FabSwingers.com forum: new and need help

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we looking into trying clubs side of things but we bit shy and nervous

By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Which part do you need help with?

We can (and probably will) all tell you that clubs are amazing and you should go, but if you are nervous and shy that isn't going to help any.

Establish your boundaries as a couple before you venture to a club. Look at the reviews and pick one close to you you like the sound of. Maybe go to an organised social at one rather than a random play night. Then there will be less pressure if it isn't your thing when you get there.

Ultimately the hardest thing is walking through the door, once you are there, if you've picked the right place, the rest will fall into place.

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go along and have a drink, look around and meet some people.

Go with the intention of not playing, make it clear to people that you're just there to check things out and take some time afterwards to communicate and share your thoughts.

And then have lots of amazing sex together!