FabSwingers.com forum: I think that I'm a good catch... So why don't I get a reply?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I'm kinda new to this...

Not the ugliest guy out there, not the fittest but I'd possibly give myself a 7/10... Got a banging personality too - so why don't I get many replies to the select few I seem to message?

What am I doing wrong? Haha

All help/advice is welcome ??

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't k ow, but if its not working try a different approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clearer photos maybe? You've got a nice body it seems, but looking through the reflection of a window is a bit odd.

What are you saying in direct messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe put a bit of effort into your profile text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not many do get replies on here...just take a look at some of the message threads fella...all will come good for you im sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience is the key lol"
haha you tell em shag

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Pictures are quite obscure and blurry and you profile doesn't really say much about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're getting some replies take that as success on here.

Not everyone will reply. Many people are already busy on here, it's hard deciding to speak to new guys coz half of them turn into sex chat/fantasists within 2 messages and it's boring for some of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's takes time and patience padawan. Focus on yourself, get to socials and clubs, meet people. There are 10 guys to every woman on site so they can and will be picky, most will nitpick from profiles but would be happy to chat in person. Don't get frustrated allow time to get known.

This isn't an immediate results site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience is the key lol haha you tell em shag "
lol that's right I do

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Depends what you say, dude.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"So I'm kinda new to this...

Not the ugliest guy out there, not the fittest but I'd possibly give myself a 7/10... Got a banging personality too - so why don't I get many replies to the select few I seem to message?

What am I doing wrong? Haha

All help/advice is welcome ?? "

I don't think you're doing anything wrong really, you've only been here 5 weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like clearer pics of you for a start.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Think of your profile as a shop window. If you looked in a shop window and there was half a product there with no description of what it did would it make you want to try it?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Pictures are quite obscure and blurry and you profile doesn't really say much about you "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get some decent pictures. Have a look at some of the successful guys' profiles. See how they use them to convey their personalities and what they have to offer as well as what they want. Get to know women and couples on the site through the forum and the chat rooms. Get to socials and clubs. Make sure your messages are personalised and related to the profile and convey your sense of humour.......

There's no reason why you can't become successful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is pretty shite tbh.. Needs better pics and clearer. Also your bio doesn't really say anything that stands out... Write likes, wants, what you can offer etc etc

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Men's profiles are like those little dishes of Japanese food that circuit endlessly waiting to picked by sexy ladies, who can pick and choose amongst so many - you see them with their chopsticks poised, some greedily stuffing a couples of dishes in, some delicately nibbling and a lot who are just waiting for the next dish. Which should they choose? A small portion of undercooked plain rice? No, I don't think so either......how about that one they can see plainly? There's a bright flourish on top to catch their eye, some good solid meat, looks tasty! Yum! They choose that profile.....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Anyway, if you don't get meets, you can always wank over all the pics*

*a friend says.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm kinda new to this...

Not the ugliest guy out there, not the fittest but I'd possibly give myself a 7/10... Got a banging personality too - so why don't I get many replies to the select few I seem to message?

What am I doing wrong? Haha

All help/advice is welcome ?? "

It's just how the site goes, we all get ignored, I've lost count of the amount of men I have mailed and got no reply, bloody loads, its not necessarily anything your doing wrong we just can't appeal to everybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men's profiles are like those little dishes of Japanese food that circuit endlessly waiting to picked by sexy ladies, who can pick and choose amongst so many - you see them with their chopsticks poised, some greedily stuffing a couples of dishes in, some delicately nibbling and a lot who are just waiting for the next dish. Which should they choose? A small portion of undercooked plain rice? No, I don't think so either......how about that one they can see plainly? There's a bright flourish on top to catch their eye, some good solid meat, looks tasty! Yum! They choose that profile....."

This is brilliant & so right.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"So I'm kinda new to this...

Not the ugliest guy out there, not the fittest but I'd possibly give myself a 7/10... Got a banging personality too - so why don't I get many replies to the select few I seem to message?

What am I doing wrong? Haha

All help/advice is welcome ?? "

Reality check! You think you're all that and a bag of chips and think women should be honoured you contact them.

...ego taking a bruising because you're not balls deep in pum pum?!!

Make an effort, reign in the arrogance, relax and enjoy.

Oh, welcome and good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience is the key lol"
hands shag a pack of Haribos good job

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Pum Pum"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha thanks guys for your feedback, perhaps I have been a bit too lazy on here profile wise...

I appreciate all of you for spending time to post on this forum

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

Your looking for a submissive short milf. That narrows the field to start with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience is the key lol hands shag a pack of Haribos good job

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Thanks and they are my favorites, mmmmm cola bottles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can anyone give me some pointers to were I am going wrong please as no 1 seems to want to get to know me or want to do anything with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to put time and effort in, when you get one meet you will get more. Send a face pic with your first message people want them so just send one. Your looking for a submissive petite milf? How many women who meet on here fit your description? Be less specific and send friendly messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that I'm a good catch... So why don't I get a reply?

Maybe you should try messaging yourself then!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"I do that "

That wasn't a reply to your post.

You need to start a new thread rather than hijacking this one,

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"So I'm kinda new to this...

