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Hard to get off the mark, what am I doing wrong?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey people.. Hope all is going well! I seem to be finding it a little difficult getting off the mark, I mean, all my pics are genuine and verified but seems to be a little difficult... Feel like I'm that 16 year old virgin again asking this kinda thing cos it's not something I struggle with but this is extremely new territory for me... Any advice would be perfect.... Thanks in advance!!

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By *iBeRtInE70Man
over a year ago

around

Patience young Padiwan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your requirements are quite specific tall slim red head so may take a little longer.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Never has been my strong point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gloucester has a great social once a month, might be an idea to pop along and say hello to a few people ..... ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight guy

Looking for women only

Slim / athletic women at that

Do you realise just how many guys there are on here who fit your description and are looking for their ideal ?

Am not saying it is wrong

What I am saying is that is a numbers game and the numbers don't always stack in your favour

You form part of the largest group on FAB. You are seeking one of the rarest groups on FAB.

It may happen for you but it's not as easy as you probably initially thought it would be.

Good Luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im not just looking for those requirements tho... I'll change that! Thank you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe what you're offering is too specific and your niche market is very small....

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

There's countless threads in the archives all offering generic advice,

Happy reading.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hey people.. Hope all is going well! I seem to be finding it a little difficult getting off the mark, I mean, all my pics are genuine and verified but seems to be a little difficult... Feel like I'm that 16 year old virgin again asking this kinda thing cos it's not something I struggle with but this is extremely new territory for me... Any advice would be perfect.... Thanks in advance!! "

What do you mean your pictures are verified? They are ok but the middle one isn't great.

As said above you are quite specific in your requirements and they might not be for everyone.

What do you mean by weird?

Good luck.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Your profile would turn me off completely even if I met all of your criteria!

Manage your expectations otherwise just hire an escort, will save you some angst!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I wasn't keen on the "fuck off" pic but that's just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many women might be put off by the rough sex/dominant bit.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Also I wasn't keen on the "fuck off" pic but that's just me "

or sticking your tongue out.. wtf is that all about in mens pics? Do men really think it is an attractive look? Trust me it isn't!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok thank you people, like I said, I'm extremely new to all this and this is my first time on any site like it... I'll change a few things round... See how I get on.. I'll get rid of the "f" off pic too etc... Thanks again for the advice!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a fan of the pics personally they aren't attractive.

The bit about only doing rough sex and dominating everything, are you a true dom? Something like that takes a lot of time and trust to achieve between the two parties.

Your ideals in a lady are quite specific too so may take more time to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's countless threads in the archives all offering generic advice,

Happy reading. "

Should be a sticky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck dominating a redhead sweet cheeks

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Ok thank you people, like I said, I'm extremely new to all this and this is my first time on any site like it... I'll change a few things round... See how I get on.. I'll get rid of the "f" off pic too etc... Thanks again for the advice!!! "

Hang on....2 ladies have mentioned they don't like it. What about the 869 that do? If you take every single bit of advice given and act on it, your profile won't be yours - it won't reflect the real you - it will be a mishmash of loads of other people's ideas of what they think is good and therefore, your profile won't work. Why? Because you'll be trying to please everyone and in doing so, you'll please no one. You had very specific 'wants' and eventually, you'll find someone who meets your requirements. It's a game of patience and I know you said you don't have any but.....what's the alternative? You must have thought the sticking out tongue pic and the 'f off' pic were absolutely superb but now you think they're not?

Think how you'd approach a lady in a bar and do the same same on here but use words typed, not spoken.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Sorry mate, but I have to say that if I was looking for single men your profile would not entice me.

Most women want a more complete sexual experience than you seem to be offering. I also don't find your photos very appealing at all.

You may be better on a different site to this or you could try clubs. I think you will struggle to get meets on here.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably cos your profile says you only give out rough sex. I like a bit of rough and tumble but when you see it written it kind of makes you want to close your legs and protect you fanny and say no, be nice to it please.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Ok thank you people, like I said, I'm extremely new to all this and this is my first time on any site like it... I'll change a few things round... See how I get on.. I'll get rid of the "f" off pic too etc... Thanks again for the advice!!!

