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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No, they never meet.

Yes, they meet.

Are you asking for profile advice or what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're way to busy meeting us

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Making big assumptions that there actually are wimmin on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't really know lol. Just it's getting frustrating and I felt the need to share lol

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol "

Because of the skewed ratio of women to men on here, they run the show. If you're one of those guys looking for a quick fuck, you'll be more than likely to be disappointed.

You need to just treat this site as a bonus to what happens in the 'real world'.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I don't really know lol. Just it's getting frustrating and I felt the need to share lol "

Ever heard the phrase "knee deep in clunge"? Its a question of managing your expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. We're all men I heard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're way to busy meeting us "

Bastards! Stop hoggin' 'em all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have to wait

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I don't meet everyone who messages me.

I get lots of messages from men who havnt even read the first line of my profile asking if I will meet them right now or men who havnt read my profile and think I will do anything they like including weird stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we don't meet on here. We meet in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had two last night

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Patience ...... as some would say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't .....

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

What were you expecting op, to sign up and be balls deep in pum pum because you're tall, blond and have a knob?!!

There are thousands like you having a blast because they make an effort. Whining, entitlement and petulance are not attractive traits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ratio of men and women in places like this is extremely high.

Example 1000 men to 50 women as a rough guesstimate.

The women get bombarded daily with messages from men. This enables the women to cherry pick who they reply to.

So I'm afraid your up against alot of competition.

The only thing I can suggest is that you try and make yourself stand out from the norm in here and get yourself noticed with a good profile and by sending some decent messages.

Having some interaction in the forums can help too.

Attending the arranged socials as advertised on FAB and going to clubs and getting yourself known will all help your cause.

Apart from that OP unfortunately there's not a lot more you can do its a game of patience.

Hope that's been a bit of a help

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

All you have to do is read the verifications on profiles. That will answer your questions.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I meet and depends on the quality of the cake they bring I sometimes have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to get in a couple then you will have meets every night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno..I've only shagged rubber dolls and posed them in pics.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I dunno..I've only shagged rubber dolls and posed them in pics."

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

There really should be an automated fact sheet pinged to every single chap help/can't get laid/this place is shit thread, outlining the facts of Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet those who bother to read my profile and who I'm attracted to.

Unfortunately most don't even do the first part, so even if I'm attracted to them, I won't meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the rule of thumb is 'if you have to ask, you're in the wrong place'

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

In direct response to the question, the answer is a definite 'yes' ....thankfully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really know lol. Just it's getting frustrating and I felt the need to share lol "

Are you being as proactive as you can be?

Metaphorically speaking you are a little tiddler who has swam in from the nursery pool in order to swim with the sharks...

You need to get noticed ... Less of what you want and more of who you are looking for, what you can do and generally stand out ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol "

Would you meet you?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I dunno..I've only shagged rubber dolls and posed them in pics."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty more fish(y fannies) in the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile sends out mixed signals, you're straight but looking for men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did when I was on a singles profile, you just have to wait

G x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're way to busy meeting us

Bastards! Stop hoggin' 'em all! "

It's a hell of a job being ' knee deep in clunge '

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're way to busy meeting us

Bastards! Stop hoggin' 'em all!

It's a hell of a job being ' knee deep in clunge ' "

How do you cope. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I love meeting gentleman ..... Meeting puppies that only talk about themselves and have a few cock pics ... Isn't the shop I want to go into .....

I love a fellow who is confident and doesn't say ..... "Not really sure what to say but I have a cock and it seems to know what to do......"

Some fab fellows on here and I get the privilege of meeting them xx

Mwah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are obliged to meet once every 7 years in order to renew their membership - or so I heard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are obliged to meet once every 7 years in order to renew their membership - or so I heard.

"

Woo hoo that means I'm in with the chance of a meet and all for a fiver

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there"

prick teases I assume..whatta choice of phrase............move with the times...its cock tease

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there"

Everyone has their own standards. It really isn't for you to say if someone else's standards are too high or too low

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seem to be doing rather well with the ladies OP.

Care to share the secrets of your success with the lesser successful Guys in Here?

All tips I'm sure will be greatly appreciated

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there"

Well aren't you a charmer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there"

By Mr Ben Man

1 minute ago!

Yorkshire

You seem to be doing rather well with the ladies OP.

Care to share the secrets of your success with the lesser successful Guys in Here?

All tips I'm sure will be greatly appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there

Well aren't you a charmer."

thankfully lots of hot women are gonna join mid 2016, according to reports on newslutsneeded dot com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there"

This is not a "fuck site". Check the line at the top of your screen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there

This is not a "fuck site". Check the line at the top of your screen."

Oh bugger ....ive just wasted £10 then...never mind eh

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there

Well aren't you a charmer.

thankfully lots of hot women are gonna join mid 2016, according to reports on newslutsneeded dot com"

I hope the fit blokes from imnotaknob.com join too!

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I think the problem for many men is that they come on Fab thinking it's going to be easy. You think you'll be beating the ladies off with a stick when in reality you'll spend most of the time beating yourself off.

You need to be realistic and manage your expectations. Unless you're a visually stunning guy with charisma pouring out of every pore you're going to find it tough going. I totally understand the frustration because even us average guys want to be having fun of course, and lots of it. I want threesomes. I want wild nights of debauchery. I want to spend lots of time knee deep in naughtiness. It's probably best not to shoot from the stars from the get-go though.

Fab guy's are like the old gold prospectors who rocked up around Northern California in the late 1840's. You get that initial shot of gold fever. Your head's full of dreams of hitting the mother lode, when in reality you're much more likely to just wind up with a handful of nuggets for your troubles.

Take everything positive that happens on here as a bonus. Just don't expect it to be the norm. You'll have to work at it *. Put in the effort and remember...keeeep chipping away at that rock face

* One tip for all single men. Stop talking about your friggin' penises! Bloody Nora, can you imagine how that must sound to a woman?! It pisses me off and I don't even give a toss about penises! *sigh*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the problem for many men is that they come on Fab thinking it's going to be easy. You think you'll be beating the ladies off with a stick when in reality you'll spend most of the time beating yourself off.

