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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it me or does it feel like it's the luck of the draw if you get a reply from a female never mind a meet

All I want is action quick introduction and show you me when you see me

I read profiles and make sure I Tailor majority of my messages depending on what's on the profile.

If im honest most women say I don't want a boring message saying hi when the grand scheme of it there profile is quite monotonous or negative so what do you expect

Even when I muster a decent first message majority of my messages get deleted or unread and the few that do reply tend to taper off even before I can reply with a 3rd decent message

I'm just like Wahhhh is going on...

Thought I would have a rant on the forum

If anyone got any suggestions to improve my profile or generally find the right girls or FB your input would be amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just you. Chin up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It tends to go through phases for me to be honest. Sometimes I won't get a reply others I get a few replies. Just stick it out mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why the insistence on the codeword then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite often it isn't the guys fault exactly. His profile will be good, pics sexy, great message that can be replied to. We just haven't got time to meet everyone or chat to everyone, and we'll be prioritising the guys who we like best and are most interested in.

And many of us ladies don't want the hassle that 'might' come from rejecting someone, if you're wondering why we don't reply to do that either.

Will admit i get a fair amount of shit messages as well, and this is what makes your profile become ranty and miserable (if you let it). Same for people demanding face pics so they don't have to ask, they likely don't have time to ask and wanna filter guys out as soon as possible to save time.

Also, so many guys treat us like were nymphomaniacs that are desperate for a fuck and they're the only guy around, it can (and does for me) get to the point where you can feel a little dehumanised, like a piece of meat and just a fanny. And this is when you just get to the point where you just think fuck it, can't be arsed with men at all.

Luckily the decent guys on here can drag you out of that mindset and remind you that you are valuable in your own right and not an object here to be used by someone selfish.

So there's my opinion anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite often it isn't the guys fault exactly. His profile will be good, pics sexy, great message that can be replied to. We just haven't got time to meet everyone or chat to everyone, and we'll be prioritising the guys who we like best and are most interested in.

And many of us ladies don't want the hassle that 'might' come from rejecting someone, if you're wondering why we don't reply to do that either.

Will admit i get a fair amount of shit messages as well, and this is what makes your profile become ranty and miserable (if you let it). Same for people demanding face pics so they don't have to ask, they likely don't have time to ask and wanna filter guys out as soon as possible to save time.

Also, so many guys treat us like were nymphomaniacs that are desperate for a fuck and they're the only guy around, it can (and does for me) get to the point where you can feel a little dehumanised, like a piece of meat and just a fanny. And this is when you just get to the point where you just think fuck it, can't be arsed with men at all.

Luckily the decent guys on here can drag you out of that mindset and remind you that you are valuable in your own right and not an object here to be used by someone selfish.

So there's my opinion anyway."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks Fair Maiden.

OP, to give you an idea:

got 4 messages in the past two minutes, one is someone i like talking to, he will get a reply and we'll probably be chatting intensely from now on coz we do that already.

one is from someone who has messaged me a few times, i do fancy him abut never had time to talk to him before today, we're getting on so the messages are continuous.

one from someone, can't say what but it's shit, i don't care to talk to him and am busy anyway.

one from someone i should politely reply to but don't feel like it. just because.

and while i'm chatting to the people i wanna chat to others will be messaging me as well, i may reply to them or not, i'm busy but not too busy so it's up to the message really and whether i find them attractive or not.

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By *ibbardMan
over a year ago

Dunford Bridge

I'm beginning to think I'd have better luck in a nunnery, rather than be tapping away on a tiny smart phone keyboard, only to have a message unread, deleted and wasted my time

It reminds me of going to a night club, some women will and some won't. That becomes boring after a while, and you end up going home and walking away dismayed thinking every.ne 'is doing' (to quote kevin&perry), except me!

Mind you, if I fell into a barrel of tits I'd probably come out sucking my thumb, ah-oh...

I've wasted enough valuable time typing this in and I could have been typing in another 'individual, non-generic' message to be washed down the pan of fabs!

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By *herryhott1Man
over a year ago

Cork


"Is it me or does it feel like it's the luck of the draw if you get a reply from a female never mind a meet

All I want is action quick introduction and show you me when you see me

I read profiles and make sure I Tailor majority of my messages depending on what's on the profile.

