FabSwingers.com forum: Married & scared

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im married & scared of exploring. Wat advice would u give

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By *ustthe2ofusXXXCouple
over a year ago

coventry

Scared of what ?

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"Scared of what ? "
Not getting caught

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scared of what ? Not getting caught

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By *errible_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

My new husband is scared of his new wife. Been begging for a divorce since last week, only been married 3 weeks, if your a married bloke playing alone I would be scared of the wife finding out

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"Im married & scared of exploring. Wat advice would u give"

What advice would we give? Be honest with your wife and tell her you're looking to cheat on her!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Scared of being caught & some request im getting. When people say there discrete. Do they mean it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't cheat on yer wife! Bang out of order mate.

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By *ustthe2ofusXXXCouple
over a year ago

coventry

"Scared of what ? Not getting caught

give him a chance to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scared of being caught & some request im getting. When people say there discrete. Do they mean it

of course they do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do men on the forums always post about being married and cheating?

Is it a badge of honor?

I'm not having a go at the OP , but I never see cheating women do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure there's ones out there too ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do men on the forums always post about being married and cheating?

Is it a badge of honor?

I'm not having a go at the OP , but I never see cheating women do this."

because men think they will get sympathy whilst women just put up and shut up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have a few offers from both sexs but havent taken any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be brutal, am not giving you any advice to help you cheat. You work it out for yourself. Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im married & scared of exploring. Wat advice would u give"

Advice we would give?

Discuss this with your wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do men on the forums always post about being married and cheating?

Is it a badge of honor?

I'm not having a go at the OP , but I never see cheating women do this.

because men think they will get sympathy whilst women just put up and shut up

Sympathy from who?

Women don't give sympathy shags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You married for life ... honour your oath ...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Scared of being caught & some request im getting. When people say there discrete. Do they mean it

Being caught is always a possibility.

Most people do mean it when they say they're discreet, its in their best interests as well as yours. You will get one or two who find it hilarious to be indiscreet though.

Be cautious, if something seems too good to be true it undoubtedly is and always practice safer sex.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Im married & scared of exploring. Wat advice would u give"

I think its a very strange thread,OP

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

you need to be very scared of the moral police force on here..they may try to chase you off the site as ive seen it before..so get a thick skin quick if you intend to continue..how much do you want your sexual liberty and the right to decide how to live..make your decision quick or you'll be railroaded..

welcome and hope you find what you seek xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet people who are also attached, both singing off the same hymn sheet then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Should u stay away from people in your own local area

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Should u stay away from people in your own local area"

A while back there were people exposed on Facebook for meeting on here ... maybe think about why and if its worth it, OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should u stay away from people in your own local area"

Yes

Six degrees of separation & all that.

You also need to prepare to get caught, will it be worth it? Will it ruin your life or hers? Kids?

Lots to think about before you get a quick shag sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You haven't said enough for any real advice.

How long have you been married?

Why do you want to "explore"?

By explore do you mean cheat?...because on your own that's what it is!

Or do you wish to explore with your wife? In which case you should be discussing this with her before you put a profile up on here!

You are not coming across as looking to swing....simply to go behind your wife's back?......so you are asking the wrong people and must expect to get the negative replies that seem to be posted here already...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should u stay away from people in your own local area

Yes

Six degrees of separation & all that.

You also need to prepare to get caught, will it be worth it? Will it ruin your life or hers? Kids?

Lots to think about before you get a quick shag sweet "

Yeah I don't think you've given this a lot of thought OP. I wouldn't meet someone like you that didn't appear to have a clue about what they were doing.

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By *en Dover XMan
over a year ago

stroud

I am married and don't want my wife to find out I'm on here, I love her, she's beautiful, my best friend, but she has a degenerative spinal condition which means sex is very painful, I don't want a love affair where I "feel" something for another woman, but I want sex, so there are reasons other than just being a cheating husband

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't cheat on your wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am married and don't want my wife to find out I'm on here, I love her, she's beautiful, my best friend, but she has a degenerative spinal condition which means sex is very painful, I don't want a love affair where I "feel" something for another woman, but I want sex, so there are reasons other than just being a cheating husband"

There may be lots of reasons but it is still cheating, no matter how you dress it up!

I'm not judging, done it myself before but OP needs to be aware of all that can happen X

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

But if your wife doesn't know you are here then it is still cheating, no matter what the reasons.

I'm not taking a moral high ground, been there, done that, but excusing it is just that, an excuse.

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By *en Dover XMan
over a year ago

stroud

We have talked about me "going elsewhere" but I'm not going to tell her as I know it will cause upset, should I leave her with a future of pain and life in a wheelchair so as I can find someone to live with who can have sex, or stay with the woman I love, have a secret life, and look after her ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We have talked about me "going elsewhere" but I'm not going to tell her as I know it will cause upset, should I leave her with a future of pain and life in a wheelchair so as I can find someone to live with who can have sex, or stay with the woman I love, have a secret life, and look after her ?"

my view is never justify, never explain. You owe no explanation to anyone here.

