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By *ysteryGent7 OP   Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Hey everyone I'm pretty new to the scene and have been on here a while but am having no luck and struggling to get anyone to talk can you guys and girls give me help on what to put for the first message at the min iv just been saying "hey are you interested in talking and maybe meeting if all goes well" but not getting replies

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Comoment on something you pick up from their profile..

Show an interest in them. Not just their body.

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By *ysteryGent7 OP   Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Thanks iv been trying that now and again but it hasn't been working I must just be fuck ugly :D ahaha

And please move this post if it's in the wrong section thanks

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Your status immediately puts me off.

The narrative could do with some work.

What are you offering me over every other single guy who messages me?

Tailor messages to the person.

In tone and content

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Don't start a conversation talking about having a meet...be more subtle.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Status would put me off straight away....I wouldn't even get past that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey everyone I'm pretty new to the scene and have been on here a while but am having no luck and struggling to get anyone to talk can you guys and girls give me help on what to put for the first message at the min iv just been saying "hey are you interested in talking and maybe meeting if all goes well" but not getting replies

Thanks in advance "

It is not just to do with the content of your messages.

Ladies get many messages and most will look at the profile before they decide whether to reply.

I can't give you profile advice as you have not asked for it. This site only permits profile advice when it is requested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you're not ugly but not someone i would class as hot. you do have some things that physically do give you an advantage also. most women want a guy at least 6ft tall.

you need to work on your messages. give people something to reply to oz idk if i would want to chat or not with you if you just asked me and i would ignore you, unless you were hot then i'd just think of something to chat about myself but i cba to do this with most guys.

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

Agree with others, status would put most people off.

When receiving a message "most" if not all look at profile first before messaging.

Get yourself to clubs and socials and take part in the forums.

Most popular people are the one's who participate in getting to know others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Off putting status. Your age may also put people off as some have kids older than you. Oh and your profile needs some work too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys your age are fishing in a smaller fish pond when they go on swing sites. You will either need to target the younger age group, which I think is a minority on this site. Or you will have to target people who specifically want a very young man, because otherwise you will be competing against more experienced guys.

It's not entirely clear on your profile what sort of experiences you are looking for, or what you can offer, as a result many will pass you by. I also don't think you should message people asking if they want to chat. People don't generally want to chat randomly - something has to pique their interest first. And it's getting someone to that point of interest that is the man's challenge. That's where an interesting message and profile comes in, with appealing photos. A lot of women and couples have enough to be getting on with on the swing scene, so a man has to convince them that he can give something they are not yet getting. It's not easy I'm afraid.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Thanks iv been trying that now and again but it hasn't been working I must just be fuck ugly :D ahaha

And please move this post if it's in the wrong section thanks"

Your status is off-putting and your age will be a problem for some on here. Say a bit more on your profile too, oh and your photos are all the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say don't be put off by your age but you immaturity shouts by your status and pics. We all know why we are here but for those of us with life experience it's as much about attraction as the meet. Your pics again show your lack of imagination.

Ps don't take this as a come on as you are too young but you're not ugly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about mine ladies, i can't put my finger on why I don't get much response. I put it down to their being to many men to women ratio on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about mine ladies, i can't put my finger on why I don't get much response. I put it down to their being to many men to women ratio on here. "

I guess you thought women on swingers sites choose sex partners based on various pictures of cocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair point, taken on board.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about mine ladies, i can't put my finger on why I don't get much response. I put it down to their being to many men to women ratio on here. "

It is always nice to blame something out of your control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's not how I would message op, I suggest you change tack as its obviously not working.

Be yourself and be relaxed.

Desperation shines through if you're not careful.

Don't ask to meet straight away. Unless they have a meet today advertised.

Never expect!

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By *amousfantasticCouple
over a year ago

Kent/sussex border


"What about mine ladies, i can't put my finger on why I don't get much response. I put it down to their being to many men to women ratio on here.

I guess you thought women on swingers sites choose sex partners based on various pictures of cocks."

Ha ha ha.

I'll never understand the amount of cock pictures on profiles... Like the cock is more important than what it's attached to... Just amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the way it goes sometimes you should try been a couple it's even harder to get meets

Stick at it update your profile to give a bit about yourself and what you are looking for and can offer ladies and couples.

Good luck with future meets.

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By *akeyou1Man
over a year ago

sutton

Mate I have the same trouble as you do any advice for me too couples or ladies ?

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Same advice for all of you....LESS cock, MORE personality!!!! Its not difficult surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate I have the same trouble as you do any advice for me too couples or ladies ?"

It is accepted etiquette to start your own thread rather than hijacking some other poor beggar's plea for advice.

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By *ysteryGent7 OP   Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Thankyou all for the advice it's greatly appreciated and taken on board gotta love this community

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