FabSwingers.com forum: Why do people not reply to me :(

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This seems to be my luck over the art few months

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Last*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can't recognize awesomeness....

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Because they dont want to have sex with you.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

Your profile is lazy in my opinion and you only have one good pic. I'm not certain of the quality of your messages but I'd assume they may be of the same quality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing to do with luck....your pics look fine compared to many profiles here (as in it isn't just 27 pics of your cock from different angles). But to be fair your reluctance to say anything about yourself is not the best idea.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Because your current status is very negative?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stopped at status.. So I'm just no help at all... Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On thing I thought is, he says he's a non smoker yet has a picture with loads of smoke coming out your mouth.

The whole point of the profile is to tell people a bit about you, not to pretend you are the man of mystery.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I didn't care to look past the status too.

To some calling people you don't know f**king rude is actually quite well rude itself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I appreciate honesty but the status was well deserved for the reply I got

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I appreciate honesty but the status was well deserved for the reply I got "

It just shows them that they got to you. Why give them that satisfaction?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess but they have sadly

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"I appreciate honesty but the status was well deserved for the reply I got "

Well it will continue to put people off reading your profile....

If that's what you want then leave it up there...

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Our profile is overly long and probably has too much writing.

But if we did meet single men we'd want to know something.

Saying I'm not going to tell you, would for us suggest either you can't be bothered, which would not hold much promise for being bothered between the sheets.

Or worse you can't think of anything good to say.

You maybe aiming for man of mystery but the signal that others maybe getting is different.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I guess but they have sadly"

You will probably encounter the same or worse at some point, fab requires a thick skin to survive

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

"I guess but they have sadly"

Mate, you really need to man up. This place is harsh!! Competition is fierce! This isn't a boys game!

You must market yourself in the very best possible way for maximum results.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Yet another case where plenty of positive helpful advice is given but none is taken.

Was help ever the aim or just attention?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Negative status = no reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This seems to be my luck over the art few months "

Don't worry about it.

Because they're ignorant and big head.

Yes is true, they'll try told you that they received lot's of messages and didn't have time for answering to all of them. Ok fine byt they have time to stay on fab couple hours every day. Buhahaha.

Stay here just for fun, have fun from some people and keep that website as a joke. This is the best way.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Hours later and the negative status is still there - totally off putting!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"This seems to be my luck over the art few months

Don't worry about it.

Because they're ignorant and big head.

Yes is true, they'll try told you that they received lot's of messages and didn't have time for answering to all of them. Ok fine byt they have time to stay on fab couple hours every day. Buhahaha.

Stay here just for fun, have fun from some people and keep that website as a joke. This is the best way.

Ok the word ignorant is defined in two ways.

firstly it's defined as being uneducated, unaware or generally lacking in knowledge. You are clearly lacking knowledge of the site rules for not getting replies and therefore ignorant

Secondly it's defined as being disrespectful of rude. So before calling others ignorant for this definition ask yourself these questions first:

1) are your messages respectful and polite as opposed to the rude "wanna fuck" type messages?

2) Did you respectfully read their profile to make sure you match their requirements before messaging? If not that's quite rude

3) If you read it and didn't match what they were looking for did you message anyway to chance your luck or respectfully not do so? If so that's you being rude again

4) did the person you're message specifically ask you to message them by username? I'm guessing not, so youre essentially giving them unwanted attention anyway. why do you feel you're entitled to a reply when they never asked you to contact them in the first place? Does that not make you rude on some level?

Finally assumingly calling people ignorant and big headed when you don't know then or the reason behind them not responding to your message is again rude. Remember, respect is earned not given, otherwise ignorance is likely to occur.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right time to put this to bed. Firstly it was put on for reasons which I saw fit. If I'm unhappy with a situation I'm within my rights to display how I'm feeling on My status at the moment. Regardless of what others think about it. Obviously it is negative and that was because all I received and felt at that present time was so why should I hide that? And the essay which I've just read through is all speculation on your count since all you can know is that I put up a negative status so put the daggers away and leave it be if you don't have any constructive criticism because if you don't have any I amount that to whoever does it to be a silly Internet troll.. Peace..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK.. My constructive criticism Is... Negative profiles or status updates are very unlikely to help... Also read FAQs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agreed the status comment is deffo a off putter and i would never msg or reply to you in those circumstances .be more up-beat and approachable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen to me mate this place is the worst ever , your better of going out at the weekend on the pull. Its more fun and your odds are way better. Look at curviemumma for instance profile a mile long. Face to face a few drinks get out there have fun , you cant hide face to face . And its so simple think about it.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Right time to put this to bed. Firstly it was put on for reasons which I saw fit. If I'm unhappy with a situation I'm within my rights to display how I'm feeling on My status at the moment. Regardless of what others think about it. Obviously it is negative and that was because all I received and felt at that present time was so why should I hide that? And the essay which I've just read through is all speculation on your count since all you can know is that I put up a negative status so put the daggers away and leave it be if you don't have any constructive criticism because if you don't have any I amount that to whoever does it to be a silly Internet troll.. Peace..

