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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hiya guys! I'm totally new to officially swinging and the site itself. I was just wondering how many people are put off by the younger guy (22 seems young when i look around i dont mean to offend) or is there something else about my pics/profile putting people off :P

I know its rare for girls to message guys first and i am realistic about my looks.

I'm a genuine, mature guy looking for like minded ladies, fairly good at judging how forward to be. Havent had a meet through the site but i do meet someone i know in real life who introduced me. Lack of verifications making people not trust me maybe?

Thanks! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a look around the site. Work out the average age profile of the women on here. Then have a think about how old their son's may be. Then look at your pics. You probably look a like a lot of their offspring. Go figure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, I think your age may make it a little harder. But to be fair, you have a decent profile - much more so than many guys of all ages on the site.

5 weeks probably feels like ages but if you have a mooch round the forums you'll find it's pretty standard for a new single guy!

Usual advice then....use chat, the forums and try to get to some socials and just keep plugging away. Try clubs as well perhaps.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you look on the "UK" forum there is a Manchester Social thread. socials are a great way to meet people, chat, let them get to know you in a relaxed fun setting. This may lead to.... And if it doesnt... so what you had a good night out.

Above all... PATIENCE.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Above all... PATIENCE.

Good luck.

Wise words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I would not meet you because of your age, sorry!

However, you have a decent profile, look kind of cute (to me at least), so be patient, don't give up, as I am sure there are ladies out there who would meet you.

Attending social events or hang out in the forums are definitely good ideas to get to know people off FAB for the social element, even if it may not lead to playtime fun.

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By *s_4_uCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"Take a look around the site. Work out the average age profile of the women on here. Then have a think about how old their son's may be. Then look at your pics. You probably look a like a lot of their offspring. Go figure. "

That sounds to me like ure having a bit of dig at him, to be fair we prefer to meet young guys. patience is a virtue. Maybe try get an invite to a party or try join a club. Lots of ageist people on here we have had it they think there is a certain age you have to start swinging at (weirdos) GOOD Luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow you are kinda cute arent youprofile is good but for me your age is definitely off putting (not counting the distance too), prefer my own age group, good luck though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take a look around the site. Work out the average age profile of the women on here. Then have a think about how old their son's may be. Then look at your pics. You probably look a like a lot of their offspring. Go figure.

That sounds to me like ure having a bit of dig at him, to be fair we prefer to meet young guys. patience is a virtue. Maybe try get an invite to a party or try join a club. Lots of ageist people on here we have had it they think there is a certain age you have to start swinging at (weirdos) GOOD Luck "

I think you may have got hold of the wrong end of the stick - and being rude calling other members weirdos doesn't put you in a good light does it!

It's not about being ageist at all, it's about personal preference and what you feel comfortable with. Why have you set your age preference at 50? Why not 70? Guess what? Personal choice, and you wouldn't feel comfortable playing with someone old enough to be your grandparents. You've also said you prefer meeting younger guys - of course you do because you are in that age group too...I doubt you'd really play with a 50 year old!

Therefore, I struggle to understand why you feel some of us wouldn't feel comfortable playing with people the same age - and younger - than our children!!

My children are 19, 23 and 27...therefore for me anyone under 30 I wouldn't be comfortable with. It doesn't mean I, or others don't think they should be here, just that we don't want to play with them, some don't want to play with younger people because they don't think they're mature enough.

Sad to say, I guessed your age before looking by the immature comment you made!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take a look around the site. Work out the average age profile of the women on here. Then have a think about how old their son's may be. Then look at your pics. You probably look a like a lot of their offspring. Go figure.

That sounds to me like ure having a bit of dig at him, to be fair we prefer to meet young guys. patience is a virtue. Maybe try get an invite to a party or try join a club. Lots of ageist people on here we have had it they think there is a certain age you have to start swinging at (weirdos) GOOD Luck "

She is not suggesting at all that there is a certain age that people should start swinging but they are right, ive a son the same age as this gorgeous cutie so wouldnt want to go anywhere near him and there are lots of people on here with kids that find it uncomfortable playing with someone similar age to their kids. Its called preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow you are kinda cute arent youprofile is good but for me your age is definitely off putting (not counting the distance too), prefer my own age group, good luck though "

Forgot to answer the OP!

