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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello swinging forum, I've been a member on this site a while now, been to a xtasia a few times but I'm fairly new to the scene. I'm polite well mannered genuine person. But I'm really struggling in getting replies, I read the other members profile fully and try relate to that in messages. I don't may be I'm not interesting enough or abit to shy or withdrawn at the beginning I don't know . Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated, if not I'll keep trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all suffer from it.. its par for the course.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh okay, I just seen a lot of ladies getting verified all the time, I thought I was missing out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh okay, I just seen a lot of ladies getting verified all the time, I thought I was missing out "

It's standard.. don't worry about it.. don't compare yourself to heavily against others. Understand there is another person on the other side of the screen.

I'd reccomend using the forum and trying to have fun on it.

Can't see any glaringly obvious common flaws in your profile.

Women hold all power on here.. this is the kind of crap they've had to put up with and still do to this day.. in the real world. So it's only fair they get full control in this world. It's small wonder power goes to their head occasionally.

New women coming in will meet the same studs first of all.. I see it on my local updates again and again.. oh look.. he's got his end away again.. got the looks or the gift of the gab..

But when men like him have tried and failed.. men like us step in and show that not all of us want a slam n go.. that we can communicate.. our desires, that we care about their desires, that we can be friends and give a fuck.. and that all that makes us better in bed.. than a wham bam thanks for the gonorehea

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh okay, I just seen a lot of ladies getting verified all the time, I thought I was missing out

It's standard.. don't worry about it.. don't compare yourself to heavily against others. Understand there is another person on the other side of the screen.

I'd reccomend using the forum and trying to have fun on it.

Can't see any glaringly obvious common flaws in your profile.

Women hold all power on here.. this is the kind of crap they've had to put up with and still do to this day.. in the real world. So it's only fair they get full control in this world. It's small wonder power goes to their head occasionally.

New women coming in will meet the same studs first of all.. I see it on my local updates again and again.. oh look.. he's got his end away again.. got the looks or the gift of the gab..

But when men like him have tried and failed.. men like us step in and show that not all of us want a slam n go.. that we can communicate.. our desires, that we care about their desires, that we can be friends and give a fuck.. and that all that makes us better in bed.. than a wham bam thanks for the gonorehea"

Well said, I did have the same opinion in all honesty. I was just wondering if I was doing something wrong. Nice one I'll try and get more involved in the forums and see where that leads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh okay, I just seen a lot of ladies getting verified all the time, I thought I was missing out

It's standard.. don't worry about it.. don't compare yourself to heavily against others. Understand there is another person on the other side of the screen.

I'd reccomend using the forum and trying to have fun on it.

Can't see any glaringly obvious common flaws in your profile.

Women hold all power on here.. this is the kind of crap they've had to put up with and still do to this day.. in the real world. So it's only fair they get full control in this world. It's small wonder power goes to their head occasionally.

New women coming in will meet the same studs first of all.. I see it on my local updates again and again.. oh look.. he's got his end away again.. got the looks or the gift of the gab..

But when men like him have tried and failed.. men like us step in and show that not all of us want a slam n go.. that we can communicate.. our desires, that we care about their desires, that we can be friends and give a fuck.. and that all that makes us better in bed.. than a wham bam thanks for the gonorehea

Well said, I did have the same opinion in all honesty. I was just wondering if I was doing something wrong. Nice one I'll try and get more involved in the forums and see where that leads "

Honestly mate.. Even if it leads nowhere.. it's more fun than being nowhere alone.

If someone is low, try to pick them up.. if they're too high.. knock em down a peg or two.. have a laugh, have fun, dish out advice if you think you've got some to offer. Take all abuse on the chin.. but remember you don't have to stand for it.. though by participating.. you've opened yourself up to it.

Don't be afraid of flirting and chatting with others.. don't be afraid of people who aren't usually your type. If you can get a strong mental click with someone.. the list of usual requirements melts away into fluff.. People just want to have fun with someone who gets them.. is honest and able to communicate.. sex comes after.. for those of us in this life long enough to know it.. even though it's the driving force behind it all.

oh.. and don't trust profiles.. they're often deceiving.. not always in bad ways.. usually good ways.. it adds mystery and intrigue.

Go forth and have fun.. let your personality do the hard graft for you.

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

You look nice enough!

You're only looking for women (no MF couples) which limits a lot, as the single women have as much flexibility as they want and usually don't have any need to compromise!

You're also a smoker which probably cuts your options down by at least 50% on here.

A bit more on your profile about what you have to offer and what you are looking for would probably help.

Definitely it's easier to get verified by being friendly at a club than from other types of meets!

Good luck

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP most single men struggle on fab. It's probably nothing you are doing wrong. The biggest obstacle in your path on here is the sheer number of men compared to ladies and couples.

If you are visiting clubs and having a good time then I would stick with that. Ask people you meet there to verify you on here, most are happy to do so.

I don't really use fab for meets these days. I prefer to meet people in clubs and I use fab for the forums and as a way of keeping in contact with people I meet at the clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You look nice enough!

You're only looking for women (no MF couples) which limits a lot, as the single women have as much flexibility as they want and usually don't have any need to compromise!

You're also a smoker which probably cuts your options down by at least 50% on here.

A bit more on your profile about what you have to offer and what you are looking for would probably help.

Definitely it's easier to get verified by being friendly at a club than from other types of meets!

Good luck "

Don't worry about being a smoker.. well apart from your lungs.. half the non smokers I meet on here turn into smokers the second I whip out the Cutters Choice.

Half the people who claim not to meet smokers, meet smokers... IF... you get that strong mental connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah, I think I needed that lol nice one, I appreciate your advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Didn't realise hadn't had mf on there, interests updated I'll add some more information about me shortly thanks

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