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By *ordan28 OP   Man
over a year ago

Warrington

Hi guys and gals,

I've been on here for 11 months now and I'm still struggling to get meets or to get people to even respond to my messages. I'm not being rude or vulgar in my message and I'm not asking for a meet right away, I'm being friendly etc and just breaking the ice yet every message gets deleted

How can I get people to respond to my messages and get future meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you want a profile critique? As maybe asking for one might help with the answers to your question

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

You put more effort into this post than you did in your profile text.

You need to tell people more about yourself, what you're looking for etc and some more pics would be good (not a load of cock shots though!!).

And lastly, the odds are stacked against you when it comes to the ratio of single men vs women/couples.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

According to your profile your new lol

The fact that your been here 11 months but can't be arse to write anything puts me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been here a year yet this is your first post! (Apart from a repeat in another forum)

There are socials

Clubs

Parties

And the forum to raise your profile and show your personality!

Most of my meets have stemmed from the forums.

A little more effort in your profile may also help!

Good luck

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By *ordan28 OP   Man
over a year ago

Warrington

I've just updated my profile info box, included some things about me and what to expect in messages etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well your profile says that you are new to swinging and you want to learn the ropes. Sounds like you are looking for someone to teach you! You'll find most people will only be interested in what you can do for them, so if it not obvious on your profile or message they will move on to someone who does articulate their talents.

That being said, it is harder for younger guys on this particular website, because they are competing against experience.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"You've been here a year yet this is your first post! (Apart from a repeat in another forum)

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It isn't compulsory to use the forum

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"I've just updated my profile info box, included some things about me and what to expect in messages etc "

Your profile and pics look ok to me. There isn't a definitive answer as to why people get meets or not though as we all like different things.

Why not stick around on the forum while you wait for some success, it may get you noticed more....use chat if thats your thing and maybe a social if you are into them.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Do you want a profile critique? As maybe asking for one might help with the answers to your question "

He is asking why he has no success, so advising about his profile is fine if it is relevant.

From the forum rules

No nit-picking please

Unless someone specifically asks for their profile to be critiqued or if it's relevant to the thread e.g. someone is wondering why they're not having success, please don't critique their profile or be mean about it. We want the forum to be open and friendly to newbies and everyone starts somewhere.

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales


"I've just updated my profile info box, included some things about me and what to expect in messages etc "

Better. Just don't expect things to instantly improve. Try heading to a social or club and get yourself known that way. Win people over with your personality and the rest may follow.

Good luck!

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By *ordan28 OP   Man
over a year ago

Warrington

Could someone give me a profile critique and pm me your thoughts and what I could do to improve it please? Thanks

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I would leave out the bit about a line from the dead pool movie to show we read your profile.

I haven't seen the film so couldn't message you if i wanted to lol

Apart from that the only thing i would do is put more photos on.

I would suggest going to a club or social to try and get talking to people. It is hard for men on here and even more so for younger guys. It is much easier to make an impression on people in person than from a profile.

Good luck

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Could someone give me a profile critique and pm me your thoughts and what I could do to improve it please? Thanks"
it's just lots of words with no substance op. You're trying to appeal to lots of people which is very off putting. It needs to show your personality and the lines about spending all day licking pussy, from previous threads you'll see most women don't want that and that shows your age. You can block TV/TS so you don't need that in there. Show why women would want to meet you over the thousands of other men on here. Best of luck op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have patience. Look at people whose profile are looking for single guys. Don't message people who aren't looking for single guys, thinking that you will change their mind. You'll just piss people off. Be polite, corteous and not pushy.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can follow the advice on this thread....this will help. However your age can only be changed gradually.....and the fact you can't accommodate will not help either.

Therefore you need to get out ...to socials and clubs etc. seems the only way currently?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've been here a year yet this is your first post! (Apart from a repeat in another forum)

It isn't compulsory to use the forum"

I know it isn't ruby but using it does help raise your profile

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

For me you don't look happy in your pics and your room needs a tidy up. How is that relevant? No idea but it's off-putting.

If you don't want certain people messaging you then block them in your message filters rather than going on about it in your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could someone give me a profile critique and pm me your thoughts and what I could do to improve it please? Thanks"

The first sentence is redundant. We can see your age from the summary. I have no idea what a "professional swinger" is.

What is the purpose of that stuff about your shifts? Leave that until you arrange a meeting.

The rest seems to consist of unrealistic boasts. Could you really give oral all day? Do you think that anyone wants to receive it all day?

The "prefer women over 40 but..." does not do you any favours. It gives an "any hole's a goal" impression. You can state your preffered age range in the summary. (Would you really meet a 99 year old?)

As stated above, when taking photos do take the background into account. An untidy room gives a bad impression.

If you can't accommodate, you should say why, and proffer an alternative.

There is no point in stating that you do not want contact with men and TVs. It makes you sound negative. Just set your filters. Same with your sentence about blocking people.

Other than that, it is fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could someone give me a profile critique and pm me your thoughts and what I could do to improve it please? Thanks"

I would say that second bed pic is not the best. Have you any real life photos as in public where you are clothed, maybe smiling?

As for profile text. I would say lose the last bit about what you look for. Simply use the filter to block messages from those people. I would also lose the bit about giving women countless orgasms. It comes across arrogant.

However, I have seen a lot worse. Advice is to start taking part in the forums. Keep the faith, as women do get a lot of attention on here. Try to be inventive with things, including pictures.

Good luck mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would lose all the text about giving countless orgasms and licking all day. The vast majority of women know that is b/s! It certainly isn't going to appeal them I would imagine. Also take notice of what others have said, if you ask for advice, the best advice is to take it! There are many women that like younger males so the reason isn't age related!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is much better now. Nice to see a man's profile that has something to say. Obviously oral is your forte and that may well appeal to women who find oral important. However, I agree with other posters - don't over-egg the pudding as people won't believe you, especially as all men think they are great at giving oral. Get the right balance when selling yourself.

Fab is full of ladies in your target age group, but only a minority are interested in very young men. For most, the generational gap will be out of their comfort zone. There are also lots of young men on Fab looking for a cougar, so the competion is stiff. Try and search out the women who specifically like young guys, and only target profiles that are happy to meet men of your age. Also try and raise your profile, by showing pictures of yourself that make you seem more mature and sophisticated. This will give you a better chance with older women. Try and learn what is it that older women like. Some of the other posters commented on your 'messy' room. I didn't think it was messy, I just thought it looked like a teenage bedroom in parents house or student halls of residence room. But that will be a turn off. I also agree with other posters that you should smile for your pictures. The unsmiling ones don't show you in a flattering light.

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