You need to be realistic and manage your expectations. Unless you're a visually stunning guy with charisma pouring out of every pore you're going to find it tough going. I totally understand the frustration because even us average guys want to be having fun of course, and lots of it. I want threesomes. I want wild nights of debauchery. I want to spend lots of time knee deep in naughtiness. It's probably best not to shoot from the stars from the get-go though.

Fab guy's are like the old gold prospectors who rocked up around Northern California in the late 1840's. You get that initial shot of gold fever. Your head's full of dreams of hitting the mother lode, when in reality you're much more likely to just wind up with a handful of nuggets for your troubles.

Take everything positive that happens on here as a bonus. Just don't expect it to be the norm. You'll have to work at it *. Put in the effort and remember...keeeep chipping away at that rock face

* One tip for all single men. Stop talking about your friggin' penises! Bloody Nora, can you imagine how that must sound to a woman?! It pisses me off and I don't even give a toss about penises! *sigh*"

but my cocks a large rare gem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there

Well aren't you a charmer.

thankfully lots of hot women are gonna join mid 2016, according to reports on newslutsneeded dot com

I hope the fit blokes from imnotaknob.com join too! "

stop making up false websites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We see your problem OP.

Not enough cock pics. A Few more and you'll have them queuing round the block. Promise

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"but my cocks a large rare gem"

Fool's gold maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the op looks fine, penis is decent, profile is polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there"

Still not getting any then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another tip, if they delete your message it's a test. They're playing hard to get,to see if you're really interested. You need to keep messaging them! Yeah, not a lot of people know that, you can thank me later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No we don't meet on here. We meet in the real world."

I agree I have way more success in the real world as my success rate on here is very close to zero but I generally dont have the time to get to know people on here - the vast majority wouldn't be mytype of prople and I wouldn't be theirs - OP to succeed on here you have to spend a lot of time chatting and getting to know people or be super attractive with a massive knob which tends to fast track you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

prick teases I assume..whatta choice of phrase............move with the times...its cock tease "

Actually prick tease was replaced with the more socially acceptable 'Reticent Phlebotomist'

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I don't really know lol. Just it's getting frustrating and I felt the need to share lol "

Share or moan?!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there"

I apologise for being of low standard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're way to busy meeting us

Bastards! Stop hoggin' 'em all!

It's a hell of a job being ' knee deep in clunge ' "

They're a bloody trip and slip hazard when it gets like that..be careful. It's a dangerous job but someone has to do it...brave brave souls. I salute you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get on pof more meets on there!

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By *orgeouslyyoursWoman
over a year ago

essex just looking around


"I don't really know lol. Just it's getting frustrating and I felt the need to share lol "

Face pictures are everything or a few verifications..

If you can't get meets go clubs events or socials . Get known. Then it's easier

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead

Never raise your hopes of meeting girls from here,just enjoy the conversation best place to meet at are parties

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Us ladies only meet nice well mannered guys .....We dont bother with the riff raff.....

Runs away quickly .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol "

Same no meets....think it takes a while dude,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So this a fuck site (lovely term) is it? Odd, I thought it was a swingers site. Maybe if people knew the difference the real swingers might not have their time constantly wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been known to tell him he got a response because it was a slow Sunday...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this a fuck site (lovely term) is it? Odd, I thought it was a swingers site. Maybe if people knew the difference the real swingers might not have their time constantly wasted. "

Totally aggree. Dispite my profile saying im not looking for NSA i still get loads of NSA messages.

Drives me mad

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do, but there are very few of them lol.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Yes they do, but there are very few of them lol."

No, there are thousands of us hat meet Shag, we just like to consider our choices carefully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes they do, but there are very few of them lol.

No, there are thousands of us hat meet Shag, we just like to consider our choices carefully. "
That is right and also some areas are more fab active than others.

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By *WantYourWifeMan
over a year ago

Nearby


"Another tip, if they delete your message it's a test. They're playing hard to get,to see if you're really interested. You need to keep messaging them! Yeah, not a lot of people know that, you can thank me later "

Very funny that actually did make me laugh out load.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really know lol. Just it's getting frustrating and I felt the need to share lol

Ever heard the phrase "knee deep in clunge"? Its a question of managing your expectations. "

Quite correct Steve.....but those of us who do manage our expectations, use the site as intended and are polite and genuine in all we do...can indeed be "knee deep in lunge" as you so eloquently put it and can indeed confirm to be True!

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots


"I don't meet everyone who messages me.

I get lots of messages from men who havnt even read the first line of my profile asking if I will meet them right now or men who havnt read my profile and think I will do anything they like including weird stuff."

Yeh same here then they ask you what you into...read the bloody profile then you will know!!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"A load of pick. Teases on here. I have met a few nice women last year under an old user name but the standards in 2016 are way low. It's not a case of they run the show. They seem to think this is a dating site not the fuck site it actually is! A lot set their standards too high. I met a nice lady on Monday. I didn't click with her. She did with me but I'm not on here because every hole is a goal. I met another woman yesterday. She's all nice on messaging but in reality is just an unsafe serial fuck. Nit into.that either. Fine line but they are out there"

It's a swinging site not a f**k site

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP has an interesting slant on the usual whinge - it's women spoiling the site for men not other single men.

Any kind of whining on here tends not to make one look sexy.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Yes they do, but there are very few of them lol.

No, there are thousands of us hat meet Shag, we just like to consider our choices carefully. That is right and also some areas are more fab active than others."

No, you just said there are very few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol

Because of the skewed ratio of women to men on here, they run the show. If you're one of those guys looking for a quick fuck, you'll be more than likely to be disappointed.

You need to just treat this site as a bonus to what happens in the 'real world'. "

Yep pretty much should end the forum on this , I think its more a case of waiting for women or couple to message you if there interested by what you advertise beacuse of the ratios of men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes they do, but there are very few of them lol.

No, there are thousands of us hat meet Shag, we just like to consider our choices carefully. That is right and also some areas are more fab active than others.

No, you just said there are very few. "
Yes I did say few. I said that it is right as you said they consider their choices.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Chatted to loads of women, but they just stop replying midway banter, or they just write one-word messages.

