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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not sure if my profile is crap or just getting lost in the sheer number of guys? Want to meet either a lady or couple for some daytime BDSM fun. any advice would be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it time.. There are a HUGE amount of men on here probably wanting the same thing.

You havn't been here long, so just be patient, make your profile read fun and i am sure you will attract people..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure if my profile is crap or just getting lost in the sheer number of guys? Want to meet either a lady or couple for some daytime BDSM fun. any advice would be appreciated. "

Are you into hardcore BDSM?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the encouraging words

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

There are hundreds of men on here

BDSM is a particular fetish so you must realise some women won't be into it so your odds are reduced, then out of the remaining women you need add to the fact that your married and playing away so some will judge you for it and choose not to meet you, then the fact some women could be working day times reduces the odds again, and finally that some women won't accommodate in the home they share with their children so the odds are stacked against you I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Depends what you class as hardcore? I like bondage, spanking, tied & teased. What i consider soft might not be to someone else. Should i be more specific?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When you put it like that!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"When you put it like that! "

If you Don't like an honest answer don't ask the question

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I appreciate you being honest, i was joking, which is always difficult by text.

I am happy to listen and learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what you class as hardcore? I like bondage, spanking, tied & teased. What i consider soft might not be to someone else. Should i be more specific?"

Yes you should be more specific!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Advice taken, thanks x

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

You're older,can't accommodate and are married,that cuts down times you can meet. Personally I won't meet attached men,nor will a lot of ladies...too much drama.

Your profile doesn't say if you're dom or sub,you bdsm interests and experience,what are your no go areas. If you're dom female subs are as elusive as the single bi female. You have age, you can't accommodate going against you, improve your profile and be patient.it's a swingers' site not insta shag x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks, Pink Magnolia

I appreciate you takinf the time to help. i will keep working on my profile and will be patient x

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By *evensnipeMan
over a year ago

Dinbych

There are other sites that provide BDSM info, meets, socials etc. Look out for munches on Google in your local area.

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By *evensnipeMan
over a year ago

Dinbych

There are other sites that provide BDSM info, meets, socials etc. Look out for munches on Google in your local area.

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By *evensnipeMan
over a year ago

Dinbych

There are other sites that provide BDSM info, meets, socials etc. Look out for munches on Google in your local area.

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

Married

Can't accommodate

No specification as to dom/sub

No public photos to establish attraction

The above put me off immediately. Finding a match for a sub is hard enough without added drama and complications.

Even if you were looking for a Domme I don't fit your physical description of your wants.... not judging that of course as we all have preferences.

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By *tephanie19631TV/TS
over a year ago

oxford

Many more bdsm related sites out there that may suit your wants

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies, really appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't judge men who are married. They have their reasons. But the restrictions that married men have irritates the hell out of me. Only being able to meet at certain times. Unreasonable of me to feel like that, but selfishly I think what's the point if they can't meet when I'm available to meet.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fair point, frustrating when restrictions get in the way, just the way it is. You have lovely legs by the way

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By *az__42Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

try going to clubs like Valhalla that cater to fet. and bdsm people. Have a few drinks, loosen up, and chat. You can't just jump straight in as there's a high level of trust involved in bdsm play.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Not sure if my profile is crap or just getting lost in the sheer number of guys? Want to meet either a lady or couple for some daytime BDSM fun. any advice would be appreciated. "
ill be honest some people on here dont know what it is, you get critism..the divide between fet and swingers is rather large..my dynamic seeks to bridge that gap and we have success, but on here, youll get a mixed bag..go to clubs that have kink nights or furniture, mix mingle and network...its rare people do fet casually anyway..youd be better off going to fet events if you want a play partner x good luck in your search x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)


"Not sure if my profile is crap or just getting lost in the sheer number of guys? Want to meet either a lady or couple for some daytime BDSM fun. any advice would be appreciated. "

Yes

Use fetlife

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"I don't judge men who are married. They have their reasons. But the restrictions that married men have irritates the hell out of me. Only being able to meet at certain times. Unreasonable of me to feel like that, but selfishly I think what's the point if they can't meet when I'm available to meet.

Mrs"

I agree. I don't judge the guy but I have a life and therefore inevitably time. Especially never work.

In any D/so situation time is essential as it is that which builds trust to move into different areas.

:/

There are some good points already been made redundant other sites which offer specific social events. Could be an option to investigate for you.

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