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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

why does no one ever message me back..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why does no one ever message me back.."

First off 27 and accommodate would put the impression that your not single. Secondly been on here over a year and not verified that's a catch 22. Then reading you profile it all seemed to be about what you want sexually. Put what you like doing explain a bit about the person you are. Maybe take down the cock pics if women and couples what to see that they will ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why does no one ever message me back..

First off 27 and accommodate would put the impression that your not single. Secondly been on here over a year and not verified that's a catch 22. Then reading you profile it all seemed to be about what you want sexually. Put what you like doing explain a bit about the person you are. Maybe take down the cock pics if women and couples what to see that they will ask. "

Can't accommodate

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester


"why does no one ever message me back..

First off 27 and accommodate would put the impression that your not single. Secondly been on here over a year and not verified that's a catch 22. Then reading you profile it all seemed to be about what you want sexually. Put what you like doing explain a bit about the person you are. Maybe take down the cock pics if women and couples what to see that they will ask.

Can't accommodate "

Not single because he can't Acomadate at 27 ?? Really ??? What percentage of people in there 20,s do you think have there own place in 2016 ??

It's 12 percent

I didn't get my first mortgage till late 30,s

That's the trouble with this site

The expectations from the over fussy females and couples are set far too high

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why does no one ever message me back..

First off 27 and accommodate would put the impression that your not single. Secondly been on here over a year and not verified that's a catch 22. Then reading you profile it all seemed to be about what you want sexually. Put what you like doing explain a bit about the person you are. Maybe take down the cock pics if women and couples what to see that they will ask.

Can't accommodate

Not single because he can't Acomadate at 27 ?? Really ??? What percentage of people in there 20,s do you think have there own place in 2016 ??

It's 12 percent

I didn't get my first mortgage till late 30,s

That's the trouble with this site

The expectations from the over fussy females and couples are set far too high

"

You, my friend, are awesome. I'd let you touch my wife's boobies anytime.

Anyways, OP... That's a great cock - I'd personally recommend keeping a pic or two of it still. maybe add a couple more non-sexual pics and one in a suit - these women love that shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why does no one ever message me back..

First off 27 and accommodate would put the impression that your not single. Secondly been on here over a year and not verified that's a catch 22. Then reading you profile it all seemed to be about what you want sexually. Put what you like doing explain a bit about the person you are. Maybe take down the cock pics if women and couples what to see that they will ask.

Can't accommodate

Not single because he can't Acomadate at 27 ?? Really ??? What percentage of people in there 20,s do you think have there own place in 2016 ??

It's 12 percent

I didn't get my first mortgage till late 30,s

That's the trouble with this site

The expectations from the over fussy females and couples are set far too high

"

Whereas we don't care, it is clear from other threads that many people don't like to meet attached folk. The OP can avoid assumptions by explaining the "cannot accommodate."

- An over fussy couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why does no one ever message me back.."

The first thing most people do when they gey a message is look at the sender's profile.

Quality is all important.

What do they see when they see yours?

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By *rince Charming 69Man
over a year ago

Loughborough

If you don't like the results you are getting.....

Then for goodness sake do something to change!

Effort in = results out!

Simple!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

exactly wtf I cant accom because I live in a shared house and im not verified because I still haven't met anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"why does no one ever message me back..

First off 27 and accommodate would put the impression that your not single. Secondly been on here over a year and not verified that's a catch 22. Then reading you profile it all seemed to be about what you want sexually. Put what you like doing explain a bit about the person you are. Maybe take down the cock pics if women and couples what to see that they will ask.

Can't accommodate

Not single because he can't Acomadate at 27 ?? Really ??? What percentage of people in there 20,s do you think have there own place in 2016 ??

It's 12 percent

I didn't get my first mortgage till late 30,s

That's the trouble with this site

The expectations from the over fussy females and couples are set far too high

You, my friend, are awesome. I'd let you touch my wife's boobies anytime.

