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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well totalllg shocked at how difficult if is to meet up with females because being a newbie???

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

You have only been here 2 weeks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah ok Is that early ? But seem to get no response they say to fit etc lol

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Many blokes take months to meet someone, let alone two weeks. It's not instashag and there's hundreds of single guys for every woman. Nothing shocking about it.

You haven't asked for profile advice, but there's a pretty glaringly obvious problem.

You need patience on here - lots and lots of it

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Remember you can't be everyone's cup of tea. People have lives and can't meet just like that.

Also the biggest population on here is single men. You need to stand out from the crowd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well totalllg shocked at how difficult if is to meet up with females because being a newbie???"

Nothing to do with being a newbie. People will look at your profile and respond if you meet their requirements.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Well totalllg shocked at how difficult if is to meet up with females because being a newbie???"
I don't think it's just because your new

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By *lexbaneMan
over a year ago

Rugby

I've been on here a while now and also found it tricky to get started - especially with so many guys and couples / ladies having their pick of the bunch.

Getting verified is a good start and remaining polite and non-pushy if you don't get responses is how I played it... still took a while but I guess you need to pay your dues.

Attending a club/party is a good way to meet and socialise with people which helps you get a chance to get your personality across - not just talking about sex immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well totalllg shocked at how difficult if is to meet up with females because being a newbie???"

They leave and return.

On a serious note..... they leave and return having been rebuffed, reassessing their expectations and what they want. They are generally more polite and get rewarded for their renewed efforts.

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

try and attend some of the social events that are held in south wales and patience like has been mentioned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well totalllg shocked at how difficult if is to meet up with females because being a newbie???"

Totally shocked?? Really ??

What were you expecting?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Well totalllg shocked at how difficult if is to meet up with females because being a newbie???

Totally shocked?? Really ??

What were you expecting?"

Sycophantic, commando women who are permanently wet with a waiting open mouth probably. Aren't we all like that here?

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

People will look at your profile before replying so I don't think it's just that you're new here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

My first advice to you would be to block single men.

Due to there being way more men than women on here guys have to put the legwork in. Clubs and socials sometimes yield better results.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on here a while now and also found it tricky to get started - especially with so many guys and couples / ladies having their pick of the bunch.

Getting verified is a good start and remaining polite and non-pushy if you don't get responses is how I played it... still took a while but I guess you need to pay your dues.

Attending a club/party is a good way to meet and socialise with people which helps you get a chance to get your personality across - not just talking about sex immediately. "
only problem is how do you get asked to parties if no one asking plus like me there's not any clubs around were i live. So not everyone can go to clubs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes how do I block men responding don't want that lol !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes agree to that to no invites

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What I done wrong then ? Can you offer advice please ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is my profile ok ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is my profile ok ?"

tbh OP its terrible, full of mistakes and doesn't read well at all

and FYI this is a swinging site, not a sex site

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

My personal opinion is the profile is way too ranty.

People want to know about you, not hear you moan about guys messaging you. You protest so much, it might lead some to suspect that you secretly spend all day watching German gay spanking porn and singing Shirley Bassey songs.

Block single guys if it's that much of an issue, but honestly, just ignore them. It's no big deal - it's cheeky of them, but I bet it occasionally works.

The biggest thing is patience though. Get known, contribute to the site. It takes months for many blokes.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

It sounds aggressive and pushy.

You can set your message filters to stop messages from guys so you won't have to rant about getting them quite as much as you do now.

Try and sound friendly and somebody others may like to meet.

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By *ighlander80884Man
over a year ago

Inverness


"Is my profile ok ?"

No!

What's with all the!!

You sound like Mister Angry!

You can't spell anal...

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Ah ok Is that early ? But seem to get no response they say to fit etc lol "
very early..my suggestion is to get out to a club or socials get known face to face and use this, from then on.

yes its early if you are only using the site as a means to meet from and you are new x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might want to step back and read your profile to yourself?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Is my profile ok ?"

It's awful, so negative and angry that people will be put off.

This is meant to be fun and there are a zillion friendly guys who will get picked over you.

And be aware that women are on here for their own reasons, not just to please the men.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"and FYI this is a swinging site, not a sex site"

That too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is my profile ok ?"

Very poorly written. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went on a meet with a guy last night who had only joined 9 hours earlier! We both had a great time and he was saying what a great site fab is. I was laughing saying how most newbies struggle and he managed to get a meet in hours! I always say clubs are the best way to meet people. X

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Your profile is awful. Shouty, ranty, aggressive, angry...going on about guys...just block single men and forget them.

Oh...this is a swingers site, not a sex site. There is a difference. Learn about swinging, how people in the scene communicate and behave. Here's a hint...most ladies look for a well written profile without lots of mistakes and where the guy calmly explains what he can offer.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"I went on a meet with a guy last night who had only joined 9 hours earlier! We both had a great time and he was saying what a great site fab is. I was laughing saying how most newbies struggle and he managed to get a meet in hours! I always say clubs are the best way to meet people. X"
lucky him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many blokes take months to meet someone, let alone two weeks. It's not instashag and there's hundreds of single guys for every woman. Nothing shocking about it.

