FabSwingers.com forum: whats wrong with our profile

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We find it hard to get meets. Check our profile and make some constructive comments. Thanks. X

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"We find it hard to get meets. Check our profile and make some constructive comments. Thanks. X"

Not a lot wrong to be honest.

Lose the "name and shame" and the grumpy update, otherwise its a pity you're so far away from us lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It looks a bit aggressive at the start with the naming and shaming and the "he gets fed up" bit, I personally wouldn't have that bit. Then the rest is a nice read, maybe could be slightly more in depth about what you can give to a potential meet.

Mainly though, it's upto you what you write, we put loads of time into writing our profile, have changed the write up a few times and it's never made any difference to us, we still struggle to find meets.

Feel free to have a look at ours and give us some feedback in return

Peach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your first couple of paragraphs are negative. Naming and shaming will put a lot of people off straight away.

What you are looking for is buried further down the profile, I think that should be at the top as people may not read so far down.

If your looking to attract bi-fems personally more pics of the lady would help, just my personal opinion as a bi-fem but others may disagree.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

As others have said loose the naming and shaming negativity. No one likes to be messed about but it smacks of the spoilt child routine I didn't get what I want so I'm telling mummy (to me anyway)

The fact you come and go a lot, even though verified would make me question your reliability. I take breaks from the site as I get fed up from time to time too but I tend to hide my profile as opposed to delete it each time

I'd get some more variety of pics they are just play pics that don't show much of you or much imagination

I can't comment on the rest as I didn't get past the negativity it totally put me off reading the rest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys. Forgot about the name and shame, its redundant now anyway. Peach and ess, have read your profile and like how you state what you like. Helps people to fit themselves to you. We will remove the negative parts from ours. Are the pics ok? Too much hair on Mr, too graphic?..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks funky, the reasoning behind the ne and shame was to deter people who are potential timewasters. Perhaps we have it in us all and thats what's killing it. Removing it now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The spelling and grammar could do with some attention, but we would meet.

Bit odd to say you would meet mm but hubby is straight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The spelling and grammar could do with some attention, but we would meet.

Bit odd to say you would meet mm but hubby is straight. "

Thanks, that's sweet.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I can be really really picky if necessary but I won't be. The plural of 'agendum' is, in fact, 'agenda' - there is no such word as a plural of a plural so 'agendas' is meaningless. Which is ironic because I know what you mean!

More and up to date pics would be good.

Spell and grammar check would benefit.

No negativity whatsoever including in your status.

Other than that.....come to Brighton! It's a good profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everybody, It would appear there'snot to much wront. We firmly belive the problem lies in wanting to meet for ad rink in a neutral location before playing. Plus a lot of people, including ourselves, share accomodation in London. That's our excuse anyway..

As for grammar.. Not taking it personally but it is a pet hate. If somebody can point out grammar is wrong, then they must know what the correct version is. Meaning, they understood in the first place. So job done, they understood.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

You gave a great profile.

The problem with most people on this site, we all assume that show a few cock and pussy pics, the whole world will come running to fuck us senseless...

We tend to find it the complete opposite. We have the same problem as you guys... We too find it hard to meet couples on here to but we do have fun chatting.......unless your stick thin and hung like a donkey I'm afraid it is a waiting game to find those that are not looking for such things.

Keep up the good work guys....something will turn up.

Quality over quantity every time!!!!!!!

Xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try more body shot pictures of you both? Gives people an idea of what you are like. Maybe you need to search for what you are looking for rather then wait till they contact you?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Ok for us it's an alright profile, but would be nice to see body pics of both. Either nicely dressed or in sexy underwear.

The not meeting weekends would also be tricky for some, not suggesting that you change that as it's good that you are up front about availability but it could be most couples play at the weekends.

We tend to find we get more contact when we put up a meeting date. I know you like short notice but nothing to stop you adding a meet when you think you'll be free.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There is a, "more body pics" concensus. Which we can see the validity of. However the people we are trying to meet would be looking to connect on a mental level. Hence we didn't think them necessary.

