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"Hi Swingers, I'm quite new on this site and had some good, lengthy message chats with some people after receiving profile views and winks. However, after sending a face pic, a couple of times I've been blocked. Not even a 'thanks but no thanks' or 'sorry you're not my type', just an instant block after sending. I can't be that ugly! Not deformed in any way, no permanent scars or injuries, standard hairdo and generally everything's in place! Has anyone else experienced this? I suspect some users are just collecting face pics to use on other fake profiles or some other dodgy operation? Or maybe I am just ugly! Have a look at my page if you have a chance and I'd greatly appreciate any comments. Thanks." We won't know unless you make a face pic public | |||
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Pictures of women's bits are off putting.
Having sexy sluts obey your commands suggests, to me, you're a 50 shader and so not understand the BDSM dynamic.
It looks like you just want to mistreat women for your own gratification to me. | |||
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"Ur public pics put me off, not a fan of action shots or bareback cocks, if ud messaged me i probably would not have replied " Wouldn't work for me either .... strikes me as someone who is more interested in dictating their fantasy rather than being interested in mine ... but then I am a control freak too, so it wouldn't work ... | |||
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If you try a guess as to why some use it and the reasons why you'll go insane..
Move on and find someone who will meet you.. | |||
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"if we fall short of somebody else's requirements that is just a question of taste and not a reflection on us personally. View it any other way and you'll damage your self esteem. "True - it can affect your confidence as it feels like a rejection... thanks for the encouraging words. | |||
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"if we fall short of somebody else's requirements that is just a question of taste and not a reflection on us personally. View it any other way and you'll damage your self esteem.
True - it can affect your confidence as it feels like a rejection... thanks for the encouraging words. "Welcome | |||
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"It looks like you just want to mistreat women for your own gratification to me." Thanks for all your comments. I don't mean to be abusive at all - just looking to be very physical and push to the limits, which I respect. I've met women who do like it hard and rough - they're just a lot harder to find, hence my profile  | |||
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"It looks like you just want to mistreat women for your own gratification to me. Thanks for all your comments. I don't mean to be abusive at all - just looking to be very physical and push to the limits, which I respect. I've met women who do like it hard and rough - they're just a lot harder to find, hence my profile "I'm not sure they're harder to find, just there might be very few who would trust someone they don't know to do those things to them. | |||
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"Just send a face pic with your first message, if they don't fancy you they won't reply and none of your time is wasted chatting." Good idea, although I'm not too keen on firing out face pics willy-nilly - at first I want to gauge whether the user is genuine, and genuinely interested. | |||
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"Just send a face pic with your first message, if they don't fancy you they won't reply and none of your time is wasted chatting. Good idea, although I'm not too keen on firing out face pics willy-nilly - at first I want to gauge whether the user is genuine, and genuinely interested." How will they know they're interested if they don't know what you look like? | |||
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"How will they know they're interested if they don't know what you look like?" From what you're saying, it seems like it's all based on looks... I may as well give up haha | |||
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"a) you're as ugly as a bag of nails " You're not though  | |||
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"How will they know they're interested if they don't know what you look like? From what you're saying, it seems like it's all based on looks... I may as well give up haha" It's not all based on looks, it's the combination of initial attraction plus personality. For me at least. | |||
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"Just send a face pic with your first message, if they don't fancy you they won't reply and none of your time is wasted chatting. Good idea, although I'm not too keen on firing out face pics willy-nilly - at first I want to gauge whether the user is genuine, and genuinely interested." Ok look at it from this perspective if you were in a bar and you went to introduce yourself to someone you found attractive you would t do it with a bad over your head and only remove the bag if you thought they were genuinely interested, would you? | |||
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"Hi Swingers, I'm quite new on this site and had some good, lengthy message chats with some people after receiving profile views and winks. However, after sending a face pic, a couple of times I've been blocked. Not even a 'thanks but no thanks' or 'sorry you're not my type', just an instant block after sending. I can't be that ugly! Not deformed in any way, no permanent scars or injuries, standard hairdo and generally everything's in place! Has anyone else experienced this? I suspect some users are just collecting face pics to use on other fake profiles or some other dodgy operation? Or maybe I am just ugly! Have a look at my page if you have a chance and I'd greatly appreciate any comments. Thanks." yes I'm afraid it happens what one woman sees as attractive another doesn't and women don't have time to be explaining themselves ,this is a cutthroat business one word out of place blocked move onto the next and even when you find a nice one you're sharing her with many | |||
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"Just send a face pic with your first message, if they don't fancy you they won't reply and none of your time is wasted chatting. Good idea, although I'm not too keen on firing out face pics willy-nilly - at first I want to gauge whether the user is genuine, and genuinely interested. Ok look at it from this perspective if you were in a bar and you went to introduce yourself to someone you found attractive you would t do it with a bad over your head and only remove the bag if you thought they were genuinely interested, would you? "  If I message someone first on here which I do now and then, I always attach a face pic as I think its a little rude not to if none are on your profile. I see no point chatting to someone for a while only to find, when face pics are exchanged, you're not attracted to them. | |||
