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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello there Fabbers!

Wondered if anyone could take a look at my profile and perhaps guide me in the right direction? We all started somewhere!

-never used the forum before either, so it's all a learning curve lol.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A) you were here before and left: did you have any verifications from then?

B) why are you here? If you don't know why, then how will you attract people who are interested in the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face and torso pics are fine...not overloaded with cock shots...so that's good.

Your profile text gives nothing of you tho.

What can you offer? What are you looking for? When someone says "anything" this is often seen as desperate and is rather off-putting.

Think about what you want from the site....we are not all here for the same thing. People use the site for different reasons and use it in different ways. You need more detail and to be more specific...maybe a bit of humour might help?

Don't expect people to come looking for you...very rare, and if they come across your profile as it is will likely just move on by.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Hello.

Pictures are ok profile text isn't great. "Encouraged to give it another go by mate" isn't the way to make anyone feel your hearts really in this and would make me wonder if as soon as the meet was over you would be on the phone to the same mate with all the details.

If you were a woman looking for a man do you think your profile does the trick?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The line "We're all here for one thing" would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you, never been extremely great at writing these things. Will go back and try again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Face and torso pics are fine...not overloaded with cock shots...so that's good.

Your profile text gives nothing of you tho.

What can you offer? What are you looking for? When someone says "anything" this is often seen as desperate and is rather off-putting.

Think about what you want from the site....we are not all here for the same thing. People use the site for different reasons and use it in different ways. You need more detail and to be more specific...maybe a bit of humour might help?

Don't expect people to come looking for you...very rare, and if they come across your profile as it is will likely just move on by."

Would you say this was any better? (had a play around with it this morning)

Never been fantastic at writing these. Find it a lot easier to actually speak to people!

Cheers for taking a few moments to scower through. Have a good day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The part about responding to all inbox as courtesy costs nothing.. looks like thats a dig at women who dont reply to your messages, replying isnt a rule and alot of women dont have time to reply to every single message sent to them, reading that on a profile puts me of

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The part about responding to all inbox as courtesy costs nothing.. looks like thats a dig at women who dont reply to your messages, replying isnt a rule and alot of women dont have time to reply to every single message sent to them, reading that on a profile puts me of"

So minus that, all good? I appreciate it must be frustrating for women on here, due to the high amount of messages. But even so, I've always been a believer in it.

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage


"The part about responding to all inbox as courtesy costs nothing.. looks like thats a dig at women who dont reply to your messages, replying isnt a rule and alot of women dont have time to reply to every single message sent to them, reading that on a profile puts me of

So minus that, all good? I appreciate it must be frustrating for women on here, due to the high amount of messages. But even so, I've always been a believer in it. "

I currently have 100 messages in my inbox, if i was courteous enough to reply to all 100 (by way, i can see from preview part in message that not one of them has read my profile), if i replied to all thats a good 90 minutes or so typing thanks but no thanks good luck on fab.

Why should i waste 90 minutes of my life doing that when i can spend 90 minutes talking to someone I'm actually interested in meeting

So in answer to its courteous to reply, yes maybe it is, but its equally courteous to read profiles first, so tell me why should i courteously reply to those not courteous in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The part about responding to all inbox as courtesy costs nothing.. looks like thats a dig at women who dont reply to your messages, replying isnt a rule and alot of women dont have time to reply to every single message sent to them, reading that on a profile puts me of

So minus that, all good? I appreciate it must be frustrating for women on here, due to the high amount of messages. But even so, I've always been a believer in it.

I currently have 100 messages in my inbox, if i was courteous enough to reply to all 100 (by way, i can see from preview part in message that not one of them has read my profile), if i replied to all thats a good 90 minutes or so typing thanks but no thanks good luck on fab.

Why should i waste 90 minutes of my life doing that when i can spend 90 minutes talking to someone I'm actually interested in meeting

So in answer to its courteous to reply, yes maybe it is, but its equally courteous to read profiles first, so tell me why should i courteously reply to those not courteous in the first place?"

Oh no, I completely agree! If you've asked them to say, put the subject as a chosen word or the likes, that's fine!

In no way am I saying that you're not courteous! It works both ways! It wasn't intended as a dig. I'd hate to be in a females position on here. I can imagine the inboxes are flooded by the usual 'fancy a fuck, wana meet' and so on messages...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The part about responding to all inbox as courtesy costs nothing.. looks like thats a dig at women who dont reply to your messages, replying isnt a rule and alot of women dont have time to reply to every single message sent to them, reading that on a profile puts me of

So minus that, all good? I appreciate it must be frustrating for women on here, due to the high amount of messages. But even so, I've always been a believer in it. "

Remember the mails you are aending are unsolicited the women never asked you to to mail themyour doing so as you wish to meet them, do you respond to all the unsolicited junk mail you receive through the post? Lol just saying like lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Never really thought of it like that lol

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

In my opinion it's a nicely balanced profie with ok pics.

Hope you have a good time on here and maybe pop into the forums a bit more often

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In my opinion it's a nicely balanced profie with ok pics.

Hope you have a good time on here and maybe pop into the forums a bit more often

"

Why thank you!