Anyways, OP... That's a great cock - I'd personally recommend keeping a pic or two of it still. maybe add a couple more non-sexual pics and one in a suit - these women love that shit."
thanks I do love my cock just wish people would give me a chance to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree why does no one ever message me back...??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not interested basically. and it could be any number of reasons why not.

and coz they don't reply to say why not you won't know.

tough titties. they don't wanna meet and you have to get used to that coz people on here won't change to suit you, they're here for their own needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"exactly wtf I cant accom because I live in a shared house and im not verified because I still haven't met anyone "

Yet you haven't put that in your profile, so how are people to know?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Putting it bluntly I'd see your profile and just see you as another guy using his cock as his only real selling point. Personally that doesn't impress me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"exactly wtf I cant accom because I live in a shared house and im not verified because I still haven't met anyone "

So if you explain things like house share on your profile then people don't need to jump to the wrong conclusion. There's 1000s of single guys profiles we have so much choice do if there's one with a guy who is well turned out can accommodate puts effort into telling people about himself or you've got 3 cock pics not much profile text and can't accommodate. Witch on are we going to pick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why does no one ever message me back..

First off 27 and accommodate would put the impression that your not single. Secondly been on here over a year and not verified that's a catch 22. Then reading you profile it all seemed to be about what you want sexually. Put what you like doing explain a bit about the person you are. Maybe take down the cock pics if women and couples what to see that they will ask.

Can't accommodate

Not single because he can't Acomadate at 27 ?? Really ??? What percentage of people in there 20,s do you think have there own place in 2016 ??

It's 12 percent

I didn't get my first mortgage till late 30,s

That's the trouble with this site

The expectations from the over fussy females and couples are set far too high

"

Haha spitting dummy out. Over fussy and expectations set far to high. Or maybe there just normal and most of you single guys fall well bellow but unfortunately for you single guys us couples and females are the ones with power we will never be lacking meets so we can be as picky and fussy and raise the expectation bar as high as we want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult to get the first veri as it's a catch 22 situation.

Personally I like to give newbies a chance to meet but some won't as there are a lot of fakes on here.

Also, a lot of couples have such a long list of what they are looking for, that few of us would reach the pass mark.

Unless you are bi, you probably wont be getting inundated with offers of sex but persevere, get some sexy rather than sexual photos added and despite a lot of fantasists there are some genuinely sexy people in here who I'm sure would jump at the chance to enjoy what looks to be an impressive dick.

Though a personality, sense of humour & not taking this swinging lark too seriously are vital ingredients too.

It's no good having a big spoon if there's no cake mixture in the bowl.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Haha spitting dummy out. Over fussy and expectations set far to high. Or maybe there just normal and most of you single guys fall well bellow but unfortunately for you single guys us couples and females are the ones with power we will never be lacking meets so we can be as picky and fussy and raise the expectation bar as high as we want. "

and this post more or less sums up the people you should avoid.

Some of us are decent, educated guys with a clear idea of what we want and have little trouble finding it.

I find nothing more off putting than people who think the world will actually want to fuck them.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I personally don't want to see just cock pics or a narrative saying how amazing you think you are.

I'd like a line saying about the shared house .. it takes away one negative

More interesting photos

Information about you and your personality.

Also consider going to a social or club to try and increase the chance for verification

Another negative could be what you are actually messaging to people? ?

Oh and sorry big no one the smoking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Haha spitting dummy out. Over fussy and expectations set far to high. Or maybe there just normal and most of you single guys fall well bellow but unfortunately for you single guys us couples and females are the ones with power we will never be lacking meets so we can be as picky and fussy and raise the expectation bar as high as we want.

and this post more or less sums up the people you should avoid.

Some of us are decent, educated guys with a clear idea of what we want and have little trouble finding it.

I find nothing more off putting than people who think the world will actually want to fuck them. "

Ever think that some people might act that way on purpose so the people offended by the comments don't bother contacting them??

It is a great way to filter the ones you don't want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I just think it's extremely rude and uncalled for.

There's a filter available and a block button.

There's no need for character assassinations

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks people for the advice time to try abd improve my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's difficult to get the first veri as it's a catch 22 situation.

Personally I like to give newbies a chance to meet but some won't as there are a lot of fakes on here.

Also, a lot of couples have such a long list of what they are looking for, that few of us would reach the pass mark.

Unless you are bi, you probably wont be getting inundated with offers of sex but persevere, get some sexy rather than sexual photos added and despite a lot of fantasists there are some genuinely sexy people in here who I'm sure would jump at the chance to enjoy what looks to be an impressive dick.

Though a personality, sense of humour & not taking this swinging lark too seriously are vital ingredients too.

It's no good having a big spoon if there's no cake mixture in the bowl.

