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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Finally verified, so I'm new to the site, and not had much luck as if yet, plus I could ask here until my picture was sorted.

So just asking on advice and where I could improve my chances really.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Ohhh sorry fella but those pics gotta go! Awful, just awful! Sorry

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Two weeks is no time at all. Some guys wait months for their first meet.

Always read the profile before messaging anyone.

Does your profile really say all you want it to about you and what you want? Does it stand out from the thousands of other profiles on the site? Would you write to you given the state of your profile now?

Those photos are pretty awful I have to say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok pics are gone, yes I always read profiles before messaging as better tonve same that I fit what they want and not to waste each others time.

I think I've put all that I want to in my profile but any help would be great, plus what kind of picture should I try

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Finally verified, so I'm new to the site, and not had much luck as if yet, plus I could ask here until my picture was sorted.

So just asking on advice and where I could improve my chances really."

I always stop reading after "just out of a boring/sexless relationship". There are two people in a relationship, so to blame the other is ungallant, and makes me think shit shag...next!

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

The one you have left as your profile pic is the worst one of the lot - harsh but true, a large percentage of ladies will not even bother to read a profile with a cock profile pic.

We really don't want to see that - leave something to the imagination!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Ok pics are gone, yes I always read profiles before messaging as better tonve same that I fit what they want and not to waste each others time.

I think I've put all that I want to in my profile but any help would be great, plus what kind of picture should I try "

If you think your profile text says all you want it to then fine. Good luck with that.

Your profile pic is still disgusting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oops forgot about that 1 my bad.

Ok so don't mention past relationship. Got it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You're acting on the advice of 2 random people. Why not wait until you have a lot of advice and then pick and choose that advice which you think is appropriate? When you posted those now hidden photos, you must have thought they were good. Was it that easy for a random person to change your mind?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I'm new to all this and most guess have them kind of pics up so I just went with the trend really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea what the pics looked like as you have removed them now but replace them with better ones if they were that bad.

Also, I know you said you were happy with your profile text but you won't stand out with that. Your profile is like your shop window, it will tempt women to go further in their contact with you and should really sell yourself.

Good luck on the site.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Well I'm new to all this and most guess have them kind of pics up so I just went with the trend really"

If you 'go with the trend', how on earth are you going to stand out and get noticed?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you sunshine

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That is true, think more was need in the photo department

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"You're acting on the advice of 2 random people. Why not wait until you have a lot of advice and then pick and choose that advice which you think is appropriate? When you posted those now hidden photos, you must have thought they were good. Was it that easy for a random person to change your mind? "

Mate, believe me, as the 'random person' you refer to, I speak probably on behalf of the majority of ladies on here - we don't like the 'drippy cock' shots - removing them was definitely the best move!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would you say to interact on here would help more to, as the first messages are a bitch tho I know you need to stand out on a first message

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"You're acting on the advice of 2 random people. Why not wait until you have a lot of advice and then pick and choose that advice which you think is appropriate? When you posted those now hidden photos, you must have thought they were good. Was it that easy for a random person to change your mind?

Mate, believe me, as the 'random person' you refer to, I speak probably on behalf of the majority of ladies on here - we don't like the 'drippy cock' shots - removing them was definitely the best move! "

Haha! I didn't see them but judging from that description, I agree!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Would you say to interact on here would help more to, as the first messages are a bitch tho I know you need to stand out on a first message"

Most people will read the profile before even entertaining the message so it's your profile where you need to shine

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Would you say to interact on here would help more to, as the first messages are a bitch tho I know you need to stand out on a first message"

No, you've got it wrong. To stand out you need a good profile. Even the best message won't get read if you have a poor profile. Have an excellent profile and a poor message might get read. Better still, have a good profile and write a good message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so I have my work cut out to stand out, thank to everyone for the advice any more would be a great help

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

It helps to refer to something in their profile.... Better still if it matches something in your profile which is why it is advisable to have something substantial written in your profile.

A basic threadbare profile is not very tempting to anybody.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yea I try to slip sonething in that has been mentioned on there profile 1. To prove I had red it and 2. That is something I like or have in common with them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Plus should I give my reason as to why I can't accom, as I see some post say that they think they are hiding something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Finally verified, so I'm new to the site, and not had much luck as if yet, plus I could ask here until my picture was sorted.

So just asking on advice and where I could improve my chances really."

No profile pic, nothing in profile other than you want sex, what makes you an different from all the other thousands one liner wonders? Gosh make some effort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a bum pic up, if you have a remote shutter a phone stand and a camera phone, you're well away. Or a face pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wouldn't a bum pic draw more men in than women or do women like a good bum on shoe

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Wouldn't a bum pic draw more men in than women or do women like a good bum on shoe"

so what if men look? you can't catch the ghey from men looking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not meant in a nasty way of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wouldn't a bum pic draw more men in than women or do women like a good bum on shoe"

Only because there are more men than women on fab

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Wouldn't a bum pic draw more men in than women or do women like a good bum on shoe"
Most ladies like a nice bum pic and if you go into account, messages filters then choose the block single males you'll have no problems, men may still look but they won't be able to message you if interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes that is true by a mile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh I didn't know about that feature

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By *hrobinhoodMan
over a year ago

arnold, Nottingham

Don't think it matters what pic you have up as everyone is looking for different things.....beauty is in the eye .. etc etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Finally verified, so I'm new to the site, and not had much luck as if yet, plus I could ask here until my picture was sorted.

