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Can you go back to monogamous relationships when you have had this lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I came on site as easier not to try relationship thing. Met few people and found some lovely fun friends. I have met someone that could go somewhere but not from fab or swinging. I have always been faithful in any relationship I have had but I've enjoyed having fun friends and variety.

Can people go back to monogamous relationships or is that too hard and too much chance of going off wagon and better to find long term swinging partner. Thanks

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Nobody but you can decide if it's possible for you personally. Some people can and others can't. I think a lot of it depends on if "you" think that any serious, long term relationship should be monogamous....because it is possible to be in a relationship and swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been promiscuous on and off, was faithful to someone for 11 years. So it was possible for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't be a problem for me.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I can't talk about swinging and whether its possible to go back after enjoying the life style .

But I can talk about cheating and the excitement it gives one .

I had my head turned 10 years ago after being faithful for 14 years .I find I can go a while with out the excitement and adventure of elicit dates normally after one such arrangement ends I go into a morning period where I think oh well it was fun now time to stop and just focus on being a good husband my business my life . but then after a few months I start to grow restless again and go looking for a new fuck buddy to have elicit adventures with .

I'm never desparate to find her and when I do if things are going well I don't look for more or another to go alone side the one elicit arrangement I have .

So in answer to your question i'd say yes it is possible to control ones self but only for as long as one wants to .if the day comes when you think you know what I wouldn't mind some of that again your going to go back to it because it was fun simple as that

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

If Mr Right came along, I would be off here, never cheated and never would!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I'm as faithful now as I would ever be able to be and that means only fucking others as a couple. Yes I prefer sex with Mr but I know that neither of us could just have one person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the right guy, no problem. I am loyal that way but if he is not the right guy...back to swinging.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I'm not at all wired for monogamy. Fortunately neither is my wife.

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

If the sex is good enough with that one person? Sure. I've had a few girlfriends with whom the sex was fantastic, time and time again.

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

Being married and on here with my wife, we have had quiet times when we haven't played for a few months. We are also into BDSM although we do not live it 24/7. I can honestly say that I could not give up these life styles. After a period of 'vanilla' life, I become bored with going to 'vanilla' places, doing 'vanilla' things; I need the excitement of being different. I dare say that the time comes when we must all decide we are too old/had enough of this lifestyle. However for me, 3 years since starting it, i hope we have many years of exciting times left.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Not a problem for me, I have a faithful heart and take loyalty to an art form. I actually prefer monogamy.

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian


"Not a problem for me, I have a faithful heart and take loyalty to an art form. I actually prefer monogamy. "

I honestly believe that we live a monogamous relationship, even as swingers. I never ever state that we have an open relationship, as everything we do is together. we are very loyal to one another and never play separately. I find it weird that single men/women are happy to fuck a couple but would never share their partner if/when they get one.

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By *esi tardkaCouple
over a year ago

acton

Don't think we could ever go back .. We just love this lifestyle .. It has made us stronger in our marriage , love for each other .. And it gives us lots of variety to chose from ...,

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

I'd say it's completely possible. However I'd put a few caveats in.

I think I have a over active sex drive, which I do wish I could turn off, but I'm pretty sure I can't.

So yes if the wife never wanted to swing again I'd be fine stopping, but I don't think it would be as easy to stop thinking, fantasising or watching porn.

The other caveat is if I was going to try a long term relationship, I'd want to share everything with them, including my sex life.

If they could not accept that I was previously a swinger then I would not want to hide it.

My wife and me started sharing our sexual fantasies within weeks of going out. I'm so glad we did as it feels amazing to be so open with another person.

She knows everything about me even the bad stuff and it's OK.

So in answer yes you can stop, but I'd also recommend being completely honest and who knows he may surprise you, he may want in or have previous experiences you can't imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I came on site as easier not to try relationship thing. Met few people and found some lovely fun friends. I have met someone that could go somewhere but not from fab or swinging. I have always been faithful in any relationship I have had but I've enjoyed having fun friends and variety.

Can people go back to monogamous relationships or is that too hard and too much chance of going off wagon and better to find long term swinging partner. Thanks "
of course you can this is the lifestyle of tarts you can't be a tart all your life ,we are all searching for something that's why we're here ,couples who are the basis of swinging are looking to spice up dull sex lives in many cases it splits them up ,sex without meaning eventually becomes dull and lackluster

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

FISHING EXPEDITION.

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London


"I came on site as easier not to try relationship thing. Met few people and found some lovely fun friends. I have met someone that could go somewhere but not from fab or swinging. I have always been faithful in any relationship I have had but I've enjoyed having fun friends and variety.

Can people go back to monogamous relationships or is that too hard and too much chance of going off wagon and better to find long term swinging partner. Thanks "

It's possible... If both want the same thing from a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I came on site as easier not to try relationship thing. Met few people and found some lovely fun friends. I have met someone that could go somewhere but not from fab or swinging. I have always been faithful in any relationship I have had but I've enjoyed having fun friends and variety.

