FabSwingers.com forum: Been on 2 months. why no meets? *HELP*

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I've been on this site now for over 2 months and I can't seem to get a reply or anything from anyone . I don't know what I'm doing wrong, I'm not an arsehole like half the idiots on this site , I have manners yet they are starting to wear thin. Please can someone help me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That update is enough to make anyone not want to meet you. This site is for swingers and whatever they want to use it as, not for men with a sense of entitlement. Plus you seem to be far from big cities, i.e. there is a smaller pool of potential meets for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

P.S. Your profile text is no better. Who is it aimed at?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I know you fxcktards won't even read this but who gives a rats nuts !"

And for that reason, I'm out

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

Your profile is just awful op. It's full of arrogance so now wonder you've had not meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry status changed. Just had a moment. Well my profiles aimed at people who are just up for shits and giggles but sadly o think it's failing . I thought it was funny . Lmao 50%.. Sounds like the minimum to me l

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude as a male your profile and update are both arrogant and demeaning. To about95% of fab users maybe don't be so full on and just because it a swinging site you don't have. To use crude language in messages.lots of folks like the art of intellectual. Conversation as a form of foreplay and not want to see my dick can I lick your pussy messages

That's just my take

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By *heeky202Man
over a year ago

manchester

It's a terrible self opinionated profile. Great first pic that quickly drops into a opening gambit that 'you is da bomb'.

Ye gods it's working isn't it.

Fighting them off with a shitty stick aren't we.

FGS.

If plan A doesn't work, keep doing plan 'A'

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Plus you seem to be far from big cities, i.e. there is a smaller pool of potential meets for you."

He's on the doorstep of Leeds.

His profile is hostile, aggressive and full of unpleasant language. It's nothing to do with his location

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By *heeky202Man
over a year ago

manchester

Now it's bland.

Tell us something about the real you. Likes dislikes in women humour and sensual sexual delights .make it real .. it's like a one line cv...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right give me 10 minutes . I didn't want to come across as arrogant , confident maybe but clearly I fudged that one up. Online CV right I got ya now

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP you appear to think being on here will mean a bunch of women will be searching for you, willing to shag you just because you have a Fab profile.

It doesn't work like that. Men on Fab have to make a massive effort to stand out from the crowd and be appealing to women.

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By *heeky202Man
over a year ago

manchester

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

The fact that you are taking the advice well does bode well

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By *heeky202Man
over a year ago

manchester

It's not the given right to have a good profile and women swoon. You need to work extremely hard. Uber respectful humour and a sliver of kink

. Nothing will guarantee anything. I waa on another site and over 14 months till first meet. No devine right , same in club's when you see the benny hill sketch of blokes.

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By *aximas4Man
over a year ago

bradford

Lower your Standards perhaps don't be as picky even if you have to settle for a 1 out of 10 to get started haha

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

On a side note is it just me who thought Cheeky202 was a woman?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right so I've upgraded it a little so please let me know if that's any better . And I don't rate women on a scale of 1 to 10. Its degrading

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

" And I don't rate women on a scale of 1 to 10. "

Darn, I like being a 10

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" And I don't rate women on a scale of 1 to 10.

Darn, I like being a 10

Your still a 10 if it will make ya happy

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By *aximas4Man
over a year ago

bradford

"Right so I've upgraded it a little so please let me know if that's any better . And I don't rate women on a scale of 1 to 10. Its degrading "

Haha stop playing the nice guy falsely you melt! We all judge on a scale subconsciously

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Right so I've upgraded it a little so please let me know if that's any better . And I don't rate women on a scale of 1 to 10. Its degrading

Haha stop playing the nice guy falsely you melt! We all judge on a scale subconsciously "

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By *aximas4Man
over a year ago

bradford

"Right so I've upgraded it a little so please let me know if that's any better . And I don't rate women on a scale of 1 to 10. Its degrading

Haha stop playing the nice guy falsely you melt! We all judge on a scale subconsciously

We all do, however there is such a thing as using tact! Now, you may find, if you were to message a lady that sees this thread, they will likely question does he really fancy me? Or is he lowering his standards out of desperation? Not sure, so to be safe, I'll file his message in the bin and hit the block button "
point taken however this is in relation to him getting his 'first meet' as once he is verified he won't have this problem, as you can see I don't have loads of meets due to my high standards I like to maintain! So if I do mail a woman it's because I do find them extremely attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, do you really think you are so special that anyone messaging you will put "Berries" as a heading? Like you would care.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Right so I've upgraded it a little so please let me know if that's any better . And I don't rate women on a scale of 1 to 10. Its degrading

Haha stop playing the nice guy falsely you melt! We all judge on a scale subconsciously

We all do, however there is such a thing as using tact! Now, you may find, if you were to message a lady that sees this thread, they will likely question does he really fancy me? Or is he lowering his standards out of desperation? Not sure, so to be safe, I'll file his message in the bin and hit the block button point taken however this is in relation to him getting his 'first meet' as once he is verified he won't have this problem, as you can see I don't have loads of meets due to my high standards I like to maintain! So if I do mail a woman it's because I do find them extremely attractive "

I'm always curious about "high standards".