On the whole, I'm giving up trying to be nice

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

No we never meet. We just falsify all our verifications and enjoy wasting our time chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NO NO NO they do NOT meet most are just men in dresses looking for attention.(Joking) We were on here under a different profile and have met a good few single lady's mostly at socials but have been lucky to have met and played with 3 and have remained friends on a social level with 1 so yes women do meet

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Oh no, there are definitely no women on here, none that meet anyway. You're better of closing your profile and searching on another site.

I'll stay and if any other chaps wander in lost, I'll send them to the site you go to.. you' know, just doing a good deed while I'm here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet and depends on the quality of the cake they bring I sometimes have sex. "

I'd bring you as much cake as you like, what's your favourite

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By *ornyminx13Woman
over a year ago

lurgan

I get few hundred messages everyday impossible to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women can pick and choose who they meet.. It's a fact on here. Like many have said...you need to check your profile is appealing and pics are good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have been on here some time now and would say I have much better success rate in the pub. A lot of of ladies with very high opinions of themselves. Tin hat securely fitted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had an issue to be fair, however a large majority of messages just get deleted, lets face it the ladies will receive a lot of messages i say just be you and if its meant to be it will.

Failing this go to socials or hot tub parties or even just parties and just have fun

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol "

I never meet anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not many guys are worth meeting.

Seriously, you all expect NSA sex but have nothing to offer in return for that. Like you need to be hot or fun or interesting, anything more than a dildo.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol "

They are all lesbians mate, you've no chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After arranging 3 meets with different female's over the past 2 months. They were very enthusiastic and chat was going well..up to the point to one of the females booking a hotel. Day before each meet the messages stop....no replies... message go unread but they are still online and changing their status so to be honest I'm not so sure lol x

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

Ive yet to meet a single guy...all the profile pics you see with guys in have been photoshoped..

All the many verifications alluding to meets shown on cam with guys in likewise..

All the girls in the pics and show veries are real tho..touched them with my tongue,fingers,strap on and electrics i did so they must be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm your type, send me a face pic and we could maybe arrange something for the weekend if you're free

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Not many guys are worth meeting.

Seriously, you all expect NSA sex but have nothing to offer in return for that. Like you need to be hot or fun or interesting, anything more than a dildo."

After over a decade of swinging, and 200+ verifications varying from coffee and socials to full on orgies, I'm still at this point unclear when any woman says to any man that he doesn't offer anything.

At the risk of fabicide, what exactly is expected as an acceptable offer, and what does the woman offer in return for equal measure? I would assume any meet is 50-50,.. unless ofcourse the suggestion is "she waits, he chases"?

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Not many guys are worth meeting.

Seriously, you all expect NSA sex but have nothing to offer in return for that. Like you need to be hot or fun or interesting, anything more than a dildo.

After over a decade of swinging, and 200+ verifications varying from coffee and socials to full on orgies, I'm still at this point unclear when any woman says to any man that he doesn't offer anything.

At the risk of fabicide, what exactly is expected as an acceptable offer, and what does the woman offer in return for equal measure? I would assume any meet is 50-50,.. unless ofcourse the suggestion is "she waits, he chases"?"

After a decade of swinging you should know better than to assume anything!

When a female gets an opening message of 'fancy a shag'? Then it's a pretty fair assumption that they are only bringing exactly that to the table.

Mental stimulation means a lot sexually, and ten minutes of banging with little concern over your enjoyment (trust me, I've been there!) is in most ladies eyes, offering very little.

I won't even go onto the guys just looking to get their cock sucked!! I can't imagine many women messaging guys saying 'hey hon, I'll let you lick my pussy' although I'm sure there are a few, there will be many more men offering their cock like they doing us a favour lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not many guys are worth meeting.

Seriously, you all expect NSA sex but have nothing to offer in return for that. Like you need to be hot or fun or interesting, anything more than a dildo.

After over a decade of swinging, and 200+ verifications varying from coffee and socials to full on orgies, I'm still at this point unclear when any woman says to any man that he doesn't offer anything.

At the risk of fabicide, what exactly is expected as an acceptable offer, and what does the woman offer in return for equal measure? I would assume any meet is 50-50,.. unless ofcourse the suggestion is "she waits, he chases"?"

Lol, fabicide isn't real.

Firstly, not many guys even have anything on their profile. So they literally and specifically have 0 to offer because they are invisible, have no personality, no wants or interests (apart from ticking every single interest on here maybe coz they're up for anything). So i'm at an advantage already coz i have pics and don't feel like i'm being hypocritical to expect the same in return.

Next(ly), minimum effort to seduce me. Sorry but cock pics (or 0 pics) and some shit one liner doesn't turn me on.

Lastly. Lying. I don't blame this site specifically but do think the internet overall makes it so people who are full of shit have easy access to people not looking for people who are full of shit.

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By *he Ladies of the ManorCouple
over a year ago

Swansea - Guildford


"Not many guys are worth meeting.

Seriously, you all expect NSA sex but have nothing to offer in return for that. Like you need to be hot or fun or interesting, anything more than a dildo.

After over a decade of swinging, and 200+ verifications varying from coffee and socials to full on orgies, I'm still at this point unclear when any woman says to any man that he doesn't offer anything.

At the risk of fabicide, what exactly is expected as an acceptable offer, and what does the woman offer in return for equal measure? I would assume any meet is 50-50,.. unless ofcourse the suggestion is "she waits, he chases"?

Lol, fabicide isn't real.

Firstly, not many guys even have anything on their profile. So they literally and specifically have 0 to offer because they are invisible, have no personality, no wants or interests (apart from ticking every single interest on here maybe coz they're up for anything). So i'm at an advantage already coz i have pics and don't feel like i'm being hypocritical to expect the same in return.

Next(ly), minimum effort to seduce me. Sorry but cock pics (or 0 pics) and some shit one liner doesn't turn me on.

Lastly. Lying. I don't blame this site specifically but do think the internet overall makes it so people who are full of shit have easy access to people not looking for people who are full of shit."

