FabSwingers.com forum: Timewasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all, just want to understand why a woman will engage in convo then just ignore you. Not desperate at all but a lot people with no manners. Just politely say no thanks. And couples the same, send pic and like it then nothing. Help please

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No idea but if you find out tell us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really frustrating, I explain to couples I am straight and they seen ok then nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I change my mind about wanting to meet someone.

They might say something that suddenly makes them sound like a twat, or an arrogant arse, or a psycho.

Obviously this renders arranging a meet unwise or unsafe.

People are entitled to a change of heart without being branded 'timewasters'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But saying thanks but no thanks is so difficult ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most just wanna chat and after a while they get cold feet lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But saying thanks but no thanks is so difficult ? "

I'm always polite, but sometimes, yes.

Men often simply will not accept it and start arguing or being abusive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's the thing I have never done that, never rude and come across as polite as I can be. Just wanting someone to change my opinion

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Really frustrating, I explain to couples I am straight and they seen ok then nothing. "

Are you straight though? The reason I ask is that people on here sometimes find that no guys put straight on their profile so maybe they were really looking for a bi guy and then when they realised you weren't, decided not to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignoring people is often the simplest way to end the conversation, esp for those like us who find that saying thanks but no longer interested leads to abuse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Completly understand that but u can just block the abusers. Simples. And yes I am straight and will be putting that on there so thanks for that. Just give a guy a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Completly understand that but u can just block the abusers. Simples. And yes I am straight and will be putting that on there so thanks for that. Just give a guy a chance "

One can but why wait to be abused. We get abuse when single men who clearly haven't read our profile, as they address me - stevie get asked to read it and come back if still interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A lot of idiots out there, but I am not one a feel like I am being treated like one. A lot of guys ruin it for the rest. Hope I can break down this barrier

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"A lot of idiots out there, but I am not one a feel like I am being treated like one. A lot of guys ruin it for the rest. Hope I can break down this barrier "

I read this tiresome argument so many times on here that "the bad guys ruin it for good guys like me"

It's utter hogwash.

You make your own way here. Nobody else is to blame for your failure.

Couples and women don't reply for good reason, and if that happens you move on...after all they were only going to say no, so you'd have been no better off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of idiots out there, but I am not one a feel like I am being treated like one. A lot of guys ruin it for the rest. Hope I can break down this barrier "

like so much in life the inconsiderate screw things up for the considerate. Steve says nice cock btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of idiots out there, but I am not one a feel like I am being treated like one. A lot of guys ruin it for the rest. Hope I can break down this barrier "

I'd like to think I am not an idiot either.

But how does a single female or a couple know that you or I aren't? Just because you say you aren't? Don't you think the 'idiots' say exactly the same thing?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"A lot of idiots out there, but I am not one a feel like I am being treated like one. A lot of guys ruin it for the rest. Hope I can break down this barrier

I'd like to think I am not an idiot either.

But how does a single female or a couple know that you or I aren't? Just because you say you aren't? Don't you think the 'idiots' say exactly the same thing?"

Good point!

Those that think others ruin it for them imagine the couples and women who don't reply are missing out on so much...

It smacks of arrogance

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

Imagine if you got to meet them, played and THEN they ignored you! If you feel that THEY were being rude (maybe because they are) then count it as a near miss for YOU!

Hope that helps...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's not arrogance it's just people engage in convo then all of a sudden nothing. If u get a positive reply and exchange multiple messages then nothing how can one work that out. Just say that u are no longer interested that's all. It won't kill me

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"It's not arrogance it's just people engage in convo then all of a sudden nothing. If u get a positive reply and exchange multiple messages then nothing how can one work that out. Just say that u are no longer interested that's all. It won't kill me "

Well, as someone pointed out earlier, maybe you said something that changed their mind, without you being aware of what it was.

