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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Women look at my profile then just delete my messages and never message me back .... What am I doing wrong?? Help please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same problem but I thought it could be because I hadn't finished my profile but I'm not sure.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

the question you two gentlemen should be asking yourselves is.

"Given the number of men far outweighs the number of women on the site and they have a huge choice, would I on reading my profile meet me?"

That has nothing to do with the way you look and everything to do with the lack of effort you've both put into your profile text. Tell people about yourself, what you like, what you can offer.

I wish you both luck

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Women look at my profile then just delete my messages and never message me back .... What am I doing wrong?? Help please "

Aren't you and your profile one and the same?

....or am I missing something here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys....as you are asking for advice...

You only have about two and a half lines of profile between you!

And not much in the way of pics or info.

It is just about making an effort.

Your profile is your "shop window". Would you go into a shop with so little in the window?

There are literally hundreds of other threads on exactly this same topic....you could look at the advice given there too....

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I have the same problem but I thought it could be because I hadn't finished my profile but I'm not sure.

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You should start your own thread rather than piggy back this one, or, better still, read any one of the hundreds of similar threads on the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both of you have shit profiles. On that note I'm off to bed ta'la

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Neither of you two have made an effort.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Neither of you two have made an effort. "

Lol. It makes trying to help so worthwhile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't rely on these sites to find fun for single men anyway. Don't matter how good your profile is, men out number females heavily on here. So how much time do you wanna waste chasing sex on here

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Neither of you two have made an effort.

Lol. It makes trying to help so worthwhile "

It's easier to offer advice to people who make an effort.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Neither of you two have made an effort.

Lol. It makes trying to help so worthwhile

It's easier to offer advice to people who make an effort. "

To be honest Steve it's probably easier to offer no advice at all but I'm a nosey old baggage who just HAS to give her two penn'orth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't rely on these sites to find fun for single men anyway. Don't matter how good your profile is, men out number females heavily on here. So how much time do you wanna waste chasing sex on here "

What do the numbers matter! If you're good enough, you're good enough to succeed. Simples.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Don't rely on these sites to find fun for single men anyway. Don't matter how good your profile is, men out number females heavily on here. So how much time do you wanna waste chasing sex on here "

actually it does matter how good your profile.

A threadbare profile will just get you ignored.

You stand a much better chance if you put some effort into it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Neither of you two have made an effort.

Lol. It makes trying to help so worthwhile

It's easier to offer advice to people who make an effort.

To be honest Steve it's probably easier to offer no advice at all but I'm a nosey old baggage who just HAS to give her two penn'orth "

I find it amusing that when men ask for advice and receive some they don't take it. There's no rule to say they HAVE to, of course, but it seems a bit daft not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two days later and both profiles are still rubbish!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Two days later and both profiles are still rubbish! "

A good many of such threads seek attention rather than advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two days later and both profiles are still rubbish!

A good many of such threads seek attention rather than advice"

Yes I know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These guys already know the answer.... They are just hoping for a bite in the forums instead.

Women and couples will find you if your what they are looking for, that's obvious. If you were charming enough, you can find sex elsewhere... This site is for swinging and so much more - there's a difference

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By *inkyKellyCDTV/TS
over a year ago

Coventry

I'm probably not the best person to ask (my profile's more like an essay), but yeah, your profile's a bit bare and lacking info really. Doesn't stand out from the million other guy profiles that are along the lines of "hi I'm here for sex (no shit!), message if you want to know more" (orrr you could save everyone's time and put a few bits of info on your profile as conversation starters/potential mutual interests (sexual or otherwise) that'd give the person you're messaging reason to see you as more than just 'message from guy #5,836').

Short version: fill out your profile with more details, what you like, what you dislike, things you've tried, have done or would like to do, etc. When you message avoid typing like a 12 year old who just lrnt 2 txt spk lol and make it clear you've actually read their profile and are interested in THEM specifically/how you think you're what each other are after and not just desperately messaging everyone in the hopes someone bites.

Works for me, mostly (in male mode).

(Apologies in advance if that message is a bit funky, haven't slept yet. 8am bedtime ahoy!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry I have 2 children and so have been busy with them will update tomo when induce taken them back

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