FabSwingers.com forum: 2 weeks in, married, is it that big a problem?

By *norkster OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

Been on 2 weeks now, had a couple of chats but not really moving forward. I'm married with an almost dead sex life, so it was suggested I try this, so I did.. guess I'm just really looking for some advice on how to put myself across and also asking what's the best 'ice breaker' as most messages are either deleted or no reply.. help..

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Try putting effort into your relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a problem for some,

Not a problem for others.

You're welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on 2 weeks now, had a couple of chats but not really moving forward. I'm married with an almost dead sex life, so it was suggested I try this, so I did.. guess I'm just really looking for some advice on how to put myself across and also asking what's the best 'ice breaker' as most messages are either deleted or no reply.. help.."

Being married will put a lot of people off, but you're being honest about it.

Your photos and profile are far from the worst we've seen.

I'd say give it time, there's no short cut here and single men are in the majority here so there's lots of competition for you.

Take your time, don't be in a hurry to meet. Build some rapport before suggesting a meet. Socials first are a good idea.

Make your messages personal, inject some humour and personality and include a face pic with your message.

And delete your sent mail folder regularly or it'll drive you insane.

Good luck.

M plus E

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By *norkster OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

I really do, I tell her I love her, say how good she looks, buy her stunning lingerie, make her good food, she's just got a really high profile job that consumes all of her time, so always too tired or 'we'll do it tomorrow', then she falls asleep as soon as kids are in bed. We've almost had sex once this year so far so it can't be all my fault?

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By *norkster OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

Thanks for that, I'll stay positive. Cx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome - you gave a great smile.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Thanks for that, I'll stay positive. Cx"

If you still love her and she loves you - that is so positive. Can you work on that ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for that, I'll stay positive. Cx"

Two more tips;

Use the reply and quote button and everyone will know who you're talking to.

Ignore the negativity and don't rise or respond to it.

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By *norkster OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

"Thanks for that, I'll stay positive. Cx

Two more tips;

Use the reply and quote button and everyone will know who you're talking to.

Ignore the negativity and don't rise or respond to it. "

Ah, that makes sense.

Thanks for your advice, good tip as well as I was wondering who the replies were going to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for that, I'll stay positive. Cx

Two more tips;

Use the reply and quote button and everyone will know who you're talking to.

Ignore the negativity and don't rise or respond to it.

Ah, that makes sense.

Thanks for your advice, good tip as well as I was wondering who the replies were going to.

Glad to have been of assistance.

Enjoy your time on Fab.

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By *xxxMan
over a year ago

Bedford & Chester

Two weeks isn't a long time on here for a single guy. Your honesty will go down well with as many as you will alienate but being selective and having socials will help.

Don't try too hard and remember your hoping to be lucky enough to be invited into somebody else's or another couples fantasy world. That and single guys are two a penny on this site. Stay genuine and positive though pal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy your time on here, ignore those who don't want to meet those who are on here looking for sex behind their partners back and just concentrate on the ones who will meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jaysus lets not get to serious lay off the ladies!

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

1.Your relationship status will put many off

2. It takes most men months to arrange a meet, you have got a while to wait yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, never start a thread asking what people think of married people looking for sex behind their partners back

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I've deleted posts, if you quoted them your post will be gone too.

Play nice people.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

If your wife knows you ate on here, all well and good. If not then being here will never fix your relationship with your wife... It will destroy it if she finds out......

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

You say you are a genuine honest guy..not with your wife though...

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

And to answer your question, those who delete or don't reply, probably wont meet you because you are married, but good luck.

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By *itsmcgee4Couple
over a year ago

Central

"You say you are a genuine honest guy..not with your wife though..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt anyone on here is 100% honest with every person in their life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know there's lots of reasons why people stay together, financial, kids etc, but if you can't be honest with each other....... "listen darling, I want to shag other people "

Them I'm afraid you are doomed.......married guys? Come on, you made those vows, now be honest with your women, she might be bored with you too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you actually sat down and spoke to her about this or have you just plodded on.