Agree with Kitten, you're very cute, good profile, nothing wrong whatsoever you're just not in the age group I would ever consider playing with.

Good luck to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not often that I wish I were younger!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd recommend the clubs and consider a hosting night yourself. I realise you don't accomodate, but you're up for hotels: if you prebooked a room, that was cancellable until the day of the session, then you could always do that, if no-one responded by a couple of hours before.

If you can make your profile inviting, and remove anything that may upset others, such as referring to any fetishes as if they're weird or something like that, then you'll not lose someone who may be right for you, but gets put off by the way you've said something.

Whatever you do when you're with others is consensual of course, so even if someone just happens to be into the most extreme sexual fetish doesn't mean that you'll end up doing it.

Aim to make friends, so that you could be invited along, or so that you'd have people that you could chat with at clubs etc. It's potentially worth searching for others who have similar interests - don't think of it as competition, it's just that who you know can be a real asset. If you're a confident person, then attending a club event alone shouldn't be an issue - going with someone, as a 'couple' doesn't need to mean that you're going there to have sex together either and I've escorted (in a non financial way) others who are also chatty and friendly, as sometimes being alone on the outskirts of things can be intimidating for some.

Overall, give things time. The frequency of responses varies, and you'll soon be less of a newbie, but someone who is recognised as established. If you don't have many friends on your friends list, consider hiding it from time to time, so that others don't know how many you have. As you start to become friendly with others, then your friends list will increase: it's not a list of conquests of course, which you're also not looking for.

Your age is what it is, and the only thoughts I have on your photos is to possibly add one of you fully dressed, so that people could see you, as you'd look when meeting in person, before you strip off.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the great comments guys i didnt expect so many :P Just got back from work so i had a good read.

I'll have another look at my profile and see if i can't tinker with it to make myself more appealing. Because of the nature of the site its hard to balance the honesty of what i am looking for and maintain an aura of just being a nice guy since its hugely rare (from the profiles i have read) for a woman to approach a guy. I suppose i am young in terms of the average on the site and i know its all personal choice as to who you talk to so i'll try not to take it personally

I do have a young face to be honest but that pic was also taken a while ago, i take terrible photo's when i know theyre being taken so its hard to find one i like :D I'll try the chat option I've not really had much of a look at that yet.

I'm pretty new to swinging in general and i've been told single guys are on large a bit unwelcome to meets and partys unless invited (with obvious reason)

All help is appreciated and thanks for the helpful comments so far! On a jokey side note.. i am not your son! i jest!!

Tried to reply to everything i read sorry for the wall of text!!

xx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

there is a huge difference between a sex site and a swinging site..... and a lot of single guys, particularly younger single guys... tend to not realise or understand that!

Not in anyway saying that this is you... but that is the feeling that I get

As i seem to be saying a lot at the moment, The site doesn't tend to be "insta-shag".... it can and does take single guys a while! It took me 6 months to get my first meet...

but it is a case of getting yourself known... you do get out what you put in...

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By *s_4_uCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"Take a look around the site. Work out the average age profile of the women on here. Then have a think about how old their son's may be. Then look at your pics. You probably look a like a lot of their offspring. Go figure.

That sounds to me like ure having a bit of dig at him, to be fair we prefer to meet young guys. patience is a virtue. Maybe try get an invite to a party or try join a club. Lots of ageist people on here we have had it they think there is a certain age you have to start swinging at (weirdos) GOOD Luck

I think you may have got hold of the wrong end of the stick - and being rude calling other members weirdos doesn't put you in a good light does it!

It's not about being ageist at all, it's about personal preference and what you feel comfortable with. Why have you set your age preference at 50? Why not 70? Guess what? Personal choice, and you wouldn't feel comfortable playing with someone old enough to be your grandparents. You've also said you prefer meeting younger guys - of course you do because you are in that age group too...I doubt you'd really play with a 50 year old!

Therefore, I struggle to understand why you feel some of us wouldn't feel comfortable playing with people the same age - and younger - than our children!!

My children are 19, 23 and 27...therefore for me anyone under 30 I wouldn't be comfortable with. It doesn't mean I, or others don't think they should be here, just that we don't want to play with them, some don't want to play with younger people because they don't think they're mature enough.

