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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So what is more important to people when they receive the first message:

1. Well written polite etc

2. Good face pic

3. Describing fantasy and how you will make them feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo not number 3!! Most women look at your profile before even reading your message so I'd say this was the most important aspect. Tailor the message to the person showing you've read their profile but keep it brief, if your profile is good then that should be enough. Just approach people on here as you would in the real world, with respect and manners, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not someone telling me graphically how they are going to fuck my ass when anal isn't even on my list of interests grrr!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Defo not number 3!! Most women look at your profile before even reading your message so I'd say this was the most important aspect. Tailor the message to the person showing you've read their profile but keep it brief, if your profile is good then that should be enough. Just approach people on here as you would in the real world, with respect and manners, good luck "

This...

Never ever do number 3, it's rude, cringing and a definite turn off

Poppy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took my filters off yesterday for an hour I got 4 messages describing what they wanted to do to me I'm not even meeting, and not men, why people send messages like that is beyond me, it's not a turn on in the slightest, it's a filter to delete and block

If I want messages I prefer nice, well presented ones which show you have read my profile, doesn't have to be was and peace by any stretch but friendly and polite

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Defo not number 3!! Most women look at your profile before even reading your message so I'd say this was the most important aspect. Tailor the message to the person showing you've read their profile but keep it brief, if your profile is good then that should be enough. Just approach people on here as you would in the real world, with respect and manners, good luck

This...

Oh I'm not saying I ever do, I'm more a number 1 person. Polite and always read lrofiles first.

Just curious to what people think.

Never ever do number 3, it's rude, cringing and a definite turn off

Poppy x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I took my filters off yesterday for an hour I got 4 messages describing what they wanted to do to me I'm not even meeting, and not men, why people send messages like that is beyond me, it's not a turn on in the slightest, it's a filter to delete and block

If I want messages I prefer nice, well presented ones which show you have read my profile, doesn't have to be was and peace by any stretch but friendly and polite "

Why men think crude descriptive messages will impress is beyond me. I actually find it a little creepy coming from a complete stranger who has made no attempt to get to know me.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Never number 3! Just make an effort, say who you are, why you think you're a good match to the person showing you've read the profile. Don't copy and paste. Don't ask how their day or weeks going!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what is more important to people when they receive the first message:

1. Well written polite etc

2. Good face pic

3. Describing fantasy and how you will make them feel?

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None of the above. On the whole, we would prefer to see a hint of personality and attractiveness.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

1, A polite message that proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that they have read my profile. And I don't just mean picking out my names.

2. A clear face pic. No sunglasses, no pics of you on the beach in the distance etc.

Nothing more

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"1, A polite message that proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that they have read my profile. And I don't just mean picking out my names.

2. A clear face pic. No sunglasses, no pics of you on the beach in the distance etc.

Nothing more "

*name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A cock pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's rare now that I would message. I prefer to wink.

Same it goes for receiving messages. Prefer a wink. If I like the profile and pictures on it, I'll respond. I think same applies to couples and ladies, in terms od driving their response.

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By *olyCheshireCatMan
over a year ago

Cheshire


"A cock pic"

Works every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most want to have some form of attraction with you first,.....the rest follows..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1, A polite message that proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that they have read my profile. And I don't just mean picking out my names.

2. A clear face pic. No sunglasses, no pics of you on the beach in the distance etc.

Nothing more "

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This

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