Because if you actually sit down with her and speak about it you will probably find she feels the same.

If you haven't spoke to her and don't feel as if you can text her tell her you would like to speak but don't think you can do it face to face so have a text chat and let her know because if you keep the lies and cheating up it's never going to get better at home as you will always be chasing the thrill and things will only suffer more st home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt anyone on here is 100% honest with every person in their life."

This.

Stones. Cast. Sins. Etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For gods sake leave the poor guy alone with your holier than thou judgements.

We're all here for different reasons. You cant put everyone into the same pigeonholes.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"I doubt anyone on here is 100% honest with every person in their life."

Maybe not...but this is supposed to be his partner !

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

While you can survive without sex that doesn't mean you want to, It's not an uncommon thing to look elsewhere for sex if there's none in a relationship.

I honestly wouldn't be surprised if the sexual side is as dead as the OP says, that his wife isn't already looking/doing it herself, even if the OP thinks she doesn't have the time to find it, but as they say where there's a will there's a way.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

You really need to speak to your wife ... and tell her how you feel .... try to improve your relationship ... perhaps listen to her, talk together .Being on here wont help .....it could make it worse ... good luck OP .

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I doubt anyone on here is 100% honest with every person in their life."

Well I certainly am with my husband, no need to be anything else!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if you're a male.

No if you're female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes if you're a male.

No if you're female "

Who's fault is that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes if you're a male.

No if you're female

Who's fault is that?"

Explain?

To the couples and females on fab no if you're female.

Yes if you're male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes if you're a male.

No if you're female

Who's fault is that?

Explain?

To the couples and females on fab no if you're female.

Yes if you're male."

I don't believe that. Some men will meet married ladies, some women will meet married men.

I rarely see threads started by married women asking if being married is a problem whereas I've seen quite a few threads started by married men asking if being married is a problem. These threads always have a lot of negative posts but I'm pretty sure there would be just as many negative views if a married woman started such a thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes if you're a male.

No if you're female

Who's fault is that?

Explain?

To the couples and females on fab no if you're female.

Yes if you're male.

I don't believe that. Some men will meet married ladies, some women will meet married men.

Ratio of men to women so it's obviously gonna be more men asking. Where as the females of the fab world are highly sought after. You know the unicorns. So why would they need to ask. I'm sure they get plenty of offers

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

You being married will be a huge issue for some but not for others. I think you've got a great profile, you could do with a few more pics though

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yes if you're a male.

No if you're female

Who's fault is that?

Explain?

To the couples and females on fab no if you're female.

Yes if you're male."

I think it's

No if you just get on with it without trying to justify, blame your partner or attribute your lack of success on fab to your marital status.

Yes if you do justify, blame your partner and attribute your lack of success to your marital status.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Suggested by whom OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1.Your relationship status will put many off

2. It takes most men months to arrange a meet, you have got a while to wait yet"

No it doesn't I get plenty of meets ... I find being myself and taking time to read profiles and ultimately using manors and being respectful to people goes a long way here just my opinion ... good luck OP don't be put of by others negativity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some will meet you, some won't.

If there's an organised social near you , that can be good as an icebreaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really do, I tell her I love her, say how good she looks, buy her stunning lingerie, make her good food, she's just got a really high profile job that consumes all of her time, so always too tired or 'we'll do it tomorrow', then she falls asleep as soon as kids are in bed. We've almost had sex once this year so far so it can't be all my fault?"

Replay your wedding vows to yourself. What did u promise her?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Replay your wedding vows to yourself. What did u promise her?"

That cuts both ways. Isn't there a line in the traditional church solemnisation of marriage ceremony that goes along the lines of ' with my body I theme honour/worship'. Isn't that vowing to have sex with someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh I thought this was a post which said he'd been married 2 weeks and was already bored and was shagging around already...... Sorry mate I see it's not that LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gosh I thought this was a post which said he'd been married 2 weeks and was already bored and was shagging around already...... Sorry mate I see it's not that LOL"

That's exactly what I read it as lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gosh I thought this was a post which said he'd been married 2 weeks and was already bored and was shagging around already...... Sorry mate I see it's not that LOL"

That made me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Replay your wedding vows to yourself. What did u promise her?

