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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi we are couple and have a few meets and really enjoyed them.. and it all goes really well ie talk and drinks flow. But when get to get down and dirty with the other couple we all don't know how to start the play off.. so anyone got a few ideas how to get the party to go with a swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try fancy a shag.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've often found that's the hardest part, i.e. The transition from chitty chat to play.

I've seen a few things work:

1- hit it dead on. Ie say this is the toughest part so I'm going to dim the lights a bit and let's get comfy.

2 - couples start playing with each other and at one point (not too far in) one of you just reach out a hand to the other.

Generally, a combination of 1&2 work for me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We have a selection of games with dares and forfeits, that can be a LOT of fun.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

If we are the "lead" couple, i.e. we instigated the meet, then Jayne will usually just say she is going to change into something more comfortable, and when she comes back she just sits on the guys lap after asking if his partner doesn't mind (if the fem isn't bi) and kisses him, it all seems to go from there lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cool sounds good way about it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask if it's ok to kiss one or both of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find it just happens to be honest, although that's why we prefer socials first as the build up and excitement just gets you in the mood to play

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes did social first few drinks meal hit it off with them but as both new to it so both couples in same boat.. but thanks for advice more please.. also can you all read our profile and see what you all think.. cheers

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

If it seems my coffee morning parties need a little nudge towards some playing, i offer any of the lady guests if they would like a massage or double massage on the table in my spare room.....that usually breaks the ice and slipping out of clothes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" also can you all read our profile and see what you all think.. cheers "

Since you asked, I'd suggest at a minimum, correcting typos (eg looking for social drink versus d*unk) and you may want to clarify who's looking for what as I don't think I've often seen bi male and straight female.

The more the better without rambling.

Also, you may want to open up to single bi males as if you are both looking for a male, that could broaden your pool.

Your pictures are nice - best of luck!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

If I were in this situation I would start getting playful with my chap and then take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be difficult to transition from fully dressed to down and dirty. If we have people to the house I (fem) usually take the lady upstairs so we can change/ freshen up and start a little play. The men normally follow up and join in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes could be the way to go ie change in to something more sexy and surprise the men..

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton


"Hi we are couple and have a few meets and really enjoyed them.. and it all goes really well ie talk and drinks flow. But when get to get down and dirty with the other couple we all don't know how to start the play off.. so anyone got a few ideas how to get the party to go with a swing "

Buy yourselves some naughty dice,worked for us when we started out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh right. Where you get them from sorry to ask

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton


"Oh right. Where you get them from sorry to ask "

Hard to believe our daughters boyfriend bought them for us as a joke,we certainly made good use of them,i think he found them on good old ebay.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes find all sorts on there. Lol...

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Hi we are couple and have a few meets and really enjoyed them.. and it all goes really well ie talk and drinks flow. But when get to get down and dirty with the other couple we all don't know how to start the play off.. so anyone got a few ideas how to get the party to go with a swing "

Look for an opportunity to side up to 'other' mrs and nibble her neck? I've never had a slapped face

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mmmmmmmmm

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over a year ago

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

You could use two ordinary dice, and make up a list of six body parts for one, and six actions for the other, so neck, lips, bum etc(or more tame, or dirty, depending lol) and kiss, lick, nibble etc, then start with own partner and one throws the dice, the other carries out the action, then swap partners and do the same... things should move on fast from their, especially if you lubricate it with a few drinkies lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could use two ordinary dice, and make up a list of six body parts for one, and six actions for the other, so neck, lips, bum etc(or more tame, or dirty, depending lol) and kiss, lick, nibble etc, then start with own partner and one throws the dice, the other carries out the action, then swap partners and do the same... things should move on fast from their, especially if you lubricate it with a few drinkies lol! "
fancy a fuck always works

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

*there, not their ffs !

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"You could use two ordinary dice, and make up a list of six body parts for one, and six actions for the other, so neck, lips, bum etc(or more tame, or dirty, depending lol) and kiss, lick, nibble etc, then start with own partner and one throws the dice, the other carries out the action, then swap partners and do the same... things should move on fast from their, especially if you lubricate it with a few drinkies lol! fancy a fuck always works "

Ah yes, the minimalist approach lol!

Admittedly, we have done this too, although we couched it in less ... erm... uncouth terms lol, as in "So, would you guys like to join us on the bed?"

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Im off to bed, anyone else want to join me?" that normally gets people off the sofa and naked

Or i would like the confidence to pin a meet as soon as they walk in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Im off to bed, anyone else want to join me?" that normally gets people off the sofa and naked

Or i would like the confidence to pin a meet as soon as they walk in"
SO gonna get your kit off don't be shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just announced I was going to take my clothes off. That soon got all four of us moving.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes well that would work for me.. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes well that would work for me.. Lol"
or who's up for some fun and frollix?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try introducing a few adult themed games. Always fun when the drinks are flowing and tend to lead to at least nakedness and fondling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've held plenty parties.....there's always someone ready to just jump right in with an "of you lot...the bedrooms are this way...."

I find if I'm with a couple etc after one drink etc. I just ask straight out..... "another drink or upstairs?" We all know what we are there for...so just state it as it is!