Hang on....2 ladies have mentioned they don't like it. What about the 869 that do? If you take every single bit of advice given and act on it, your profile won't be yours - it won't reflect the real you - it will be a mishmash of loads of other people's ideas of what they think is good and therefore, your profile won't work. Why? Because you'll be trying to please everyone and in doing so, you'll please no one. You had very specific 'wants' and eventually, you'll find someone who meets your requirements. It's a game of patience and I know you said you don't have any but.....what's the alternative? You must have thought the sticking out tongue pic and the 'f off' pic were absolutely superb but now you think they're not?

Think how you'd approach a lady in a bar and do the same same on here but use words typed, not spoken. "

Exactly! But if you met a woman in a pub that you fancied, would you stick your tongue out at her, would you give her the fuck off sign, would you wop your cock out? No you bloody wouldn't!

So treat the site as you would by interacting people in real life!

No wonder social skills are going down the pan!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok thank you people, like I said, I'm extremely new to all this and this is my first time on any site like it... I'll change a few things round... See how I get on.. I'll get rid of the "f" off pic too etc... Thanks again for the advice!!!

Hang on....2 ladies have mentioned they don't like it. What about the 869 that do? If you take every single bit of advice given and act on it, your profile won't be yours - it won't reflect the real you - it will be a mishmash of loads of other people's ideas of what they think is good and therefore, your profile won't work. Why? Because you'll be trying to please everyone and in doing so, you'll please no one. You had very specific 'wants' and eventually, you'll find someone who meets your requirements. It's a game of patience and I know you said you don't have any but.....what's the alternative? You must have thought the sticking out tongue pic and the 'f off' pic were absolutely superb but now you think they're not?

Think how you'd approach a lady in a bar and do the same same on here but use words typed, not spoken. "

I agree your profile has to be a reflection of you.

I do like the new pic though

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I see you've changed the profile while I was typing.

The photos are not do bad, but a greater variety would help.

The writing is maybe a bit bland but on the positive side you won't frighten anyone off. That said... If you do only offer rough sex as stated previously, it's best to be honest and up front about it.

You are better being honest and getting a woman who wants what you are offering... Even if that takes time.

My earlier post was my personal opinion.... All women are different

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I've just amended a couple things.. And no is the answer to your question as to if I would walk up to a women and stick my tongue out etc etc etc but I will be honest and say I've misjudged the site... Thanks again for all the constructive criticism!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I always try and play to strengths and in all fairness, the girls said they didn't think it was a good pic so I'm always keen to take advice onboard, I'll add pics, profile wants etc when I understand the site abit more... I am who I am but I'm a virgin when it comes to fabswingers so I'm finding my barings atm.... Cheers tho bud!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Yeah I've just amended a couple things.. And no is the answer to your question as to if I would walk up to a women and stick my tongue out etc etc etc but I will be honest and say I've misjudged the site... Thanks again for all the constructive criticism!"

Don't worry a lot of men do initially! That is why it is good to ask questions...but don't change what you want even if it means having to wait for that knish market.

But at the same time always treat the women with respect and get rid of the notation that swingers have lower standards because we bloody don't , if anything they are higher!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"There's countless threads in the archives all offering generic advice,

Happy reading.

Should be a sticky."

I have suggested that so many times but it would then remove the need for about 80% of these threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant understand it either. 200 new females join this site every single day, thats 73000 females a year...how can any male fail to meet one?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I cant understand it either. 200 new females join this site every single day, thats 73000 females a year...how can any male fail to meet one?"

Probably because 185 of those new women are men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant understand it either. 200 new females join this site every single day, thats 73000 females a year...how can any male fail to meet one?

Probably because 185 of those new women are men"

And of the remaining 15, 11 leave after 2 days because they're overwhelmed with messages and pestered so in reality, its 4

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By *offee and Cream 2Couple (MM)
over a year ago

Loughborough

Your reference to "rough sex" may be rather off putting for some girls.....

And your picture makes you look rather gormless, so have a few decent pictures taken for your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always try and play to strengths and in all fairness, the girls said they didn't think it was a good pic so I'm always keen to take advice onboard, I'll add pics, profile wants etc when I understand the site abit more... I am who I am but I'm a virgin when it comes to fabswingers so I'm finding my barings atm.... Cheers tho bud!!"

Browse some profiles. Compare the good ones with yours. Smile in your photos.

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