If im honest most women say I don't want a boring message saying hi when the grand scheme of it there profile is quite monotonous or negative so what do you expect

Even when I muster a decent first message majority of my messages get deleted or unread and the few that do reply tend to taper off even before I can reply with a 3rd decent message

I'm just like Wahhhh is going on...

Thought I would have a rant on the forum

If anyone got any suggestions to improve my profile or generally find the right girls or FB your input would be amazing "

I hear ya bro...certainly no prob with messages from other dudes tho :-X

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By *ery curious maleMan
over a year ago

Bishop Auckland

It's a numbers game. Thousands of men to each woman I would imagine !

Keep going and perhaps get yourself to a social in your area so you can meet people on the flesh so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite often it isn't the guys fault exactly. His profile will be good, pics sexy, great message that can be replied to. We just haven't got time to meet everyone or chat to everyone, and we'll be prioritising the guys who we like best and are most interested in.

And many of us ladies don't want the hassle that 'might' come from rejecting someone, if you're wondering why we don't reply to do that either.

Will admit i get a fair amount of shit messages as well, and this is what makes your profile become ranty and miserable (if you let it). Same for people demanding face pics so they don't have to ask, they likely don't have time to ask and wanna filter guys out as soon as possible to save time.

Also, so many guys treat us like were nymphomaniacs that are desperate for a fuck and they're the only guy around, it can (and does for me) get to the point where you can feel a little dehumanised, like a piece of meat and just a fanny. And this is when you just get to the point where you just think fuck it, can't be arsed with men at all.

Luckily the decent guys on here can drag you out of that mindset and remind you that you are valuable in your own right and not an object here to be used by someone selfish.

So there's my opinion anyway."

This exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe not for everyone but I have to say I've tried everything on here.

The tailoring of my message to the persons profile, the full introduction of myself, trying to be funny and I do admit trying the full on, almost creepy approach with very few replies to any.

But since I've written a story in the forums, I've actually had 3 couples and 2 women contact me, an absolute first

Maybe the way to do it is to get your personality out there where people look (ie these forums) then let the people who are looking for someone like you do the finding

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or does it feel like it's the luck of the draw if you get a reply from a female never mind a meet

All I want is action quick introduction and show you me when you see me

I read profiles and make sure I Tailor majority of my messages depending on what's on the profile.

If im honest most women say I don't want a boring message saying hi when the grand scheme of it there profile is quite monotonous or negative so what do you expect

Even when I muster a decent first message majority of my messages get deleted or unread and the few that do reply tend to taper off even before I can reply with a 3rd decent message

I'm just like Wahhhh is going on...

Thought I would have a rant on the forum

If anyone got any suggestions to improve my profile or generally find the right girls or FB your input would be amazing

I hear ya bro...certainly no prob with messages from other dudes tho :-X"

I have a idea. How about don't message anyone and just put a meet up. If they are interested they will contact you.

Guys don't realize that men sign up to this site every day. And they message women and couples the minute they sign up. This does 2 things . Inflate egos , and gives away power.

Become the prey not the hunter.

Also if you can host that helps a lot.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not just you. Chin up. "
thanks I will keep trying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe not for everyone but I have to say I've tried everything on here.

The tailoring of my message to the persons profile, the full introduction of myself, trying to be funny and I do admit trying the full on, almost creepy approach with very few replies to any.

But since I've written a story in the forums, I've actually had 3 couples and 2 women contact me, an absolute first

Maybe the way to do it is to get your personality out there where people look (ie these forums) then let the people who are looking for someone like you do the finding "
. Yeah I agree I have tried most apart apart from the creepy but will stick to my guns cheers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Quite often it isn't the guys fault exactly. His profile will be good, pics sexy, great message that can be replied to. We just haven't got time to meet everyone or chat to everyone, and we'll be prioritising the guys who we like best and are most interested in.

And many of us ladies don't want the hassle that 'might' come from rejecting someone, if you're wondering why we don't reply to do that either.

Will admit i get a fair amount of shit messages as well, and this is what makes your profile become ranty and miserable (if you let it). Same for people demanding face pics so they don't have to ask, they likely don't have time to ask and wanna filter guys out as soon as possible to save time.

Also, so many guys treat us like were nymphomaniacs that are desperate for a fuck and they're the only guy around, it can (and does for me) get to the point where you can feel a little dehumanised, like a piece of meat and just a fanny. And this is when you just get to the point where you just think fuck it, can't be arsed with men at all.

