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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all,

I have been on here for a while now, but i dont seem to be getting anywhere. I know im not Brad Pitt but i thought i at least scored average. I am thinking the tone of my emails must be wrong. Now i know that this is a sex site, but my good old mother always taught me to be mannered when speaking to women. Hence the fact i always try to be polite and non vulgar not going in 'heavy' when emailing. I also realise that most women and couples get bombarded by emails from single guys, so they dont want to sit there reading a big long essay. So i try to be as concise as possible. I have had success on other sites maybe im just loosing the witty one liners i used to have. Help my appreciated.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

University educated? Spell check your profile.....some say it doesn't matter, to some it does. So if there are mistakes, the people who don't care won't mind but for those who do, they will. Don't put up barriers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know plenty of well travelled, university educated people who can't hold a decent conversation to save their lives.

Your profile reads all about you and says very little about what you look for in a person to meet, your likes and dislikes in the bedroom etc, these things are important to people to see if you are the type of person they wish to meet and visa versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could have the best profile and pics in the world,at the end of the day it boils down to the sheer number of men on here.And the number is growing daily.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

As you claim to have had verifications before it may be worth contacting them directly and asking for them to resend...

Also, as you did have meets in your previous time on the site, why not adopt the same techniques you used then in your messaging....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All good points - taken on board. Gordon i thought i was using same techniques. Emphasis on the word thought.

A rewrite is required i feel

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hopefully better now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much better yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the hell is a 'fairly well put together manhood' ?????

I've heard of 'brotherhood of man' is that the same thing?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's a lot better. I'd rip it apart if I proof read it but it's perfectly fine now.

Just join in....forums, chat rooms, socials, clubs and messaging....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

even if you don't get replies while being polite at least you know you haven't pissed anyone off or upset them with your message.

i know you want replies and meets but a bit of consolation for you there until you get what you want.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

There are countless threads offering generic advice in the archives.. happy reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest with you, I have never found being polite has held me back. On the contrary, I have found many people I correspond with prefer it

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"To be honest with you, I have never found being polite has held me back. On the contrary, I have found many people I correspond with prefer it "

The question should be reversed.

Are there those who actually prefer and only answer rude or messages?

I know some guys send them but the key question is how many respond favourably?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"To be honest with you, I have never found being polite has held me back. On the contrary, I have found many people I correspond with prefer it

The question should be reversed.

Are there those who actually prefer and only answer rude or messages?

I know some guys send them but the key question is how many respond favourably?"

That should read "rude or crude messages"

It would be far more interesting and informative to hear from a successful sender of such messages rather than hear from those chiming in about how polite they are....

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"To be honest with you, I have never found being polite has held me back. On the contrary, I have found many people I correspond with prefer it

The question should be reversed.

Are there those who actually prefer and only answer rude or messages?

I know some guys send them but the key question is how many respond favourably?

That should read "rude or crude messages"

It would be far more interesting and informative to hear from a successful sender of such messages rather than hear from those chiming in about how polite they are...."

Unsurprisingly, no such messenger has stepped forward..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners are all well and good but it's what you say as well.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Manners are all well and good but it's what you say as well."

Very true.

And the profile behind the message is key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could have the best profile and pics in the world,at the end of the day it boils down to the sheer number of men on here.And the number is growing daily."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

I have been on here for a while now, but i dont seem to be getting anywhere. I know im not Brad Pitt but i thought i at least scored average. I am thinking the tone of my emails must be wrong. Now i know that this is a sex site, but my good old mother always taught me to be mannered when speaking to women. Hence the fact i always try to be polite and non vulgar not going in 'heavy' when emailing. I also realise that most women and couples get bombarded by emails from single guys, so they dont want to sit there reading a big long essay. So i try to be as concise as possible. I have had success on other sites maybe im just loosing the witty one liners i used to have. Help my appreciated."

Well we cant really help with your messaging if we dont know ehat theyre like.

Why not post up an example or two of your first messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could have the best profile and pics in the world,at the end of the day it boils down to the sheer number of men on here.And the number is growing daily."

But if you are good enough that doesn't matter,..so don't let it put you off! Just means you need to be on your game! Don't let numbers be your excuse...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest with you, I have never found being polite has held me back. On the contrary, I have found many people I correspond with prefer it "
This I recieve countless messages from guys who've never even spoken to me which start with "fancy sucking my cock" or "want to fuck me later?" Of course I don't! I love a really nice, chatty, friendly, first message. Compliments are lovely, keep them classy though, not "great fanny and tits luv" Questions are good too. Shows youre interested and also makes it harder not to reply xx

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By *hoenixmanMan
over a year ago

Where men are men, and sheep are nervous...!


"To be honest with you, I have never found being polite has held me back. On the contrary, I have found many people I correspond with prefer it

The question should be reversed.

Are there those who actually prefer and only answer rude or messages?

I know some guys send them but the key question is how many respond favourably?

That should read "rude or crude messages"

It would be far more interesting and informative to hear from a successful sender of such messages rather than hear from those chiming in about how polite they are....

Unsurprisingly, no such messenger has stepped forward.."

Allow me to step forward then... well...not 'me' actually. A customer of mine...

For a few years I have been taking two divorced 30-something blokes to and from the airport when they go to do the 'Thailand thing'...

In the course of conversation coming back a couple of years ago, the subject of the success or otherwise of the 'Fancy a fuck?' type intro message came up.

I thought one of them was having me on when he said, matter of factly, that he sends them all the time. I asked the obvious question (What's your strike rate?) and I was staggered at what he said - which, incidentally - I did NOT doubt for one moment...

"I send out between 50 and 200 a night on date sites. About 1 in 50 block me. But I always get a shag."

He went on to add that he travels all over the south of England in 'the pursuit', and that his best result was a meet after just SIX messages one night....

As I said, from the way he is, and the way he told me, I do not doubt for a second that he was genuine.

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