You haven't asked for profile advice, but there's a pretty glaringly obvious problem.

You need patience on here - lots and lots of it "

Yep take your cock shot down unless asked for it. If you want to meet, try a club and be none threatening and nice. I have much better success at clubs then on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is my profile ok ?"

Yeah, so advice.

Take down the shouty text. It comes off as the wrong sort of aggressive.

Watch out for obvious spelling mistakes. Im crap but that second missing e from however will get you flogged.

Block single males if you dont want the odd bj request. On your account it will have a blocked users section. You do it there.

So you know I have zero success on here, only at clubs. Take that as you will.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Is my profile ok ?

tbh OP its terrible, full of mistakes and doesn't read well at all

and FYI this is a swinging site, not a sex site"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Profile is very off putting we definitely wouldn't meet even if local to us and you were looking for couples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well totalllg shocked at how difficult if is to meet up with females because being a newbie???"

Just send loads of 'fancy a fuck' messages, friend invites and cock pics. They'll be queueing round the block.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

To further answer the question....remember there are 20 or more men for every lady here. Also remember the ladies are usually not here to satisfy us men's needs....it's about mutual satisfaction not getting one's rocks off. Treat the women as individual human beings, find out what they are hoping to experience. It's not all about you.

Go to a club or a social, hang out on the chat rooms and become known to the regulars there. It takes *effort* and time. Many guys take months to find their first meet. You get out of Fab only what you put in.

Ask yourself why a lady should want to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest your profile is written like a lot of the single female profiles on here. Will only meet members of the opposite sex younger than you, followed by a load of shouty rants about things you don't like and how much they piss you off.

But the difference is that they are the ones in demand so they can rant and come across as surly pissed off types and will still get meets. Though I imagine their meets on average will be less satisfying than a lady's with a well-balanced profile as there will be more guys meeting her of the type just wanting to "get in there, empty their balls and do one before she next flips out" so to speak.

But as a single male profile on a swinging site, it won't work that well at all. Fair enough if you're on a dating site, the numbers game being the other way would probably still mean that you'd have women meeting with you, though not always the best kind.

But on a site that it is heavy on sexual meet-ups, you want to look like Sir Galahad, riding in on a white charger with a plethora of buzzing sex toys loaded up in his saddlebags. And Sir Galahad never ranted and raved about how hard it was to acquire decent chainmail and how he once got fobbed off with an inferior broadsword to the best of my knowledge...

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I read it and thought fuck, and not in a good way. We like fun guys, ranty shouty is not for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good to see he's taken all the good advice and not just ignored it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks good advice x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok profile sorted thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol x

Ok profile sorted fingers crossed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes thank you Nicola willl do thanks for repnybabd advice

Added you as friebd hope that ok Lloyd

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah ok thanks buddy will re write thanks again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok sounds good ok will look into social events thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes agree sort it out thank you x done. Please check ? Lloyd

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes agree sorry have re written hope its better thank you cx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lucky guy ha ha

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By *r discreet472Man
over a year ago

Durham

Yeah I got that problem too. Been on nearly 3 month n only met one person

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah ok if honest a friend help write it I'm truly a great guy and well known

I no I'm 43 but compete still rowing and got many records

Will rewrite hope it be better let Me no x

Hope to be friends x Lloyd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Um...I read this thread and it seems to say you'd sorted your profile...um...what was it like before?? It's still ranting I'm afraid...we all know it's not a relationship site but the way you phrase it is rather aggressive. Cut the stuff about men messaging...Block men as suggested and it stops.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Took me a year lol

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow


"Um...I read this thread and it seems to say you'd sorted your profile...um...what was it like before?? It's still ranting I'm afraid...we all know it's not a relationship site but the way you phrase it is rather aggressive. Cut the stuff about men messaging...Block men as suggested and it stops.

Good luck"

Yep ranty x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply and quote button op!

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Erm....it's still the same, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's much much better!

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By *ister jonesMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Although I'm not really a new member I haven't used it much til recently, so I read this with interest. Thanks for all the posts giving advice, much appreciated! Its funny how different sites have different personalitys almost. Anyway, thanks again and any feedback on my profile would be appreciated if any of you lovely people have the time or inclination!

Cheers j.

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

One thing to bear in mind, there's about 50single guys, minimum to every couple looking for threesomes.

Our profile says in capital letters for guys not to contact us as we can have upto 50/60 requests a day asking to meet.

Make your profile stand out from the rest and as had been said plenty of times, have patience.

Did you really think there were loads of ladies just going to drop their knickers for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading this thread is the most fun ive had since i joined the site.

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