Or it could have been someone leading you on for their own amusement, ...a man pretending to be a woman. That happens a LOT on here. They suddenly get bored of it and stop...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People dont like being the bad guy.. going quiet is easier and less agro. Your here 2 weeks, very early to get all upset about nothing. Just go to a club. Or ask for a webcam veri. Its a start. Dont get lazy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Persistence,pushiness and impatience will have me turned off in an instance and then I'll just ignore or block

There is a lot of all of the above on here,I don't have time to pander to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It goes the other way too sloughstud. Plenty of blokes do the same. People who do that sort of thing o you are generally time wasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, just want to understand why a woman will engage in convo then just ignore you. Not desperate at all but a lot people with no manners. Just politely say no thanks. And couples the same, send pic and like it then nothing. Help please "
you have one pic of your cock most women don't like them (some do ) it's a hairy one to they don't like that either ,you cant accommodate ,they don't like that ,you've only been here two weeks ,improve you're profile and your pics ,send messages referring to woman's profile and send a face pic ,you need lots of patience here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys make me laugh on here criticizing other guys profiles

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Not just women, all members on here do it. I've had chats tail off, I've had men tell me they want to see me regularly yet I never hear from them after the meet, I've had men message me for a meet then ignore/delete the message I send back with dates and times I'm free.

Just get used to the fact there are a lot of bullshitters on here and you'll be a lot happier.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Hi all, just want to understand why a woman will engage in convo then just ignore you. Not desperate at all but a lot people with no manners. Just politely say no thanks. And couples the same, send pic and like it then nothing. Help please you have one pic of your cock most women don't like them (some do ) it's a hairy one to they don't like that either ,you cant accommodate ,they don't like that ,you've only been here two weeks ,improve you're profile and your pics ,send messages referring to woman's profile and send a face pic ,you need lots of patience here

I don't recall the OP asking for profile advice.

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

"Sometimes I change my mind about wanting to meet someone.

They might say something that suddenly makes them sound like a twat, or an arrogant arse, or a psycho.

Obviously this renders arranging a meet unwise or unsafe.

People are entitled to a change of heart without being branded 'timewasters'."

This I do the same.

A few words and alarm bells ring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I don't think it is women or men, you do have I believe lot of married men that are not available to meet (because their wife doesn't know) and some that are fantaisists.

I believe it is the same for women.

Then you do have couples that want people to look at them but will not go the next step although they state otherwise. Not mentioning the fake profiles.

So overall like in life, lots of people not being honest with others and themselves, but they are a lot of genuine people too.

Now this is my experience/my understanding of it.

I am not saying this is it but my perception of it.

I would say move on and don't let this affect you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Wyrdwoman happened to us only last week!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Going back to your original question, the short and unhelpful but true answer is none of us know the reason and nor do you. It is not considered 'time wasting', generally speaking, if someone talks to you for a while then goes quiet. Not all fab messages between people lead to sex. She was trying to find out more about you as a person - get some idea of your personality and character, that she couldn't get from your profile. As someone above mentioned, something along the way caused her to think you're not for her. That's not time wasting. It's not impolite to ignore on fab. The FAQ says so. Some ladies on here get, say, 100 messages a day. It's both unreasonable and and unrealistic expectation to think she will answer every single one. There is nothing you can do except improve your chances of the lady wanting to keep chatting to you and that, my young Jedi, is something no one but yourself can help you with.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Well said Wyrdwoman happened to us only last week! "

I'd meet her again

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London

"But saying thanks but no thanks is so difficult ?

I'm always polite, but sometimes, yes.

Men often simply will not accept it and start arguing or being abusive."

Like girls. On here AND IN CLUBS.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Well said Wyrdwoman happened to us only last week!

I'd meet her again

Yeah but you're a horndog.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But by no longer sending you messeges they are showing you that they arn't interested in you anymore.

Maybe your last messege to them made them realise that they simply don't want to meet you. Often the easiest way to deal with that is to simply stop messeging you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you're just not doing enough to hold their interest...people are often talking to several people at once and just drift away from conversation never to return...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Well said Wyrdwoman happened to us only last week!

I'd meet her again

Yeah but you're a horndog.

Woof! Woof!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes real life gets in the way and messages get missed.

It's not always done on purpose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe you're just not doing enough to hold their interest...people are often talking to several people at once and just drift away from conversation never to return..."

This is definitely true for me. I don't mean it to, but it does happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lesson learned

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

They are just on here passing time its more interesting than dating site, if someone has been on here over 3 months without a meet its highly unlikely that they will start now just move on nothing you can do about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm I have no verifications but have met people, maybe on some circumstances its called discretion, especially near where I live!!!! And I'm definitely not a fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I do this all the time, several times a day. I am NOT a time waster and I do so very much want to meet someone for no strings. I give guys the benefit of the doubt and on the rare occasion I spend some time chatting to someone I might like the look of, more often than not the conversation will either turn to dirty chat too soon (for my liking) or I detect something in the guy that sets off alarm bells. You might not like this but you've potentially put these women off by something YOU have said or done.

