FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Introductions

How do you meet a couple

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm sure I'm not the only one on here but I am averaging zero interest nightly with couples.. What's the magic needed?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have only been on a week

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ylonSlutTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

You have been on a week as a single man you will need a lot more patience than that. Your profile is not awful but could do with expanding. You can't accommodate so will cut your meets down too.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By luck and patience

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Possibly just me but your face pic looks unfriendly.

When people need discreet usually means they have something to hide like a wife or gf.

If you have one say so.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your posts...

I am not from the selfie generation so maybe that needs work

And I'm guessing after being randomly attacked by another that I may have a partner that the general consensus is if you can't host your in a relationship. I'd just like to comment in good nature everybody has life events and situations that lead you to a certain path. Please don't prejudge people without considering the fact not everybody is bad

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get excited

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Thank you all for your posts...

I am not from the selfie generation so maybe that needs work

And I'm guessing after being randomly attacked by another that I may have a partner that the general consensus is if you can't host your in a relationship. I'd just like to comment in good nature everybody has life events and situations that lead you to a certain path. Please don't prejudge people without considering the fact not everybody is bad "

The usual advice is to explain why you can't accommodate e.g housemates, live with parents etc to avoid being thought of as a married 'single' guy.

As to how to meet couples, we only meet in clubs or at organised socials now after being let down too many times. That may be worth a try.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for posting wise words

Yes I've just learnt that lesson and subsequently updated to why. An unfortunate bout of naivety but for honest good reasons.... Let's bring the peace and love back and think goodness in each other...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for posting wise words

Yes I've just learnt that lesson and subsequently updated to why. An unfortunate bout of naivety but for honest good reasons.... Let's bring the peace and love back and think goodness in each other... "

What are "family commitments?"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By luck and patience"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Recent loss

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Thank you all for your posts...

I am not from the selfie generation so maybe that needs work

And I'm guessing after being randomly attacked by another that I may have a partner that the general consensus is if you can't host your in a relationship. I'd just like to comment in good nature everybody has life events and situations that lead you to a certain path. Please don't prejudge people without considering the fact not everybody is bad "

Wow...

"randomly attacked"

and the last sentence seems to indicate a pretty volatile outlook to put it mildly..

People are just trying to help so there's really no need for that kind of response

...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message couples that you're compatible with.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Your opinion is noted but without seeing what was sent how can you be sure that your conclousion is correct. Assumption based on your own beliefs is not always the appropriate response to situations that you have no knowledge.

Myself and concerned parties are all fine and friends now. Hence it was all sorted in private not in public

I respect your outlook is a good one

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Your opinion is noted but without seeing what was sent how can you be sure that your conclousion is correct. Assumption based on your own beliefs is not always the appropriate response to situations that you have no knowledge.

Myself and concerned parties are all fine and friends now. Hence it was all sorted in private not in public

I respect your outlook is a good one"

I naturally assumed you were referring to a comment made to you in this thread, where people have so far been benign and helpful

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No it was a private message

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

You need about 15 cock pics allways seem to work for other males hehe

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Thank you all for your posts...

I am not from the selfie generation so maybe that needs work

And I'm guessing after being randomly attacked by another that I may have a partner that the general consensus is if you can't host your in a relationship. I'd just like to comment in good nature everybody has life events and situations that lead you to a certain path. Please don't prejudge people without considering the fact not everybody is bad "

Who on this post attached you?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Thank you all for your posts...

I am not from the selfie generation so maybe that needs work

And I'm guessing after being randomly attacked by another that I may have a partner that the general consensus is if you can't host your in a relationship. I'd just like to comment in good nature everybody has life events and situations that lead you to a certain path. Please don't prejudge people without considering the fact not everybody is bad

Who on this post attached you? "

*attacked

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No one is attached and the said incident is resolved

Happy days peeps

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Recent loss"

I've suffered a recent loss (last Friday) I can still accommodate should I want to

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I think this thread just got very confusing!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for posting wise words

Yes I've just learnt that lesson and subsequently updated to why. An unfortunate bout of naivety but for honest good reasons.... Let's bring the peace and love back and think goodness in each other... "
hey you will learn you die by your word in forums and many don't like in their words " cheaters" I don't give a toss personally your choice but sometimes you're better not to mention it ,coz the holier than thou come out the woodwork ,good luck with fab my friend a very frustrating place for some guys

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is not what I wanted it to become as it was supposed to be about advice not picking at personal situations which in all honesty should not have to be discussed if the person does not want too. But I do respect people's rights to opinions and thoughts as that's what's makes u different

I apologise to any if my profile prefs are not to everybody's taste I never wanted it to be a reason to question or judge

I'm just here to have fun and walk away with a smile

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"This is not what I wanted it to become as it was supposed to be about advice not picking at personal situations which in all honesty should not have to be discussed if the person does not want too. But I do respect people's rights to opinions and thoughts as that's what's makes u different

I apologise to any if my profile prefs are not to everybody's taste I never wanted it to be a reason to question or judge

I'm just here to have fun and walk away with a smile "

I wasn't picking at your personal situation I was merely pointing out that other won't see it as an excuse, especially if they are in a similar situation and choose conduct themselves differently

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Let's just say we all have diff things going on at diff times, one person situation may not necessarily reflect onto another's

let's chill and have fun without looking to question, at the end of the day if the person situ concerns you don't interact and move on to sum1 whose you are ok with

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"This is not what I wanted it to become as it was supposed to be about advice not picking at personal situations which in all honesty should not have to be discussed if the person does not want too. But I do respect people's rights to opinions and thoughts as that's what's makes u different

I apologise to any if my profile prefs are not to everybody's taste I never wanted it to be a reason to question or judge

I'm just here to have fun and walk away with a smile "

Are you now referring to points made on this thread or elsewhere?...