Yes and she prob does have sex with him but not as much as he wants . All marriages have sacrifices. If you don't like them... get out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For gods sake leave the poor guy alone with your holier than thou judgements.

We're all here for different reasons. You cant put everyone into the same pigeonholes. "

^on point. We're all here for different reasons, just cause you disagree with someone's reasons doesn't mean ya'll should be threaders with him. But welcome OP, I've been on for many moons and as yet still to find a meet. My advice to get replies is be imaginative, not creepy, most of my replies come from me introducing myself and then just leaving it by asking them to check out my profile and see if I'm what they're looking for. Attaching a face picture usually marks you out from the usual 'lets fuck -attach cockpic-' messages.

Hope this was of value mate and happy fabbing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Replay your wedding vows to yourself. What did u promise her?

Ah yes indeed, but of course being a man he gets all the self righteous bile people can hawk up from the back of their throats.

I've always worked on the principal of someone else's business is none of mine.

Some of the earlier posts, (now removed and rightly so), were disgustingly self righteous.

Two pence spent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A large number of people on here, us included won't meet with those who are playing away without their partners knowledge. If your relationship really is that bad then why not consider couples counseling perhaps something more than her job is going on, maybe she is unhappy too.

Either way, to answer your question yes it will reduce your chances on here, but there are also others who seek out that kind of thing so up to you what you do.

And in terms of icebreakers if people aren't interested they will just delete the message it isn't considered rude on here some people get alot of messages and replying no to 99% of them could be time consuming

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

Welcome to Fab OP where you'll get advice on how to sort your out even if all you ask is "how much is a happy meal these days?"

I wish you the best if luck and make sure you treat it with the mentality of 'potentially a bit of fun' rather than 'must get laid' you'll be fine.

To answer your original question yes it's completely normal to have not met someone in two weeks.

Anyway I hope you have a great time here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personalise your emails to select couples / woman that you are attracted to and tell them why. Cooy and paste messages sent out to every couple and female on the site are obvious. Give a compliment, crack a joke and be honest ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Don't mention being married except for on your profile or if asked the question. It gives people the information they need to decide whether to meet you.

2. Recognise that as a married man you are on the lowest rung of the fab ladder.

3. When you are comfortable with 2, work your arse off.

4. Never complain about not getting meets.

Have you seen the women on here? Whether you are married or not you should be working your arse off anyway as there are a lot of very very sexy women who are worth every bit of effort that you put in.

Listen to profile and pic comments, get involved in forums, talk to people as people not potential conquests. Put the effort in and you might get the reward but you should be having fun doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For gods sake leave the poor guy alone with your holier than thou judgements.

We're all here for different reasons. You cant put everyone into the same pigeonholes.

Hope this was of value mate and happy fabbing!"

You're in the navy aren't u? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 weeks is no time fella.. If you thought you where going to jump on fab and Fuck until your willy has friction burns you couldn't be more wrong.

Im.married too.. And honesty and politeness go a long way..

Been here a while now.. Chatted to some absolutely lovely ladies.. And a few not.. And have met some even more lovely ladies including one who's completely lit my fire?

'fire woman'

Patience and understanding and thumping messages out mate and you'll get your rewards eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For gods sake leave the poor guy alone with your holier than thou judgements.

We're all here for different reasons. You cant put everyone into the same pigeonholes.

Hope this was of value mate and happy fabbing!

You're in the navy aren't u? Lol"

Yeah lol why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For gods sake leave the poor guy alone with your holier than thou judgements.

We're all here for different reasons. You cant put everyone into the same pigeonholes.

Hope this was of value mate and happy fabbing!

