FabSwingers.com forum: About to give up

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Perhaps it's because I'm married and honest about it, perhaps it's because my self image doesn't match up with what others see, but I'm about to pack this in. It's just not happening. Beyond the odd gay guy offering oral I'm getting nothing.

Hey ho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well, the only way to guarantee no meets is to leave.

have a look at changing a few things, if the current approach isnt working.

Perhaps its none of the reasons you think, and perhaps its because your name and profile, hints at being bi that you are getting the gay attention.

good luck

Sugar x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps it's because I'm married and honest about it, perhaps it's because my self image doesn't match up with what others see, but I'm about to pack this in. It's just not happening. Beyond the odd gay guy offering oral I'm getting nothing.

Hey ho.

More doors you knock

More answers you'll get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have only been on here 4 months myself, however I have found that I too, seem to get lots of viewings from gay guys, MM couples and TV/TS folks. I have absolutely nothing against their choice of lifestyle, but it isn't for me, hence why my filters are set.

I understand your frustration OP, I often wonder if I'll ever progress beyond the play sessions I've had in the club I go to, but I don't let my lack of success get to me.

Are you a member of a club? Or have you attended any socials? Get yourself along to a club/social! It will show to others that you are a real person, and could get you some verifications, which, in time, may lead to a meet!

Failing that, just participate in the forums - that will get you noticed too!

Also, review your profile regularly and maybe give it a 'spring clean'. Remember you are one of many, many guys on here so you need to make yourself stand out!

I know my advice might sound a bit rich coming from someone who's had little success himself, but effort reaps rewards, so don't make any hasty decisions just yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assman screams take me up the ass man, which is fine but if that's not your thing. How about a new like Irishgent or something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have only been on here 4 months myself, however I have found that I too, seem to get lots of viewings from gay guys, MM couples and TV/TS folks. I have absolutely nothing against their choice of lifestyle, but it isn't for me, hence why my filters are set.

I understand your frustration OP, I often wonder if I'll ever progress beyond the play sessions I've had in the club I go to, but I don't let my lack of success get to me.

Failing that, just participate in the forums - that will get you noticed too!

Also, review your profile regularly and maybe give it a 'spring clean'. Remember you are one of many, many guys on here so you need to make yourself stand out!

I know my advice might sound a bit rich coming from someone who's had little success himself, but effort reaps rewards, so don't make any hasty decisions just yet!

What fantastic advice

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By *ylonSlutTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

Short but nice great advice and well put should be a sticky.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice everyone, I've listened! I think being a presence on the forum might be an idea too, it's nice to simply interact with others.

Thanks again.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Only one public photo that is less than interesting

Not much narrative. ..

Doesn't draw me in.

Oh and you need patience!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most will look at a profile before replying or sending a message. Yours doesnt say much at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In times past it has said more to no avail. I'll have a think about it and see what I can come up with. I'm a total noob at this!

Sit me down with a stranger and I can usually develop a rapport and have a chat, ask me to describe myself etc. on here and I'm stumped! Probably a drawback ...

As regards the photo, I messaged someone once who told me I was mental for having a face pic online if I'm married, so I reacted. Again, something to consider. That said, I typically send a face pic with any message.

Once again, thanks for the input.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter how you feel......

Get Up

Dress Up

and Show Up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's what you want then keep plugging on. Everyone wants different things at different times.

From someone who once was married, I give you this for free.. Be honest with yourself and your wife or you WILL lose her eventually. If you're honest there's a chance you won't, you'll be happier for it.

Honesty on here is important - if you're lying to your nearest and dearest, why should we trust you? What else could you be lying about?

I'd remove the fact you are married from your profile - if you're asked, answer honestly.

That'll put you on a footing with every other single male. Meet some people socially, get chatting on here and we came, use other sites and go to a club. Eventually you'll get talking to someone nice.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I haven't looked at your profile but you're clearly doing something wrong. But maybe a change of pictures..revamp your profile..new heading..new profile text maybe?. Only give up once you've exhausted all other options

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's about effort. Effort made is the yardstick by which all men are measured in this game. It trumps everything. I don't get meets because I make zero effort to get a meet. I stay because the forum has a unique dynamic I enjoy and the very remote chance of something happening with somebody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single girl and I understand how tough it is for guys. Of all the messages I get, there are so many that just don't do it for me. It's nothing personal, just personal preference, I think it's just about the effort which other people have mentioned. You have to spread your net wide but don't look desperate to the women. I have a pet hate about people who moan because they're not getting anything from here. If you were in a club and wanting to pull, you wouldn't stand on the bar and declare you are leaving if you don't get any action. It makes me feel like you think you are owed something. You would simply leave. Don't get me wrong, I understand seeking advice on forums, but please don't put it on your status, I think it puts people off, good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it's what you want then keep plugging on. Everyone wants different things at different times.

We will assume he's married anyway as he's unable to accommodate

Honesty on here is important - if you're lying to your nearest and dearest, why should we trust you? What else could you be lying about?

I'd remove the fact you are married from your profile - if you're asked, answer honestly.

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