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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

....I am happily married but the physical aspects of our relationship have dissolved over time with kids and careers etc.....Am i wasting my time on here....i understand women dont like the thought of cheating behind another womens back, any thoughts? Thanks.....

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

uh oh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

too late to take it back now,poor you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i were you, i would put the word married or cheating in the search facility for the forums, you will find your answer there

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Maybe a better answer would be....you will find some people won't play with marrieds but there are also some who will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't look!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Rugby Does MFM, it was a genuine request for advice......My profile is upfront about my situation

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Thanks Rugby Does MFM, it was a genuine request for advice......My profile is upfront about my situation"

You can obviously put your advice thread up, but be prepared, as people will give their _iews and they might not be what you want to hear xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Welcome to the forums and site btw

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks i understand....

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"uh oh"

What...i'm being good today!

OP,not just women, some people on the site wont play with marrieds,my husband actually feels much stronger about it than i do.

However some will, just accept that you are automatically excluded from a lot of peoples meet criteria.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

...thanks, but better to be upfront on the profile don't you think ?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"...thanks, but better to be upfront on the profile don't you think ?"

I think so yes, then people can make a choice of wether to play with you or not.

There are some people who will.

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"...thanks, but better to be upfront on the profile don't you think ?"

I would say better to be upfront with your wife and kids myself, But thats just my opinion. ( sorry just couldnt sit and say nothing )

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

There are people that won't play with married men. There are people that unintentionally play with married men in clubs (possibly because they don't ask - club situations can be different to outside meets) Then there are people who will play with married men. I will. I think it's better to be upfront about the fact you're married in your profile - but it will limit your 'pool' of potential playmates a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better to be honest I think. There are a lot of people who will play with married people but a he'll of a lot more that won't.

A lot of people will tell you it's wrong what you are doing but I'm sure you have your own thoughts on that.

At the end of the day, none of us really know if the people we are playing with are married or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...thanks, but better to be upfront on the profile don't you think ?"

yep as im 1 of the people that it doesnt bother as long as i know up front .

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By *essesCouple
over a year ago

nottingham


"...thanks, but better to be upfront on the profile don't you think ?

I would say better to be upfront with your wife and kids myself, But thats just my opinion. ( sorry just couldnt sit and say nothing )"

+ 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has a married man myself, I understand why a lot of people can't be bothered with married men.

In most cases the following applies.

1. You can't meet people socially for a meal or drink to get to know them in case you are seen.

2. You are restricted to when you can meet people, the old “can only meet during the day, because my wife is around in the evening” scenario.

3. You are CHEATING on a person, that you say you love.

4. When you are not in a relationship, you can do things that might have consequences / risks that you can take because it only affects yourself. But if you are married it is not fair because the other person had no choice in the matter. Such as catching a STD and giving it to your wife.

I am sure I could add to the list and you could as well.

So I think being married or in a relationship, is one of the first things you should tell people when contacting them. They then make the decision knowing that it will most probably be an “undercover operation” meeting you.

If you do meet people, leave the baggage at home.

They know you are married and made a decision to meet you knowing that. They will not want to hear excuses why you are there. Such as my wife does not love me, we don't have sex, etc ,etc.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

welcome and enjoy..

there is someone for everyone on here......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has a married man myself, I understand why a lot of people can't be bothered with married men.

In most cases the following applies.

1. You can't meet people socially for a meal or drink to get to know them in case you are seen.

2. You are restricted to when you can meet people, the old “can only meet during the day, because my wife is around in the evening” scenario.

3. You are CHEATING on a person, that you say you love.

4. When you are not in a relationship, you can do things that might have consequences / risks that you can take because it only affects yourself. But if you are married it is not fair because the other person had no choice in the matter. Such as catching a STD and giving it to your wife.

I am sure I could add to the list and you could as well.

So I think being married or in a relationship, is one of the first things you should tell people when contacting them. They then make the decision knowing that it will most probably be an “undercover operation” meeting you.

If you do meet people, leave the baggage at home.

They know you are married and made a decision to meet you knowing that. They will not want to hear excuses why you are there. Such as my wife does not love me, we don't have sex, etc ,etc."

Sound advice!

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