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By *mmmMaybe OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Wales

Hi All,

Standard stuff here, couple looking for a BiFem friend. Now we know it'll be tough but what we are finding is the following scenario.

Peruse, members, They look at our profile- do nothing, we look at theirs, seems to fit, look good/sound good (if no pics) send message to that affect become friends few chats then nothing, nada zilch..Chats are very civil talking about the site, trying to meet nothing nasty, rude or obnoxious but nothing, we have a friend list to die for, but only one we are in daily contact with.. The rest seem to just want to collect friends..Starting to piss us off tbh. So question to bifems, if couple is in your wants list & you find one you like why do you never seem to make the first move??

We await the reply with interest

xx

Thanks

H&S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same problem here! You aren't the only ones

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By *mmmMaybe OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Wales

Quite depressing really tbh, You would have thought BiFems would be fairly liberated here. But no, just the same as everyone else. Full of worry & doubt. Very few seem to last long on here too. Especially the ones that say single men too. They just get inundated with shit from the guys. We know because our chatting friend spends hours clearing her inbox of bloody inane messages & cock pics.. Well not just us then. We think a visit to the VA is on order tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always found it easier, and a lot more fun to visit clubs to meet with so how females. This allows them to meet you both in person as don't forget a single fem has to be attracted to both halves of a couple and knownshe is going to feel safe in your company and relationship dynamics. All of the single females we have met, a have met this way.

When you are friending people, are you making sure they are verified, especially those with no public pics? This is one way to perhaps help make sure they are genuinely female.

But obviously if yourfrienda on here the best way is to ask them, and if they don't want to meet delete them from your friends list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not alone and don't take it personally. BiFems are in high demand especially with mf couples. In all reality anyone that says they haven't fantasised about a ffm threesome at some point in their life is lying. Well in my opinion anyway especially if a man.

We have been searching for months on here and other sites and felt same as you until a few hours ago.

Keep searching and good luck. Remember BiFems aren't referred to as 'elusive' and 'mythical unicorns' for nothing

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

ok im bi fem and i meet couples..op your profile says nothing about what you offer and therefore to find out i would haveto chat to you..if it doesnt match then thats why it would dry up...i really dont have time to ask loads of questions and your profile states around 'our real life' ..im just wondering if this doesnt put people off cos i have a real life too..so swap that for what you are offering, would be my suggestion...

ipswich couple..err hubby gets to have last say..err no im not here to be' chosen' you want me..i have plenty of couples to chose from..this turn of phrase would put me off completely...being honest it doesnt need to be said..if hes going to join in then there would have to be equal three way attraction...right? plus being honest it sounds like id be a performing seal with you for him...i dont like to feel this way..

im not sure what worries or doubts the bi fems are coming up with..maybe you could address these by detailing your profile..just trying to be helpful..as it stands i wouldnt message either of you because of your text..o wouldnt glean enough about you to know whether i would want to play...make it easy for us...just saying xx and very good luck. i hope you both find what you are looking for xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok im bi fem and i meet couples..op your profile says nothing about what you offer and therefore to find out i would haveto chat to you..if it doesnt match then thats why it would dry up...i really dont have time to ask loads of questions and your profile states around 'our real life' ..im just wondering if this doesnt put people off cos i have a real life too..so swap that for what you are offering, would be my suggestion...

ipswich couple..err hubby gets to have last say..err no im not here to be' chosen' you want me..i have plenty of couples to chose from..this turn of phrase would put me off completely...being honest it doesnt need to be said..if hes going to join in then there would have to be equal three way attraction...right? plus being honest it sounds like id be a performing seal with you for him...i dont like to feel this way..

im not sure what worries or doubts the bi fems are coming up with..maybe you could address these by detailing your profile..just trying to be helpful..as it stands i wouldnt message either of you because of your text..o wouldnt glean enough about you to know whether i would want to play...make it easy for us...just saying xx and very good luck. i hope you both find what you are looking for xx"

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

I love playing with couples but to be honest all the couples I have played with have been friends I've made in clubs and built a rapport with. I much prefer couples but do find it easier to meet a couple of times beforehand in a relaxed environment than having social meets outside of clubs with just the 3 of us. I like to go with the flow.

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By *mmmMaybe OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Wales


"ok im bi fem and i meet couples..op your profile says nothing about what you offer and therefore to find out i would haveto chat to you..if it doesnt match then thats why it would dry up...i really dont have time to ask loads of questions and your profile states around 'our real life' ..im just wondering if this doesnt put people off cos i have a real life too..so swap that for what you are offering, would be my suggestion xx"

Excellent, Many thanks. Tbh our profile originally did say that we wanted one long term partner. It also said it would be a full 3-way not a "He sits & watches" type of thing but then we thought the long term thing was putting them off so removed it. I think for us at least the age difference adds another complication but to me age is a number not a feeling & our youngist is 4yrs old.. Do you think we should perhaps put the statement back in? It does make it sound more "Lonely hearts" though we feel. xx Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet couples. I have alot of single bi fem friends who meet couples and we all have a few things in common. We don't rush things, we need to see the couples dynamics unfold. Alot of couples who want to meet bi fems are really the man cohersing the woman (not all but a very high percentage), it needs to be a 3 way thing (not putting on a show for your man.First meet is always in a club. We have to actually like the couple (friendships develop overtime) and finally we are not your sex toy, this is our fantasy to.