Don't question, analyse or blame the woman...move on and change your approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would help if you could construct correct and full sentences.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Additionally, OP: think on this - your opening post on this thread is about the same length as your profile. Go figure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People change their mind. Which IMO is fair enough

I (Mrs) have chatted with many men and after a while it can become tiresome...especially if we can never find a time to meet... (It is strange how so many single men cannot meet at the weekend!).

Anyway, when I get bored with someone I have never met it is sometimes easier to stop replying to their messages (saves time and hassle).

My advice is, if they are up for a meet do not hang about...also learn to read the signs and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most just wanna chat and after a while they get cold feet lol."

I've had this too, it's annoying but I just accept it will probably happen again.... Everybody's different, some just simply don't want to progress ... For whatever reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one owes you anything here. Why the sense of entitlement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found that being polite and replying to any message makes some men think you are interested in meeting them. They can become rude if you,during the conversation you state that you were just conversing and not interested in meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, just want to understand why a woman will engage in convo then just ignore you. Not desperate at all but a lot people with no manners. Just politely say no thanks. And couples the same, send pic and like it then nothing. Help please "
maybe after interacting with you she figured you wernt for her or maybe she was chatting to me at same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Timewasters only waste your time if you let them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I change my mind about wanting to meet someone.

They might say something that suddenly makes them sound like a twat, or an arrogant arse, or a psycho.

Obviously this renders arranging a meet unwise or unsafe.

People are entitled to a change of heart without being branded 'timewasters'."

I agree there but you could still say "sorry but you have just made me realise you are a fucking twat.... good bye" then block them x

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

if someone dont answer me i just move on an dont get upset

its life simply move on, why get sooo upset

some people find if they dont answer you its less hassle

why??let a simple thing like being ignored get you upset

it dont bother me if someone ignores my emails on here . i let it go an move on

life is tooo short

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Persistence,pushiness and impatience will have me turned off in an instance and then I'll just ignore or block

There is a lot of all of the above on here,I don't have time to pander to it"

Spot on, most guys want a shag today or tomorrow the impatient ones are binned. If they get abusive they make a rod for their own back and are blocked

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Believe me that approach doesn't always work...currently telling a young chap in no uncertain terms that I'm not interested and gave my reasons why yet he continues to push....now I'm getting ready to block him as he wont take no for an answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No idea but if you find out tell us."

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"A lot of idiots out there, but I am not one a feel like I am being treated like one. A lot of guys ruin it for the rest. Hope I can break down this barrier

I read this tiresome argument so many times on here that "the bad guys ruin it for good guys like me"

It's utter hogwash.

You make your own way here. Nobody else is to blame for your failure.

Couples and women don't reply for good reason, and if that happens you move on...after all they were only going to say no, so you'd have been no better off..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of idiots out there, but I am not one a feel like I am being treated like one. A lot of guys ruin it for the rest. Hope I can break down this barrier "

No one can ruin anything for you. The way other people conduct themselves on here has absolutely no bearing on your success or otherwise.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"A lot of idiots out there, but I am not one a feel like I am being treated like one. A lot of guys ruin it for the rest. Hope I can break down this barrier

No one can ruin anything for you. The way other people conduct themselves on here has absolutely no bearing on your success or otherwise. "

I quite agree.

A lot of guys blame others for their lack of success on here ...

It's hogwash.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of idiots out there, but I am not one a feel like I am being treated like one. A lot of guys ruin it for the rest. Hope I can break down this barrier

No one can ruin anything for you. The way other people conduct themselves on here has absolutely no bearing on your success or otherwise.

I quite agree.

A lot of guys blame others for their lack of success on here ...

It's hogwash."

But its easy to blame someone else for their failings than actually sit down and think about how to improve their chances or what they could be doing wrong because of course, its never their fault

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

Well if you start a post about being ignored, then a simple no thanks may not have been the end of it either?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I have a funny feeling I know why you are lacking in success and it's got nothing to do with other guys ruining it for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bet you wish you didn't ask for help lol.

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