From what I can see you've had nothing but help and advice on this thread, no judgement or criticism...

but perhaps you're referring to remarks made to you in private...who knows?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Let's just say we all have diff things going on at diff times, one person situation may not necessarily reflect onto another's

let's chill and have fun without looking to question, at the end of the day if the person situ concerns you don't interact and move on to sum1 whose you are ok with "

As I said I wasn't questioning I was trying to make a point one that clearly gone over your head

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey no malice meant but can we just move on guys

There is no issue now so the world is once again balanced

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And I wasn't questioning you merely replying to the whole my thoughts

Your all good Curvy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

GB

Yes I have never doubted that and have been very polite and thanked everyone who has offered wisdom

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover

Hi op, well your profile ..its all very generic and your two penis photo would put me off, try a search in the forums loads and loads of advise to choose from then tell us a bit about yourself and try to add a funny..good luck on fab ..connie x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You need about 15 cock pics allways seem to work for other males hehe "

But these must be accompanied by the universal measure of size & prowess, a can of Lynx or a sky remote!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"GB

Yes I have never doubted that and have been very polite and thanked everyone who has offered wisdom "

..

Reply +quote.. Is your friend

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"GB

Yes I have never doubted that and have been very polite and thanked everyone who has offered wisdom

..

Reply +quote.. Is your friend "

Thank you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recent loss"

Personally, we prefer married people but many here see that as cheating and will be put off by a vague explanation. Good luck to you, all the same. No one can force you to discuss what you perceive as a private matter. In our opinion (for what it is worth), it is likely to affect your success rate here.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far


"You need about 15 cock pics allways seem to work for other males hehe

But these must be accompanied by the universal measure of size & prowess, a can of Lynx or a sky remote! "
hehe deffo

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"I'm sure I'm not the only one on here but I am averaging zero interest nightly with couples.. What's the magic needed?"

First rule of couples meets club... You don't talk about.....

I always suggest the same wise words and sage advice..

There are countless threads offering generic advice in the archives, happy reading.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"You need about 15 cock pics allways seem to work for other males hehe

But these must be accompanied by the universal measure of size & prowess, a can of Lynx or a sky remote! "

Don't forget the can of fosters as well

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get to a club and socialise. Get yourself known as an outgoing friendly chap. You're not likely to get meets off here by just a profile. Put yourself out there by showing you are serious about meeting people for socials and the rest will follow.

Now imagine a couple that need a man to join them, are they going to spend time browsing profiles or are they going to say let's invite so and so that we met last month?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, here is some advice...

-The fact that you can't accommodate will hurt you a bit. Lots of couples don't accommodate for various reason so it leaves the question of where to meet.

-When you message a couple, speak to them both, not just the man or the woman. This will make couples feel more comfortable with you as you are meeting both of them.

-The fact that you are bi curious will put some straight couples off (because they don't like playing with bi guys) and will put some bi couples off (because many would prefer bi guys over bi curious). People can be strange about this with men so the fact that you are a bit on the fence may make it difficult for you.

-Lots of couples only meet at clubs. That can get expensive for a single guy so you have to consider your options. Socials may be a cheaper way to go.

-Other than that I would say the same advice I'd give to any guy. Don't write generic messages, only contact those couples where you meet what they are looking for, read profiles, etc.

Good luck and have fun.

-Courtney

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok, here is some advice...

-The fact that you can't accommodate will hurt you a bit. Lots of couples don't accommodate for various reason so it leaves the question of where to meet.

-When you message a couple, speak to them both, not just the man or the woman. This will make couples feel more comfortable with you as you are meeting both of them.

-The fact that you are bi curious will put some straight couples off (because they don't like playing with bi guys) and will put some bi couples off (because many would prefer bi guys over bi curious). People can be strange about this with men so the fact that you are a bit on the fence may make it difficult for you.

-Lots of couples only meet at clubs. That can get expensive for a single guy so you have to consider your options. Socials may be a cheaper way to go.

-Other than that I would say the same advice I'd give to any guy. Don't write generic messages, only contact those couples where you meet what they are looking for, read profiles, etc.

Good luck and have fun.

-Courtney "

Thank you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's just say we all have diff things going on at diff times, one person situation may not necessarily reflect onto another's

let's chill and have fun without looking to question, at the end of the day if the person situ concerns you don't interact and move on to sum1 whose you are ok with "
asking for advice on here ,which is a common everyday thing turns into a personal disection of your written character with assumptions being made about your integrity as a person ,their are many married people playing away here people who say they love their husbands and wives but who put that at risk being here ,their are even couples that meet together but one or the other of them cheat with people they meet and its an immoral world is swinging but still you are open to criticism hehe just get out of the site what you want

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's just say we all have diff things going on at diff times, one person situation may not necessarily reflect onto another's

let's chill and have fun without looking to question, at the end of the day if the person situ concerns you don't interact and move on to sum1 whose you are ok with asking for advice on here ,which is a common everyday thing turns into a personal disection of your written character with assumptions being made about your integrity as a person ,their are many married people playing away here people who say they love their husbands and wives but who put that at risk being here ,their are even couples that meet together but one or the other of them cheat with people they meet and its an immoral world is swinging but still you are open to criticism hehe just get out of the site what you want "

Well, obviously asking for a criticism of a profile will result in analysis of the text. That is in line with the request.

I am not sure why you say that swinging is immoral, though, unless you are taking a religious view.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top