You're in the navy aren't u? Lol

Yeah lol why

Can tell by the term "threaders" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh haha! Had me worried then haha! Fair one

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"OP, never start a thread asking what people think of married people looking for sex behind their partners back

Or have 'I'm honest' in your profile when you're clearly not honest to your wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh haha! Had me worried then haha! Fair one "

Don't worry I don't know u lol. I don't know any19 year old lads, u do sound older tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest with everyone you chat to. Some people will have an issue with it and others wont.

As for an ice breaker. Reply to people who have posted ads to meet rather than just sending messages to people you like the look of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, never start a thread asking what people think of married people looking for sex behind their partners back

Or have 'I'm honest' in your profile when you're clearly not honest to your wife

He's honest about being married.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"OP, never start a thread asking what people think of married people looking for sex behind their partners back

Or have 'I'm honest' in your profile when you're clearly not honest to your wife

He's honest about being married. "

I just find it hypocritical to state it

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Well sooooo glad I fell across this discussion yesterday!! Been messaging this incredibly hot married man ever since. What an absolute gem with an exquisite mind that stimulates and excites in equal amounts. He also has a body to go along with that mind to tempt any woman to want to touch and taste, especially his perfectly proportioned cock that oozes constantly. I can't wait to meet but the build up is going to be incredibly hot in fact it already is!!! Back off ladies he's mine

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By *ingleman2020Man
over a year ago

I certainly am more risk averse due to my job, so I certainly don't need the hassle if I was to message a lady that is married. I think some people mind some don't, as long as everyone is 'honest'.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

" Back off ladies he's mine

Is he getting married to you too?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I sincerely hope not that would be no fun at all!

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Just had a quick read of some of the comments, I think maybe you should try walking in someone else's shoes for a while before passing judgement. This isn't a man who is a lying cheat, I've taken the time to listen to what he has to say. The situation is far from ideal and no one wants to be married to someone you love and desire to be continually rejected, I know and understand how painful that is. Sometimes one person in a relationship doesn't want that side of things anymore. There isn't unfortunately anything that can be done about that, no amount of discussion or counselling helps. The self righteous amongst us would say then get divorced but things are never that black and white in the real world. I'm glad I took the time to listen maybe others should too there is no pretence just honesty x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP originally asked for 'help' with meets associated with Fab. Who knew there'd be so many marriage councillors kicking about?!?.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Don't worry I'm definitely helping

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Just had a quick read of some of the comments, I think maybe you should try walking in someone else's shoes for a while before passing judgement. This isn't a man who is a lying cheat, I've taken the time to listen to what he has to say. The situation is far from ideal and no one wants to be married to someone you love and desire to be continually rejected, I know and understand how painful that is. Sometimes one person in a relationship doesn't want that side of things anymore. There isn't unfortunately anything that can be done about that, no amount of discussion or counselling helps. The self righteous amongst us would say then get divorced but things are never that black and white in the real world. I'm glad I took the time to listen maybe others should too there is no pretence just honesty x"

All good and well, but for someone that doesn't want to meet him there's nothing he can say to change that.

Their right not to want to meet him for their reasons is equally as valid as his right to choose the look for sex elsewhere for his reasons

The reasons for the people that don't want to meet him also aren't always as black and white as the moral police reason people automatically jump to conclusions about

I generally also take what most say on here with a pinch of salt, there's honesty then there's "honesty"

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Do I need to buy a hat .... sounds like a perfect match .....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I hear what you're saying but we have his side of the story only. It may be his honest feelings on the subject and interpretation of the situation but the other person involved has no opportunity to put her honesty forward.

However it's not a problem to us who is on here and why as long as its legal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Replay your wedding vows to yourself. What did u promise her?

Nope. It's to do with love and devotion, not sex.

OP, I've worked 12 hr intense shifts and still came home to fuck my ex partner into exhaustion. Graphic description but true. Point is if the desire and attraction for someone is there, they won't find excuses after excuses to NOT fuck you. They definitely wouldn't sleep with you once then not again again for months etc later. Maybe just maybe, your wife neither desires you anymore nor finds you attractive in that way anymore. It happens. She may not admit that for fear of hurting your feelings. She most likely does still love you but doesn't mean she find you sexually attractive anymore.

