FabSwingers.com forum: Am i too polite? javascript:doSmilie(' :-?')

By *aggyman OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Hi all, Soooo after 2 years (minimum) of being on here, interacting in forums, been in chat on and off cam, always "liking" particularly good pics and generally being down to earth and polite, towards all the fab community it has got me nowhere lol. I cant pretend to be someone else, or deliberately be rude, crass, or even offensive (which some do!!). i do have a face pic, however thats only available to friends, the main problem with this, is that i still as of 2 years haven't got any on here. im probably not as ugly or dull as everyone must think, although id be the first to admit being a noob on the swinger scene. i like fun, especially nude fun outdoors (weather permitting) and would love to share this with a friendly couple. Theres still a lot more to me but ill keep this version short. yes i do have manners, i am quite polite, easygoing and friendly (so ive been told lol), click on me and say hi,ill reply asap when im logged in. This is probably my last post before i leave Fab, all replies welcome

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

But if you don't send face pics how do you expect to meet?

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

"Hi all, Soooo after 2 years (minimum) of being on here, interacting in forums, been in chat on and off cam, always "liking" particularly good pics and generally being down to earth and polite, towards all the fab community it has got me nowhere lol. I cant pretend to be someone else, or deliberately be rude, crass, or even offensive (which some do!!). i do have a face pic, however thats only available to friends, the main problem with this, is that i still as of 2 years haven't got any on here. im probably not as ugly or dull as everyone must think, although id be the first to admit being a noob on the swinger scene. i like fun, especially nude fun outdoors (weather permitting) and would love to share this with a friendly couple. Theres still a lot more to me but ill keep this version short. yes i do have manners, i am quite polite, easygoing and friendly (so ive been told lol), click on me and say hi,ill reply asap when im logged in. This is probably my last post before i leave Fab, all replies welcome

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Find a girl and get a couples profile.Never a dull moment when you swing together.Not a practical option in the short term.failing that you need to hope someone looks at your profile and likes what they see..

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By *aggyman OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Hi _asokitty, thanks for your reply, I only keep my face off the public pics, but if asked by someone genuine then i would definatly send one

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By *aggyman OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Hi penrhiwceiber, thanks for your reply, yup i have to agree, seems the best way forward

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By *edsBonkingMan
over a year ago

Near MK

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Exact same here. I thought it was because of my age. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't think your lack of meets are because you're too polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, why do you think it is due to you being polite?

Can you see people wanting to meet rude folk?

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By *aggyman OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Exact same here. I thought it was because of my age. Good luck.

Glad im not the only one then lol, although unwittingly this actual post itself has pointed a few Fab'ers in my direction, so perhaps i might stick to forums, then people can get to know me easir, i also struggle to get stuff typed quick enough in the camchat rooms haha, so perhaps forums are the answer

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By *aggyman OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"No, I don't think your lack of meets are because you're too polite"

I only think that because i dont like sending uninvited messages and friend requests as its something i see fellow fab'ers complaining about (which i can understand lol) so i try on the chatrooms but the thing moves to fast for me haha x

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By *aggyman OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"OP, why do you think it is due to you being polite?

Can you see people wanting to meet rude folk?"

Genuinely some peeps seem pushy to me in chatrooms, but still manage to get a chat on the go with them, either that or its people that all seem to know each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, why do you think it is due to you being polite?

Can you see people wanting to meet rude folk?

Genuinely some peeps seem pushy to me in chatrooms, but still manage to get a chat on the go with them, either that or its people that all seem to know each other

Sorry. I don't see the point.

It has nothing to do with politeness or the so-called cliques.

It is more to do with your expectations or your approach.

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By *aggyman OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"OP, why do you think it is due to you being polite?

Can you see people wanting to meet rude folk?

Genuinely some peeps seem pushy to me in chatrooms, but still manage to get a chat on the go with them, either that or its people that all seem to know each other

Sorry. I don't see the point.

It has nothing to do with politeness or the so-called cliques.

It is more to do with your expectations or your approach."

Well perhaps its a mix of not coming forward enough and being too polite, perhaps even i should take a few more risks and be more assertive. Id actually say it could be my pics/bio/prefernces etc, but it cant be because no ones visited my page, so i can only guess at it being something i either have or havent said. anyhoo ive got a few ideas now to try thanks to everyones replies, so ill post any updates on here

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

Ive been having the same problem,

I'm not a stud, I'm not gods gift to women, but I am polite and caring.

It does make you wonder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just looked at you profile

Can't accommodate but can't travel?

So where are you planning on meeting people?

That would be my first question for you

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

Phew! You got me looking at my profile then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Phew! You got me looking at my profile then

Sorry lol xx

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By *aggyman OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"Ive been having the same problem,

I'm not a stud, I'm not gods gift to women, but I am polite and caring.

It does make you wonder "

Hi Gomez, yh being caring and polite seems to be a dying trend in this day and age, it is "trying" i agree, i doubt we're the only ones in this position too, hopefully peeps will see these posts and earn us some new fab friends

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By *aggyman OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"I've just looked at you profile

Can't accommodate but can't travel?

So where are you planning on meeting people?

That would be my first question for you "

Hi Shimmer, Thanks for your reply, actually that info i put isnt exactly true, i cant accom, but as far as travel goes, i just mean that i cant travel that far. however i do live in Coventry which is a pretty big city and can quite easily get to most areas in south B'ham, but theres no option or button for that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi and I can appreciate you point. Its really difficult and I think we as single men suffer from being one in literally a thousand or more each clammering for attention.

To make matters worse, most of us I think are sounding and looking very similar - so its little wonder and though difficult not to take personally, it really isnt that, its just oversupply of a commodity which isnt that popular and the power lies with those who can afford to be very selective.

Its a strange thing but in a true social situation, I'm sure you'd be lucky pretty quickly but this medium is a difficult one to sell yourself through.

I agree that accompanying a woman and appearing to be a "couple" at parties would be much more effective but again chicken and egg - how do you get the bottom of the mountain and hook up with a woman if they wont acknowledge you?

Whatever you do,dont get hung up on it - try harder next time you're in the pub. Thats we men do best.

Rich

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By *aggyman OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"Hi and I can appreciate you point. Its really difficult and I think we as single men suffer from being one in literally a thousand or more each clammering for attention.

Its a strange thing but in a true social situation, I'm sure you'd be lucky pretty quickly but this medium is a difficult one to sell yourself through.

Whatever you do,dont get hung up on it - try harder next time you're in the pub. Thats we men do best.

Rich

Hi Matt47 , thanks for your reply , what you say makes perfect sense and i completely agree, i like the pub approach idea, im more comfy in that situation than on here tbh, but as im a carer i dont tend to get out that much lol

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