Not the ugliest guy out there, not the fittest but I'd possibly give myself a 7/10... Got a banging personality too - so why don't I get many replies to the select few I seem to message?

What am I doing wrong? Haha

All help/advice is welcome ?? "

OP your trying to hard taking your search for meets to seriously this leads to disappointment when things don't happen .

Try to change the way you look at your search instead of making it a big thing linked to how you view yourself ....I'E getting no meets what am I doing wrong what's wrong with me .

If you can do this you will enjoy the search and that will come across in everything you do during your search turning you into a confident positive person two very attractive traits .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's one of the best analogies I've read, nice work.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Sorry "

Wasn't criticizing you mate just trying to help you by saying its only a search lighten up on the search then you won't feel down on yourself when things aren't happening as fast as you would like .

We have all been their mate ripping ourselves apart when theirs nothing wrong with us its just the nature of the search making us second guess ourselves .

Be yourself in all your dealings with others and your personality will gel with someone leading to meets .

I apologize if my first post come across as being a bit harsh not my intent at all.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Can anyone give me some pointers to were I am going wrong please as no 1 seems to want to get to know me or want to do anything with me

How about reading the advice that has bee left for other people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can anyone give me some pointers to were I am going wrong please as no 1 seems to want to get to know me or want to do anything with me

How about reading the advice that has bee left for other people?"

You're on fire today.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm kinda new to this...

Not the ugliest guy out there, not the fittest but I'd possibly give myself a 7/10... Got a banging personality too - so why don't I get many replies to the select few I seem to message?

What am I doing wrong? Haha

My advice to you is read every profile thoroughly ,compose an interesting essay as your introduction to the gorgeous lady concerned ,send only face and body pics NO COCK they've seen it all before and cocks are ugly ,then sit back and wait for replies to come flooding in

All help/advice is welcome ?? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have to put time and effort in, when you get one meet you will get more. Send a face pic with your first message people want them so just send one. Your looking for a submissive petite milf? How many women who meet on here fit your description? Be less specific and send friendly messages"

Just because I'm on here it doesn't mean I am desperate for any woman, I know it's a long shot but I'm going for a short submissive milf

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So I'm kinda new to this...

Not the ugliest guy out there, not the fittest but I'd possibly give myself a 7/10... Got a banging personality too - so why don't I get many replies to the select few I seem to message?

What am I doing wrong? Haha

All help/advice is welcome ??

OP your trying to hard taking your search for meets to seriously this leads to disappointment when things don't happen .

Try to change the way you look at your search instead of making it a big thing linked to how you view yourself ....I'E getting no meets what am I doing wrong what's wrong with me .

If you can do this you will enjoy the search and that will come across in everything you do during your search turning you into a confident positive person two very attractive traits ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey guys I'm also having this problem too. I also like to think I'm good looking and have a great personality but seem to be getting no where. Not sure if it's my pictures or my messages I try to talk first and get no reply which makes me think I need to be more or a shit and just ask to meet but that's crappy and not what I want can anyone help or give me some guidance cheers Dan. X

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Hey guys I'm also having this problem too. I also like to think I'm good looking and have a great personality but seem to be getting no where. Not sure if it's my pictures or my messages I try to talk first and get no reply which makes me think I need to be more or a shit and just ask to meet but that's crappy and not what I want can anyone help or give me some guidance cheers Dan. X"

Same advice as above.

You need to start your own thread...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because I'm on here it doesn't mean I am desperate for any woman, I know it's a long shot but I'm going for a short submissive milf

How tall

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Maybe people are not looking to catch anything?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't matter what you say in your messages as it's a crap profile - naff pics, content a bit off putting...if you messaged me then I'm sorry to say, I would just delete.

I also hate it when guys say 'ask for a face pic' - personally I can't be arsed as there's plenty who have face pics visible or in messages already.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

You describe your personality as "banging", whatever that means, but should be able to convey that in your profile rather than describe it..

Also, in your profile you say

"I don't have a problem getting girls, but that's all I seem to attract when I'm out and about... So maybe a change?"

Sounds as if you are tired of attracting girls and fancy a change... a bit confusing.

The profile definitely needs more work.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"You describe your personality as "banging", whatever that means, but should be able to convey that in your profile rather than describe it..

Also, in your profile you say

"I don't have a problem getting girls, but that's all I seem to attract when I'm out and about... So maybe a change?"

Sounds as if you are tired of attracting girls and fancy a change... a bit confusing.

The profile definitely needs more work."

I took that line to mean he's after older ladies with more experience and for that reason he sees them as women not girls, however to most that's gonna scream I wanna try and explore my bisexuality and want men for a change instead, don't think he quite thought that line through properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm kinda new to this...

Not the ugliest guy out there, not the fittest but I'd possibly give myself a 7/10... Got a banging personality too - so why don't I get many replies to the select few I seem to message?

What am I doing wrong? Haha

All help/advice is welcome ?? "

Your profile text and photos do not reflect you being a good catch. Improve them. Browse some successful male profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because I'm on here it doesn't mean I am desperate for any woman, I know it's a long shot but I'm going for a short submissive milf

How tall

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see if your 6'6 then 6' is short but if you're 5'3 then 4'10 is short think at this end of short you will be struggling to get a submissive mother

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

'Milf'

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

My wonderful other half is a petite, submissive MILF!

