FabSwingers.com forum: Being too honest?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey I'm new here, only joined last week. Just wondering where I'm going wrong with my profile? Am I being too honest/blunt with it? Help would be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The username may put a lot of folk off before they even get to the profile/pics etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's my real name though. I'm lying, shit, maybe I should change it then

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Personally, first thing is the username is off-putting.

And although it may not be intentional, you almost insinuate during the first part of your profile that people must only be on here because they're ugly and can't pull in real life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh Jesus. That is definitely NOT what I was insinuating, I just couldn't think of ways to describe myself or look like I was up myself saying I was 'good looking' or stuff like that. I may give it up as a bad job and start again lol

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"Hey I'm new here, only joined last week. Just wondering where I'm going wrong with my profile? Am I being too honest/blunt with it? Help would be appreciated

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Take notice of the advice you've been given op. You've been on here a week that's no time at all on here. If you don't want men contacting you use the filters and then get rid of the part and the shampoo bottle on your profile

There are hundreds of threads on the forum about advice take a look through. It's not about having patience it's about having a good attitude and profile, take a look at some of the successful men's profiles op - don't copy them though.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dick pics all over. Do you really think we women are just dying to jump on a cock? Attatched to anyone or anything?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If you feel your profile reflects your personality, don't change a thing. I would think about adding a couple of body pics as cock pics only are dull. We've seen them before.

There's a social in York next month and I think they're still putting single guys on the list so maybe give that a go. Meeting face to face (and maybe picking up a couple of verifications) will help much more than a profile and a couple of pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The dick pics are simply because I can't really put my face or body pics as public due to not wanting to be recognised by someone I know. My face would give that away and so would my tattoos that are pretty obvious and wouldn't hide the fact it is me. I have stated about the face pic situation. What else would be good picture wise that would keep me safe from friends/family?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"What else would be good picture wise that would keep me safe from friends/family?"

Bum. Apollos belt. Or blur out the tats.

Although, if you are recognised on here surely the other person is on here too? Why should they want to cause hassle?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know what you mean but around here people would love spreading around any gossip on me and this would make their lives complete. My sons mum would love it, my work mates would never stop going on about it and I'd just rather not go through all that. I'd rather just private message pics to people I'm comfortable with and trust a bit. I probably sound like a right loser but that's how I am lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much blunt and honest rather cocky and arrogant and not give the impression from your comments about not having time to go out on the pull that you somehow think that the women or couples you say you want to meet on here are somehow less worthy of your time and that you shouldn't have to make any effort...

It's probably harder work on here than going out on the pull, you only have bare text to make an impression and many on here look for at least some kind of connection however tenuous before considering meeting, and that takes time...

good luck though., As someone said, perhaps a social will help to make a better first impression than you are with your profile

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If you do a search in the name section for 'grey' or 'Christian' or some other 'shades' combination, you'll see lots of others so the name won't make you stand out - in fact, as others have mentioned, it puts people off.

There's a definite sense from your profile that you think this site is for ugly people. Perhaps you might consider rewording that section.

What were your expectations? It's a swinging site not an instant sex site. So you need patience....

I think there might be a more elegant way in which to write about what you don't like rather than mention a shampoo bottle. I read that as you trying it and didn't like it

Just join in and evolve your profile as you go along.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I'd rather just private message pics to people I'm comfortable with and trust a bit. I probably sound like a right loser but that's how I am lol"

Not a loser but you're going to have to put up with the fact your actions will restrict your success rate. There are loads more men than women on here and that means we are more likely to be attracted to the profiles that are well written and have a nice selection of pics.

I assume that means you're not willing to attend socials either. Would be highly amusing if you did and your workmates were there!

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I too read the profile text as quite negative and it made assumptions about people here. I think it has too much detail about your reasons for being here rather than what you are looking for or what you have to offer. It already sounds like you have a lot of drama in your life ... wouldn't want to be part of that.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Also, your profile sounds like you don't have time to meet. Better to put when you can meet than when you can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know what you mean but around here people would love spreading around any gossip on me and this would make their lives complete. My sons mum would love it, my work mates would never stop going on about it and I'd just rather not go through all that. I'd rather just private message pics to people I'm comfortable with and trust a bit. I probably sound like a right loser but that's how I am lol"

You don't sound like a loser, it's a sensible decision. Do what's right for you. As far as your profile goes it seems ok to me, but then again read mine lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right I'm gonna go and re-do the full thing. I've come across as something I definitely aren't. Thanks for all the comments/brutal honesty, I like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start again. Read some successful profiles. You come across as a very negative person and to be honest, I didn't get past the first paragraph.

I also don't like loads of hair on mens bits. Your pics would definitely make it a no from me.

Good luck

Miss Nico

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile reads really negatively. You have said you have next to no time to meet, there is only one picture, you insinuate that people on here might be lingers. What's not to love?

You need to sell yourself. Where would women meet you? What can you offer? Defo need more pics. Bum maybe? Legs? Women have the pic of 1000s of men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dick pics all over. Do you really think we women are just dying to jump on a cock? Attatched to anyone or anything?"
hey dale did hehe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There's my first draft, that any better? I will put more pics on today and lose the dick pics lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"There's my first draft, that any better? I will put more pics on today and lose the dick pics lol"

Better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Username is really off putting

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"There's my first draft, that any better? I will put more pics on today and lose the dick pics lol

Better

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much better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers guys, I'm glad I asked (even though you all destroyed me) and hopefully I've fixed it. Don't wanna be coming across as a total dick when I'm not one. I can't change my username for two days so I'll have to wait and do it then. Thanks again, I appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dick pics are still there though...just the remote missing lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Remote? What remote? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah no pics but your cock. I never ask guys to send me a pic, even if they say it on their profile to ask.

Women get so many messages on here we're more likely to be looking for reasons not to message you back more than reasons why we should message you, it's easier that way.

You don't need a remote, that's a joke. If anyone mentions toilets that's a joke too...

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

Its all about you.

There is very little about what you are looking for in others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its all about you.

There is very little about what you are looking for in others.

Yeah it should be all about me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remote? What remote? Lol"

It was a joke lol

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