Just a thought.

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By *norkster OP Man
over a year ago

Darlington and beyond

Thanks for all of your valued comments, some have been taken on board, others not, one thing I can say is that there are a lot of good people on here, whether you like me or not, that's ok, I have a story to tell, and maybe it didn't come out to clearly.

I've had a lot of private messages too, and through this some good conversations, and some very hot one's.

I didn't mean to stir up a storm, but it's good that your opinions have been aired.

Next time, I'll comment on more positive things, and join in other topics, but until then, thanks for your replies.. (so far anyway)!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welcome to Fab OP where you'll get advice on how to sort your out even if all you ask is "how much is a happy meal these days?"

I wish you the best if luck and make sure you treat it with the mentality of 'potentially a bit of fun' rather than 'must get laid' you'll be fine.

To answer your original question yes it's completely normal to have not met someone in two weeks.

Anyway I hope you have a great time here.

Ooh, since you mention it, how much is a happy meal these days?

To OP's question though. As you will no doubt have gathered from the responses, you being married will bother some and won't bother others.

As for the 2 week question, well that really says more about your expectations of this site. I'm afraid you'll find that 'Instashag.com' is over that-a-way (Actually, I don't even know if such a site exists) - the point is that, as I have no doubt many will tell you, this is a Swingers site, not a cheaters site. Don't confuse the two. Cheating is NOT swinging.

It would appear that many have been providing advice that you haven't asked for, but I suspect they have done so with the greatest of intentions.

From what you have said about your relationship with your wife, I gather that sex appears to be the only problem area - and really because she is often too tired.

I really wonder if you sleeping around with other people behind your wife's back isn't asking for trouble.

How do you think she'd feel about you 'getting it elsewhere?'

Do you really want to put your whole marriage at risk simply for the sake of not being able to tell her how much it's bothering you?

I see I've gone and done what a few others have done. I respect the fact that you haven't asked for marital guidance etc, but there's just something about how you've described your home life that is setting off the alarm bells for me and making me want to scream out 'STOP' to you.

I do, of course, accept that I may be well out of line here and sticking my nose in where it doesn't concern me. Just hoping, I guess, that you'll give it a bit more thought before 'diving in' so to speak, because there's no going back afterwards.

It is, of course, your life and you should do what you want. Some will meet you, some won't, but then that';s true of all of us really, single or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that's the story he's told u anyway lol. I don't care if the guys married or not he can do what he wants (doesn't affect my life) but so many lie about why they're doing it and lots have a perfectly normal marriage they're just greedy but lie about it lol

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Thanks for all of your valued comments, some have been taken on board, others not, one thing I can say is that there are a lot of good people on here, whether you like me or not, that's ok, I have a story to tell, and maybe it didn't come out to clearly.

I've had a lot of private messages too, and through this some good conversations, and some very hot one's.

I didn't mean to stir up a storm, but it's good that your opinions have been aired.

Next time, I'll comment on more positive things, and join in other topics, but until then, thanks for your replies.. (so far anyway)!!

You clearly still love your wife, imho. It's great that you cook for her and buy her nice things, as a extra can you book a baby sitter and take her out or to a spa maybe, get you both away from the general every day stuff? Also sounds like you work seven days a week, is it doable to not do weekends now and again? Good luck

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Replay your wedding vows to yourself. What did u promise her?

Nope. It's to do with love and devotion, not sex.

Just a thought."

Should this have me worried. We both work such long hours that we fall asleep as our head hits the pillow ... doesn't mean we don't love each other or play away though. We do still have a relationship, but its true either party can be tired or stressed

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

Some interesting comments, so flagging this to return to. But I expect everything's been said.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

There will be more to come I assure you, a lot lot more in my opinion

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Bet you wished youd never opened your mouth now OP ..

