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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello, can some please tell me what I am doing wrong here. This is really damaging the confidence I'm trying to build. I had 14 views yesterday but no one message, wink or fab'd picture. All my messages get ignored and I'm really trying there. I don't know what else I can do

I've been verified which I thought was supposed to make things easier. This feels like a waste of time.

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By *w214Couple
over a year ago

Wirral

Dude, you've been on three weeks and had a meet already. A lot of guys would kill for that ratio. Get a grip.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think you're doing anything wrong however I think you might have joined with unrealistic expectations, you do appear to have a shopping list and it just isn't like that. Five weeks in fab terms is nothing. Are there any socials or clubs near you, do you enjoy chatting in forums, these are all ways to get yourself out there.

Also if you are trying to build confidence fab is not the place to do it, you need a very thick skin and a knowledge of your own worth.

Good luck.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Or even three weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You profile reads ok...but best get a woman's perspex time on it. Only thing I'd say is edit ur 3 long relationships one after the other line or add in it you're not looking for that now. I'd say ure doing well for a meet already by fab standards. There is a dethrone of females on here and some areas are even worse. If you've got one try and keep them if you can. If it's regular sex you want my advise is its happening more in other places. My weekly meets don't come from here. Too many single men and if you're like me and won't meet those who have more than 20 veris and bareback pics it's very hard work here if you want to meet. Saying that go to a social and it may happen, but again do not expect it. Join in in the forums some say....it hasnt worked for me though. Happy fabbing

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Dude, you've been on three weeks and had a meet already. A lot of guys would kill for that ratio. Get a grip."

This x10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think you're doing anything wrong however I think you might have joined with unrealistic expectations, you do appear to have a shopping list and it just isn't like that. Five weeks in fab terms is nothing. Are there any socials or clubs near you, do you enjoy chatting in forums, these are all ways to get yourself out there.

Also if you are trying to build confidence fab is not the place to do it, you need a very thick skin and a knowledge of your own worth.

Good luck."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above...mostly what you are doing wrong is expecting too much. This influences your approach.

It isn't rentashag...it is a swingers site..a lifestyle etc. you need to get into that, into making friends etc. relax!

Or as I'm sure our good friend "Shag" would say...have patience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I did come in with the wrong attitude only because I was told this was a site for meeting women and of course 'they're all up for'. After quickly realising this isn't the case I changes my attitude completely. I'm very polite when I message people and try to sound interesting. I just find it very rude that every message gets ignored. Apart from the one meet I have had, and I am seeing her again, there only been one person I've been in communication and even then I seem to lose that one. It's very difficult to network with people when they appear to have the means to extra picky. Especially given that the male to female ratio is way off.

As for socials, this what I'm trying to build confidence for, aside from regain my confidence with women in general. I don't want to dive in all Louis Theroux because I do have a lot of curiosities.

Thanks for the advice guys, really appreciate it.

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