Think I will do, only just really discovered them. Have a good day! x

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Hiya!

Ok, your pics aren't great! Ditch the frowning/dark ones for a start. Try to get bright, smily pics! The erect cock one might get you some attention. I'd keep it but make it the last pic.

A lot of your profile is using your own opinions. Try to let women decide for yourself what you are like.

Don't say about ruling out socials. So the reason being, this suggests that you'd be happy to bang any lady without knowing her.

The love talking, drinking, etc, that's good.

I'd get rid of the accomodate bit and the bi bit.

Generally speaking, you'll also need to inject some fun into it.

Make it enjoyable to read. Make it so you stand out.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

My opinion it's a ok profile may be drop the cock pictures

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Hadders, you could add to your learning curve that if you ignore the men who offer you advice and just respond to the ladies, it doesn't make you look very good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry mate, been busy.

I'll go back to the drawing board and have a play around. Not really had the time to use this properly until now. It's all a learning curve mate. Wasn't even aware there was a forum on here until the other day

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Hiya!

Ok, your pics aren't great! Ditch the frowning/dark ones for a start. Try to get bright, smily pics! "

I was about to say the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hiya!

Ok, your pics aren't great! Ditch the frowning/dark ones for a start. Try to get bright, smily pics! The erect cock one might get you some attention. I'd keep it but make it the last pic.

A lot of your profile is using your own opinions. Try to let women decide for yourself what you are like.

Don't say about ruling out socials. So the reason being, this suggests that you'd be happy to bang any lady without knowing her.

The love talking, drinking, etc, that's good.

I'd get rid of the accomodate bit and the bi bit.

Generally speaking, you'll also need to inject some fun into it.

Make it enjoyable to read. Make it so you stand out."

Fairly limited with photos on this phone mate, had a play around! I'm useless at writing these things. Definitely born with the gift of the gab! Doesn't quite look right when I try and write it!

Thanks for the feedback though!

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Just make friends with ladies on here. Don't be sexual with them, and things will work out.

Learn from them too.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"Just make friends with ladies on here. Don't be sexual with them, and things will work out.

Learn from them too."

Sound advice .....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just make friends with ladies on here. Don't be sexual with them, and things will work out.

Learn from them too."

Probably easier said than done, but hey, agree completely!

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage


"The part about responding to all inbox as courtesy costs nothing.. looks like thats a dig at women who dont reply to your messages, replying isnt a rule and alot of women dont have time to reply to every single message sent to them, reading that on a profile puts me of

So minus that, all good? I appreciate it must be frustrating for women on here, due to the high amount of messages. But even so, I've always been a believer in it.

I currently have 100 messages in my inbox, if i was courteous enough to reply to all 100 (by way, i can see from preview part in message that not one of them has read my profile), if i replied to all thats a good 90 minutes or so typing thanks but no thanks good luck on fab.

Why should i waste 90 minutes of my life doing that when i can spend 90 minutes talking to someone I'm actually interested in meeting

So in answer to its courteous to reply, yes maybe it is, but its equally courteous to read profiles first, so tell me why should i courteously reply to those not courteous in the first place?

Oh no, I completely agree! If you've asked them to say, put the subject as a chosen word or the likes, that's fine!

In no way am I saying that you're not courteous! It works both ways! It wasn't intended as a dig. I'd hate to be in a females position on here. I can imagine the inboxes are flooded by the usual 'fancy a fuck, wana meet' and so on messages...

"

You stated you're a believer in replies, yet say understand women get loads of messages.

Sorry but to me that just comes across as rude and you telling women to reply, and that line alone would put me off a profile.

If men had to cope with number messages women get they would soon drop the "manners cost nothing, takes seconds to reply" line

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"The part about responding to all inbox as courtesy costs nothing.. looks like thats a dig at women who dont reply to your messages, replying isnt a rule and alot of women dont have time to reply to every single message sent to them, reading that on a profile puts me of

So minus that, all good? I appreciate it must be frustrating for women on here, due to the high amount of messages. But even so, I've always been a believer in it.

I currently have 100 messages in my inbox, if i was courteous enough to reply to all 100 (by way, i can see from preview part in message that not one of them has read my profile), if i replied to all thats a good 90 minutes or so typing thanks but no thanks good luck on fab.

Why should i waste 90 minutes of my life doing that when i can spend 90 minutes talking to someone I'm actually interested in meeting

So in answer to its courteous to reply, yes maybe it is, but its equally courteous to read profiles first, so tell me why should i courteously reply to those not courteous in the first place?

Oh no, I completely agree! If you've asked them to say, put the subject as a chosen word or the likes, that's fine!

In no way am I saying that you're not courteous! It works both ways! It wasn't intended as a dig. I'd hate to be in a females position on here. I can imagine the inboxes are flooded by the usual 'fancy a fuck, wana meet' and so on messages...

You stated you're a believer in replies, yet say understand women get loads of messages.

Sorry but to me that just comes across as rude and you telling women to reply, and that line alone would put me off a profile.

If men had to cope with number messages women get they would soon drop the "manners cost nothing, takes seconds to reply" line"

Agreed.

As a side point, I really think you should change 'Burbage' to 'Boobage'.

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