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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its the sheer amount of messages all these horny up for fun ladies are getting. If i was in their position, i'd be picking the sexiest one i got every day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at least someone acknowledges that. you need to post this in any future 'why am i not getting meets' thread.

or 'why do ugly women ask for hot guys' threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the sheer amount of messages all these horny up for fun ladies are getting. If i was in their position, i'd be picking the sexiest one i got every day"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"at least someone acknowledges that. you need to post this in any future 'why am i not getting meets' thread.

or 'why do ugly women ask for hot guys' threads.

"

What I want to know is, where are the hot ladies that want ugly guts?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*guys

Tho my guts are ugly too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"at least someone acknowledges that. you need to post this in any future 'why am i not getting meets' thread.

or 'why do ugly women ask for hot guys' threads.

What I want to know is, where are the hot ladies that want ugly guts?!?

"

erm, they exist in another dimension i think. science believes this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what you're saying is, it's pointless for us mere mortals even being on this site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what you're saying is, it's pointless for us mere mortals even being on this site?"

no. but obvioudly the better looking and more social someone is then the easier of a time they'll have on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"at least someone acknowledges that. you need to post this in any future 'why am i not getting meets' thread.

or 'why do ugly women ask for hot guys' threads.

"
Question how many tattoo's do you have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"at least someone acknowledges that. you need to post this in any future 'why am i not getting meets' thread.

or 'why do ugly women ask for hot guys' threads.

Question how many tattoo's do you have? "

i haven't got a clue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what you're saying is, it's pointless for us mere mortals even being on this site?

no. but obvioudly the better looking and more social someone is then the easier of a time they'll have on here."

Problem is it's not simply a case of "better looking" guys having an easier time. If you're an average looking guy then you simply won't get replies/messages. No amount of persistence or patience will change that.

I know it's popular on these forums to bash men who complain they don't get anywhere but I don't think women understand how crappy it is to spend time reading profiles and crafting decent messages only to get instant deleted. The first few times you can brush it off but when it's a constant it's very disheartening.

I dunno this post has irked me more than it should have. I guess I'm questioning whether it's worth being here when I'd have better luck down the local pub. I wanted something different but theres no point doing a Sisyphus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what you're saying is, it's pointless for us mere mortals even being on this site?

no. but obviously the better looking and more social someone is then the easier of a time they'll have on here.

Problem is it's not simply a case of "better looking" guys having an easier time. If you're an average looking guy then you simply won't get replies/messages. No amount of persistence or patience will change that.

I know it's popular on these forums to bash men who complain they don't get anywhere but I don't think women understand how crappy it is to spend time reading profiles and crafting decent messages only to get instant deleted. The first few times you can brush it off but when it's a constant it's very disheartening.

I dunno this post has irked me more than it should have. I guess I'm questioning whether it's worth being here when I'd have better luck down the local pub. I wanted something different but theres no point doing a Sisyphus."

i do get it a bit actually. i have gone looking for guys myself to only be confronted by blank profiles or cock pics, fill this in later, and other useless crap that tells me nothing. although my messages always get replied to so i don't get that, i do get that it would be disheartening.

half my messages from guys have a profile like that also, and they're usually saying nice pics or something like that to me but don't understand i might want the same in return?

you think coz we get guys chucking themselves at us that it's easy? no it is not. most of the guys on here are below par for me, their messages firstly disgust me, their looks might do also if their message was sexual. no offence but if a guy approaches me like i am gonna drop my knickers for anyone then his looks instantly go right down for me and i just find everything about him repulsive.

i meet guys who are average or probably slightly better than average looks but who also have social skills. idk if you realise how hard it is to find guys like this on here? and they also need to be local to me.

up to you what you do on here but if you stay i'd say only do the things you enjoy and at times when you have the mindset to cpe with being rejected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the sheer amount of messages all these horny up for fun ladies are getting. If i was in their position, i'd be picking the sexiest one i got every day"

Right, that's me done with this site then

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London


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i do get it a bit actually. i have gone looking for guys myself to only be confronted by blank profiles or cock pics, fill this in later, and other useless crap that tells me nothing. although my messages always get replied to so i don't get that, i do get that it would be disheartening.

half my messages from guys have a profile like that also, and they're usually saying nice pics or something like that to me but don't understand i might want the same in return?

you think coz we get guys chucking themselves at us that it's easy? no it is not. most of the guys on here are below par for me, their messages firstly disgust me, their looks might do also if their message was sexual. no offence but if a guy approaches me like i am gonna drop my knickers for anyone then his looks instantly go right down for me and i just find everything about him repulsive.

i meet guys who are average or probably slightly better than average looks but who also have social skills. idk if you realise how hard it is to find guys like this on here? and they also need to be local to me.

up to you what you do on here but if you stay i'd say only do the things you enjoy and at times when you have the mindset to cpe with being rejected."

Couldn't agree with you more! Kayla also has a solo profile and gets hundreds of messages a week and to date only met one guy in the 8 weeks she's had it due to the vile messages guys send her daily.