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

They do I've meet some lovely lady's and some not so lovely ones but in a nut shell they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this a fuck site (lovely term) is it? Odd, I thought it was a swingers site. Maybe if people knew the difference the real swingers might not have their time constantly wasted. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do they meet - no

Are they a figment of your imagination - yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. We're all men I heard. "

Yup tell me about it, we are all men or time wasters cos we like wasting our time like that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience. .... says it all that he's left within a week.

Why do guys join and expect loads of meets straight away? Have some patience!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They do I've meet some lovely lady's and some not so lovely ones but in a nut shell they do "

Indeed....lots. Of them. And couples too! I've personally met dozens (into three figures) over the five years or so I've been on here. Whinging about it will never help...just get out there and do it!

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By *arth SideousMan
over a year ago

hyde

Patience ... Slow and steady wins the race (Not literally )

The men to women ratio is a bit steep to say the least ... Great for the women mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

appearsthe OP didnt have patience.....

he'll be back latter..asking the same question...and not taking on board whats said.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Of course we do, although it's not that easy finding the decent honest guys amongst the not so perfect ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course we do, although it's not that easy finding the decent honest guys amongst the not so perfect ones. "

I'm honest..and ur arse pic is amazing ...utter honesty x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know if the gripe is only about ladies, or if couples are included in this moan. But we've certainly done meets. Not very often mind, but we have met 6 single guys privately in a year and a half. That's about 1 every 3 months, and that doesn't include the repeat meets and club visits. Surely that's enough for us to be getting on with? I don't think anybody could cause us of not using Fab as intended. I guess that does mean that there are many more that we haven't met though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems his patience ran out lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes thay do, about to have fun with one soon..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Patience. .... says it all that he's left within a week.

Why do guys join and expect loads of meets straight away? Have some patience!!"

Fully Agree with you there, it took me months too get my first meet first time around, and this time its been even longer as i haven't had the time too meet and people have too realise not everybody is going too fancy everybody, and both women and couples have far more choice and can afford too be picky.

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By *p4fun1000Man
over a year ago

Manchester

feeling like the fella who started this thread. I've tried to tweek my profile without success.. Been ever so respectful to no avail. Can drive and accommodate. puzzled.haha.

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By *hrobinhoodMan
over a year ago

arnold, Nottingham

Think the women only go for the bad men, So us good guys get left out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do meet... but sometimes it's the guys who don't... so swings and roundabouts...

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I do meet... but sometimes it's the guys who don't... so swings and roundabouts...

"

Should that be "swingers and layabouts"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

things take time not always doing something wrong and women are with in there right to meet or message who ever they want to you have to remember that the amount of guys on here massively outway the number of women on here.

so you have to stand out and take your time i have been on here for over 2 years and had very few meets and very few replies to messages but time has payed off so give it time you have only been here a few months there are guys who have been here for years and still had no meets its nothing against you at all it just womens tastes may not be for you but it will happen just give it time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course we do, although it's not that easy finding the decent honest guys amongst the not so perfect ones. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do meet... but sometimes it's the guys who don't... so swings and roundabouts...

"

I offered him a meet! I guess he didn't want to take me up on it haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do meet... but sometimes it's the guys who don't... so swings and roundabouts...

I offered him a meet! I guess he didn't want to take me up on it haha "

He was probably a fantasist, thought it seemed like a good idea until it came to it then he shit his big boy pants He's probably rejoined now anyway.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


"Think the women only go for the bad men, So us good guys get left out lol"

No, not true at all.

Although..define 'bad'

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol "

same here mate, i do agree it really does seem this way or when they do agree to meet they just either ignore you or they backpeddle on what they say, they say the best to meet others is at clubs like we are blindsheep in a mine field, we are not sheep we r just as human as they r, i get that they are just trying to protect themselfs but come on seriously talk to us a simple no thanks is better then snubbing us, we may ask why and if u tell us why then most of u will be like at least she is being honest and wont bother u again. rant over.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London


"I do meet... but sometimes it's the guys who don't... so swings and roundabouts...

I offered him a meet! I guess he didn't want to take me up on it haha "

I get that too, women backtrack soon as it comes to the crunch of meeting

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"Not many guys are worth meeting.

Seriously, you all expect NSA sex but have nothing to offer in return for that. Like you need to be hot or fun or interesting, anything more than a dildo.

After over a decade of swinging, and 200+ verifications varying from coffee and socials to full on orgies, I'm still at this point unclear when any woman says to any man that he doesn't offer anything.

At the risk of fabicide, what exactly is expected as an acceptable offer, and what does the woman offer in return for equal measure? I would assume any meet is 50-50,.. unless ofcourse the suggestion is "she waits, he chases"?

Lol, fabicide isn't real.

Firstly, not many guys even have anything on their profile. So they literally and specifically have 0 to offer because they are invisible, have no personality, no wants or interests (apart from ticking every single interest on here maybe coz they're up for anything). So i'm at an advantage already coz i have pics and don't feel like i'm being hypocritical to expect the same in return.

Next(ly), minimum effort to seduce me. Sorry but cock pics (or 0 pics) and some shit one liner doesn't turn me on.

Lastly. Lying. I don't blame this site specifically but do think the internet overall makes it so people who are full of shit have easy access to people not looking for people who are full of shit."

there is a reason why we dont put much on our profiles and that is to get you to think and ask us questions and get a convo started that way like we try with you (well i know i do and that hasnt worked out for me) and that way you will get to know us better and build or relationship from there.

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry

im sorry i sound so angry and pissed off but am just being honest and giving my view on this subject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im sorry i sound so angry and pissed off but am just being honest and giving my view on this subject."

it's fine. everyone is entitled to their opinion.

and if we don't talk about stuff we don't understand each other.

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"I do meet... but sometimes it's the guys who don't... so swings and roundabouts...

I offered him a meet! I guess he didn't want to take me up on it haha

I get that too, women backtrack soon as it comes to the crunch of meeting

"

its annoying when that happens mate, it makes me start doubting myself and is so demoralising just like applying for job nowadays, its not fun at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women do meet up. Just last Friday my sister had lunch with her best mate Janice.

