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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all,

I have, over the last month sent many messages out that are still showing as being unread.

Would it be impolite to send a message again??

What is the protocol in this type of situation??

Currently I have only had one message replied to and it's a little demoralising

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply means they are not interested.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

the sites FAQ's say a no reply is a no thank you so probably best not to send another message

You are competing with a large proportion of men for that one lady a large amount of rejection in this form and by way of messaging no thanks is the name of the game, if you can't handle that this probably isn't the best site for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I understand the no reply, no interest.. But, if it hasn't even been opened, so it's unread, then it could have been missed... Couldnt it??

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It could be that they've looked at the first line preview of your message and decided not to open it.

It could be that they looked at your profile before they opened the message and you're not what they're looking for.

It could be that they wade through their inbox once a week.

It could be that they've been chatting to others and your message has fallen off the page.

It could be any number of things but I'd be inclined to not pester someone twice. If they didn't reply to the first message the chances are it's a no.

You could do yourself a favour and delete all your sent items then you'll not know. Or just don't keep checking whether they've been read or not. Move on to the next profile that interests you and drop them a message.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend


"I understand the no reply, no interest.. But, if it hasn't even been opened, so it's unread, then it could have been missed... Couldnt it?? "

They've clicked on your profile and pics before reading the message and then decided not to meet you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

You could do yourself a favour and delete all your sent items then you'll not know. Or just don't keep checking whether they've been read or not. Move on to the next profile that interests you and drop them a message.

"

I will take your advice and just delete, then, if I get a message back it will be a unexpected bonus... Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I understand the no reply, no interest.. But, if it hasn't even been opened, so it's unread, then it could have been missed... Couldnt it??

They've clicked on your profile and pics before reading the message and then decided not to meet you xx"

In that case why not just delete as well too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand the no reply, no interest.. But, if it hasn't even been opened, so it's unread, then it could have been missed... Couldnt it??

They've clicked on your profile and pics before reading the message and then decided not to meet you xx

In that case why not just delete as well too. "

I'm too lazy to delete messages sometimes I just mass delete or let them fall off the end.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well that's it now. They are all deleted so I will never know.... Onwards and upwards

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Well that's it now. They are all deleted so I will never know.... Onwards and upwards "

Best way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

... All of the above is very true! Or it could, indeed as you suggested, mean that the original email was missed / bulk deleted etc.

Up to you if you want to try again based on your gut feel I guess!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... All of the above is very true! Or it could, indeed as you suggested, mean that the original email was missed / bulk deleted etc.

Up to you if you want to try again based on your gut feel I guess!

"

Or horn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally they do get lost in a whole load of messages, I have a few I can't find as I leave messages for S to read and respond to as well so I don't get around to deleting them

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"the sites FAQ's say a no reply is a no thank you so probably best not to send another message

You are competing with a large proportion of men for that one lady a large amount of rejection in this form and by way of messaging no thanks is the name of the game, if you can't handle that this probably isn't the best site for you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the words of Frozen - just let it go.

Certainly don't resend. She/he is obviously busy or inundated with messages.

If you think its the latter then try come up with summat eye catching next time you mssg someone

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"Well that's it now. They are all deleted so I will never know.... Onwards and upwards "

Best thing to do - don't get fixated on the people who obviously aren't interested - focus your attention on the ones that are!

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Hi all,

I have, over the last month sent many messages out that are still showing as being unread.

Would it be impolite to send a message again??

What is the protocol in this type of situation??

Currently I have only had one message replied to and it's a little demoralising "

If we receive a message then we usually just click on the profile first, if we are not interested in meeting that person then we usually just delete the message without reading it, this is probably what has happened in your case, just take it has a not interested and move on

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