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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having been on board for a week now with nothing to show, it's obviously time to admit to myself that I am no longer the gorgeous young sex god that I was in the 1970s.

So here I am, cap in hand as it were, to humbly ask for help and advice. I've tried to be honest in my profile, and I've put up a picture that shows me as I am, but I appreciate that I'm very much in a buyers market here.

I'd love to have advice on how to actually strike up a contact with the lovely ladies on here, as I imagine they spend their days being pestered by unattached males looking for a quick shag.

Although, of course, a quick shag would be great,I'm more into the idea of an ongoing thing, where we'd enjoy each other's company as well as each other.

So any tips on how to get past the initial contact to put my message across would be most welcome, as would any other advice, although attending socials would pose problems for me in my current position.

Failing that, ladies, a sympathy shag would be awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doubt anyone would do a sympathy fuck...

Just as many of the young, attractive guys on here have problems getting chat and meets, so will you.

A lot of them want regular meets btw, never slag off other males to make yourself look better, it doesn't work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can't blame guy for trying

Seriously though, any advice on an initial contact would be very welcome, and thanks for the heads up on my initial post. Good point, well made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno really. People will either be interested in you or not, it also depends how much time and effort you want to invest in getting meets.

A lot of people recommend you go to clubs to get yourself known in the swinging world.

Make sure to read profiles to see if people will be interested in you in the first place, don't sound desperate, expect rejection or to be ignored, you have a pic of yourself on your profile so that helps as most people (but not all) definitely ignore profiles without pics.

Make sure your profile is clear on what you want and what you have to offer. Probably someone else will have better advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks AB, much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No problem. Good luck.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

A week? A whole WEEK?! Many single guys are here for months before getting their first meet! Have patience, as has been said many times before, its not Instashag - just having a profile doesn't guarantee you anything. You need to make yourself known, be different, be polite - stand out from the crowd - make ladies want to meet YOU instead of the thousands of other contenders!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been on board for a week now with nothing to show, it's obviously time to admit to myself that I am no longer the gorgeous young sex god that I was in the 1970s.

So here I am, cap in hand as it were, to humbly ask for help and advice. I've tried to be honest in my profile, and I've put up a picture that shows me as I am, but I appreciate that I'm very much in a buyers market here.

I'd love to have advice on how to actually strike up a contact with the lovely ladies on here, as I imagine they spend their days being pestered by unattached males looking for a quick shag.

Although, of course, a quick shag would be great,I'm more into the idea of an ongoing thing, where we'd enjoy each other's company as well as each other.

So any tips on how to get past the initial contact to put my message across would be most welcome, as would any other advice, although attending socials would pose problems for me in my current position.

Failing that, ladies, a sympathy shag would be awesome "

Why cant you go to socials ?

Most people will say that they are the best way to get to know others and get meets, and going to a club too.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington


"Having been on board for a week now with nothing to show, it's obviously time to admit to myself that I am no longer the gorgeous young sex god that I was in the 1970s.

So here I am, cap in hand as it were, to humbly ask for help and advice. I've tried to be honest in my profile, and I've put up a picture that shows me as I am, but I appreciate that I'm very much in a buyers market here.

I'd love to have advice on how to actually strike up a contact with the lovely ladies on here, as I imagine they spend their days being pestered by unattached males looking for a quick shag.

Although, of course, a quick shag would be great,I'm more into the idea of an ongoing thing, where we'd enjoy each other's company as well as each other.

So any tips on how to get past the initial contact to put my message across would be most welcome, as would any other advice, although attending socials would pose problems for me in my current position.

Failing that, ladies, a sympathy shag would be awesome "

Read profiles

Bespoke messages

Be yourself

Decent pics

Acknowledge the size of the pool of guys available on this site and the fact you won't be everybody's cup of tea - and I am sure Shag will tell you, be patient.

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

Hmmmm, cannot accommodate, cannot attend socials, been on 2 weeks and cannot understand why no replies.

What has been said is coming over as attached.

Be totally honest on your profile, tell people why you cannot accommodate, why you cannot attend socials.