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"im sorry i sound so angry and pissed off but am just being honest and giving my view on this subject.

it's fine. everyone is entitled to their opinion.

and if we don't talk about stuff we don't understand each other."

i do agree with you there, it also takes more than one message to get to know a person as well i mean i can say im this, this and this and over sell myself but then you wont get the real me, you know what i mean? it takes time to get to know me like it would be for me to get to know you, i've always said things do not come over night they time and effort and eventually they will come but in this case it takes two to tango, if that makes sense? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im sorry i sound so angry and pissed off but am just being honest and giving my view on this subject.

it's fine. everyone is entitled to their opinion.

and if we don't talk about stuff we don't understand each other.

i do agree with you there, it also takes more than one message to get to know a person as well i mean i can say im this, this and this and over sell myself but then you wont get the real me, you know what i mean? it takes time to get to know me like it would be for me to get to know you, i've always said things do not come over night they time and effort and eventually they will come but in this case it takes two to tango, if that makes sense? lol"

yeah that makes sense. not everything needs effort but most stuff does seem to, if you care enough.

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"im sorry i sound so angry and pissed off but am just being honest and giving my view on this subject.

it's fine. everyone is entitled to their opinion.

and if we don't talk about stuff we don't understand each other.

i do agree with you there, it also takes more than one message to get to know a person as well i mean i can say im this, this and this and over sell myself but then you wont get the real me, you know what i mean? it takes time to get to know me like it would be for me to get to know you, i've always said things do not come over night they time and effort and eventually they will come but in this case it takes two to tango, if that makes sense? lol

yeah that makes sense. not everything needs effort but most stuff does seem to, if you care enough.

"

i do care, some say too much tho, but i tend to think reward without effort is meaningless, which is why i try and message women and get to know them and give them the opportunity to get to know me instead of just blarting it out on my profile because my profile is just like a cover of a book about me or you, and im not interested in that im more interested in whats inbetween the covers of the book it could be good it could be bad we dont know unless we read it right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im sorry i sound so angry and pissed off but am just being honest and giving my view on this subject.

it's fine. everyone is entitled to their opinion.

and if we don't talk about stuff we don't understand each other.

i do agree with you there, it also takes more than one message to get to know a person as well i mean i can say im this, this and this and over sell myself but then you wont get the real me, you know what i mean? it takes time to get to know me like it would be for me to get to know you, i've always said things do not come over night they time and effort and eventually they will come but in this case it takes two to tango, if that makes sense? lol

yeah that makes sense. not everything needs effort but most stuff does seem to, if you care enough.

i do care, some say too much tho, but i tend to think reward without effort is meaningless, which is why i try and message women and get to know them and give them the opportunity to get to know me instead of just blarting it out on my profile because my profile is just like a cover of a book about me or you, and im not interested in that im more interested in whats inbetween the covers of the book it could be good it could be bad we dont know unless we read it right?"

i like that. well maybe i'll go easier on the guys without profiles from now on.

just gets so frustrating when you like to do something one way and other people mess that up and make it harder for you, but it's understandable why they do that.

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"im sorry i sound so angry and pissed off but am just being honest and giving my view on this subject.

it's fine. everyone is entitled to their opinion.

and if we don't talk about stuff we don't understand each other.

i do agree with you there, it also takes more than one message to get to know a person as well i mean i can say im this, this and this and over sell myself but then you wont get the real me, you know what i mean? it takes time to get to know me like it would be for me to get to know you, i've always said things do not come over night they time and effort and eventually they will come but in this case it takes two to tango, if that makes sense? lol

yeah that makes sense. not everything needs effort but most stuff does seem to, if you care enough.

i do care, some say too much tho, but i tend to think reward without effort is meaningless, which is why i try and message women and get to know them and give them the opportunity to get to know me instead of just blarting it out on my profile because my profile is just like a cover of a book about me or you, and im not interested in that im more interested in whats inbetween the covers of the book it could be good it could be bad we dont know unless we read it right?

i like that. well maybe i'll go easier on the guys without profiles from now on.

just gets so frustrating when you like to do something one way and other people mess that up and make it harder for you, but it's understandable why they do that. "

i know its the same for us guys, like i say getting no replys is frustrating and it makes us doubt ourselfs and demoralises us because we want to get to know you and give you that opportunity to get to know us as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im sorry i sound so angry and pissed off but am just being honest and giving my view on this subject.

it's fine. everyone is entitled to their opinion.

and if we don't talk about stuff we don't understand each other.

i do agree with you there, it also takes more than one message to get to know a person as well i mean i can say im this, this and this and over sell myself but then you wont get the real me, you know what i mean? it takes time to get to know me like it would be for me to get to know you, i've always said things do not come over night they time and effort and eventually they will come but in this case it takes two to tango, if that makes sense? lol

yeah that makes sense. not everything needs effort but most stuff does seem to, if you care enough.

i do care, some say too much tho, but i tend to think reward without effort is meaningless, which is why i try and message women and get to know them and give them the opportunity to get to know me instead of just blarting it out on my profile because my profile is just like a cover of a book about me or you, and im not interested in that im more interested in whats inbetween the covers of the book it could be good it could be bad we dont know unless we read it right?

i like that. well maybe i'll go easier on the guys without profiles from now on.

just gets so frustrating when you like to do something one way and other people mess that up and make it harder for you, but it's understandable why they do that.

i know its the same for us guys, like i say getting no replys is frustrating and it makes us doubt ourselfs and demoralises us because we want to get to know you and give you that opportunity to get to know us as well."

took me nearly a year to figure out how to keep on top of my inbox on here tbh.

but yeah everyone gets frustrated. does make you feel a bit better (and not as callous) when you get how other people feel AND why.

