FabSwingers.com forum: New pics

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe people feel it’s a bit too negative?

All that stuff about not being fake doesn’t really enhance the profile ..

It just puts people off

Try saying what you like and what you are looking for...

Leave the fakes to it

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The text is designed to stop people messaging you. Nobody wants to initiate contact with someone who might assume they're fake or wasting their time.

Make it positive, make it about your likes and what you can offer. However I think most men accept that they will be messaging people far more than people will be messaging them.

Good luck

By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Hi OP.

I just looked at your profile and assume you have made changes as it doesn't come across as negative.

I would suggest putting something in there about the kind of person/people you are looking for. You must have some preferences so why not say what they are. Very few people are actually attracted to everyone so say what you like. It is unlikely to stop you getting meets, in fact it might help because you are not trying to appeal to everyone.

Your pictures look great and you must be doing something right if you have made hot pics.

Don't expect to get too many messages from single ladies, there are not that many of us who message first. You will need to be the one who is proactively searching and contacting people.

Make your first message polite and respectful, mention something that shows you have read their profile. It does seem like a lot of effort to send personalised messages but it is worth it. You could send 500 copy and paste generic messages and not receive any replies at all. You could send 20 personal messages and get a couple of replies.

Don't get too stressed out about nobody replying to you. Delete your sent messages so you don't keep checking them.

Good luck OP