Luckily the decent guys on here can drag you out of that mindset and remind you that you are valuable in your own right and not an object here to be used by someone selfish.

So there's my opinion anyway."

Yeah I totally understand that some guys are quite full on or to the point in the kindest terms but thank you it's nice to get people's POV

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it me or does it feel like it's the luck of the draw if you get a reply from a female never mind a meet

All I want is action quick introduction and show you me when you see me

I read profiles and make sure I Tailor majority of my messages depending on what's on the profile.

If im honest most women say I don't want a boring message saying hi when the grand scheme of it there profile is quite monotonous or negative so what do you expect

Even when I muster a decent first message majority of my messages get deleted or unread and the few that do reply tend to taper off even before I can reply with a 3rd decent message

I'm just like Wahhhh is going on...

Thought I would have a rant on the forum

If anyone got any suggestions to improve my profile or generally find the right girls or FB your input would be amazing

I hear ya bro...certainly no prob with messages from other dudes tho :-X"

I got a whole lot until I changed my mail setting lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to think I'd have better luck in a nunnery, rather than be tapping away on a tiny smart phone keyboard, only to have a message unread, deleted and wasted my time

It reminds me of going to a night club, some women will and some won't. That becomes boring after a while, and you end up going home and walking away dismayed thinking every.ne 'is doing' (to quote kevin&perry), except me!

Mind you, if I fell into a barrel of tits I'd probably come out sucking my thumb, ah-oh...

I've wasted enough valuable time typing this in and I could have been typing in another 'individual, non-generic' message to be washed down the pan of fabs!

"

I feel your pain buddy just seems weird you read and you think hmm I suit what she looking for she loves cock I have one she wants it now I'm available delete lol nah it's all shits n giggles just want to find one or two good FB n I'm a happy bunny

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it me or does it feel like it's the luck of the draw if you get a reply from a female never mind a meet

All I want is action quick introduction and show you me when you see me

I read profiles and make sure I Tailor majority of my messages depending on what's on the profile.

If im honest most women say I don't want a boring message saying hi when the grand scheme of it there profile is quite monotonous or negative so what do you expect

Even when I muster a decent first message majority of my messages get deleted or unread and the few that do reply tend to taper off even before I can reply with a 3rd decent message

I'm just like Wahhhh is going on...

Thought I would have a rant on the forum

If anyone got any suggestions to improve my profile or generally find the right girls or FB your input would be amazing

I hear ya bro...certainly no prob with messages from other dudes tho :-X

I have a idea. How about don't message anyone and just put a meet up. If they are interested they will contact you.

Guys don't realize that men sign up to this site every day. And they message women and couples the minute they sign up. This does 2 things . Inflate egos , and gives away power.

Become the prey not the hunter.

Also if you can host that helps a lot.

Good luck "

Mate you are a legend cheers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why the insistence on the codeword then?"

It's nice to know someone read your profile to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks Fair Maiden.

OP, to give you an idea:

got 4 messages in the past two minutes, one is someone i like talking to, he will get a reply and we'll probably be chatting intensely from now on coz we do that already.

one is from someone who has messaged me a few times, i do fancy him abut never had time to talk to him before today, we're getting on so the messages are continuous.

one from someone, can't say what but it's shit, i don't care to talk to him and am busy anyway.

one from someone i should politely reply to but don't feel like it. just because.

and while i'm chatting to the people i wanna chat to others will be messaging me as well, i may reply to them or not, i'm busy but not too busy so it's up to the message really and whether i find them attractive or not."

I guess you Gotta click or make it worth the woman's time cheers I'm glad you spent the time to message me on the forum lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quite often it isn't the guys fault exactly. His profile will be good, pics sexy, great message that can be replied to. We just haven't got time to meet everyone or chat to everyone, and we'll be prioritising the guys who we like best and are most interested in.

And many of us ladies don't want the hassle that 'might' come from rejecting someone, if you're wondering why we don't reply to do that either.

Will admit i get a fair amount of shit messages as well, and this is what makes your profile become ranty and miserable (if you let it). Same for people demanding face pics so they don't have to ask, they likely don't have time to ask and wanna filter guys out as soon as possible to save time.