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"im sorry i sound so angry and pissed off but am just being honest and giving my view on this subject.

it's fine. everyone is entitled to their opinion.

and if we don't talk about stuff we don't understand each other.

i do agree with you there, it also takes more than one message to get to know a person as well i mean i can say im this, this and this and over sell myself but then you wont get the real me, you know what i mean? it takes time to get to know me like it would be for me to get to know you, i've always said things do not come over night they time and effort and eventually they will come but in this case it takes two to tango, if that makes sense? lol

yeah that makes sense. not everything needs effort but most stuff does seem to, if you care enough.

i do care, some say too much tho, but i tend to think reward without effort is meaningless, which is why i try and message women and get to know them and give them the opportunity to get to know me instead of just blarting it out on my profile because my profile is just like a cover of a book about me or you, and im not interested in that im more interested in whats inbetween the covers of the book it could be good it could be bad we dont know unless we read it right?

i like that. well maybe i'll go easier on the guys without profiles from now on.

just gets so frustrating when you like to do something one way and other people mess that up and make it harder for you, but it's understandable why they do that.

i know its the same for us guys, like i say getting no replys is frustrating and it makes us doubt ourselfs and demoralises us because we want to get to know you and give you that opportunity to get to know us as well.

took me nearly a year to figure out how to keep on top of my inbox on here tbh.

but yeah everyone gets frustrated. does make you feel a bit better (and not as callous) when you get how other people feel AND why."

you know what they should do is have filters with custom auto replies or something to suit you you know? that way you wont get as many messages in your inbox and they'll get a reply as well.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"im sorry i sound so angry and pissed off but am just being honest and giving my view on this subject.

it's fine. everyone is entitled to their opinion.

and if we don't talk about stuff we don't understand each other.

i do agree with you there, it also takes more than one message to get to know a person as well i mean i can say im this, this and this and over sell myself but then you wont get the real me, you know what i mean? it takes time to get to know me like it would be for me to get to know you, i've always said things do not come over night they time and effort and eventually they will come but in this case it takes two to tango, if that makes sense? lol

yeah that makes sense. not everything needs effort but most stuff does seem to, if you care enough.

i do care, some say too much tho, but i tend to think reward without effort is meaningless, which is why i try and message women and get to know them and give them the opportunity to get to know me instead of just blarting it out on my profile because my profile is just like a cover of a book about me or you, and im not interested in that im more interested in whats inbetween the covers of the book it could be good it could be bad we dont know unless we read it right?

i like that. well maybe i'll go easier on the guys without profiles from now on.

just gets so frustrating when you like to do something one way and other people mess that up and make it harder for you, but it's understandable why they do that.

i know its the same for us guys, like i say getting no replys is frustrating and it makes us doubt ourselfs and demoralises us because we want to get to know you and give you that opportunity to get to know us as well.

took me nearly a year to figure out how to keep on top of my inbox on here tbh.

but yeah everyone gets frustrated. does make you feel a bit better (and not as callous) when you get how other people feel AND why.

you know what they should do is have filters with custom auto replies or something to suit you you know? that way you wont get as many messages in your inbox and they'll get a reply as well. "

The FAQ's clearly state that no reply IS a reply. You want an inbox full of 'no thanks' instead?

If anyone wants to get to know you, they will answer your messages accordingly. If you are not being successful on here, then you need to look at what you are doing wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I completely understand cos I have experienced it sometimes you be like what's the point .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" there is a reason why we dont put much on our profiles and that is to get you to think and ask us questions and get a convo started that way like we try with you (well i know i do and that hasnt worked out for me) and that way you will get to know us better and build or relationship from there."

Yes I agree that it is important to get to know someone and build that relationship. However there has to be sufficient information on the profile to peak our interest to want to chat and get to know someone. Keeping a profile to a minimum with a view to getting someone to 'think' and 'ask questions' is a technique that is unlikely to work. The reality of the minimalist profile is that it will blend into all the other male profiles that don't say much, so it therefore won't get noticed. We have often enjoyed getting to know someone on line, but only when they have a profile that suggests we may have done thing in common. Very few people have time to 'think' and 'ask questions' to all the profiles that don't give much information.

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"I completely understand cos I have experienced it sometimes you be like what's the point ."

there have been times where i just wanted to give up trying myself.

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"im sorry i sound so angry and pissed off but am just being honest and giving my view on this subject.

it's fine. everyone is entitled to their opinion.

and if we don't talk about stuff we don't understand each other.

i do agree with you there, it also takes more than one message to get to know a person as well i mean i can say im this, this and this and over sell myself but then you wont get the real me, you know what i mean? it takes time to get to know me like it would be for me to get to know you, i've always said things do not come over night they time and effort and eventually they will come but in this case it takes two to tango, if that makes sense? lol

yeah that makes sense. not everything needs effort but most stuff does seem to, if you care enough.

i do care, some say too much tho, but i tend to think reward without effort is meaningless, which is why i try and message women and get to know them and give them the opportunity to get to know me instead of just blarting it out on my profile because my profile is just like a cover of a book about me or you, and im not interested in that im more interested in whats inbetween the covers of the book it could be good it could be bad we dont know unless we read it right?

i like that. well maybe i'll go easier on the guys without profiles from now on.

just gets so frustrating when you like to do something one way and other people mess that up and make it harder for you, but it's understandable why they do that.

i know its the same for us guys, like i say getting no replys is frustrating and it makes us doubt ourselfs and demoralises us because we want to get to know you and give you that opportunity to get to know us as well.

took me nearly a year to figure out how to keep on top of my inbox on here tbh.

but yeah everyone gets frustrated. does make you feel a bit better (and not as callous) when you get how other people feel AND why.

you know what they should do is have filters with custom auto replies or something to suit you you know? that way you wont get as many messages in your inbox and they'll get a reply as well.

The FAQ's clearly state that no reply IS a reply. You want an inbox full of 'no thanks' instead?

If anyone wants to get to know you, they will answer your messages accordingly. If you are not being successful on here, then you need to look at what you are doing wrong."

i would appreciate that more along with an explanation as too why, then i would be like ok fair at least she has taken the time give me some feed back as too why.

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

Op no longer on site ffs lol

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


" there is a reason why we dont put much on our profiles and that is to get you to think and ask us questions and get a convo started that way like we try with you (well i know i do and that hasnt worked out for me) and that way you will get to know us better and build or relationship from there.