Can people go back to monogamous relationships or is that too hard and too much chance of going off wagon and better to find long term swinging partner. Thanks of course you can this is the lifestyle of tarts you can't be a tart all your life ,we are all searching for something that's why we're here ,couples who are the basis of swinging are looking to spice up dull sex lives in many cases it splits them up ,sex without meaning eventually becomes dull and lackluster "

Why would you think that they are spicing up dull sex lives x sex is just sex with others ..m sex with your partner is different and better.. but we like variety and adding extras.

However couldn't see either of is ever just having sex with one person.

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

Why would you want too?

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By *sla69Woman
over a year ago

coventry/Leicestershire border

Ive been on and of this site for a couple of years..when i have met some one vanilla..not a problem for me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am happy been faithful but love it when the girl plays away x

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

depends on individuals. some people are here for the nature of swinging others are here for cover story for something they'll always be/do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll get a load of abuse for saying this but this is all about swinging. Having a strong relationship and playing with others. If we ever stop we will go back to being monogamous but for know we are enjoying sharing with others.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

I'll probably get more stick than you for saying this - the closer myself and my partner get, the less I want to swing or meet others. I have stopped meeting men alone and haven't met a woman for ages - apart from the social side of the lifestyle, it does not tempt me in the slightest - and even now, with him away, I am not in the slightest inclined to meet anyone on my own. Funny how things turn out ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I came on site as easier not to try relationship thing. Met few people and found some lovely fun friends. I have met someone that could go somewhere but not from fab or swinging. I have always been faithful in any relationship I have had but I've enjoyed having fun friends and variety.

Can people go back to monogamous relationships or is that too hard and too much chance of going off wagon and better to find long term swinging partner. Thanks of course you can this is the lifestyle of tarts you can't be a tart all your life ,we are all searching for something that's why we're here ,couples who are the basis of swinging are looking to spice up dull sex lives in many cases it splits them up ,sex without meaning eventually becomes dull and lackluster "

To rise or not to rise? That is the question...

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

I think it would be easier for a woman... Men would struggle

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I think it depends on the person. Mr has no designs on women now, only men ....

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

If and when I do find the woman of my dreams I won't have any problem being with her and her only. I think I'd much rather be in that kind of relationship than a swinging relationship anyway. Not a problem at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very easy. After swinging for 4 years, I got into a vanilla monogamous relationship for 2 years. I didn't cheat nor had the desire to be with anyone else. The swinging lifestyle is like a long holiday. It's fun for awhile, but eventually you have to go back home.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London


"It's very easy. After swinging for 4 years, I got into a vanilla monogamous relationship for 2 years. I didn't cheat nor had the desire to be with anyone else. The swinging lifestyle is like a long holiday. It's fun for awhile, but eventually you have to go back home. "

I totally agree - for me it's about passing the time and stress relief until something better comes along. Never would I let it interfere with the real thing

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!


"I came on site as easier not to try relationship thing. Met few people and found some lovely fun friends. I have met someone that could go somewhere but not from fab or swinging. I have always been faithful in any relationship I have had but I've enjoyed having fun friends and variety.

Can people go back to monogamous relationships or is that too hard and too much chance of going off wagon and better to find long term swinging partner. Thanks "

Certainly not a problem for one of my friends. She was the first lady I had sex with from any swinger`s forum/website, she had left her husband and lived a great distance from him, regularly went to clubs, parties and had several regular swinging partners, sometimes one at the time and sometimes several at once! She then lost both of her long term swinging partners and "returned to religion". To be honest, I preferred the person she was when she was swinging, NOT because I was having sex with her but because she has gone so far the other way and now refuses to have anything to do with her "swinging friends" apart from myself and another mutual friend. Also, her church friends didn`t want to know her whilst she was swinging although they didn`t know fully what she was up to but have welcomed her back "into the fold" as if she had never been away! Two faced bastids!

I still remain friends with her not so much of the friendship with her but because I share mutual interests with her husband!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"It's very easy. After swinging for 4 years, I got into a vanilla monogamous relationship for 2 years. I didn't cheat nor had the desire to be with anyone else. The swinging lifestyle is like a long holiday. It's fun for awhile, but eventually you have to go back home. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I came on site as easier not to try relationship thing. Met few people and found some lovely fun friends. I have met someone that could go somewhere but not from fab or swinging. I have always been faithful in any relationship I have had but I've enjoyed having fun friends and variety.

Can people go back to monogamous relationships or is that too hard and too much chance of going off wagon and better to find long term swinging partner. Thanks "

If you have got into the lifestyle it becomes difficult, FAB frustrates the hell out of me but I still keep coming back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being married and on here with my wife, we have had quiet times when we haven't played for a few months. We are also into BDSM although we do not live it 24/7. I can honestly say that I could not give up these life styles. After a period of 'vanilla' life, I become bored with going to 'vanilla' places, doing 'vanilla' things; I need the excitement of being different. I dare say that the time comes when we must all decide we are too old/had enough of this lifestyle. However for me, 3 years since starting it, i hope we have many years of exciting times left.

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Exactly this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually married a guy that I met here and we both decided that we would give up swinging as it seemed that we both wanted our time alone as neither of us were hardened swingers. I left the scene for the whole 8 and a half years but he did not and was still forming relationships with women here for the whole time. As someone else said, some people can do it and others just can't. xx

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