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"Just send a face pic with your first message, if they don't fancy you they won't reply and none of your time is wasted chatting. Good idea, although I'm not too keen on firing out face pics willy-nilly - at first I want to gauge whether the user is genuine, and genuinely interested. Ok look at it from this perspective if you were in a bar and you went to introduce yourself to someone you found attractive you would t do it with a bad over your head and only remove the bag if you thought they were genuinely interested, would you? If I message someone first on here which I do now and then, I always attach a face pic as I think its a little rude not to if none are on your profile. I see no point chatting to someone for a while only to find, when face pics are exchanged, you're not attracted to them. "I have public face pics and still do it as its an introduction so I too view it as polite | |||
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"I haven't looked at your profile but we have been blocked after sending face pictures. There are many possible reasons, they might know you, they might not find you attractive being just two. What I would say is this, we are all putting ourselves up for appraisal if we fall short of somebody else's requirements that is just a question of taste and not a reflection on us personally. View it any other way and you'll damage your self esteem. " | |||
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"_urvymama - thanks for the clarification!" I hope I didn't detect sarcasm there Otherwise it's just a typical male response on fab to someone being honest and straight with them. | |||
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"I'm a sub and looking at your profile I wouldn't message you. It is all about your fantasies and your desires rather than a true, experienced dom. A sub/dom relationship is based on a build up of trust, and most importantly a sub's desires and their boundaries which should be discussed throughly and built upon, it is certainly something I woyld never do with a random meet. There are women out there who may, but I do think they will be hard to find. " This In my experience a Dom gets pleasure out of knowing he's fulfilling the desire of his sub. It's not remotely about abusing someone through rough play It's a relationship that requires lots of trust not something that you can just do with a random someone | |||
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"I hope I didn't detect sarcasm there Otherwise it's just a typical male response on fab to someone being honest and straight with them. " No sarcasm at all - you explained it from a female point of view which makes the reason for blocking much clearer now. | |||
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"I hope I didn't detect sarcasm there Otherwise it's just a typical male response on fab to someone being honest and straight with them. No sarcasm at all - you explained it from a female point of view which makes the reason for blocking much clearer now." Fair enough then it was the exclamation mark that caused me the query it I now realise it was more there for the emphasis of "oh I didn't realise that" | |||
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"Hmmm how is a dom a dom if s/he submits to the desires of a sub... Doesn't this then make the sub the dom's superior... "He's not submitting to them he's fulfilling them - it's a complex relationship | |||
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"Hmmm how is a dom a dom if s/he submits to the desires of a sub... Doesn't this then make the sub the dom's superior... "No because a dom should find excitement and fulfilment in knowing their sub's desires and needs are met.. A dom doesn't submit but does react to the needs of a sub. | |||
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"Hmmm how is a dom a dom if s/he submits to the desires of a sub... Doesn't this then make the sub the dom's superior...
No because a dom should find excitement and fulfilment in knowing their sub's desires and needs are met.. A dom doesn't submit but does react to the needs of a sub."As someone that effectively plays switch it's this exactly I have put my subs through immense pain and humiliation but it's nothing I know they couldn't handle and enjoy immensely the power comes from their enjoyment | |||
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"Hmmm how is a dom a dom if s/he submits to the desires of a sub... Doesn't this then make the sub the dom's superior...
No because a dom should find excitement and fulfilment in knowing their sub's desires and needs are met.. A dom doesn't submit but does react to the needs of a sub."You'd think a Dom would know this.  | |||
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"Hmmm how is a dom a dom if s/he submits to the desires of a sub... Doesn't this then make the sub the dom's superior...
No because a dom should find excitement and fulfilment in knowing their sub's desires and needs are met.. A dom doesn't submit but does react to the needs of a sub.
You'd think a Dom would know this. "You would hope so  | |||
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"A dom doesn't submit but does react to the needs of a sub." Being reactive is not a dominant quality. Absorbing discussion indeed... | |||
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"A dom doesn't submit but does react to the needs of a sub. Being reactive is not a dominant quality. Absorbing discussion indeed..." Even in basic vanilla sex being reactive to the needs and desires or others is sex 101 | |||
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"A dom doesn't submit but does react to the needs of a sub. Being reactive is not a dominant quality. Absorbing discussion indeed..." Then unless realise that in a sub dom relationship it is then you will never be a dom, just someone who wants to use a woman for rough sex. | |||
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"A dom doesn't submit but does react to the needs of a sub. Being reactive is not a dominant quality. Absorbing discussion indeed... Then unless realise that in a sub dom relationship it is then you will never be a dom, just someone who wants to use a woman for rough sex. " This is how your profile reads and how you're coming across in this post is never call someone like you a Dom OP | |||
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"Hmmm how is a dom a dom if s/he submits to the desires of a sub... Doesn't this then make the sub the dom's superior... "Er......yeah. Read some philosophy. | |||
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