If you cannot attend socials how are you going to go to a meet?

Things not adding up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Busted! Although to be fair, I was fishing just a teeny bit. On the interwebs, there are many, many more guys looking for love, sex, whatever, than ladies, so I really wasn't expecting to get any response to just putting up a profile, and waiting for the world to show an interest. This thread has at least got a number of views on my profile.

On the other hand I've had some very good common sense replies from a bunch of friendly people, so thanks to all that took the trouble to give me pointers

I've obviously made a mistake with my profile, as I thought it was fairly clear from the reference to illicit encounters, lack of accommodation etc, that I am in a relationship. That relationship has lasted nearly 40 years, and is extremely treasured and successful. There are aspect of it that don't work as well, especially as the years have passed. I'll just add for those of you old enough to know that James Callaghan was prime minister last time I experienced the joys of a bj.

If I've made a fundamental mistake in my understanding of this site then I'll apologise, and sling my hook. If not, then the consensus seems to be that I fess up in my profile and explicitly state that I'm married and wish to stay that way.

Lastly, I've read a number of profiles of the couples on this site, and have felt not a little envy that you've reached somewhere that I wish my partner and I could be.

thanks again for all your thoughtful replies.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Busted! Although to be fair, I was fishing just a teeny bit. On the interwebs, there are many, many more guys looking for love, sex, whatever, than ladies, so I really wasn't expecting to get any response to just putting up a profile, and waiting for the world to show an interest. This thread has at least got a number of views on my profile.

On the other hand I've had some very good common sense replies from a bunch of friendly people, so thanks to all that took the trouble to give me pointers

I've obviously made a mistake with my profile, as I thought it was fairly clear from the reference to illicit encounters, lack of accommodation etc, that I am in a relationship. That relationship has lasted nearly 40 years, and is extremely treasured and successful. There are aspect of it that don't work as well, especially as the years have passed. I'll just add for those of you old enough to know that James Callaghan was prime minister last time I experienced the joys of a bj.

If I've made a fundamental mistake in my understanding of this site then I'll apologise, and sling my hook. If not, then the consensus seems to be that I fess up in my profile and explicitly state that I'm married and wish to stay that way.

Lastly, I've read a number of profiles of the couples on this site, and have felt not a little envy that you've reached somewhere that I wish my partner and I could be.

thanks again for all your thoughtful replies.

"

I confess that I haven't read the rest of this but I would say your way forward is to mention that you're married, no need for detail.

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

You will struggle by not being honest on your profile.

So if you cannot attend a social as in an evening out, how are you going to meet someone?

A lot of people think married men nit telling their partner what they are doing is cheating.

Try a site for married men.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You will struggle by not being honest on your profile.

So if you cannot attend a social as in an evening out, how are you going to meet someone?

A lot of people think married men nit telling their partner what they are doing is cheating.

Try a site for married men."

A lot of people will meet married men from this site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You will struggle by not being honest on your profile.

So if you cannot attend a social as in an evening out, how are you going to meet someone?

A lot of people think married men nit telling their partner what they are doing is cheating.

Try a site for married men."

Hi Ange, you're right, it would be cheating, and I don't feel particularly good about it. However, I've spent the last 39 years being a good boy, and I'd like to have a bit of plain rude sex before I pop my clogs or end up dribbling in a home somewhere! If you know of a site for married men that isn't Ashley Madison, then please let me know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Profile now amended to remove any ambiguity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will struggle by not being honest on your profile.

So if you cannot attend a social as in an evening out, how are you going to meet someone?

A lot of people think married men nit telling their partner what they are doing is cheating.

Try a site for married men.

Hi Ange, you're right, it would be cheating, and I don't feel particularly good about it. However, I've spent the last 39 years being a good boy, and I'd like to have a bit of plain rude sex before I pop my clogs or end up dribbling in a home somewhere! If you know of a site for married men that isn't Ashley Madison, then please let me know

"

LMAO what's wrong with Ashley Madison

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not ready for the front page of the Daily mail just yet

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