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By *lphaceoCouple
over a year ago

Oswestry

Got to be honest, agree with the body shots. There are so many cock photos on here it just gets boring. For us, we're attracted to slightly different photos which show imagination and that's what gets us going.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Your profile confuses me a bit. It says you're in London midweek and Liverpool weekends, and that you don't want to meet in London but that midweek is best ?

Maybe I'm just being stoooopid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be the headline "Not looking for meets", lol!

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Your profile confuses me a bit. It says you're in London midweek and Liverpool weekends, and that you don't want to meet in London but that midweek is best ?

Maybe I'm just being stoooopid

I thought this too had to read it 3 times to be sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It looks a bit aggressive at the start with the naming and shaming and the "he gets fed up" bit, I personally wouldn't have that bit. Then the rest is a nice read, maybe could be slightly more in depth about what you can give to a potential meet.

Feel free to have a look at ours and give us some feedback in return

Peach

Not sure it counts as constructive but "yum"

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Your profile confuses me a bit. It says you're in London midweek and Liverpool weekends, and that you don't want to meet in London but that midweek is best ?

Maybe I'm just being stoooopid

Yes that is now very confusing And requires clarity, but I think it's just an accidental oversight and in credit to the OP they've changed the profile up a few times since asking for guidance so they are trying to get it right for them

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Thanks everybody, It would appear there'snot to much wront. We firmly belive the problem lies in wanting to meet for ad rink in a neutral location before playing. Plus a lot of people, including ourselves, share accomodation in London. That's our excuse anyway..

Yes, of course but I thought you might have wanted a really top notch profile and hence get it all right instead of it being alright. Some people really do make decisions on whether or not to meet people based on their ability to write well so I figured that not putting up barriers was constructive advice. You can also imagine that any negativity also puts people off. At the end of the day, it's your profile and I hope it works for you.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

So, you are in Liverpool on weekends, but cant meet then due to family, and you are in London during the week but won't meet anyone in London as you have "given up" on that location?

So, when are you going to meet lol?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"So, you are in Liverpool on weekends, but cant meet then due to family, and you are in London during the week but won't meet anyone in London as you have "given up" on that location?

So, when are you going to meet lol?

Coventry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should include some shots which show your body better even if it's with some sexy clothes on and face obscured.

I don't think using swear words other than fuck is appealing, personally.

Also think that pointing towards disappointment (no luck meeting in London for example) isnt appealing as it makes one wonder what's wrong as it seems easy.

Pointing to what you enjoy rather than what you don't enjoy as you may alienate people who enjoy what you don't. Example: maybe you don't like clubs but if a nice couple invited you to a club, wouldn't you be enticed to go?

That's about it.

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By *andS66Couple
over a year ago

Derby

Change your location to Liverpool if you're only interested in meeting there.

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

"Your profile confuses me a bit. It says you're in London midweek and Liverpool weekends, and that you don't want to meet in London but that midweek is best ?

Maybe I'm just being stoooopid

Yep this confused me as well.

Where do you want to meet?

London during the week or liverpool during the week? As you say cannot meet weekends?

Have a read back of your profile to see where we are both coming from

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

Your profile says no weekends whilst in Liverpool but also says no London meets, basically trlling people you dont want to meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The location thing is an oversight. Finally gave up on London Yesterday. Will be setting location to Liverpool when we are back there.

Thanks for the comments.

We are pretty convinced its a location issue. If we were in the burbs we may fare better. The age group in central London is lower than ours. Perhaps everybody is super busy here so they cant afford the time for a drink first. Plus it seems to be very heavily clubs oriented which isn;t our thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks again everybody. Central London is the issue not our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks again everybody. Central London is the issue not our profile."

What?

London is like swinger central.

For my advice delete all of the pictures they are not very apealing/dont put you in a good light.

Go for more neutral body shots/faces of you both rather than hardcore close up graphic shots.

