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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi,

I just thought I'd see what people's opinions are on being on this website whilst in a relationship where the other half doesn't know.

On a personal level the relationship is great, but sexually it's relatively poor due to a total mismatch in sex drives, hence the reason I'm on here.

I know this is a swinging site so wondered if this is generally frowned upon or is there others on here in a similar boat to me?

I have contemplated bringing up maybe doing something like this together to 'spice things up' but I'm fairly sure I know what response I'd get, so perhaps the easiest option is to try and fulfil my needs here on a sexual level with discretion and no strings but without losing the relationship?

Is this a commonish thing...or am I going to get slated to the high hills?

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By *wheels4funMan
over a year ago

colchester

I am in a sexless marriage due to her illness, I love her to bits but am fed up masturbating. Would love to meet a fwb but no luck so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a very common thing on here and I have heard all sorts of stories why. Some have ill partners, some are secretly bi, some have mismatched sex drives, some have good sex lives but just want more... As for being slated, threads about cheating usually get quite heated. Some are dead against it, some think why not, some don't care either way. I guess the main thing to decide is how YOU feel about it x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's very common and you will get slated

Personally I'm not bothered as long as you don't involve me or disrespect your partner by implying that she is somehow to blame for your decision to be here.

I do think it's quite sad for both people that there should be a secret like this between them but not every relationship is the same.

Make it clear that you're in a relationship so people can choose to meet or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly, there seem to be way too many judgemental people on here ready to have a go at people who dare to come on here without their partners knowledge which is sad.

I really don't care what people do, their lives, they have to live with their decisions. I just don't want to meet them but many won't mind or may be in the same position.

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

We love each other to bits .female half has an insatiable sex drive. This is why we joined. She also has her own account and plays alone . We trust each other and it works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone on here and has their reasons for it times have changed but attitudes and being judged have not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is a very common thing on here and I have heard all sorts of stories why. Some have ill partners, some are secretly bi, some have mismatched sex drives, some have good sex lives but just want more... As for being slated, threads about cheating usually get quite heated. Some are dead against it, some think why not, some don't care either way. I guess the main thing to decide is how YOU feel about it x"

This, well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is a very common thing on here and I have heard all sorts of stories why. Some have ill partners, some are secretly bi, some have mismatched sex drives, some have good sex lives but just want more... As for being slated, threads about cheating usually get quite heated. Some are dead against it, some think why not, some don't care either way. I guess the main thing to decide is how YOU feel about it x

This, well put

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I couldn't put it better myself. There are so many reasons,and people will always have their own opinion.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Hi,

I just thought I'd see what people's opinions are on being on this website whilst in a relationship where the other half doesn't know.

On a personal level the relationship is great, but sexually it's relatively poor due to a total mismatch in sex drives, hence the reason I'm on here.

I know this is a swinging site so wondered if this is generally frowned upon or is there others on here in a similar boat to me?

I have contemplated bringing up maybe doing something like this together to 'spice things up' but I'm fairly sure I know what response I'd get, so perhaps the easiest option is to try and fulfil my needs here on a sexual level with discretion and no strings but without losing the relationship?

Is this a commonish thing...or am I going to get slated to the high hills?"

For men it's disgusting (unless you're really fit). For women, it means your empowered and modern.

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"Hi,

I just thought I'd see what people's opinions are on being on this website whilst in a relationship where the other half doesn't know.

On a personal level the relationship is great, but sexually it's relatively poor due to a total mismatch in sex drives, hence the reason I'm on here.

I know this is a swinging site so wondered if this is generally frowned upon or is there others on here in a similar boat to me?

I have contemplated bringing up maybe doing something like this together to 'spice things up' but I'm fairly sure I know what response I'd get, so perhaps the easiest option is to try and fulfil my needs here on a sexual level with discretion and no strings but without losing the relationship?

Is this a commonish thing...or am I going to get slated to the high hills?

For men it's disgusting (unless you're really fit). For women, it means your empowered and modern. "

We aren't sexist.

We don't care if it is a man or a woman, we still think it is cheating and it is not empowering, modern or honest.

We understand there are many reasons and sometimes these reasons are valid, but that is just a small number.

Boring sex life doesn't really fit as valid to us and usually it is just people cheating because they can.

That's our opinion anyway, but hey! Each to their own.

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By *eepndarkMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"It is a very common thing on here and I have heard all sorts of stories why. Some have ill partners, some are secretly bi, some have mismatched sex drives, some have good sex lives but just want more... As for being slated, threads about cheating usually get quite heated. Some are dead against it, some think why not, some don't care either way. I guess the main thing to decide is how YOU feel about it x"

One of the fairest posts I have seen in the subject. We are all different. Lucky for me my wife is showing an interest in swinging and her sex drive has awoken. Lucky boy!!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I play with a married guy but he knows I'm not wanting a relationship or for him to leave his wife. It's good for his ego that he can still pleasure a woman and he may have learned a thing or two in our meets as well.

It's also probably helped him cope better with a few things that have happened and helps with stress and depression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will most certainly get judged by many, others will not care. The most important thing is to be honest, no one likes a liar, and no one will lie or cover up for you.

For us it doesnt matter as we feel it is your business and your conscience, but you need to know you have thousands of peers to compete with, and most will opt for single guys to avoid possible future hassle from disgruntled partners.

Dont blame you for trying this, and i hope you get lucky, in the meantime maybe try greedy girl events or other ways to have discreet sex that is safer for you.

Do not expect a fast and easy lay here.

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By *abfemaleWoman
over a year ago

NEAR Windsor Berkshire

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