Also, so many guys treat us like were nymphomaniacs that are desperate for a fuck and they're the only guy around, it can (and does for me) get to the point where you can feel a little dehumanised, like a piece of meat and just a fanny. And this is when you just get to the point where you just think fuck it, can't be arsed with men at all.

Luckily the decent guys on here can drag you out of that mindset and remind you that you are valuable in your own right and not an object here to be used by someone selfish.

So there's my opinion anyway."

Great post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys on here are very successful. I know me and my friends share some lovely men. However these men would be successful in vanilla life, know how to treat women well and they get swinging. Being a prick with a dick just doesn't cut it on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some guys on here are very successful. I know me and my friends share some lovely men. However these men would be successful in vanilla life, know how to treat women well and they get swinging. Being a prick with a dick just doesn't cut it on here."

Oh no I was raised to be a gentleman and will continue to be I can accept rejection just deflating at times..hopefully I will find someone soon

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By *az_1976Man
over a year ago

Peterborough/Huntingdon

I've messaged someone on here who deleted it with out reading. We just happened tom meet in a club and now we are fantastic fuck buddies. She admitted I am exactly what she was looking for and that she bulk deleted because she had too many "one liners". The morale of this story is get out and meet people in person, make an effort and...oh yeah, it is a lottery

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Another 'professional' who can't spell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks Fair Maiden.

OP, to give you an idea:

got 4 messages in the past two minutes, one is someone i like talking to, he will get a reply and we'll probably be chatting intensely from now on coz we do that already.

one is from someone who has messaged me a few times, i do fancy him abut never had time to talk to him before today, we're getting on so the messages are continuous.

one from someone, can't say what but it's shit, i don't care to talk to him and am busy anyway.

one from someone i should politely reply to but don't feel like it. just because.

and while i'm chatting to the people i wanna chat to others will be messaging me as well, i may reply to them or not, i'm busy but not too busy so it's up to the message really and whether i find them attractive or not.

I guess you Gotta click or make it worth the woman's time cheers I'm glad you spent the time to message me on the forum lol "

No problem.

And you might not click straight away either, in the case of the guy i liked but messaged me a few times when i was busy. I also met a guy i blocked on here because i didn't fancy him, he ended up a fb for a while and i do still like him but i'm not into the same as him sexually so we don't meet now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or does it feel like it's the luck of the draw if you get a reply from a female never mind a meet

All I want is action quick introduction and show you me when you see me

I read profiles and make sure I Tailor majority of my messages depending on what's on the profile.

If im honest most women say I don't want a boring message saying hi when the grand scheme of it there profile is quite monotonous or negative so what do you expect

Even when I muster a decent first message majority of my messages get deleted or unread and the few that do reply tend to taper off even before I can reply with a 3rd decent message

I'm just like Wahhhh is going on...

Thought I would have a rant on the forum

If anyone got any suggestions to improve my profile or generally find the right girls or FB your input would be amazing "
I suggest you give up now most women on here prefer women anyway try POF you're tailored messages just aren't cutting the mustard ,patience is a virtue, HEALTH WARNING Smoking Damages your health

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why the insistence on the codeword then?

It's nice to know someone read your profile to be honest "

So, a woman messages you without including it. You won't reply because of that? I don't think so.

Nor will anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Another 'professional' who can't spell. "

Thanks for you're comment. It was very helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to clubs, plenty of people to interact with and also a fun night out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why the insistence on the codeword then?

It's nice to know someone read your profile to be honest

So, a woman messages you without including it. You won't reply because of that? I don't think so.

Nor will anyone else."

Good point I will change it. Seemed like a good idea at the time.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Your bedroom is messy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your bedroom is messy "
haha I know my ironing board was still out and my bed wasn't made. Might have to get a few new pictures

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Another 'professional' who can't spell.

Thanks for you're comment. It was very helpful. "

At least you took notice and changed it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go to clubs, plenty of people to interact with and also a fun night out "

I am really considering going to chams or the private club soon cheers

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Part of your problem could be that you want to try to get to the action straight away you need to remember that you are a complete stranger! And this is the internet you could be a complete nut job for all they know (I'm not saying you are)so a bit of chatting, even a social meet first can help a lady to feel safer as they have the opportunity to judge your character a bit more, especially if she's to accommodate, that is afterall her home she needs to feel safe in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your bedroom is messy "
you his mum ? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or does it feel like it's the luck of the draw if you get a reply from a female never mind a meet

All I want is action quick introduction and show you me when you see me

I read profiles and make sure I Tailor majority of my messages depending on what's on the profile.