Sad to say, I guessed your age before looking by the immature comment you made!!! "

Any body that thinks you have to start or finish swinging at a certain age in my opinion is a weirdo ! I think its fine everyone has there prefrence as we do. I think the comment that i commented upon was belittleing the op.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"there is a huge difference between a sex site and a swinging site..... and a lot of single guys, particularly younger single guys... tend to not realise or understand that!

Not in anyway saying that this is you... but that is the feeling that I get

As i seem to be saying a lot at the moment, The site doesn't tend to be "insta-shag".... it can and does take single guys a while! It took me 6 months to get my first meet...

but it is a case of getting yourself known... you do get out what you put in...

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Didnt mean to portray myself like that sorry! If i was like that i would have probably left instead of ask where i might be going wrong :D didnt mean to offend! x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"there is a huge difference between a sex site and a swinging site..... and a lot of single guys, particularly younger single guys... tend to not realise or understand that!

Not in anyway saying that this is you... but that is the feeling that I get

As i seem to be saying a lot at the moment, The site doesn't tend to be "insta-shag".... it can and does take single guys a while! It took me 6 months to get my first meet...

but it is a case of getting yourself known... you do get out what you put in...

Didnt mean to portray myself like that sorry! If i was like that i would have probably left instead of ask where i might be going wrong :D didnt mean to offend! x"

don't worry... wasn't aim speciffically at you.... I was just saying that there is a huge difference between a swinging site and a sex site.... Those who see it a merely a "sex site" are the ones who tend to struggle...

we get a lot of people asking for advice, a lot of people see it as trying to make the maximum impact with as minimal effort as possible...

I don't tend to give out advice anymore as people tend to skew their profiles as to what they think people want to hear, as opposed to just being yourself....

the only advice i give to people is: Time, Patience, common sense...

the rest I let people work out for themselves... those who "get it" will understand, Those who don't will complain

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

Doesn't sound as if you have offended anyone. Its just a debate and some have strong opinions. YOu'll get used to it.

Fabio points out something that I agree with. Swinging is not about sex. Well, not about a guy getting his leg over. There are plenty of easier and quicker opportunities for that. If you are interested in getting to know the people behind the profiles and have patience, a lot of patience, you'll be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"there is a huge difference between a sex site and a swinging site..... and a lot of single guys, particularly younger single guys... tend to not realise or understand that!

Not in anyway saying that this is you... but that is the feeling that I get

As i seem to be saying a lot at the moment, The site doesn't tend to be "insta-shag".... it can and does take single guys a while! It took me 6 months to get my first meet...

but it is a case of getting yourself known... you do get out what you put in...

Didnt mean to portray myself like that sorry! If i was like that i would have probably left instead of ask where i might be going wrong :D didnt mean to offend! x"

waves ............ come to salisbury lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"waves ............ come to salisbury lol "

Heard its fun in Salisbury!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is only a number we should not look at age some older will give you a shock but some of the young once will shock you too so just think age is only a number i am 45 and my lovely brown eyes girl is only 26 and the sex we have is out of this world so no more age it just a number ok x x x

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"waves ............ come to salisbury lol

Heard its fun in Salisbury!"

Really...?!?

I like going to Salisbury but I've never really heard anyone describe it as being fun.

As to your original question, I don't think your age will be a show-stopper but it will narrow down your chances a little bit.

But that's something that applies to all of us for different reasons. You may be too young for some but they've commented on your cute appearance, whereas I may be in their preferred age range yet am considered too ugly. Horses for courses

Stick around and have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"waves ............ come to salisbury lol

Heard its fun in Salisbury!

Really...?!?

I like going to Salisbury but I've never really heard anyone describe it as being fun.

As to your original question, I don't think your age will be a show-stopper but it will narrow down your chances a little bit.

But that's something that applies to all of us for different reasons. You may be too young for some but they've commented on your cute appearance, whereas I may be in their preferred age range yet am considered too ugly. Horses for courses

Stick around and have fun."

i suspect though that for those of us that prefer our own age group, you are pretty hot stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age is only a number we should not look at age some older will give you a shock but some of the young once will shock you too so just think age is only a number i am 45 and my lovely brown eyes girl is only 26 and the sex we have is out of this world so no more age it just a number ok x x x "

Trouble is that at 26 yr lass is only 2 yrs older than my eldest and 4 yrs older than my youngest hence my preference for my own age group, and loads of others on here with kids feel the same

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