Good luck! "
nice one cheers mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Haha spitting dummy out. Over fussy and expectations set far to high. Or maybe there just normal and most of you single guys fall well bellow but unfortunately for you single guys us couples and females are the ones with power we will never be lacking meets so we can be as picky and fussy and raise the expectation bar as high as we want.

and this post more or less sums up the people you should avoid.

Some of us are decent, educated guys with a clear idea of what we want and have little trouble finding it.

I find nothing more off putting than people who think the world will actually want to fuck them. "

Well that's all good for the ones that are atally are decent educated and have little trouble. But as a couple or a single fem you spend time filling out a profile for it to be ignored and get messages of guys who clearly have not put any effort into the profile or taken time to read ours. Just today over 40 messages off males who are not what we're looking for yet still think it's OK to message asking for a fuck. That soon mounts up over a week. Put yourselves in our shoes and you would soon get fed up of it. As for profiles well educated people would fined better pics than 5 or 6 cock shots do you guys really think that's what important to couples and females.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

This getting a veri catch 22 thing gets mentioned a lot by unverified people. Just go to a club, you can be verified this weekend. Then you have a huge barrier removed. It's so easy just do it !

Mr B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This getting a veri catch 22 thing gets mentioned a lot by unverified people. Just go to a club, you can be verified this weekend. Then you have a huge barrier removed. It's so easy just do it !

Mr B"

Totally agree.

All the threads on here about getting verified and not meeting people. Yet like you said go to a club you will meet people chances are you going to get involved in some and actually meet people. people must think fab is order a shag.com. guys it takes effort work and actually doing more than sitting behind a keyboard/ phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. I just think it's extremely rude and uncalled for.

There's a filter available and a block button.

There's no need for character assassinations "

Of course you are entitled to your opinion.

We think it is just fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All these profile help posts are pretty pointless. At best you might be able to move up the league table a few notches with a bit of profile fiddling, but it will not make a blind bit of difference. There must be 50 men to every woman here and as women get inundated with messages the chance of getting a response is close to nil. Suck it up dude women have no need to message so generally they don't.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

There are as many reasons why ladies don't reply to messages as there are ladies on the site. What's the point of knowing? The fact is that they didn't reply for whatever reason. You can't and won't know the reason so are wasting your own time and energy on a pointless situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All these profile help posts are pretty pointless. At best you might be able to move up the league table a few notches with a bit of profile fiddling, but it will not make a blind bit of difference. There must be 50 men to every woman here and as women get inundated with messages the chance of getting a response is close to nil. Suck it up dude women have no need to message so generally they don't. "

Thats a fact. Women arent as they seem iv noticed.. Claim all this and that and are locked down to 2 friends they've known for 15 years for meets and fun. There are very few who actually meet strangers for fun. Fair one its a safety feature but replying to messages surely puts that issue to rest.

Come on girls! The men are carrying this sites activity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All these profile help posts are pretty pointless. At best you might be able to move up the league table a few notches with a bit of profile fiddling, but it will not make a blind bit of difference. There must be 50 men to every woman here and as women get inundated with messages the chance of getting a response is close to nil. Suck it up dude women have no need to message so generally they don't.

Thats a fact. Women arent as they seem iv noticed.. Claim all this and that and are locked down to 2 friends they've known for 15 years for meets and fun. There are very few who actually meet strangers for fun. Fair one its a safety feature but replying to messages surely puts that issue to rest.

Come on girls! The men are carrying this sites activity "

We think you will find a lot of activity on this site involve couples.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"why does no one ever message me back.."

Why should they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the OP's pain. Sometimes you can take the time to read a girls profile, construct a decent length and interesting first message that pays reference to their interests and not receive any responses.

I don't think I'm the best looking guy or have the best body but on here the sheer volume of men that are on here and do have the 10/10 look will get the most responses because the ball is and always will be in the women's court. As it should be.

I regularly see girls say they've just bulk deleted their entire email inbox due to the volume they receive they can't respond to them all.

A catchy/confusing/intriguing subject line I've found has been the best way to get a response maybe give that a go?

Keep your head up, only takes one girl to have a conversation with you, but I'm still in the same boat about getting my first verification. Doesn't help I had a 8 month break, can't even get a girl to say hello on Skype lol

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By *unkasaurusMan
over a year ago

Glossop

I know a lot of women don't reply because they get harassed as to why not. A non reply means at that point they aren't interested so you move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never messaged the same girl twice without a reply on here.

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