If im honest most women say I don't want a boring message saying hi when the grand scheme of it there profile is quite monotonous or negative so what do you expect

Even when I muster a decent first message majority of my messages get deleted or unread and the few that do reply tend to taper off even before I can reply with a 3rd decent message

I'm just like Wahhhh is going on...

Thought I would have a rant on the forum

If anyone got any suggestions to improve my profile or generally find the right girls or FB your input would be amazing "

Mate, it’s like winning the lottery if you get a response from a woman. The profiles that baffle me are the ones with a dissertation and the usual provide a face pic, no cock pic, no one liners...blah, blah. So the man should send a face pic but we don’t get one in return?! Thank goodness Fab have added the auto removal option when you send a photo!

You write a thought provoking message not the “Fancy a fuck” message and your message get deleted. You can’t win on here!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep me too,theres more cocks on here than anything,not even getting a look in,the woman have more to choose from,you might get lucky,we live in hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your bedroom is messy haha I know my ironing board was still out and my bed wasn't made. Might have to get a few new pictures "

Ironing board??! Show off.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Is it me or does it feel like it's the luck of the draw if you get a reply from a female never mind a meet

All I want is action quick introduction and show you me when you see me

I read profiles and make sure I Tailor majority of my messages depending on what's on the profile.

If im honest most women say I don't want a boring message saying hi when the grand scheme of it there profile is quite monotonous or negative so what do you expect

Even when I muster a decent first message majority of my messages get deleted or unread and the few that do reply tend to taper off even before I can reply with a 3rd decent message

I'm just like Wahhhh is going on...

Thought I would have a rant on the forum

If anyone got any suggestions to improve my profile or generally find the right girls or FB your input would be amazing

Mate, it’s like winning the lottery if you get a response from a woman. The profiles that baffle me are the ones with a dissertation and the usual provide a face pic, no cock pic, no one liners...blah, blah. So the man should send a face pic but we don’t get one in return?! Thank goodness Fab have added the auto removal option when you send a photo!

You write a thought provoking message not the “Fancy a fuck” message and your message get deleted. You can’t win on here!!!

"

Well it's possible they didn't really like the photo...and maybe the message didn't provoke the right kind of thought....

It takes time, but you can win on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it me or does it feel like it's the luck of the draw if you get a reply from a female never mind a meet

All I want is action quick introduction and show you me when you see me

I read profiles and make sure I Tailor majority of my messages depending on what's on the profile.

If im honest most women say I don't want a boring message saying hi when the grand scheme of it there profile is quite monotonous or negative so what do you expect

Even when I muster a decent first message majority of my messages get deleted or unread and the few that do reply tend to taper off even before I can reply with a 3rd decent message

I'm just like Wahhhh is going on...

Thought I would have a rant on the forum

If anyone got any suggestions to improve my profile or generally find the right girls or FB your input would be amazing

Mate, it’s like winning the lottery if youget a response from a woman. The profiles that baffle me are the ones with a dissertation and the usual provide a face pic, no cock pic, no one liners...blah, blah. So the man should send a face pic but we don’t get one in return?! Thank goodness Fab have added the auto removal option when you send a photo!

You write a thought provoking message not the “Fancy a fuck” message and your message get deleted. You can’t win on here!!!

"

It's a lottery and my numbers aren't coming yet. I'm glad it's not just me, I'm guessing it's literally 1000/1 ratio males to a female, odds aren't with us my friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Part of your problem could be that you want to try to get to the action straight away you need to remember that you are a complete stranger! And this is the internet you could be a complete nut job for all they know (I'm not saying you are)so a bit of chatting, even a social meet first can help a lady to feel safer as they have the opportunity to judge your character a bit more, especially if she's to accommodate, that is afterall her home she needs to feel safe in it "

I agree lol if it could even get to that I would be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Part of your problem could be that you want to try to get to the action straight away you need to remember that you are a complete stranger! And this is the internet you could be a complete nut job for all they know (I'm not saying you are)so a bit of chatting, even a social meet first can help a lady to feel safer as they have the opportunity to judge your character a bit more, especially if she's to accommodate, that is afterall her home she needs to feel safe in it

I agree lol if it could even get to that I would be happy "

This is a site for sex or is it a Friendship site? Who wants to chat back and forth thats what Tinder is for..