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover


"I just announced I was going to take my clothes off. That soon got all four of us moving. "

snap..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Domino dares works for us lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Domino dares works for us lol "

Explain how that one works,sounds fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Domino dares works for us lol

Explain how that one works,sounds fun"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A nice

A nice tour of the venue can budge things on a bit lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the lady starts to take some clothes off that usually gets things going.jon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the lady starts to take some clothes off that usually gets things going.jon"
signs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saucy drinking game I know the ones u buy as stocking fillets with the shot glasses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saucy drinking game I know the ones u buy as stocking fillets with the shot glasses"
when push come to shoves ...well fancy shag....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

spin the bottle worked wonders for me .. and I was the guest .. was a really fun way to lead into the fun .. the guys I met were in their element

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How did you play spin the bottle.. Rules???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it was spin the bottle truth or dare style .. but was such an easy fun way into starting the naughtiness. rather than the awkward .. "let's go"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is that bottle pointing at me?????

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

We start playing with each other , when we see others getting interested we either invite others to start touching if with single guys wife will reach hand out and start touching them , it normally goes straight to the fun stuff from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lock eyes.

Lick your lips.

Dive in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lock eyes.

Lick your lips.

Dive in.

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push the cock blocker out the way please lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lock eyes.

Lick your lips.

Dive in.

push the cock blocker out the way please lol"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any more??

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"Hi we are couple and have a few meets and really enjoyed them.. and it all goes really well ie talk and drinks flow. But when get to get down and dirty with the other couple we all don't know how to start the play off.. so anyone got a few ideas how to get the party to go with a swing "

If you were to knock our door then me and the wife would be practically naked anyway.we wouldn't be chatting for an age.you'd be naked before you knew it, we'd fuck each other's brains, and then chill and chat....the point is if you are hosting then you call the shots so try the semi naked approach..get the wife to do the leg scene for on basic instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lock eyes.

Lick your lips.

Dive in.

push the cock blocker out the way please lol

?"
you was diving in but there is always some single men hoggin the fun that at front of the que *rolls eyes

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Watching for s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Watching for s"
?????

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By *atandasmileMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Watching for s?????"

A while ago I was surprised to find out that is a light bulb. So they are watching [the thread] for ideas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Watching for s?????

A while ago I was surprised to find out that is a light bulb. So they are watching [the thread] for ideas."
not as in the lights are on then

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By *arkaCouple
over a year ago

Chester

We had an mmf where after a few drinks/chat we decided to play strip pontoon! Much quicker than strip poker! Then when u became naked when u lost a hand after that u had to perform a dare on someone. We were all soon naked and playing.

Fuuny but always seem to have a deck of cards nearby since then!

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By *ranimallxl5Man
over a year ago

Winchester

Uno

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By *ilvercharmCouple
over a year ago

Our gate

Just get in there,saves the awkwardness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Tom) had an mmf three some so after some chit chat she said to her husband "put a film on" Some porn went on and she said "her boobs aren't as big as these" and pulled her top down. Her husband started sucking one nipple and beckoned me over to suck the other one. Needless to say it all went on from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miss usually says, "I'm just going to the toilet" comes back naked (in heels only) or play wear and says "so who do I need to fuck to get another glass of wine around here because I'm all out of wine and all into fucking?" or similar.

Works EVERYTIME.

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Watching for s?????

A while ago I was surprised to find out that is a light bulb. So they are watching [the thread] for ideas."

Spot on. Moving to the fun side is always a challenge and some good tips.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well anyone got any more idea's

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Ah yes remember this well lol. The first couple we met was a social first. On the play meet we met at a hotel. It was our first meet and theirs. Had a few drinks in the bar and then went to the room. Had a bit of awkward chat with nobody knowing really what to do so I just said shall we all get naked? Did the trick.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Wii bowling game.

Every 'strike' you either nominate another to remove a piece of clothing or you can put on a piece of clothing previously removed.

A strip tease with a difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wii bowling game.

Every 'strike' you either nominate another to remove a piece of clothing or you can put on a piece of clothing previously removed.

A strip tease with a difference "
prefer a Sony ps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to do nude butler and a lot of my bookings were swinger events, I'd meet and greet ( me nude ) at the door, take coats, get drinks etc, i would then circulate chatting to people, with a nod from host I would introduce party games, truth / dare always a favourite with penalties performed with me! It worked very well as I would use my job title in the context, ie, 'well young lady as you're not going to do the dare you have to come out front and masturbate the butler for 1 minute, this way third party makes it more professional! I had other games up my sleeve. Every time I was booked the hosts gave me excellent feedback, as a host it takes the pressure off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first ever meet had one or two homemade games to get the evening started. I had turned up after chatting online, mainly to the male half of the couple, explaining that it would be my first time meeting a couple, They were reassuring and gave the impression they had enough experience of first meets to know how to steer the evening.

So after a drink and an initially face to face chat, they suggested a bite to eat, and put a pizza in the oven, 15 minutes later we are slicing the pizza up and continuing our conversation. As we finish, the male clears things up and seems to take quite a while to clear a few plates, during which time the female has laid out on the sofa next to me, placing her feet across my legs, and feeling a little more relaxed in their company begin to rub her feet/legs.

