things to the next level. 'Nice' on its own is not an aphrodisiac.

Mrs"

This x

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By *eppo OP Man
over a year ago

London Colney

I wasn't trying to sell myself with "these are my qualities .. Aren't they great "

But I believe there's quite a few guys that can be over the top in regards respecting / not wanting to upset anyone in anyway that are missing out on a lot of stuff that they might want to partake in etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this can also come down to preferences. I like a man to.be able to tell me what he wants and to be confident enough to go for it. I don't want to be with such a guy that I have to keep making the first move, telling him its ok and moving his hands etc.

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By *eppo OP Man
over a year ago

London Colney

"I think this can also come down to preferences. I like a man to.be able to tell me what he wants and to be confident enough to go for it. I don't want to be with such a guy that I have to keep making the first move, telling him its ok and moving his hands etc. "

Lol... Isn't that the truth !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nice do win in some case but some times they do lose out but that how it roles on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They finish last apparently, probably the wrong phrase for a site like this though

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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my experience on here is being a liar gets you want you want, actually that might be my experience of life in general too.

nice guys should get everything, nice people should. but it's unlikely they will coz they are nice. and being nice means not being selfish and caring too much.

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By *eppo OP Man
over a year ago

London Colney

"my experience on here is being a liar gets you want you want, actually that might be my experience of life in general too.

nice guys should get everything, nice people should. but it's unlikely they will coz they are nice. and being nice means not being selfish and caring too much."

My sentiments entirely ....

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"my experience on here is being a liar gets you want you want, actually that might be my experience of life in general too.

nice guys should get everything, nice people should. but it's unlikely they will coz they are nice. and being nice means not being selfish and caring too much.

My sentiments entirely ....

Caring and unselfish people can still get what they want.

Being nice is not an unattractive trait, though it may not be enough on its own to make you stand out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not brash or boasting.

I'm quiet, considerate and competent.

It gets me absolutely nowhere, lol.

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By *ancyYumCouple
over a year ago

READING

Absolutely agree with your sentiments. A nice guy who knows what he wants and gives and receives are the best

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By *ancyYumCouple
over a year ago

READING

Single men do have a harder time on here on getting anywhere. Persevere and changet your profile description if it is getting you nowhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my experience on here is being a liar gets you want you want, actually that might be my experience of life in general too.

nice guys should get everything, nice people should. but it's unlikely they will coz they are nice. and being nice means not being selfish and caring too much."

i would agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I class myself as a real nice guy ...but does it take a fair bit of selfishness to make things happen ?

ie. Being polite / respectful hoping things will progress rather than going for what u want ?

Thoughts ?"

If you are happy.. then keep doing what you're doing. If you're not. Change it up a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly think nice guys do eventually get there. I did. I treat everyone with respect, just like you. Change your profile as someone suggested, and maybe change your approach. Make sure to send each message referring to something in that person's profile or pictures. Shows you read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men put "nice" "respectful" etc as a result of countless statuses bitching and moaning (rightly so) about abusive nasty men, not because they feel the need to reinforce themselves but to reassure.

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"I class myself as a real nice guy ...but does it take a fair bit of selfishness to make things happen ?

ie. Being polite / respectful hoping things will progress rather than going for what u want ?

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For a starter they would certainly need a very good profile which includes decent photos.

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By *nvisible_manMan
over a year ago

TWICKENHAM

Nice guys dont win, we sleep alone but take comfort from the fact that we do the right thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men put "nice" "respectful" etc as a result of countless statuses bitching and moaning (rightly so) about abusive nasty men, not because they feel the need to reinforce themselves but to reassure."

FUCK what everyone else wants.. its what you want? Some people are more reserved, patient or not as needy as others.

If someone didn't want to meet me because I'm nice and respectful.. do you really think i should worry over it? Or if i wasnt quick enough in a reply.. or say and do the right things. So long as nobody is hurting.. No harm done.. no need to fret. Each to their own and all.. that's a bit of attitude a few more people would do better adopting online.. and off it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I am confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here are not interested in "nice guys " they are only interested in stereotypical attractive men who are fit and sexually experienced and have big dicks....as long as the big dick is not on their head.

Women will delete, block and ignore any man who does not fall into this category. Put simply they are interested in a nice good fuck not a nice good guy. The two are not mutually inclusive.

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