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I think he's very happy he opened his mouth or more to the point I've been opening mine lol

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I think I will go buy that hat .....

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Well I for one wouldn't have justified my marriage to anyone on this thread , you didn't need to OP.

People see married men in a thread and think they know the perfect answer for that relationship....they don't as not one size fits all.

In answer to your question...some will see it as a problem, some won't...my advice is to find the people who will meet marrieds and ignore the people who don't or those that want to give advice on the state of your marriage.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I think I will go buy that hat .....

The type of things we have in mind won't require a hat lol

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I think I will go buy that hat .....

The type of things we have in mind won't require a hat lol

How exciting, you must come back and tell us all the details

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to be upfront and honest with your wife and tell her that once a year is not good enough. Your more like friends than lovers and if it doesn't change then maybe you should consider why your still married.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I think I will go buy that hat .....

The type of things we have in mind won't require a hat lol

How exciting, you must come back and tell us all the details"

Mmmmmm it would be my pleasure I have a feeling his veri will be very easy to write

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not give it a go going along to a club ?

Less prejudice about the married men issue

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I think I will go buy that hat .....

The type of things we have in mind won't require a hat lol

they could if you're creative enough

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I think I will go buy that hat .....

The type of things we have in mind won't require a hat lol

How exciting, you must come back and tell us all the details

Mmmmmm it would be my pleasure I have a feeling his veri will be very easy to write

I don't understand the fascination of making it a big thing here on the forums though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I will go buy that hat .....

The type of things we have in mind won't require a hat lol

How exciting, you must come back and tell us all the details

Mmmmmm it would be my pleasure I have a feeling his veri will be very easy to write

I don't understand the fascination of making it a big thing here on the forums though? "

I don't either

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I think I will go buy that hat .....

The type of things we have in mind won't require a hat lol

they could if you're creative enough "

I like your thinking but clearly not everyone will lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I will go buy that hat .....

The type of things we have in mind won't require a hat lol

How exciting, you must come back and tell us all the details

Mmmmmm it would be my pleasure I have a feeling his veri will be very easy to write

I don't understand the fascination of making it a big thing here on the forums though? "

It seems a bit fake to me! Like he's writing it lol

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I think I will go buy that hat .....

The type of things we have in mind won't require a hat lol

How exciting, you must come back and tell us all the details

Mmmmmm it would be my pleasure I have a feeling his veri will be very easy to write

I don't understand the fascination of making it a big thing here on the forums though?

It seems a bit fake to me! Like he's writing it lol"

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I think the guys I know on fab will be only too happy to confirm I'm definitely not a male lol

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I think the guys I know on fab will be only too happy to confirm I'm definitely not a male lol"

Do they like it when you broadcast the details of your meets, though ... or even ask why you feel the need?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I think the guys I know on fab will be only too happy to confirm I'm definitely not a male lol

Do they like it when you broadcast the details of your meets, though ... or even ask why you feel the need?"

Firstly I'm new and have only just started meeting. Secondly the guys I'm referring to are personal friends who I've introduced to the site. Thirdly I would never broadcast as you put it anything without consent. Fourthly you clearly haven't got the brain capacity to recognise the difference between broadcasting and some tongue in cheek antagonism which clearly seems to have worked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the guys I know on fab will be only too happy to confirm I'm definitely not a male lol"

Why don't you display your verifications then??

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I think the guys I know on fab will be only too happy to confirm I'm definitely not a male lol

Do they like it when you broadcast the details of your meets, though ... or even ask why you feel the need?

You think you have the monopoly on tongue in check antagonism. You are new and have introduced others. These others you have introduced will confirm you are a woman .... oh okay? What's all this about brain capacity? Unwarranted .... uncalled for .... and a bit dramatic, surely??

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I think the guys I know on fab will be only too happy to confirm I'm definitely not a male lol

Do they like it when you broadcast the details of your meets, though ... or even ask why you feel the need?

Hmmmmm and that definitely doesn't apply to anything you've posted does it lol

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