FabSwingers.com forum: Views but no messages?

By *lovesexx OP Man
over a year ago

Colne

I get 10/15 views a day

But hardly get any messages

I've got a profile pic

Photo verified

I admit I need user verification but unable to do that as of yet due to being new and needing to attend a social or something

But where else am I going wrong? Is it my profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get 10/15 views a day

But hardly get any messages

I've got a profile pic

Photo verified

I admit I need user verification but unable to do that as of yet due to being new and needing to attend a social or something

But where else am I going wrong? Is it my profile?"

We would say most definitely your profile is the main problem.

And not being able to accommodate isn't going to help you either.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

You only have 1 pic that isnt that easy to see. And you dont really have a profile. 4 sentences that dont say that much.

Single men are massively outnumbered on here. You need to sell yourself and stand out. Tell people about what you like, what you can offer and what you are looking for.

Search in the forum for the hundreds of threads about profile advice and try and pick up some tips. Jack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah lv it's your profile

you need to stand out from the thousands of single guys on here. Sell yourslef more, make people intreast in what you have to offer xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get 10/15 views a day

But hardly get any messages

I've got a profile pic

Photo verified

I admit I need user verification but unable to do that as of yet due to being new and needing to attend a social or something

But where else am I going wrong? Is it my profile?"

From what I hear blokes don't get lots of messages like females anyway...I think it's possibl

y harder for single guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes,its your profile...has virtually nothing on it to respond to.

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By *lovesexx OP Man
over a year ago

Colne

Yeah but I don't want to sound like everyone else and the BS they put

Being original is one thing but I don't want to sound like a robot

I have a clear pic for people to see and will send it to anyone who chats.

I need better content I know but sometimes it's difficult in knowing what to write

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah but I don't want to sound like everyone else and the BS they put

Being original is one thing but I don't want to sound like a robot

I have a clear pic for people to see and will send it to anyone who chats.

I need better content I know but sometimes it's difficult in knowing what to write

The thing is, by saying what you have you sound just like about everyone else who wants to give an excuse for not putting effort into their profile.

What you say above has been said hundreds and hundreds of times by single guys with poor profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah but I don't want to sound like everyone else and the BS they put

Being original is one thing but I don't want to sound like a robot

I have a clear pic for people to see and will send it to anyone who chats.

I need better content I know but sometimes it's difficult in knowing what to write

The thing is, by saying what you have you sound just like about everyone else who wants to give an excuse for not putting effort into their profile.

What you say above has been said hundreds and hundreds of times by single guys with poor profiles."

exactly...doesnt help saying other guys profiles are BS, makes you sound as if you think youre a bit superior...

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By *lovesexx OP Man
over a year ago

Colne

Far from superior to anyone

I'm an average person just looking to explore and try new boundaries

I said I don't want to put BS that has no substance

I've never done anything like this before and don't want to be repetitive to other profiles

As you said guys outnumber women and I need to stand out.

Thank you for the criticism I shall take it on board and try harder

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester

I've had 46 views and no messages today.

Just add more enticing photos if you have some and message people you can.

To be honest there's nothing you'll say or do that'll make people message you daily so just have a look at many male profiles with 5 and up verifications and then come up with yours.

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By *adame YvesWoman
over a year ago

Nothampton

"Far from superior to anyone

I'm an average person just looking to explore and try new boundaries

I said I don't want to put BS that has no substance

I've never done anything like this before and don't want to be repetitive to other profiles

As you said guys outnumber women and I need to stand out.

Thank you for the criticism I shall take it on board and try harder"

There are lots of average guys on here and thats your problem a lot of competition for you so you need to stand out more or have a usp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and don't think too much about how many views you think your profile has had as you have no way of knowing really

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By *smithyukMan
over a year ago

Staffs

Also your not a premium member so don't know whose viewing your profiles. Pay the 5er and see whose actially viewing it, I'll bet on a normally day it's just mostly nosey men. You may have a few women look today because of this thread.

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By *smithyukMan
over a year ago

Staffs

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By *smithyukMan
over a year ago

Staffs

For instance I've had 5 (yes the whole 5!!) view my profile today

1 couple mf

1 couple mm

3 single guys.

!!!!!!! So out of 7 people one woman! And she had a partner!!

Ok there's sneaky women on here

who have the option on so people can't see them when they have looked at their profile, but even with that I'd better that not many women have viewed my profile today - they don't need to view profiles, the men come to them in the wayear of messages, they'll view a profile if they like the initial message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep i get tonnes of views but not many messages..i think the ladies are bogged down with admin lol and dont have time!! Have you sent messages..because that is were ladies get frustrated and delete because of lack of effort..im new here too but learning fast.. ive got my first meet tmrw night to see how it goes with another guy....i always thought about it so now im gonna take action

Will see if my 1st verification makes a difference too... also length of time on here might make a diffrrence as people might just come and go...good luck bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get around 45-50 views a day and no more than 2-3 messages and a couple of winks. The 40-odd who have said nothing, aren't interested and that's just the way it is, which is why I don't really understand these type of threads. Changing a couple of words on your profile isn't going to make someone who was otherwise not interested all of a sudden say "wow! I must fuck him!"

