FabSwingers.com forum: Am I doing it right? No replies to my messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello! I'm completely new to this game. I was previously in a long term relationship, and I kind of feel like I've done that plenty, and I just want to play now!

Could you lot have a look at my profile and tell me what you think? I've messaged a few women on here but had no replies, and only one person has messaged me who really isn't my type at the moment... I do live in a difficult area as it's quite rural and I guess less stuff goes on around here.

I just went for it and described what I like to do...

https://www.fabswingers.com/profile/dangoesdown

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Your pictures look nice they show your personality. For me your profile is a bit full on but the overall impression is that you're keen to ensure a great time is had by everyone however that's a lot of pressure for whoever you meet.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know what it is but I found your text really off putting (this is the female half of a couple) it just seems a bit too full on but that just my thoughts other women may like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, your profile may appeal to some. It is different and makes better reading than the usual stuff.

On the other hand, it reads a bit like a porn story rather than revealing your character. And, honestly, I doubt you would be the best sex anyone has ever experienced. That is down to the person rather than any particular physical act.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OK thanks all of you. I will tone it down and make it a bit shorter too. I guess it is a bit full on, now I've reread it after seeing your comments!

What I'm trying to get across, I guess, is that I'm more turned on by my partner having a good time than anything else in the world :D And that I am very highly sexed!

Also, and I'm being maybe a little too honest here, though I've had a lot of great sex it's only been with a very few women. I feel a bit insecure about that. I got together with my ex-wife when I was 19 and she was only the second person I'd ever been with.

A while after she left, she let on that she'd stayed for years longer because I was good in bed. I mean I was an idiot for putting up with that, but at least I know I was good at that!

That thing about being the best ever was a one-time comment I made a few years ago to someone and they got really horny. I was trying to recreate that moment I think!

But also, I'm kinda proud of the fact that of the encounters I've had since my ex-wife, the two women I had relationships with told me it was the best sex they'd ever had. I had a couple of moments with other women that didn't lead to full on sex. Both told me I made them feel amazing.

I recently realised that I have no desire to get into a relationship at the moment, but that I really need to find me some no strings attached sexytimes before I explode!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I turned off after the first two paragraphs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hmm sorry that's such a long ramble. I do tend to go on a bit, as both that post and my profile demonstrate o.O

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I really like your profile. Is that the before or after?? Your pics are good, they show a fun side to you and that's what's it's all about....right? Maybe a few classy body shots might help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really like your profile. Is that the before or after?? Your pics are good, they show a fun side to you and that's what's it's all about....right? Maybe a few classy body shots might help?

Booty shots? Tart haha x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"OK thanks all of you. I will tone it down and make it a bit shorter too. I guess it is a bit full on, now I've reread it after seeing your comments!

What I'm trying to get across, I guess, is that I'm more turned on by my partner having a good time than anything else in the world :D And that I am very highly sexed!

A while after she left, she let on that she'd stayed for years longer because I was good in bed. I mean I was an idiot for putting up with that, but at least I know I was good at that!

That thing about being the best ever was a one-time comment I made a few years ago to someone and they got really horny. I was trying to recreate that moment I think!

I recently realised that I have no desire to get into a relationship at the moment, but that I really need to find me some no strings attached sexytimes before I explode!"

I don't mean this in a negative way but you know that lots of the other men on this site say more or less what you've just said. Women are all different and while I don't dispute that your sex life so far has been great you're setting the bar really high for a meeting with people you barely know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's the 'before' profile... Glad you like it, Lady Lick. It's good to have some encouragement from someone I find

Pity you're not in Cornwall!

As for body shots, I'll try and take some and add them :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know what you're looking for and stay on track. Most women dont like the bar set too high...they will feel 'I'm not good enough and will not reply or overlook you if that the case.....However most here like to set the bar high for themselves. It's a two edged sword. They will also look at the type you have met and many will also decide if they fit that type/profile before responding.

what I'm saying is aim for what you want and keep at it...It pays off. For a guy I say keep the bar high....its very hard to raise it later. Some may think that's all crap so it'sjust my oopinion and how it works for me. Hope that helps....others will be better at help with your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well dude, you're profile's your own and is unique so do it unique. Don't put up all of the usual stuff that a lot of guys do. Less is more and has always worked for me.

And remember just because you're not someone's ying doesn't necessarily mean you won't be someone else's yang.

Also get involved in discussions and forums etc. If people are familiar with your name they'd feel a bit more at ease to respond. Good luck mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys. I really appreciate the help and encouragement!

Well I've tweaked my profile now. I've tried to keep the uniqueness and passion but toned a few things down a bit...

So hopefully it's less off-putting but still gets across what I love and what I'm good at!

Of course I'd appreciate your comments :D

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

The profile seems okay but I would be totally put off by someone who tells me that all the women he has had sex with say its great ... everyone is individual and why should I care about that. I don't make a habit of having to boost any man's ego like that, so I am interested to know why they would feel the need to say that sort of thing to you. It just sounds weird. I met my partner on here and the sex with him is like nothing else I had ever experienced ... but he didn't tell me beforehand that it might be like this, or the effect he has on women .... some women I think prefer the understated approach...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I've come to the profile after edits it seems.

I love long hair on a guy so I like the pics. For me though the assumption that all women love oral and reading that first puts me off.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Your pictures look nice they show your personality. For me your profile is a bit full on but the overall impression is that you're keen to ensure a great time is had by everyone however that's a lot of pressure for whoever you meet.

Good luck"

Agree with all this but terrible username.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ah that's odd, I'd removed the bit about previous partners before that. Must have taken a while to update or something.

I don't assume that all women want oral, I'm saying that I'm really into it. Doesn't that come across?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok this is just my opinion you don't have to take it but I would put your last paragraph and put it at the begining I just think it would read better that way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes, I like that idea. I did that and kind of rewrote the whole thing again... I really appreciate everyone's patience and help!

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