So just asking on advice and where I could improve my chances really.

No profile pic, nothing in profile other than you want sex, what makes you an different from all the other thousands one liner wonders? Gosh make some effort! "

Is that what this site is for sex, yes meeting new people and making friends to, but isn't the main reason nearly everyone is here is to find someone to meet and hopefully have regular sex

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"Finally verified, so I'm new to the site, and not had much luck as if yet, plus I could ask here until my picture was sorted.

So just asking on advice and where I could improve my chances really.

No profile pic, nothing in profile other than you want sex, what makes you an different from all the other thousands one liner wonders? Gosh make some effort!

Is that what this site is for sex, yes meeting new people and making friends to, but isn't the main reason nearly everyone is here is to find someone to meet and hopefully have regular sex "

Yes, but YOU have yo make the effort to stand out and make yourself interesting enough for people to want to meet and/or have sex with!

This place is chock a block with single guys - if you don't stand out you will be passed by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello and welcome to the forums!

Here is some advice. Take what you want, leave what you want.

Pictures: Try to have some good pictures with good variety in your public gallery. A face (if you can), a full body shot, and a bum pic usually go over well. You can keep a dick pic in private for those women who like to see that before meeting you. If you have a face pic, smile in it. Sad face pics don't tend to go over well.

Text: The text should reflect you and what you are looking for, along with what you can offer to a potential meet. Try to show your personality. A bit of fun and wit is often appreciated. Make it long enough to say something, but short enough that it will likely be read.

Not being able to accommodate is going to hurt you. I know it isn't fair, but that is just how it is.

If you are really interested in the scene and want a better chance of meeting people, try going to some socials and clubs. They are a great opportunity to meet people without relying just on your profile. Its up to you.

Messages: Don;t use the scatter-gun approach to messages. I would recommend choosing a few people that you really like the look of and sending them each a tailored message. It does not have to be war and peace, but it should be friendly and directed at them specifically for the best results. If you can attach a face pic that is a bonus.

I hope this helps. Give it some time and effort and see how you get on.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats some very good and sound advice thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey guys,

I'm new to the forums at least ()and i'm willing to contribute to topics which appeal.. just wondering if you wise sages would give me the same treatment as the OP. - Just lay it on me. haha

what impressions does it give? (its been a while since I wrote it anyway and the formatting's kinda wrong so don't start going all Grammar Nazi on me..

Oh, and I've got other pics.. just ask!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats some very good and sound advice thank you "

Browse some other profiles and ask yourself why someone would pick yours above theirs.

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By *offee and Cream 2Couple (MM)
over a year ago

Loughborough

What does Borden mean!

Read your own profile and check grammar, punctuation, and spelling.......

If in doubt, get a friend to help you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have I missed something? What's a borden?

Why would someone pick someone else? I guess that's about specificity..I *could* be more specific.. Tend to let the photos do the talkin' though. haha

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By *offee and Cream 2Couple (MM)
over a year ago

Loughborough

"and to Borden my horizons" it says on the last line of profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quit while your still sane and save yourself the hassle it ain't worth it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the spell check! :P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yep sorted i knew it looked wrong

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

To be honest I think it's worse but if your happy with it good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not attractive, sorry

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

You'll be needing a lot of luck op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crazy eyes

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

OP: look at my avatar photo and Pinnochios avatar and compare to yours. Imagine a lady is looking for sex.....who do you think she would choose? A teasing bum photo or a sunny body pic or a thin eyes photo?

Think about it from a ladies point of view.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Your profile is all about what you want and about fulfilling your fantasies, not considerate of others or what you have to offer to please them.

It mostly says you want lots of sex and that's it....

Good luck with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP: look at my avatar photo and Pinnochios avatar and compare to yours. Imagine a lady is looking for sex.....who do you think she would choose? A teasing bum photo or a sunny body pic or a thin eyes photo?

Think about it from a ladies point of view. "

good advice

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"OP: look at my avatar photo and Pinnochios avatar and compare to yours. Imagine a lady is looking for sex.....who do you think she would choose? A teasing bum photo or a sunny body pic or a thin eyes photo?

Think about it from a ladies point of view.

good advice "

Mine obs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv been on here for 3 months,and just started to get replies to messages and sort meets out,you have to look at it from the perspective of who you are meeting. If you are messaging someone,imagine how many others are,imaging you are them and you get 100s of messages a day,why should they choose you? Its going to take time,just enjoy what the site offers and take your time with it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Iv been on here for 3 months,and just started to get replies to messages and sort meets out,you have to look at it from the perspective of who you are meeting. If you are messaging someone,imagine how many others are,imaging you are them and you get 100s of messages a day,why should they choose you? Its going to take time,just enjoy what the site offers and take your time with it."

Good attitude

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