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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi,

So I've taken some previous advice when messaging and to read their profile and tailor my messages to their needs. I'm polite and have relatively good grammar. I either get no response or deleted and blocked. The majority of people I'm messaging seem genuine and polite and have asked for all of the above.

What am I doing wrong? Am I that ugly?

Any ideas or tips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are probably doing nothing wrong

and neither is anyone by not responding to your messages..

if I was you I'd start sending out winks and try and get noticed that way, but make sure your profile is up to scratch first

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I appreciate nobody is doing nothing wrong by not replying, I just don't seem to get any responses.

Do you think my profile needs some work?

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP I would most likely delete a message from you too.

There are a few things that put me off.

Your profile text is forgettable and tells me almost nothing about you.

You have no public photos.

You can't accomodate.

Most ladies and couples read your profile before deciding whether to reply to your message. Your profile is your shop window on fab and you need to use it to show yourself off.

I would suggest doing a forum search for profile advice and pick out the good, helpful bits.

One thing you do need on fab is bucket loads of patience and a thick skin. There are so many single men on here. You can have the best profile ever and send fantastic messages and still struggle

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I would most likely delete a message from you too.

There are a few things that put me off.

Your profile text is forgettable and tells me almost nothing about you.

You have no public photos.

You can't accomodate.

Most ladies and couples read your profile before deciding whether to reply to your message. Your profile is your shop window on fab and you need to use it to show yourself off.

I would suggest doing a forum search for profile advice and pick out the good, helpful bits.

One thing you do need on fab is bucket loads of patience and a thick skin. There are so many single men on here. You can have the best profile ever and send fantastic messages and still struggle "

Thank you for the advice. It's difficult to know how to pitch the profile. So many people want so many different things it's difficult. Then add all the idiots who ruin it for the genuine ones it just amplifies it.

Again thanks for the advice

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"OP I would most likely delete a message from you too.

There are a few things that put me off.

Your profile text is forgettable and tells me almost nothing about you.

You have no public photos.

You can't accomodate.

Most ladies and couples read your profile before deciding whether to reply to your message. Your profile is your shop window on fab and you need to use it to show yourself off.

I would suggest doing a forum search for profile advice and pick out the good, helpful bits.

One thing you do need on fab is bucket loads of patience and a thick skin. There are so many single men on here. You can have the best profile ever and send fantastic messages and still struggle

Thank you for the advice. It's difficult to know how to pitch the profile. So many people want so many different things it's difficult. Then add all the idiots who ruin it for the genuine ones it just amplifies it.

Again thanks for the advice "

The best thing you can do is forget about what you think people want - there is no way you can appeal to everyone. Just try to be yourself and show your personality in your profile.

What attracts you to a potential meet?

If you can't accommodate people often assume it's because you are in a relationship and are here behind your partners back. It can help to put why on your profile.

I actually quite like the idiots on here, they make the good guys stand out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you need to go to a few local socials get your face known chat to ladies and not expect a sex meet just show your a regular guy and the meets will materialise honest it does work and everybody will give similar advise so it can't be wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I would most likely delete a message from you too.

There are a few things that put me off.

Your profile text is forgettable and tells me almost nothing about you.

You have no public photos.

You can't accomodate.

Most ladies and couples read your profile before deciding whether to reply to your message. Your profile is your shop window on fab and you need to use it to show yourself off.

I would suggest doing a forum search for profile advice and pick out the good, helpful bits.

One thing you do need on fab is bucket loads of patience and a thick skin. There are so many single men on here. You can have the best profile ever and send fantastic messages and still struggle

Thank you for the advice. It's difficult to know how to pitch the profile. So many people want so many different things it's difficult. Then add all the idiots who ruin it for the genuine ones it just amplifies it.

Again thanks for the advice

The best thing you can do is forget about what you think people want - there is no way you can appeal to everyone. Just try to be yourself and show your personality in your profile.

What attracts you to a potential meet?

If you can't accommodate people often assume it's because you are in a relationship and are here behind your partners back. It can help to put why on your profile.

I actually quite like the idiots on here, they make the good guys stand out "

Haha! Thanks for the advice.

I've updated hopefully it's a bit better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op you need to go to a few local socials get your face known chat to ladies and not expect a sex meet just show your a regular guy and the meets will materialise honest it does work and everybody will give similar advise so it can't be wrong"

Cheers mate, much appreciated. Obviously the overall purpose is to have fun but it's not just about the sex I'm interested in. Friendship and having a laugh is also important.

I'm not the most confident person so going to a social would be a massive deal for me personally. I'm not confident in the way I look.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op you need to go to a few local socials get your face known chat to ladies and not expect a sex meet just show your a regular guy and the meets will materialise honest it does work and everybody will give similar advise so it can't be wrong

Cheers mate, much appreciated. Obviously the overall purpose is to have fun but it's not just about the sex I'm interested in. Friendship and having a laugh is also important.

I'm not the most confident person so going to a social would be a massive deal for me personally. I'm not confident in the way I look.

"

Just realised you meant a social as in go for a coffee with someone not like a social party. I'm not confident in a club situation is what I mean.

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