This is between you, your wife and your personal code.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

scared incase he comes across his wifes profile ????

known to happen when history could be checked never know may like it an have joined up herself

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By *en Dover XMan
over a year ago

stroud

Not trying to upset anyone or take over the op, I know I am cheating by playing away, but I'm happy with my decision and can sleep at night knowing I wouldn't do this given a choice of you lovely swingers or the wife, no contest, rather not have to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my view is never justify, never explain. You owe no explanation to anyone here.

This is between you, your wife and your personal code."

Exactly this ^^

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Not trying to upset anyone or take over the op, I know I am cheating by playing away, but I'm happy with my decision and can sleep at night knowing I wouldn't do this given a choice of you lovely swingers or the wife, no contest, rather not have to."

one thing I would say is stop talking about your wife on here. She doesn't know you're here and doesn't have the luxury of choosing whether she's discussed or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly well done for the OP to be brave enough to say so here......we are a rare bunch

But perhaps some of the comments made are close to home that's true, this is not a platform to discuss your wife, that's private -

We married/attached men and women all have our reasons for being here, we decide who we tell or not, that's how it should be

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

If you play with fire ... your gonna get burnt .....

So dont cry when the shit hits the fan .... im sure there have been many people on here whos relationship has been ruined by dishonesty ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to your wife about it & get permission. Swinging isn't cheating, it's adding to your sex life, what you are doing is cheating!!

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

"Don't cheat on yer wife! Bang out of order mate."

consider how hurt she'll be if she finds out? Do you want to hurt someone you supposedly love? You never know who knows who, it's not just a fact of people being discrete or not.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Should u stay away from people in your own local area

Yes

Six degrees of separation & all that.

You also need to prepare to get caught, will it be worth it? Will it ruin your life or hers? Kids?

Lots to think about before you get a quick shag sweet "

I've met people from all over uk I've found local or not the 6 degrees of separation still come into play.

Hell my own cousins hubby from Aberdeen contacted me on here don't think he recognised me but I did him

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Im married & scared of exploring. Wat advice would u give"

I just feel you maybe haven't thought this through. Please do that before embarking on something you might regret. Yes, you could get caught out, as not everyone is discreet, we know this from experience. So that is something you have to be prepared for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im married & scared of exploring. Wat advice would u give"

You are scared. You can't accommodate and can't travel. Delete your profile. It is clearly not a site for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly OP that's what happens when you dare say something outspoken - don't take it to heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly OP that's what happens when you dare say something outspoken - don't take it to heart "

Outspoken? Really?

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Im married & scared of exploring. Wat advice would u give"

is this for real

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Scared of what ? "

being caught on here by wife i would guess!!!!! lol

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By *ouple4biMMFCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Should u stay away from people in your own local area

Yes

Six degrees of separation & all that.

You also need to prepare to get caught, will it be worth it? Will it ruin your life or hers? Kids?

Lots to think about before you get a quick shag sweet

Yeah I don't think you've given this a lot of thought OP. I wouldn't meet someone like you that didn't appear to have a clue about what they were doing."

Yep I agree

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Scared of what ?

being caught on here by wife i would guess!!!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol i cant believe i am replying to this. How would you feel if your wife was screwing my cock....

Just remember karmas a bich!

If i was in a relationship i would not be messing about!!!!.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're really scared, don't do it.

If you think you'll be eaten up by guilt, don't do it.

If you can't compartmentalise, and keep a part of your life completely separate and away from the rest of it, don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im married & scared of exploring. Wat advice would u give"

Sounds like just another guy whos at home having a wank at the thought of it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol i cant believe i am replying to this. How would you feel if your wife was screwing my cock....

Just remember karmas a bich!

If i was in a relationship i would not be messing about!!!!........."

Sorry to sound harsh, but no-one should escape Karma.

We fully understand that for some there are quite valid reasons to be driven to this and if this is the result of all their efforts in their relationship then good luck to them, but sadly many on here who are married are just looking for easy sex away from their partner.

For the ones who fit the second description, then Karma wil certainly bite.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Lol i cant believe i am replying to this. How would you feel if your wife was screwing my cock....

Just remember karmas a bich!

If i was in a relationship i would not be messing about!!!!.........

Sorry to sound harsh, but no-one should escape Karma.

For the ones who fit the second description, then Karma wil certainly bite."

What if being cheated on is their partners karma?

If karma does exist I don't think it works in a direct tit for tat way. I think it's the effect on yourself of your own actions.

But that's another story.

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