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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi I'm trying 2 get a lady back 2 my flat and having no luck I've message a few hundred and nothing what am I doing wrong.!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude, you're only on here a week!

Chiiiiiiilllll!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you have only been on here a week!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got the wrong site, you're looking for instashag

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok I know but hard times ATM lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried carrying her?

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Patience, young Padawan

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Chlorophorm

A crook

A lasso

Pressgang?

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"Hi I'm trying 2 get a lady back 2 my flat and having no luck I've message a few hundred and nothing what am I doing wrong.!! "

I think the clues are in this message tbh. I suspect women will find the "get a woman back to the flat" childish if not creepy.

Also - hundreds?!!!! Ive been on here five years and not messaged hundreds. Smacks of desperation and an unthinking approach.

Serious rethink needed tbh.

Just being honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not expecting it over night but even a convo would not even go a miss

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"Chlorophorm

A crook

A lasso

Pressgang?"

Is that your wish list?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've message a few hundred"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It was just a figure of speech tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a typical message that you send?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

A negative status won't help OP.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Giving up after a week.

Mind if you've messaged everyone within a 100 mile radius in that time it's probably best.

What were you expecting OP?

A queue of woman at your door after a few days?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just asking them for a meet and a drink.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Us that's the one buddy mmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just asked a simple question and get simple minded answers next time I will ask a intelligent question don't think I will get a intelligent answer tbh

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Been on a week and going to give up

You thought there would be a queue of women just because you signed up?

Your opening post puts me off.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I just asked a simple question and get simple minded answers next time I will ask a intelligent question don't think I will get a intelligent answer tbh "

And our answers aren't good enough either

Tell us OP are you used to getting your own way?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"I just asked a simple question and get simple minded answers next time I will ask a intelligent question don't think I will get a intelligent answer tbh "

OK here's a straight forward answer. You've been here a week. Men outnumber woman massively on site,carpet bombing every profile nearby with a generic message won't get you noticed, read profiles, pay attention to what it says and only message those who you think you match with.

Your profile is terrible. It's one big long paragraph and difficult to read, 'not had anyone off here yet' sounds awful. Most people look at a profile and pics before even opening messages.

And lastly there's that pesky thing called attraction, just because people are on here guarantees them nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just asked a simple question and get simple minded answers next time I will ask a intelligent question don't think I will get a intelligent answer tbh

OK here's a straight forward answer. You've been here a week. Men outnumber woman massively on site,carpet bombing every profile nearby with a generic message won't get you noticed, read profiles, pay attention to what it says and only message those who you think you match with.

Your profile is terrible. It's one big long paragraph and difficult to read, 'not had anyone off here yet' sounds awful. Most people look at a profile and pics before even opening messages.

And lastly there's that pesky thing called attraction, just because people are on here guarantees them nothing. "

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

The paragraph on the profile didn't read well. If you insist on keeping it, do an SPG check on it, make sure punctuation is in the right place as it was hard to decipher it all.

You made more effort than a lot, but carpet bombing hundreds of profiles will also get you blocked by more than you think. It's about connecting with people. Take your time, we have been on here a year and only met twice outside of a club

B

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the feedback.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've taken note my wording is not the best granted in many ways then one I will correct sorry if it comes across that way this is what I was looking for just some advice.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I've taken note my wording is not the best granted in many ways then one I will correct sorry if it comes across that way this is what I was looking for just some advice."

Well then. Have a look at my profile and prepare to ****BE IMPRESSED****

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've taken note my wording is not the best granted in many ways then one I will correct sorry if it comes across that way this is what I was looking for just some advice.

Well then. Have a look at my profile and prepare to ****BE IMPRESSED**** "

I looked Steve and feel soiled....I can never look a gummy bear in the eye again.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

i think i may know what your 'problem' is' you're not all that and a wee bit arrogant a guy who has failed to get laid in real life and who thinks 'swingers' may be easier - unlucky sucker!!!!! Z

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I've taken note my wording is not the best granted in many ways then one I will correct sorry if it comes across that way this is what I was looking for just some advice.

Well then. Have a look at my profile and prepare to ****BE IMPRESSED****

I looked Steve and feel soiled....I can never look a gummy bear in the eye again. "

No matter how sweet the flavour, they will, in your head, taste of cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please don't take this harshly but you have asked for tips. These come from a pretty plain, ordinary and older guy...with success over a number of years off and on.

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1) I'm guessing if you have sent "hundreds" of messages in such a short time they are: short, cut and paste, sent to all and any profiles regardless of their preferences which you may or may not meet.( None of these things are good).

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2) when you do so d a message...if it is not deleted instantly then the lady will look at your profile. It is all one long sentence...punctuate it? Also saying you have not "had" anyone from the site makes you sound like a predatory creep...which I'm guessing you aren't? It just sounds so wrong!

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3) look at your pics or lack of...put up a variety of decent ones (not of your cock)....dressed or torso pics etc?

Take this advice , act on it and good luck....but remember this is a swinging site...not a sex site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I'm trying 2 get a lady back 2 my flat and having no luck I've message a few hundred and nothing what am I doing wrong.!! "

Find a prostitute, pay a prostitute

Job done, women on swinging sites are not ( well in 99% of cases ) prostitutes and ( fairly ) normal rules of society apply

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Here's a radical idea....

Read the countless threads offering generic advice in the archives.. they all contain the same tips and suggestions.. happy reading..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've taken note my wording is not the best granted in many ways then one I will correct sorry if it comes across that way this is what I was looking for just some advice.

Well then. Have a look at my profile and prepare to ****BE IMPRESSED****

I looked Steve and feel soiled....I can never look a gummy bear in the eye again.

No matter how sweet the flavour, they will, in your head, taste of cock "

Luckily I became vegan this year so I will never suffer that. Anyway I don't know what cock tastes like, although Monday may change that......watch this space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of tips in the racing post

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I've taken note my wording is not the best granted in many ways then one I will correct sorry if it comes across that way this is what I was looking for just some advice.

Well then. Have a look at my profile and prepare to ****BE IMPRESSED**** "

I always am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I'm trying 2 get a lady back 2 my flat and having no luck I've message a few hundred and nothing what am I doing wrong.!! "

Tip! Always wear a seat belt when your in a car

If you want any more tips just ask

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