Yes I agree that it is important to get to know someone and build that relationship. However there has to be sufficient information on the profile to peak our interest to want to chat and get to know someone. Keeping a profile to a minimum with a view to getting someone to 'think' and 'ask questions' is a technique that is unlikely to work. The reality of the minimalist profile is that it will blend into all the other male profiles that don't say much, so it therefore won't get noticed. We have often enjoyed getting to know someone on line, but only when they have a profile that suggests we may have done thing in common. Very few people have time to 'think' and 'ask questions' to all the profiles that don't give much information."

i understand where you are coming from there and i guess you do have a fair point there about other profiles blend into each other etc, but it is like i say you aint gonna know the person over night it takes time and effort to do so, i mean you can make the biggest and best profile ever and the person can totally wrong person for you, you know what i mean? or you can get a guy like me who doesnt have the best profile in the world who could be the one for you, but you wont know that till you get chatting to me, i get it its gotta peak your interest and that but with me you'll get honesty, anyway i see alot of women do the same too but i still engage with them or at least try too and give them "an olive branch" for me to get to know them and for them to get to know me and alot of the time i still get ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question is, if men couldn't message women and only women could make first contact, would a guy make an effort on his profile then? I block everyone and search myself and the majority of single guy profiles are just shite. No effort, no info, nothing to make me think yep, I'll message him but on the flip side, this makes the handful of really well written ones stand out like sore cocks!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Op no longer on site ffs lol"

*sigh* all that wasted energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" i understand where you are coming from there and i guess you do have a fair point there about other profiles blend into each other etc, but it is like i say you aint gonna know the person over night it takes time and effort to do so, i mean you can make the biggest and best profile ever and the person can totally wrong person for you, you know what i mean? or you can get a guy like me who doesnt have the best profile in the world who could be the one for you, but you wont know that till you get chatting to me, i get it its gotta peak your interest and that but with me you'll get honesty, anyway i see alot of women do the same too but i still engage with them or at least try too and give them "an olive branch" for me to get to know them and for them to get to know me and alot of the time i still get ignored."

I'm sorry but we simply don't have time to sift through all the profiles that don't say much, on the off chance that there will be a hidden gem amongst them. It's not like we are short of honest guys to have fun with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question is, if men couldn't message women and only women could make first contact, would a guy make an effort on his profile then? I block everyone and search myself and the majority of single guy profiles are just shite. No effort, no info, nothing to make me think yep, I'll message him but on the flip side, this makes the handful of really well written ones stand out like sore cocks!! "

That is so true

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far


"Question is, if men couldn't message women and only women could make first contact, would a guy make an effort on his profile then? I block everyone and search myself and the majority of single guy profiles are just shite. No effort, no info, nothing to make me think yep, I'll message him but on the flip side, this makes the handful of really well written ones stand out like sore cocks!! "
you say that but you have no veris in 6mths ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question is, if men couldn't message women and only women could make first contact, would a guy make an effort on his profile then? I block everyone and search myself and the majority of single guy profiles are just shite. No effort, no info, nothing to make me think yep, I'll message him but on the flip side, this makes the handful of really well written ones stand out like sore cocks!! you say that but you have no veris in 6mths ? "

I have one from my regular fb which I can show anyone who is interested but because of my age filters, I cannot receive any further veris unless I change them which I don't want to do. I'm not overly interested in them so am not bothered. I meet people for fun, not to collect veris.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question is, if men couldn't message women and only women could make first contact, would a guy make an effort on his profile then? I block everyone and search myself and the majority of single guy profiles are just shite. No effort, no info, nothing to make me think yep, I'll message him but on the flip side, this makes the handful of really well written ones stand out like sore cocks!! you say that but you have no veris in 6mths ? "

What do her verifications have to do with it ? She could have loads and not choose to show them. Just because people don't display them doesn't mean they aren't meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question is, if men couldn't message women and only women could make first contact, would a guy make an effort on his profile then? I block everyone and search myself and the majority of single guy profiles are just shite. No effort, no info, nothing to make me think yep, I'll message him but on the flip side, this makes the handful of really well written ones stand out like sore cocks!! you say that but you have no veris in 6mths ?

What do her verifications have to do with it ? She could have loads and not choose to show them. Just because people don't display them doesn't mean they aren't meeting. "

Yes thank you hun, my veris/profile have nothing to do with the thread or indeed that particular post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol

Would you meet you?"

That's a pretty harsh thing to say don't you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant meet Mr Nobody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol

Would you meet you?

That's a pretty harsh thing to say don't you think?"

I don't think its harsh at all. What they are asking is, if you looked at a profile like the OP had (wasn't the best ever) would you meet them ? If you looked at a blank one line profile like he had, would you be interested ?

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

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"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol "

Yes. They do and then get stood up by gentlemen who make arrangements and never show.

Oh! The irony of it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men just want to toss off at the thought of mailing someone I nearly always reply and do meet as often as I can so come on guys get to attic adult cinema on a Tuesday or Thursday daytime you will see me and normally other females there

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol

Yes. They do and then get stood up by gentlemen who make arrangements and never show.

Oh! The irony of it all

"

it people like that who really fuck it up for genuine guys like myself which is not cool at all.

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By *havedbearMan
over a year ago

UK


"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol "

you just have to be polite and not pushy mate then you get meets

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


" Cant meet Mr Nobody "

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"Been on here couple months now and still haven't managed to meet anyone! It's like the women just choose to reply to you when they're bored or somthing? What am I doing wrong? Lol

you just have to be polite and not pushy mate then you get meets

"

i agree with you there but may i add that you must be totally honest and trustworthy as well and having a decent profile may help as well i mean i tried to make mine as long as possible the other day but i am being honest on it and i may add to it later as i go along as well.

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry

also because of that im starting to see alot more rplies because of it it maybe a no thanks reply but at least im getting them and i appreciate it more you know what i mean?

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By *arney n BettyCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

I think that the majority of women on here are just looking to get their pics fabbed as an ego boost (from the fem half btw)

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

I'm always polite sending messages. Still get no replys.they just deleat so iv gave up bothering anymore

Not going waste my time anymore.too many up there own backsides

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"I'm always polite sending messages. Still get no replys.they just deleat so iv gave up bothering anymore

Not going waste my time anymore.too many up there own backsides"

probably your profile is too short ave just got another reply so guess the length of your profile does work.

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

Don't matter how long or short your or good you make your profile they just deleat messages and they are not even looking or reading your profile either.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Don't matter how long or short your or good you make your profile they just deleat messages and they are not even looking or reading your profile either. "

That's bull shit, if I'd had received a message from you id go straight to reading your profile (before your message) then after doing so I wouldn't even bother reading the message let alone reply to the message it would get deleted because knowing about your profile is enticing.

