FabSwingers.com forum: What's the best way to get my fiancé ( fem ) into swinging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's the best way to get my fiancé into swinging ?

How did others start out ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to them not us....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

By talking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her, simples.

You know her better than we do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have talked bout it but she is really shy and will only talk when had a good drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my wife suggested it, years after I first suggested it. what I'm trying to say is, its got to be her decision. her choice. simple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yep I know it has to be her own choice but reckon she would enjoy it so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not judging. How about finding a swinging programme to watch with her and start the discussion that way?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Never thought of that boo boo kitty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not judging. How about finding a swinging programme to watch with her and start the discussion that way? "

Louis therroux weird weekends is on netflix, first episode is about swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well id venture suggest that if she needs to be tipsy to talk about it then it's a no go. If she won't discuss it sober then forget it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her but dont force her, if she says no so be it.

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

Suggest going to a local club - you don't have to "participate", just take a look around and see how it feels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant get someone to start , me and my partner openly spoke about it from start , knew before even goin out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty of forum posts with exactly the same question. Read them for advice.

But if she knows you are already swinging you are half way there.....

Mrs

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Set her up with a single account on fab and let her take it from there ... then she can decide for herself, no pressure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Set her up with a single account on fab and let her take it from there ... then she can decide for herself, no pressure"

This an ex of mine made us a joint account to get me into it. But because we had been together for a while before he did, I took it as he wasnt happy with me and it well and truly knocked my confidence, had women messaging to meet him on his own and gave me a bad view of it all, but coming on here since then as a single female has been a much better experience. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have talked bout it but she is really shy and will only talk when had a good drink"

Then she is not going to cope well when you are fucking someone in front of her and a stranger wants to do the same to her is she.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete your profile and talk to the woman u supposedly love.

Dirty talk in bed, often under the influence, is probably where most people start.

Trying to find other women to fuck behind her back probably isn't gonna do your relationship any good is it?

It takes time, talk and a whole load of trust to swing as a couple.

Now you've posted this a lot of people will see it, look at the little blue arrow next to your name, and swerve u.

I guarantee that if your looking for a great sex life, it's always better doing it with the person you love the most.

If I were u, I'd go away and sort your relationship out before you do this. Deceit is hurtful and unnecessary.

Work it out with your fiance, buy her sexy underwear, talk dirty to her, make her feel loved, secure and progress from there. Introduce blindfolds, toys etc over time. Help her awaken sexually and u will both enjoy the benefits of that.

It's not an overnight thing but it can happen. Explore sex together and you may eventually end up swinging.

But please, consider her before u go any further.

Miss Nico.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Delete your profile and talk to the woman u supposedly love.

Dirty talk in bed, often under the influence, is probably where most people start.

Trying to find other women to fuck behind her back probably isn't gonna do your relationship any good is it?

It takes time, talk and a whole load of trust to swing as a couple.

Now you've posted this a lot of people will see it, look at the little blue arrow next to your name, and swerve u.

I guarantee that if your looking for a great sex life, it's always better doing it with the person you love the most.

If I were u, I'd go away and sort your relationship out before you do this. Deceit is hurtful and unnecessary.

It's not an overnight thing but it can happen. Explore sex together and you may eventually end up swinging.

But please, consider her before u go any further.

Miss Nico."

Well written.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my wife suggested it, years after I first suggested it. what I'm trying to say is, its got to be her decision. her choice. simple.

Absolutely!

you can't push .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say don't do it. Sounds like neither of you are really suited to it.

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By *aydeesclubCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

I would say don't do it too, if I was engaged to some one and they suggested swinging I would presume they don't love me enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally if you are bored with your sex life and you are not married swining may be the easiest way to destroy your relationship completely.

Fickle creatures women, how would you feel if she really gets into it and is off fucking fit toned massive men while you are stuck at home because to be honest she will have significantly more choices than you.Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the best way to get my fiancé into swinging ?

How did others start out ?"
not really a good stage in your relationship to suggest you want to fuck another woman ,is it ?

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By *rmrsgyCouple
over a year ago

cleethorpes

There's ya first problem don't ever talk unless your sober

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her you've been actively trying to cheat on her for 3 months?

That'll probably get her bedding other men

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"What's the best way to get my fiancé into swinging ?

How did others start out ?"

Don't start without her.

Think of it like this, how can she get you into sucking cock. She likes it so she reckons you will too.

Setting up a single profile with no mention of her is not the best way.

As others have said talk, excite her first with sex between you. But if it's not for her then you can force someone to like what you like.

Then it's a matter of is she really the one?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Can't force

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't force "
can't believe this ones still going hehe this brings a new meaning to swinging not even married yet couples

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By *abloversCouple
over a year ago

London

Don't marry her for one. If your thinking about cheating before you get married then your not off to a great start!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I think marry her first then tell her you've joined fab and have met a few really sexy women you would like her to meet I think that should work ,she might try swinging after that just not with you

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"What's the best way to get my fiancé into swinging ?

How did others start out ?"

Have you tried Chloroform or a stun gun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone not took the advice he sought out on the forum?

That's a surprise!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've not done anything so no I've not cheated or fucked her about, I was interested to see what it's all about that's why I made a profile then when I knew a bit more about it I was gonna speak more to her about it so no need for sarcasm thank you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I've not done anything so no I've not cheated or fucked her about, I was interested to see what it's all about that's why I made a profile then when I knew a bit more about it I was gonna speak more to her about it so no need for sarcasm thank you "

You see a lot of men say that, some even say they want to meet people to check them out before their partner meets them. Your profile is actually at odds with your post but if we overlook that, the best and to my mind only way to involve a loved one in anything like this is to talk to them about it before you try it. Saying one evening "darling I've been trying to have sex with other people so that I can tell you what its like" is unlikely to win you any brownie points however saying "I love you and I want to share sexual experiences with you" then taking the discussion from there might open up a whole world of possibilities.

Just saying.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

show her your profile and the site.

Talk, talk and more talk.

If she isn't interested, don't pressure her.

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By *ubybabyCouple
over a year ago

lincoln ish

I think showing her your profile on here would be a good honest way to start .it seems your prepaired to cheat on her what ever .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about in a bar casually bump into a complete stranger from another country who happens to be brilliant at massage? Just sayin.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete your profile!

This is the woman you are supposedly marrying ffs!

For a start you need to help her explore her sexuality, help her enjoy her body and what turns her on.

Just a quick chat about 'hey darling, I fancy fucking strangers, do you?' Is probably going to get you no where.

I like to think I'm broadminded but if my otherhalf had a profile on a swingers site before actually discussing it with me.....I would be ending the engagement and seriously reconsidering the relationship!

What's important to you....fucking strangers, or your future wife???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Delete your profile!

This is the woman you are supposedly marrying ffs!

For a start you need to help her explore her sexuality, help her enjoy her body and what turns her on.

Just a quick chat about 'hey darling, I fancy fucking strangers, do you?' Is probably going to get you no where.

What's important to you....fucking strangers, or your future wife???"
well said that woman with the good oral skills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Delete your profile!

This is the woman you are supposedly marrying ffs!

For a start you need to help her explore her sexuality, help her enjoy her body and what turns her on.

Just a quick chat about 'hey darling, I fancy fucking strangers, do you?' Is probably going to get you no where.

What's important to you....fucking strangers, or your future wife???"

Looks like he either listened or hes gone to start another profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rohipnol?

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