Her Husband eventually reappears and suggest we begin the fun. This being my first time I did wonder how things would develop. So out he brings a box, in it there are several “games” all of which appear to be home made. The first one they bring out is a selection of store cards, the first is one card on its own, with a handful of holes, say 4mm in diameter drilled through it. I’m informed we have to pass it among ourselves by sucking it to our lips and transferring it to the next persons’ lips. They give me a demo and make it look easy, but it wasn’t so easy, and passing it from the lady to myself it seem to fail, unless she slyly was making it so, and each time the card was dropped we the two droppers had to kiss, and once we had mastered one card, they brought out two stuck together, and then three stuck together until we were at a stage where it was almost all kissing,

So from thee they brought out another game, which was again homemade and fairly simplistic, with three dice, and a laminated card with forfeits against the numbers. Initially we started with one dice, as the first few forfeits were similar to the kissing, and after a few rounds of that, the second dice was introduced, and with this the forfeits getting a bit more interesting, such as remove an item of clothing of the person of your choice, or your own, kiss/stroke massage a certain body area of the person to your left/right, and then the third dice introduced where one dice was rolled to say what to do such as lick/kiss/suck and the other two then rolled to say who to do it to and what part of the body to do it to, this inevitably led to the dice being forgotten about and the play to continue on. It was perhaps a little long winded but a very relaxed way to build up the fun.

I have since had other meets where I have walked in after a few chats online, where the couple are in robes, and remove them once I’m sat down and have a drink and pretty much told to strip, this took me back a little but I like the upfrontness and once everyone was down to their underwear the nerves pretty much disappeared so two quite different ways making for fun evenings.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sound a good evening fun

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"We had an mmf where after a few drinks/chat we decided to play strip pontoon! Much quicker than strip poker! Then when u became naked when u lost a hand after that u had to perform a dare on someone. We were all soon naked and playing.

Fuuny but always seem to have a deck of cards nearby since then!"

Strip poker is fun and like you say once the person is stripped then they have to do a forfeit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a fuck n a pizza usually a good one.. Everyone loves pizza

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bet that works

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do remember one meet where the other couple was very nervous. We'd been out for a few drinks and were chatting and sat on opposite couches, but we all went a bit quiet. So my wife simply stood up took her jeans and top of and sat between the other couple. And things went from there...

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

N usually starts playing with me as he can never wait !!! Then invites the other couple to watch or play. I am grateful he takes the lead.

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By *ightboy69Man
over a year ago

Torquay

Some great game suggestions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hubby just asks " are you happy to play"

After a drink and chat when he feels the time is right he will come out with it.

The other couple or lady 99.9% of the time says yes ok.

We all take in turns for the bathroom and we either pair off or all go upstairs together.

Never had a problem or awkwardness.

He is very direct as that's what we are visited for.....

Sex!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself and relax, my first time was awkward due to the other party's fella watching but it will all come naturally eventually x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any other ways???

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually we sit the fella opposite the sofa. Couple of drinks and light hearted chat then when I leave the room it's my Missus who will say 'do you want to come over here and join me?'....once I hear the mmmhh mmmhh kissing noises I rejoin them both and we all take things from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi we are couple and have a few meets and really enjoyed them.. and it all goes really well ie talk and drinks flow. But when get to get down and dirty with the other couple we all don't know how to start the play off.. so anyone got a few ideas how to get party to go with a swing "
play some games to get going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Licking someone is a good way of breaking the thin ice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

mmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bump?!?

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

A conundrum thats not easy but what this is all about. Put crudely strike when the iron is hot..but knowing if and when its reached the right temperature.

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By *aul020269Man
over a year ago

bidford on Avon

Get your kit off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a little limber up and some stretching of the hamstring how about, on your marks, get set, go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Mrs has called out 'last one naked gets to watch!'

That normally gets pepole moving

And no, the watching bit is always a fib, everyone joins in if they want!

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Dont stress and remember its mesnt to be fun

I normally hide a toy in the bathroom and when we have all settled i will bring it out and quite openly say "im off to play, whos cumming?"

Always a good rush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi we are couple and have a few meets and really enjoyed them.. and it all goes really well ie talk and drinks flow. But when get to get down and dirty with the other couple we all don't know how to start the play off.. so anyone got a few ideas how to get the party to go with a swing "

I used to do naked party hosting, me naked greet guests, get drinks etc and also arrange party games, truth or date is always great as I can pair off different people for a dare, fail to tell truth or do the dare ends up by the person coming out front and performing on me! And I got paid!!

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By *rGirth777Man
over a year ago

shrewsbury/London/Any where anytime

I like your style.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

The lady should pop out of the room and put on a massive girth strapon, come back in holding a tub of Sarfega and bark at the men 'Bend over - Now!'

In truth, it feels a tricky, awkward part. But, remember the other couple will also be thinking 'I hope we can get started soon' too!

So, saying 'Shall we get the fun started?' And moving together for a kiss, will be met with relief and a smile xx

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