Is it like "exceptional?" Why do I think pretentious/delusional?!!

Hmm...

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By *aximas4Man
over a year ago

bradford

"Right so I've upgraded it a little so please let me know if that's any better . And I don't rate women on a scale of 1 to 10. Its degrading

Haha stop playing the nice guy falsely you melt! We all judge on a scale subconsciously

We all do, however there is such a thing as using tact! Now, you may find, if you were to message a lady that sees this thread, they will likely question does he really fancy me? Or is he lowering his standards out of desperation? Not sure, so to be safe, I'll file his message in the bin and hit the block button point taken however this is in relation to him getting his 'first meet' as once he is verified he won't have this problem, as you can see I don't have loads of meets due to my high standards I like to maintain! So if I do mail a woman it's because I do find them extremely attractive

I'm always curious about "high standards".

Is it like "exceptional?" Why do I think pretentious/delusional?!!

Hmm...

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so where does your curiosity stem from? Perhaps... But I guess you will never know, or is it because you don't even make the scale haha

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

...."I'm not an arsehole like half the idiots on this site....."

Doesn't sound like good manners to me!

Maybe the people not wanting to meet you have the same attitude and are thinking the same way......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks To The people who gave me advice and helped me . Much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I've been on this site now for over 2 months and I can't seem to get a reply or anything from anyone . I don't know what I'm doing wrong, I'm not an arsehole like half the idiots on this site , I have manners yet they are starting to wear thin. Please can someone help me "
expect nothing and you will get something ,the forum women can be negative they've been there and done it ,advertise yourself with confidence not negativity ,don't understand why you are putting the " put this in the message heading " you havnt got a profile to read and women read profiles unlike a lot of men ,just write messages using the woman's profile and be polite and maybe funny and include a face pic no cock pics

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"The problem with threads like this is that the true character of the OP is smothered disguised and almost eliminated by all the suggestions that are made by well-meaning contributors to the thread.

It will be so much more effective for the rest of us to keep the original descriptions and profile as they reveal the true character.

All the subsequent amendments are false because they've been suggested by everybody else!

So whose profile is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The sexual predator bit???

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By *pple16Man
over a year ago

Macclesfield

Take a long hard Look at yourself.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"The problem with threads like this is that the true character of the OP is smothered disguised and almost eliminated by all the suggestions that are made by well-meaning contributors to the thread.

It will be so much more effective for the rest of us to keep the original descriptions and profile as they reveal the true character.

All the subsequent amendments are false because they've been suggested by everybody else!

So whose profile is it?

up to a point i would agree... but it would depend on whether the advice given was generic or spoonfed....

me... i would have said "pen, pad, sit down and actually think about what you are writing" because i think a lot of the profiles reflect peoples attitudes and expectations of swinging and can be a better giveaway

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By *easing_twoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

Reading the profile would be a instant block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying you have a sexual predator instinct would be a no from us and just a thing with us, anyone who asks for a certain word to be put in the header of a message we'd not contact.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Saying you have a sexual predator instinct would be a no from us and just a thing with us, anyone who asks for a certain word to be put in the header of a message we'd not contact."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need patience lol

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Saying you have a sexual predator instinct would be a no from us and just a thing with us, anyone who asks for a certain word to be put in the header of a message we'd not contact."

I have never replied to anyone who wants a specific word in their message back .... gosh, how demanding would they be during play if they are this demanding in a message.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"So I've been on this site now for over 2 months and I can't seem to get a reply or anything from anyone . I don't know what I'm doing wrong, I'm not an arsehole like half the idiots on this site , I have manners yet they are starting to wear thin. Please can someone help me "
. You need to try and make your profile unique . Currently your profile states that you are a twenty five year old man looking for sex . You will need to add some hobbies and interests to make it more interesting. Luckily you are young and have a good photo so time is on your side. Your may need to amend your attitude . Calling people an arsehole or idiot is not an attractive trait .

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

" I'm not an arsehole like half the idiots on this site "

For starters maybe not calling half the people on the site arseholes? Just an observation.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Right so I've upgraded it a little so please let me know if that's any better . And I don't rate women on a scale of 1 to 10. Its degrading

Haha stop playing the nice guy falsely you melt! We all judge on a scale subconsciously

We all do, however there is such a thing as using tact! Now, you may find, if you were to message a lady that sees this thread, they will likely question does he really fancy me? Or is he lowering his standards out of desperation? Not sure, so to be safe, I'll file his message in the bin and hit the block button point taken however this is in relation to him getting his 'first meet' as once he is verified he won't have this problem, as you can see I don't have loads of meets due to my high standards I like to maintain! So if I do mail a woman it's because I do find them extremely attractive

I'm always curious about "high standards".

Is it like "exceptional?" Why do I think pretentious/delusional?!!

Hmm...

so where does your curiosity stem from? Perhaps... But I guess you will never know, or is it because you don't even make the scale haha"

Your on a sex site trawling for sex with strangers: ask Joe Public about your high standards.

Now do you understand?!!

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