FabSwingers.com forum: Discreet Extra Fun....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know having extra fun on the side without your wife/partner or someone you live with is wrong and everyone has their own excuses be it right or wrong(everyone has their own opinion,believe me i get told enough of them),But why do the men get slagged off sooooo much for it on here when a fare share of women are at it too on here yet it seems totally fine for them to be doing it while their hubby is working away...(although i cant bloody find any close to me and free at same times lol.)..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because they dont seem to feel the need to bang on about it and how no-one understands how hard done by they are.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"because they dont seem to feel the need to bang on about it and how no-one understands how hard done by they are."

I think that about sums it up.

I don't really care (within limits) about what other people do it isn't my business but if they make it my business by complaining, whining, blaming and trying to imply that their actions are noble because they're saving their partner from the anguish of actually sorting out the root cause of their problems then I will give my opinion. Otherwise man, woman, fish or fowl...crack on.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Because women just get on with it blokes always moan about how hard done to they are or constantly try to justify it. If you're gonna do it, just shut up and get on with it. You should only do so if you'll accept the consequences of your actions, and one of those being people will judge you and not like you for doing it regardless of your reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok may get shot down here but I think there are various reasons for it

Some women have been cheated on by husbands/boyfriends and don't want to be the other woman

The proportion of men to women means there is likely to be more married men than married women so couples/single women will be contacted by a higher proportion and have their own opinions on it and one bad egg could spoil it for the rest

Married men probably see this as an easy option to cheat and that comes across as arrogance

Married men probably feel they have to justify themselves more and that comes across a whiny

And finally some men do not care if the woman is married or not a notch is a notch married or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Please dont think im banging on how hard it is and whinging,i only asked as some people find it offensive and having it on your profile (which is there to be read,)i dont think is whinging or bragging or looking for sympathy its just letting someone know whom is looking at your profile,what would be the point in messaging someone whom has shown interest then getting on then half way through saying "oh by the way im not single" ..if they are not offended by not knowing at the start you still have wasted both if your time.i just think most males get the hassle as like someone said most blokes dont read profiles and aint bothered its just notches were as the women do read and are bothered..so i aint looking for sympathy or whinging ir bragging just opions lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you dont sound as if you're feeling rather hard done by in your current status at all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you dont sound as if you're feeling rather hard done by in your current status at all..."

This

Thank god for the block button...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol your right i apologise for that,it does look like that just saw a few local post n just got bit miffed off this morning thats all but far from feeling sorry for myself..i will change the status now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please dont think im banging on how hard it is and whinging,i only asked as some people find it offensive and having it on your profile (which is there to be read,)i dont think is whinging or bragging or looking for sympathy its just letting someone know whom is looking at your profile,what would be the point in messaging someone whom has shown interest then getting on then half way through saying "oh by the way im not single" ..if they are not offended by not knowing at the start you still have wasted both if your time.i just think most males get the hassle as like someone said most blokes dont read profiles and aint bothered its just notches were as the women do read and are bothered..so i aint looking for sympathy or whinging ir bragging just opions lol."

OP, it is not on your profile (at the moment).

You are whinging. It is yet another, "Why can't I get a shag" post. Look to yourself for that, rather than others, and you may do better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its not yet another one of those at all ,as i very rarely get time to meet so dont arrange hardly any how..it was quite simply a thread posted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your status is still the same...calling half the women on here up their asses really doesnt help you...sounds desperately hard done by!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not yet another one of those at all ,as i very rarely get time to meet so dont arrange hardly any how..it was quite simply a thread posted."

Then I am stumped by what you were trying to express.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Id just read few posts this morning from females about attached males(which they have right too,not disputing that),just that through out the posts males obviously replied and got slated which will happen but no women posted against it,which doesnt mean im looking for attention at all cos im not just really wanted know why they dont as if you read quite a few profiles alot if females are looking for fun while hubby is away,and i know women dont advertise it out there,and im not doing it for that reason either just wondering really why only men get slated for it..i know it not big its clever either i only have it on mine cos saves people time and effort if it offends them or they disapprove they can see it straight away and move on rather than messaging then it come out later n time is wasted.didnt mean to offend anyone by asking it.my apologys if its offended anyone at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id just read few posts this morning from females about attached males(which they have right too,not disputing that),just that through out the posts males obviously replied and got slated which will happen but no women posted against it,which doesnt mean im looking for attention at all cos im not just really wanted know why they dont as if you read quite a few profiles alot if females are looking for fun while hubby is away,and i know women dont advertise it out there,and im not doing it for that reason either just wondering really why only men get slated for it..i know it not big its clever either i only have it on mine cos saves people time and effort if it offends them or they disapprove they can see it straight away and move on rather than messaging then it come out later n time is wasted.didnt mean to offend anyone by asking it.my apologys if its offended anyone at all."

Why let it bother you? (You obviously did as you removed it before adding it again).

You know some ladies won't want to meet married guys so it stops messages which will end in nothing.

As for "moral" posts, eveyone has their own values. Some won't meet yours. Some will. Live and let live.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

As already said, men get more grief because they are the ones that bang on about it. Like this thread. Talking about it leads people to express their opinions and it's nearly always men trying to justify it, talking about how unfairly they are treated, blaming everyone else (especially their wives), telling us how we should respect them for being honest (except with the one person who should matter much more than a group of strangers)...

If you're going to cheat just shut up and get on with it, like most women do. You'll probably get less grief, like most women do.

This thread is still an example of whining about how unfairly men are treated, because men get more grief than women. It's soooo unfaiiirrr!

This thread is part of the reason men get more grief than women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you mean men don't like being treated differently to women??

Well then now you know how women have felt for centuries with everything.

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