*air punch*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try updating your profile

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Clearer pics..some of us are purely visual creatures

I read it as meaning you wanted to explore more than women too..was that your intention?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think you are that good a catch and you are good at pulling...As per you profile..why are you bothering on here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Your profile comments are very off putting...and what do you want after 6 weeks....your success on here will only be measured on the amount of effort you put in..Marking profile out of 10..so far I would only give you a 2..maybe a low 3!!!! lol....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because I'm on here it doesn't mean I am desperate for any woman, I know it's a long shot but I'm going for a short submissive milf

I think I'd match your criteria but I can't see you properly, you definitely need some clearer pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because I'm on here it doesn't mean I am desperate for any woman, I know it's a long shot but I'm going for a short submissive milf

I think I'd match your criteria but I can't see you properly, you definitely need some clearer pics

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hey man if Alabama is short and a milf I can vouch for the arse god best bum 2015 get in their quick ,lightening doesn't strike twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because I'm on here it doesn't mean I am desperate for any woman, I know it's a long shot but I'm going for a short submissive milf

I think I'd match your criteria but I can't see you properly, you definitely need some clearer pics

hey man if Alabama is short and a milf I can vouch for the arse god best bum 2015 get in their quick ,lightening doesn't strike twice

Lol are you my pimp?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because I'm on here it doesn't mean I am desperate for any woman, I know it's a long shot but I'm going for a short submissive milf

I think I'd match your criteria but I can't see you properly, you definitely need some clearer pics

hey man if Alabama is short and a milf I can vouch for the arse god best bum 2015 get in their quick ,lightening doesn't strike twice

Lol are you my pimp?

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hey trying to kill two birds with one stone here he needs a date you are gorgeous and you quite fancy him ,millionaire matchmaker or what ok pimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried googly eyes on your penis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You state you want a MILF who is preferably submissive... You message people, they will look at your profile see that and may not be a MILF or submissive, so don't bother with you.

To me the rest of your profile comes across quite arrogant; which is off putting!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Tons of good clear advice has been offered but little or no changes to the profile after all this time...

I wonder if it is really advice the OP is after...

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By *acLe0dMan
over a year ago

Preston

If I knew the secret to getting replies. I would write a book which would no doubt be a top seller.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

There is nothing to entice, it is all about bragging! Not a good trait in my opinion

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"If I knew the secret to getting replies. I would write a book which would no doubt be a top seller.

If you could get replies you'd be too busy having fun to write a book.....

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

Just because I'm on here it doesn't mean I am desperate for any woman, I know it's a long shot but I'm going for a short submissive milf

you own its a long shot..someone short..highly possible, submissive to a 25 yr old...rare in the category of a'milf..because some 'milfs' dont like being called a milf..or they have kids your age and laugh a the though of anyone using that terminology could be mature enough to dom them with proficiency...

so your long shot becomes one in a million on here..

just saying.. better pics, widen you search whilst adding your preference, say how you dom and what you expect, and do all the other good stuff socials/ clubs etc..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your profile pic to something that grabs the attention. Not a cock pic. Something seductive.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I am always amazed by the number of guys that complain that they aren't having success on Fab. You have to be very lucky to get a free fuck from an attractive single woman or a woman in a couple based upon little more than a few lines of text in an unsolicited message.

I have lots of fun with single guys (often with more than one at once!) but in clubs, where the guys bother to go out, dress well, behave politely and considerately and impress me with their charming personalities. This requires effort but certainly pays off. Dashing off a message requires no effort and doesn't pay off - at least as far as I, and probably a lot of other women, are concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tons of good clear advice has been offered but little or no changes to the profile after all this time...

I wonder if it is really advice the OP is after..."

Sorry I have a life outside of fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just because I'm on here it doesn't mean I am desperate for any woman, I know it's a long shot but I'm going for a short submissive milf

so your long shot becomes one in a million on here..

just saying.. better pics, widen you search whilst adding your preference, say how you dom and what you expect, and do all the other good stuff socials/ clubs etc.."

Points duly noted... Although I might be quite the catch for some older ladies who don't mind being called a MILF and like guys as old as their children...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Change your profile pic to something that grabs the attention. Not a cock pic. Something seductive.

I'm not quite sure if I know how to be seductive in terms of pictures, any ideas?

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"Patience is the key lol"

what for? So he can come back in a year after being patient and say the exact same thing, because nothings changed because he just sat back waiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey who can say the right thing on here what's right for one is totally wrong for another , I asked a woman once what she did for work and how old her children were having just told her i was a carpenter and had two daughters I got told off like I was a naughty schoolboy for asking and ultimately blocked because I didn't want to be one of many ,the woman concerned would appear to be lovely but a touch eccentric .fact is we are all different ,patience and a thick skin are the key to success on here ,they say read the profile but sometimes you're asleep by the end of it don't do this don't do that ,just send a polite informative message with a face pic and someones bound to respond eventually " patience is the key" hehe

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