Hey dude! There's a woman on this very site who would like to meet you and see where it goes. Guess what she said when she read your profile...

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Listen to me mate this place is the worst ever , your better of going out at the weekend on the pull. Its more fun and your odds are way better. Look at curviemumma for instance profile a mile long. Face to face a few drinks get out there have fun , you cant hide face to face . And its so simple think about it."

This could well be sound advice.

You seem to be on the same wavelength as the OP, so he may listen to you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You asked. People are telling you. If you don't like it, don't ask. Simples

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

If you're referring to My last post, it wasn't aimed at you I use the reply+quote function to refer who I'm speaking too as I am with you now

Of course you have every right to express your feelings but negativity won't help you get replies it's a deterrent for most people

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

My username is _urvymama.

And yes I have a long profile, it's works as a very active filter for me to meet the people I want to and ones that respect my wishes

Out of curiosity, If the site is so bad and you're better off on the pull,why are you still here instead of being out on the pull?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"You asked. People are telling you. If you don't like it, don't ask. Simples "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do both this I use as a fun way to hopefully meet like minded people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stopped at status.. So I'm just no help at all... Sorry

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I do both this I use as a fun way to hopefully meet like minded people "

And other want to meet someone fun and likeminded too, so swop out the status for something funny, witty or welcoming so that you seem like a fun guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy, you have to send out loads of emails, so don't over think of why someone aint replied to you. Think of it like fishing in the sea.

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By *herryhott1Man
over a year ago

Cork

"This seems to be my luck over the art few months "

There is a glitch with this website occasionally. Try sending the message up to 5-10 times to ensure delivery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On thing I thought is, he says he's a non smoker yet has a picture with loads of smoke coming out your mouth.

The whole point of the profile is to tell people a bit about you, not to pretend you are the man of mystery."

I dont think that's smoke,I think it's a dirty mirror.

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Your profile is lazy in my opinion and you only have one good pic. I'm not certain of the quality of your messages but I'd assume they may be of the same quality?"

Yeah. What he needs to do is send messages about shoe boxes

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"On thing I thought is, he says he's a non smoker yet has a picture with loads of smoke coming out your mouth.

The whole point of the profile is to tell people a bit about you, not to pretend you are the man of mystery.

I dont think that's smoke,I think it's a dirty mirror."

All smoke and mirrors eh?

As befits a man of mystery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We cant help you..if your not willing to help yourself.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Your profiles hot mate. Do what you feel and stay who you are. Don't change for anyone. If someone is going to reply or meet you then they will regardless of what your profile says. Be persistent but not pushy and you'll be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy, you have to send out loads of emails, so don't over think of why someone aint replied to you. Think of it like fishing in the sea."

Didn't think you sent out emails, Shag. Thought you said you hid in a bush in Penge...and waited for the smell of your Haribos to tempt people in?

Maybe the OP could remove his off-putting status and try a similar approach?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Your profiles hot mate. Do what you feel and stay who you are. Don't change for anyone. If someone is going to reply or meet you then they will regardless of what your profile says. Be persistent but not pushy and you'll be fine."

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

Also, if you don't get a reply to your message, just send another, and another. Till you get a reply.

Oh yeah, don't forget the cock pics. Lots. Of. Cock pics...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy, you have to send out loads of emails, so don't over think of why someone aint replied to you. Think of it like fishing in the sea.

Didn't think you sent out emails, Shag. Thought you said you hid in a bush in Penge...and waited for the smell of your Haribos to tempt people in?

Maybe the OP could remove his off-putting status and try a similar approach?"
lol I do send emails but not many, yeah the haribos do temp them in here in penge

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Also, if you don't get a reply to your message, just send another, and another. Till you get a reply.

Oh yeah, don't forget the cock pics. Lots. Of. Cock pics...

he he he he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that you're only 23 and way to young for many folk on here who will have kids your age.

Other than being able to accommodate, what do you feel you have to offer a sexual partner as this isn't currently reflected in your profile and as men are ten a penny here you really do need to use your profile to sell yourself and right now you're selling yourself short IMHO.

Getting to socials is a great way to get to meet like minded people and as you've already attended a party can you not expand on the contacts you made there perhaps?

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