So my advice would be just accept it for what it is, don't change your profile and then you'll know that when someone messages you, they actually fancy you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get 10/15 views a day

But hardly get any messages

I've got a profile pic

Photo verified

I admit I need user verification but unable to do that as of yet due to being new and needing to attend a social or something

But where else am I going wrong? Is it my profile?"

I've got a few couples who view my profile frequently, even go as far as wink but they never send a message so I've gotten to the point where I just ignore until they make the next move, I don't think I've got them blocked so it can't be that and I've gotten messages from non site supporters so it can't be that iether

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get 10/15 views a day

But hardly get any messages

I've got a profile pic

Photo verified

I admit I need user verification but unable to do that as of yet due to being new and needing to attend a social or something

But where else am I going wrong? Is it my profile?"

i seem to be havin the same problem

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

You've got 3 words on your profile pal. Doesnt really say much about you or what you can offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've got 3 words on your profile pal. Doesnt really say much about you or what you can offer."
any advice?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

See what I said to the op and also do a search on the forum on profile advice threads.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"I get 10/15 views a day

But hardly get any messages

I've got a profile pic

Photo verified

I admit I need user verification but unable to do that as of yet due to being new and needing to attend a social or something

But where else am I going wrong? Is it my profile?"

I wouldn't attach any significance to the number of views you get so much as answers to messages.

Invariably it is the profile that's the problem.

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By *ornylady71Woman
over a year ago

near Bury

OP you've now got no photos at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah but I don't want to sound like everyone else and the BS they put

Being original is one thing but I don't want to sound like a robot

I have a clear pic for people to see and will send it to anyone who chats.

I need better content I know but sometimes it's difficult in knowing what to write

But your profile is precisely the type of profile you are complaining about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You only have 1 pic that isnt that easy to see. And you dont really have a profile. 4 sentences that dont say that much.

Single men are massively outnumbered on here. You need to sell yourself and stand out. Tell people about what you like, what you can offer and what you are looking for.

Search in the forum for the hundreds of threads about profile advice and try and pick up some tips. Jack."

Exactly this...your pic shows you have a head and body but can't make out what you look like properly

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

We would pass you by, because you have no clear profile pics. People shouldn't have to ask for them. We would look at a profile with pics on first. Loads of good single guy profiles, we don't want to be chasing after photos.

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By *lovesexx OP Man
over a year ago

Colne

Thank you all kindly for the advice and input and I will do well to listen to you all

By trying to add substance as well as well thought out information of myself

I will also add more pictures

Thank you for the advice good or bad I will learn from it and be more patient

So thanks

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By *uss.in.bootsWoman
over a year ago

Warwick

I look though you wouldn't know as I hide it and probably only message 2-3 in a hundred I look at and assume most women are the same. not everyone you look at appeals after all.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Thank you all kindly for the advice and input and I will do well to listen to you all

By trying to add substance as well as well thought out information of myself

I will also add more pictures

Thank you for the advice good or bad I will learn from it and be more patient

So thanks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.. I honestly can't understand why this site is so busy with genuine single guys when if what you are looking for is any kind of casual non relationship arrangement with a single woman. Pof and tinder have tonnes more chatty women not looking for anything committed and heavy. If you're looking for couples or some kind of group sex or in fact you like the discretion because you're actually not single, then I can get why you'd be on here. For me I find the pictures and Profiles interesting.. But after months and months over a number of Profiles and hundreds of messages and profile edits I've yet to get verified or have any kind of naughty meet even although on tinder I've had quite a few and get lots of dirty fun chat from pof women, nothing at all from here! and I'm a normal decent guy with lots going for me and always been popular with women when they meet me.. If you're not getting meets etc I'd say like me you're just on the wrong site.. I do laugh at all the advice given on these pages touching on what's wrong with your profile. End of the day you've just got to be yourself. If you sex up jazz up your profile with bullshit it'll just put the pressure on you to live up to what you think women want when really their wants needs are as diverse as mens.. So pinch of salt!

Just my two pennies worth.

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

If your viewing Fab on a mobile,search whoes near by... See how many males there are compared to how many women.

Look at the male competition... see what they say... understand your competition and your place in the market (are you a Bull,a voyeur,a laid back bloke,someone looking for no strings fun or the social side).

Rewrite your profile to say who you are and to give an indication as what you seek.

Use the update status button.. be inventive "searching for cuddly women","looking for fun on Tuesdays" etc.