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"Don't matter how long or short your or good you make your profile they just deleat messages and they are not even looking or reading your profile either.

That's bull shit, if I'd had received a message from you id go straight to reading your profile (before your message) then after doing so I wouldn't even bother reading the message let alone reply to the message it would get deleted because knowing about your profile is enticing. "

i tend to agree now as before i put a decent size profile about myself etc i hardly put anything and hardly got any replies but since i did build my profile up more the past couple of days i have been getting more replies then ever, i guess its because the women want to know how honest, trustworthy and the sort of person you are from your profile, the profile is kinda like an introductory to a book about oyu am i right?

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"Don't matter how long or short your or good you make your profile they just deleat messages and they are not even looking or reading your profile either.

That's bull shit, if I'd had received a message from you id go straight to reading your profile (before your message) then after doing so I wouldn't even bother reading the message let alone reply to the message it would get deleted because knowing about your profile is enticing.

i tend to agree now as before i put a decent size profile about myself etc i hardly put anything and hardly got any replies but since i did build my profile up more the past couple of days i have been getting more replies then ever, i guess its because the women want to know how honest, trustworthy and the sort of person you are from your profile, the profile is kinda like an introductory to a book about oyu am i right?"

*you

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

No its not bullshit its true

Anyway I wouldn't send u one as not my type

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"No its not bullshit its true

Anyway I wouldn't send u one as not my type "

I did say if you messaged me don't get your panties on a twist

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

Don't wear any

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Don't matter how long or short your or good you make your profile they just deleat messages and they are not even looking or reading your profile either.

That's bull shit, if I'd had received a message from you id go straight to reading your profile (before your message) then after doing so I wouldn't even bother reading the message let alone reply to the message it would get deleted because knowing about your profile is enticing.

i tend to agree now as before i put a decent size profile about myself etc i hardly put anything and hardly got any replies but since i did build my profile up more the past couple of days i have been getting more replies then ever, i guess its because the women want to know how honest, trustworthy and the sort of person you are from your profile, the profile is kinda like an introductory to a book about oyu am i right?"

You're absolutely right and I like your profile so had you messaged me you'd gave got a thanks but no thanks reply mainly because of the distance since local meets are better suited to my needs

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"Don't matter how long or short your or good you make your profile they just deleat messages and they are not even looking or reading your profile either.

That's bull shit, if I'd had received a message from you id go straight to reading your profile (before your message) then after doing so I wouldn't even bother reading the message let alone reply to the message it would get deleted because knowing about your profile is enticing.

i tend to agree now as before i put a decent size profile about myself etc i hardly put anything and hardly got any replies but since i did build my profile up more the past couple of days i have been getting more replies then ever, i guess its because the women want to know how honest, trustworthy and the sort of person you are from your profile, the profile is kinda like an introductory to a book about oyu am i right?

You're absolutely right and I like your profile so had you messaged me you'd gave got a thanks but no thanks reply mainly because of the distance since local meets are better suited to my needs "

and i would appreciate that so much, and would reply back myself by saying thank you for getting back to me, as manners are important to me.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Don't matter how long or short your or good you make your profile they just deleat messages and they are not even looking or reading your profile either.

That's bull shit, if I'd had received a message from you id go straight to reading your profile (before your message) then after doing so I wouldn't even bother reading the message let alone reply to the message it would get deleted because knowing about your profile is enticing.

i tend to agree now as before i put a decent size profile about myself etc i hardly put anything and hardly got any replies but since i did build my profile up more the past couple of days i have been getting more replies then ever, i guess its because the women want to know how honest, trustworthy and the sort of person you are from your profile, the profile is kinda like an introductory to a book about oyu am i right?

You're absolutely right and I like your profile so had you messaged me you'd gave got a thanks but no thanks reply mainly because of the distance since local meets are better suited to my needs

and i would appreciate that so much, and would reply back myself by saying thank you for getting back to me, as manners are important to me."
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No need to id actually find that thanks for getting back to me reply quite annoying and if you're around the forums long enough for the topic to come up you'll we most women are the same

You see id view the scenario as you've expressed an interest so messaged, I then replied to say thanks but no thanks so the conversation doesn't really have anywhere to go now, so best to leave it, women especially get lots of mail so that reply is another unnecessary one clogging up the inbox

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By *un bbw loverMan
over a year ago

coventry


"Don't matter how long or short your or good you make your profile they just deleat messages and they are not even looking or reading your profile either.

That's bull shit, if I'd had received a message from you id go straight to reading your profile (before your message) then after doing so I wouldn't even bother reading the message let alone reply to the message it would get deleted because knowing about your profile is enticing.

i tend to agree now as before i put a decent size profile about myself etc i hardly put anything and hardly got any replies but since i did build my profile up more the past couple of days i have been getting more replies then ever, i guess its because the women want to know how honest, trustworthy and the sort of person you are from your profile, the profile is kinda like an introductory to a book about oyu am i right?

You're absolutely right and I like your profile so had you messaged me you'd gave got a thanks but no thanks reply mainly because of the distance since local meets are better suited to my needs

and i would appreciate that so much, and would reply back myself by saying thank you for getting back to me, as manners are important to me..

No need to id actually find that thanks for getting back to me reply quite annoying and if you're around the forums long enough for the topic to come up you'll we most women are the same

You see id view the scenario as you've expressed an interest so messaged, I then replied to say thanks but no thanks so the conversation doesn't really have anywhere to go now, so best to leave it, women especially get lots of mail so that reply is another unnecessary one clogging up the inbox "

that is a fair point but i guess i just didnt want to seem rude or anything but since you put it like that it makes sense i guess.

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over a year ago


"Don't matter how long or short your or good you make your profile they just deleat messages and they are not even looking or reading your profile either. "

I think BigD is right. In all honesty I only really pay attention to the longer profiles, that have something to pique our interest. The profiles that are just a few lines long tend to blend into each as they are all much the same.

But we only delete messages if the sender had not read our profile or has ignored our requirements, and we certainly read every message and have a quick look at the profile.

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