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Part of your problem could be that you want to try to get to the action straight away you need to remember that you are a complete stranger! And this is the internet you could be a complete nut job for all they know (I'm not saying you are)so a bit of chatting, even a social meet first can help a lady to feel safer as they have the opportunity to judge your character a bit more, especially if she's to accommodate, that is afterall her home she needs to feel safe in it

I agree lol if it could even get to that I would be happy

This is a site for sex or is it a Friendship site? Who wants to chat back and forth thats what Tinder is for.."

If it's a site just for sex meets its pretty pointless having a the chat rooms and forums as they are social aspects of the site, and people organising social and cloud events are clearly wasting their time then

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Part of your problem could be that you want to try to get to the action straight away you need to remember that you are a complete stranger! And this is the internet you could be a complete nut job for all they know (I'm not saying you are)so a bit of chatting, even a social meet first can help a lady to feel safer as they have the opportunity to judge your character a bit more, especially if she's to accommodate, that is afterall her home she needs to feel safe in it

I agree lol if it could even get to that I would be happy

This is a site for sex or is it a Friendship site? Who wants to chat back and forth thats what Tinder is for..

If it's a site just for sex meets its pretty pointless having a the chat rooms and forums as they are social aspects of the site, and people organising social and cloud events are clearly wasting their time then "

Club not cloud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Part of your problem could be that you want to try to get to the action straight away you need to remember that you are a complete stranger! And this is the internet you could be a complete nut job for all they know (I'm not saying you are)so a bit of chatting, even a social meet first can help a lady to feel safer as they have the opportunity to judge your character a bit more, especially if she's to accommodate, that is afterall her home she needs to feel safe in it

I agree lol if it could even get to that I would be happy

This is a site for sex or is it a Friendship site? Who wants to chat back and forth thats what Tinder is for..

If it's a site just for sex meets its pretty pointless having a the chat rooms and forums as they are social aspects of the site, and people organising social and cloud events are clearly wasting their time then "

That is all and well for those who want to socialize. It's not everybody that wants to put their face out there in the open

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Part of your problem could be that you want to try to get to the action straight away you need to remember that you are a complete stranger! And this is the internet you could be a complete nut job for all they know (I'm not saying you are)so a bit of chatting, even a social meet first can help a lady to feel safer as they have the opportunity to judge your character a bit more, especially if she's to accommodate, that is afterall her home she needs to feel safe in it

I agree lol if it could even get to that I would be happy

This is a site for sex or is it a Friendship site? Who wants to chat back and forth thats what Tinder is for..

If it's a site just for sex meets its pretty pointless having a the chat rooms and forums as they are social aspects of the site, and people organising social and cloud events are clearly wasting their time then

That is all and well for those who want to socialize. It's not everybody that wants to put their face out there in the open"

And that's fine if you're not wanting to put your face out in the open its your choice but it can limit your chance further. There's many layers to the swinging scene and what it involves

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


" Even when I muster a decent first message majority of my messages get deleted or unread"

What would make you think it was decent, given the stated evidence?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Your bedroom is messy you his mum ? X "

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"This is a site for sex or is it a Friendship site? Who wants to chat back and forth thats what Tinder is for.."

It's a swingers site and a big part of swinging is social interaction and friendship, so yes it is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Even when I muster a decent first message majority of my messages get deleted or unread

What would make you think it was decent, given the stated evidence? "

It's just my point of view

By taking the time to read the profile and Attempting to find common ground sexually and socially is making a decent effort

Not just a "hi I want to stick my dick in your mouth, pussy and ass then cum all over"

Which is the aim in the first place but there's saying it and doing it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is a site for sex or is it a Friendship site? Who wants to chat back and forth thats what Tinder is for..

It's a swingers site and a big part of swinging is social interaction and friendship, so yes it is "

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


" Even when I muster a decent first message majority of my messages get deleted or unread

What would make you think it was decent, given the stated evidence?

It's just my point of view

By taking the time to read the profile and Attempting to find common ground sexually and socially is making a decent effort

Not just a "hi I want to stick my dick in your mouth, pussy and ass then cum all over"

Which is the aim in the first place but there's saying it and doing it.

"

Not doubting your effort, but in this situation "decent message" is decided by the recipient, not the sender.

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