As frankly you cant tell a thing about you from them other than the male half could probbaly do with some clippers

Clear full body always helps people decide.

Also ditch this line

"If you require gym fit, or slim to turn you on then pass us by. We are normal healthy people"

Comes across awfully argumentative and if you had clear body pics wholly unessecery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile reads okay, pics are rubbish!!

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"London based during the week. Liverpool at the weekend. Not looking to meet in London"

Why are you even mentioning London then? and why is your profile located there?

Your feed will be showing you London based people of whom your unlikely to meet.

What is the point in advertising yourselves in a place your not gonna be at

And more importantly Liverpool bassed people cant find you on a location search because your profile is in London

Surly it would be easier and more logical to locate your profile in Liverpool and state you only play at weekends.

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By *andS66Couple
over a year ago

Derby

"thanks again everybody. Central London is the issue not our profile."

Hmm. Let's see now...

"London based during the week. Liverpool at the weekend. Not looking to meet in London."

Your profile is set to London, your first line of your profile is telling people from London you're not interested in them!

You're in Liverpool at weekends... most people make time for swinging at weekends... so set your location to where you want to play....

"Not hugely experienced.. We used to meet a couple regularly for Fem Fem play and soft male partner swap."

Are you still only soft swap, or full swap? Say so in your profile!

"Have been to a club about three times on social evenings. Not really our thing."

This is fair enough, but the club scene is pretty big in London, so you have cut your options down straight away... you're also subliminally saying 'people who go to clubs aren't what we're looking for'

Also, you're in Liverpool at weekends... the club scene is also big in the NW.. so again, you're cutting down your options.

"Please help us with your location if your profile says just London. We dont like people saying they will travel miles at short notice, experience shows it doesn't happen."

What about meeting halfway for the first meet? From doing a search based on Bow, on your criteria, there are well over 300 results within a 5 mile radius! And anyway, you're not interested in meeting in London!

"So with couples we like to have a drink first, somewhere neutral and play afterwards if we click."

Play where? At yours, at theirs? Confusing, as you want to meet somewhere neutral.

"If you require gym fit, or slim to turn you on then pass us by. We are normal healthy people."

Change this to a more user friendly version.

"Mrs camper likes ladies, preferably curvy but always down to earth, so curves not mandatory."

You have put off fems that aren't curvy, and what do you mean by 'always down to earth'?! Surprisingly, you may also have put off some curvy fems!

"as for guys, well yes, but still exploring that option. It will happen when the time is right."

How about something like, 'Single guys- if we want you, we will find you.'

"All our pics are of us together, hence no condom. We dont take pics when we meet, well not yet anyway."

ALL of your pics? Makes it sound like you've got quite a few pics on.... oh, wait a minute...no, you haven't! The pics you've got on are poor quality and show nothing of yourselves really... people want to see a bit more than that.. what your body shapes are like, for a start.

"Excuse Mr's bushyness, he is more trimmed nowdays."

This says that your pics are not up to date, so put some up to date pics on.

"P.S. no "Jays" because nobody is actually called J

Blah blah blah, privacy and shit."

What on earth does this mean? Re-word it or lose it!

"thanks again everybody. Central London is the issue not our profile."

You're thread title is "what's wrong with our profile?" you asked for constructive replies....which you got... you obviously didn't like those replies. You then alienate the whole of London by saying it's London that is the issue, not you!

Your profile is poorly written, your pics are out of date and poor quality, your location is set as London, but you don't meet there, and you're in Liverpool every weekend anyway.... but no one from there will know or be able to see you on a search.

And your profile is not the issue?

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By *rMrs-Luv-ItCouple
over a year ago

cwmbranish

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

London is not swinger central. The most people we have ever seen in the London room on chat is 30 tops. usually, regularly, most commonly, frequently below ten. Often zero.