Although we do get the odd daily vile message on our couples profile it's no where as bad as what guys send her on her solo profile we've' have found guys can be more pleasant when approaching a couple so have had many great meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

i do get it a bit actually. i have gone looking for guys myself to only be confronted by blank profiles or cock pics, fill this in later, and other useless crap that tells me nothing. although my messages always get replied to so i don't get that, i do get that it would be disheartening.

half my messages from guys have a profile like that also, and they're usually saying nice pics or something like that to me but don't understand i might want the same in return?

you think coz we get guys chucking themselves at us that it's easy? no it is not. most of the guys on here are below par for me, their messages firstly disgust me, their looks might do also if their message was sexual. no offence but if a guy approaches me like i am gonna drop my knickers for anyone then his looks instantly go right down for me and i just find everything about him repulsive.

i meet guys who are average or probably slightly better than average looks but who also have social skills. idk if you realise how hard it is to find guys like this on here? and they also need to be local to me.

up to you what you do on here but if you stay i'd say only do the things you enjoy and at times when you have the mindset to cpe with being rejected.

Couldn't agree with you more! Kayla also has a solo profile and gets hundreds of messages a week and to date only met one guy in the 8 weeks she's had it due to the vile messages guys send her daily.

Although we do get the odd daily vile message on our couples profile it's no where as bad as what guys send her on her solo profile we've' have found guys can be more pleasant when approaching a couple so have had many great meets."

its quite sad that men will generally only respect women if they have to because another man is present.

i suppose it could also just be the people who are into couples are more respectful?

i've had a lot of good meets before when i was fuck and go, with really hot guys, but now i'm after something more it's really hard because their seem to be a lot of guys with sex addiction problems once you get to know them a bit more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what you're saying is, it's pointless for us mere mortals even being on this site?"

I'm a mere mortal... does that mean I'm fucked, and not in a good way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what you're saying is, it's pointless for us mere mortals even being on this site?

I'm a mere mortal... does that mean I'm fucked, and not in a good way? "

What?! Now you're telling us there is a "not good" way to be fucked?!

Lies!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i was merely just sick of seeing "help me with my profile threads"

There really is an insane amount of guys on here, most of which assume the girls on here are just looking for a fuck and go like the majority of them are.

Ive been on here a year and not managed to get a meet yet, i got 1 verification from someone who's no longeron the site. It is frustrating, but it is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The biggest problem is people's expectations. And this doesn't just apply to single men (though in the main it appears so, probably because they form the biggest demographic on here), but also women and couples too.

If you expect to get meets

If you expect anyone to drop their pants/knickers for you

If you expect to fill all of your fantasies

If you expect to consistently meet like minded people

If you expect to have lots of sex

If you expect to get sex on demand, or with a simple wink, or message, or Fabbed pic

If you expect the mountain to trot on over to Mohammed

If you expect to put little in and get lots out

Whatever the expectations you might have, you will be sorely disappointed.

Fab isn't a candy store where you can pick and choose and take whatever you like off the shelf, that applies to everyone on here.

For many (I won't point out character flaws, but will say it generally applies to those that actually have no idea what swinging is really about), that dissapointment manifests itself into frustration.

That frustration manifest into bitterness.

Which often leads to single male, female, couple bashing which pops up all the time.

Morale, don't have any expectations, don't take it all too seriously, and all will be well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Problem is it's not simply a case of "better looking" guys having an easier time. If you're an average looking guy then you simply won't get replies/messages. No amount of persistence or patience will change that.

I know it's popular on these forums to bash men who complain they don't get anywhere but I don't think women understand how crappy it is to spend time reading profiles and crafting decent messages only to get instant deleted. The first few times you can brush it off but when it's a constant it's very disheartening.

I dunno this post has irked me more than it should have. I guess I'm questioning whether it's worth being here when I'd have better luck down the local pub. I wanted something different but theres no point doing a Sisyphus."

I'm sorry you feel that way. Unfortunately Fab doesn't work for everyone. Some people get more fun on other websites, others find it easier as you suggest down the local pub. Others find it difficult to get NSA sex full stop, but that sadly is their problem.

You are correct that it is easier for men who are above average in looks, but that will also be the case when picking someone up in a pub. Good looking men with good bodies and winning personalities will always have an easier time, and Fab is no exception. Ironically on Fab, so many profiles are quite minimalist that I find I have no idea what the man looks like or what his personality is like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with most men asking for help with their profile is the men themselves....as no amount of tweaking will enable them to suddenly become popular and have women parting their lips and legs in anticipation ...

a bit of realism is what's needed here folks...

I don't think I've ever seen a thread thanking anyone for the profile advice that helped them to become swinger of the year

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

Hmmm... Interesting thread here.

We do understand the problems facing single guys trying to make their profile stand out from the rest. Of course, the main problem is in fact that there are many other singles on here. NOTE! We say other singles, not just single guys.

We get a good number (or should that be a bad number) of unsolicited direct contacts from single guys informing us that our lives would be enriched by the occasion of their visiting us and shagging the hell out of Mrs FF whilst Mr FF provides tea and sandwiches. We respond according to the tone of that first unsolicited approach.

We also get a lot of abuse, yes distressing abuse sometimes, from couples who seem to think that the fact that they consider themselves "beautiful people" gives them the right to dictate how, when and where we could possibly meet. That normally means I attend alone and Mr FF is just a taxi driver.

Having said that, you will note that we are actually active within the life-style and do get our fair share of meets (including with single females) We have also made some life-long friends via this site for which we do give great thanks. We have also come across (not literally) some assholes!

Perhaps what we are trying to say is that there are many disillusioned or even mischievous profile-holders here on FAB, but that if you persevere, you will find what you are seeking. We certainly did!!

As far as profiles go, our position would be...

State what you are seeking.

Be honest.

Never deviate from your principles just to get a meet with a God or Godess.

Be sure what you ask for is what you do actually want?

Just our thruppence worth!

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