OP you have not been here long and are coming across as impatient and demanding. Carry on like that and you will always struggle. You need to invest time and effort if you are to be successful. No point in blaming the single fems on site. We are happy meeting the couples who have bothered to get to know us.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"ok im bi fem and i meet couples..op your profile says nothing about what you offer and therefore to find out i would haveto chat to you..if it doesnt match then thats why it would dry up...i really dont have time to ask loads of questions and your profile states around 'our real life' ..im just wondering if this doesnt put people off cos i have a real life too..so swap that for what you are offering, would be my suggestion xx

Excellent, Many thanks. Tbh our profile originally did say that we wanted one long term partner. It also said it would be a full 3-way not a "He sits & watches" type of thing but then we thought the long term thing was putting them off so removed it. I think for us at least the age difference adds another complication but to me age is a number not a feeling & our youngist is 4yrs old.. Do you think we should perhaps put the statement back in? It does make it sound more "Lonely hearts" though we feel. xx Steve"

see already i know more about you as a unique couple..so you put something like cultivating a friendship and an equal three way dynamic would be our thing. the dream would be to form a firm friendship bond over the long term...or similar..

dont have hangups about your age..its not a complication..if you wanted you could add your youthful qualities to describe yourself..cheeky, fun..whatever..

i just took a look at your photos, i sppreciate you may not want to have face public pics, however make sure you have them ready to send with a pm and say on a profile you have them and will share...a nice one of the two of you full length and a couple of you separately..attraction is obviously subjective, however 'on the line' that makes you feel..the fact is it will in long term sae you hours of hopeful chat to be cut off abruptly if you arent somes cup of tea..see it as an elimination exercise rather than rejection..its fast track to finding what you want x

suzy x

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By *mmmMaybe OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Wales

Thanks all for taking the time to try and help us out. Profile has now been majorly tweaked and will no doubt be amended slightly again but we think it's there or thereabouts. Grateful for any further feedback.. xx Hayley & Steve

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Thanks all for taking the time to try and help us out. Profile has now been majorly tweaked and will no doubt be amended slightly again but we think it's there or thereabouts. Grateful for any further feedback..

xx

Hayley & Steve"
thats awesome and i hope you are pleased with it..it made me smile..if want to twek the meet times make it 'available mostly daytimes, clubs and by mutual arrangement..oh and knock out the 'elusive' in meet..im sure it wont be for much longer..

my pleasure and have fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely much better, shows a lot more of you. Good luck

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By *oleene HoneybeeWoman
over a year ago

on the naughty side of the street


"I meet couples. I have alot of single bi fem friends who meet couples and we all have a few things in common. We don't rush things, we need to see the couples dynamics unfold. Alot of couples who want to meet bi fems are really the man cohersing the woman (not all but a very high percentage), it needs to be a 3 way thing (not putting on a show for your man.First meet is always in a club. We have to actually like the couple (friendships develop overtime) and finally we are not your sex toy, this is our fantasy to.

OP you have not been here long and are coming across as impatient and demanding. Carry on like that and you will always struggle. You need to invest time and effort if you are to be successful. No point in blaming the single fems on site. We are happy meeting the couples who have bothered to get to know us.

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I totally agree I am a bi fem, I've only been on the site 4weeks and I am inundated by messages by couples, just like all sincere bi females on here. We have to feel safe, secure, respected as well as aroused.

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By *mmmMaybe OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Wales

Hi All,

We'd just like to say thanks for everyone's input on this, we've made another couple of tweaks to our profile & as it says been in touch with more than one lady to arrange meets. So all looking good on that front, did get blown out last Weds which would have been our first meet which was a bummer but we wandered off to Mingles for their first Wed social which although quiet was still fun..

So all looking good now, if anyone has further comments on the new profile we'd appreciate it even if an "aok"..

Anyway thanks again to all, will see you at Mingles & VA at some point no doubt if you are local to those..

If the profiles that good say hello lol..

xx

Hayley

H&S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey I'm a single bi fem, I get a ridiculous amount of messages from couples.

Although I'm not looking for meets right now, I need to be attracted to both, female needs to actually like women (sick to death of people wanting me to put on a show, not caring if I get anything out of it)

A message from the fem half of the couple is ALWAYS better than the male talking to me, as some in the last have got very pushy and annoying, so it would put me off in future

X

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By *mmmMaybe OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Hey I'm a single bi fem, I get a ridiculous amount of messages from couples.

Although I'm not looking for meets right now, I need to be attracted to both, female needs to actually like women (sick to death of people wanting me to put on a show, not caring if I get anything out of it)

A message from the fem half of the couple is ALWAYS better than the male talking to me, as some in the last have got very pushy and annoying, so it would put me off in future

X"

Many Thanks, tbh we are probably one of the few full on couples about, Our Hotlist is added to by either of us, but ok'd by the other before contact, Then wording of first messages when sent are ok'd by both of us too..Maybe because we are together almost 24/7 that it's easy for us? maybe not so for others, But we have taken on board your comment and maybe S will take a back seat on first messaging, but tbh nothing he puts is in any way offensive, just we like your look, profile etc, a bit about us & an offer to chat if they like what they see.. Totally not like a lot of the single guy messages (we had to block them :/)

Thanks for input..

xx

H

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By *ussetdevilCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

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By *ussetdevilCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

Good luck in yr search...

I had not put in my couple profile that am bi curious and happy to meet alone, so will amend it after reading yr post and subsequent replies.. It's not easy to know what to put in a profile, thanks for all the great tips on here....

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