London is massively club oriented as confirmed in a post above.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"other than the male half could probbaly do with some clippers

That's a subjective matter. We don't agree. Its a fashion choice either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"other than the male half could probbaly do with some clippers

That's a subjective matter. We don't agree. Its a fashion choice either way. "

Ok so if you dont agree why do you say

"Excuse Mr's bushyness, he ismore trimmed nowdays."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"London is not swinger central. The most people we have ever seen in the London room on chat is 30 tops. usually, regularly, most commonly, frequently below ten. Often zero.

London is massively club oriented as confirmed in a post above.

Every time i go to london i get meet offers. Its where i meet mostly these days tbh.

And i dont do clubs.

Theres lots more people in london than elsewhere in the country.

Never used the chat rooms though i just see whos near and message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole profile comes across as very cynical and world weiry. Wouldn't be at all keen. Just being honest.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The whole profile comes across as very cynical and world weiry. Wouldn't be at all keen. Just being honest.

Good luck."

You've hit the nail on the head. Substitute "Fab" for world

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"maybe you don't like clubs but if a nice couple invited you to a club, wouldn't you be enticed to go?

We have done that and faced the full force of pressure sell tactics. So no we wouldn't arrange to meet in a club.

Neutral locations are much easier to walk away from politely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"other than the male half could probbaly do with some clippers

That's a subjective matter. We don't agree. Its a fashion choice either way.

Ok so if you dont agree why do you say

"Excuse Mr's bushyness, he ismore trimmed nowdays."

To pander to those who think it's necessary.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"There is a, "more body pics" concensus. Which we can see the validity of. However the people we are trying to meet would be looking to connect on a mental level. Hence we didn't think them necessary."

I kinda see what you are saying buy cock shots do not make us connect on a mental level any more than body shots.

I'm not entirely sure how a profile can make any one connect mentally.

For us the profile is the shop window. Once people have said hello then we can see if we are on a similar wavelength.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at your profile we wouldn't message you because of the comments about slim v curvy, makes it sound like there's something wrong with being slim, that they're not "'normal healthy people" as you put it.

Also the hair issue, we like shaved but happy to accept not all do, but again your paragraph reads like you're putting down the opinion of those that prefer shaved.

And agree with previous comments about pics, cock pics don't make a mental connection, but tasteful body pics, (not graphic) , attract you and make you want to find out more

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If you're getting meets then don't change anything.

If you're not getting meets then something needs to change.

It seems a little pointless to keep being given suggestions but then either not acting on them or dismissing them by suggesting a counter argument. Better to thank anyone who tried to help, have an objective look at your fab experience and make a considered decision on what to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"other than the male half could probbaly do with some clippers

That's a subjective matter. We don't agree. Its a fashion choice either way.

Ok so if you dont agree why do you say

"Excuse Mr's bushyness, he ismore trimmed nowdays."

To pander to those who think it's necessary."

So is it a lie then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you think few close up cock pics will build a mental connection?

Fab is like food the first bite is with the eye.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Just looked and it seems very negative to me.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Lots of great advice, but they don't seem to be interested, if you aren't going to take advice without trying to start an argument then you should ask for it.

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By *andS66Couple
over a year ago

Derby

They said, "we find it hard to get meets. Check out our profile and make constructive comments"....

After very many constructive comments were made, they told everyone that those comments and suggestions were wrong. Not only that, but that the reason they don't get meets is not down to them, but rather every other swinger in London....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They said, "we find it hard to get meets. Check out our profile and make constructive comments"....

We have acted on peoples suggestions if you view the profile now you will see;

Location changed.

Pictures removed pending New ones.

Perceived negative statements removed.

General reshuffle and rewording.

Thanks again for the comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We find it hard to get meets. Check our profile and make some constructive comments. Thanks. X"

No public pictures, not saying put everything public but at least a few.

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"We find it hard to get meets. Check our profile and make some constructive comments. Thanks. X"

It says no one outside 20 miles away...In London but you are not meeting in London. Does that go for Aintree as well..also only weekends..?

Also. Looks like no blokes. Also no pics. I may not want to have to be friends before I see a pic.

So in summary. If you want just a female and you're not sure about swapping you might struggle.

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