Say if your looking to b travel or to host in hotels... be honest if there is a good reason why you cant or dont want to host (Living in shared accommodation,working away and staying in a bedsit).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol.. Yes of course but yet after you still do all of that which is common sense.. You still get a handful of one word or one sentence replies from hundreds of carefully worded messages.. It's just not really a successful place for the majority of normal guys.. Tinder and pof are in my experience far more fruitful. It's the pics and Profiles on here that keeps me loging in!! Not the prospect of actually meeting or having reasonable conversations.. Unfortunately..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it makes you feel any better we can get 100 views a day with a message x

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By *lovesexx OP Man
over a year ago

Colne

"If it makes you feel any better we can get 100 views a day with a message x"

I think it's difficult for genuine single guys in general

Trying to stand out from what is already there

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By *lovesexx OP Man
over a year ago

Colne

"Lol.. Yes of course but yet after you still do all of that which is common sense.. You still get a handful of one word or one sentence replies from hundreds of carefully worded messages.. It's just not really a successful place for the majority of normal guys.. Tinder and pof are in my experience far more fruitful. It's the pics and Profiles on here that keeps me loging in!! Not the prospect of actually meeting or having reasonable conversations..

Unfortunately.. "

I struggle on tinder and pof anyway haha

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By *ikeywestMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Believe me i've been on here over a year and ive had absolutely nothing

i was lucky to be verified by someone i met on another site who was on here at the same time

Its all about the patience sadly

Ive used badoo and had more success though (other sites are available)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yip.. It's really not for single guys.. The ones that say they've had no problem getting meets being a single guy are those that have been on years and are effectively part of the clique lol.. Which I guess you need to go along to social meetings to get into really.. But we shouldn't be surprised or too had on the site.. It is first and foremost a swingers site.. Wish there was a similarly designed site for exclusively straight singles.

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By *lovesexx OP Man
over a year ago

Colne

"Yip.. It's really not for single guys.. The ones that say they've had no problem getting meets being a single guy are those that have been on years and are effectively part of the clique lol.. Which I guess you need to go along to social meetings to get into really.. But we shouldn't be surprised or too had on the site.. It is first and foremost a swingers site.. Wish there was a similarly designed site for exclusively straight singles. "

How is your tinder and pof going then haha

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I said I don't want to put BS that has no substance"

You're saying every decent profile is full of BS?

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By *lovesexx OP Man
over a year ago

Colne

"I said I don't want to put BS that has no substance

You're saying every decent profile is full of BS?

Definitely not

I'm saying I'm trying not to copy the BS profiles and follow suit of successful ones in order for me to do better on here

I.e. Less cock pics

Less cliche/"I don't bite unless you ask me too"

Trying to be more thoughtful and honest in what I want

Being new I'm trying to understand or learn be it from men/women about how to improve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I said I don't want to put BS that has no substance

You're saying every decent profile is full of BS?

Definitely not

I'm saying I'm trying not to copy the BS profiles and follow suit of successful ones in order for me to do better on here

I.e. Less cock pics

Less cliche/"I don't bite unless you ask me too"

Trying to be more thoughtful and honest in what I want

Being new I'm trying to understand or learn be it from men/women about how to improve"

I can't see much wrong with your profile text... Other than the working 7 days a week... Which would attract the people who are more inclined towards the rushed meets. Not much you can do about that though. I would suggest putting a couple more pictures up though OP. So you have a variety of shots for women to peruse, on your public gallery

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By *lovesexx OP Man
over a year ago

Colne

"I said I don't want to put BS that has no substance

You're saying every decent profile is full of BS?

Definitely not

I'm saying I'm trying not to copy the BS profiles and follow suit of successful ones in order for me to do better on here

I.e. Less cock pics

Less cliche/"I don't bite unless you ask me too"

Trying to be more thoughtful and honest in what I want

Being new I'm trying to understand or learn be it from men/women about how to improve

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Had to put i work though cos then some may ask why I'm "busy" or can't meet and wonder. Maybe I should've indicated I free evenings alongside it

As for more pics yeah I will try to upload more soon being self conscious doesn't help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I said I don't want to put BS that has no substance

You're saying every decent profile is full of BS?

Definitely not

I'm saying I'm trying not to copy the BS profiles and follow suit of successful ones in order for me to do better on here

I.e. Less cock pics

Less cliche/"I don't bite unless you ask me too"

Trying to be more thoughtful and honest in what I want

Being new I'm trying to understand or learn be it from men/women about how to improve

Had to put i work though cos then some may ask why I'm "busy" or can't meet and wonder. Maybe I should've indicated I free evenings alongside it

As for more pics yeah I will try to upload more soon being self conscious doesn't help"

"Anything else you would like to know just ask."

Ah, the classic "I know my profile is a bit lacking" ending. How many people have asked?

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By *appytrailmanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I get 10/15 views a day

But hardly get any messages

I've got a profile pic

Photo verified

I admit I need user verification but unable to do that as of yet due to being new and needing to attend a social or something

But where else am I going wrong? Is it my profile?"

10/15 views a day?!? That's 10/15 views more than me and the same amount of messages!

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By *lovesexx OP Man
over a year ago

Colne

"I get 10/15 views a day

But hardly get any messages

I've got a profile pic

Photo verified

I admit I need user verification but unable to do that as of yet due to being new and needing to attend a social or something

But where else am I going wrong? Is it my profile?

Since I been in forums and chat

I'm getting 20/30 views a day and the odd message here and there

Got to attend socials and clubs I reckon for better results

10/15 views a day?!? That's 10/15 views more than me and the same amount of messages! "

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