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By *lexavierWoman
over a year ago
north birmingham |
"You have already met someone..."
Doesn't mean you don't still few "new" or "nervous" about meeting folks!
I still get butterflies when meeting someone from here for the first time!
Main advice I have OP, is always be in control of where you are meeting, preferably somewhere public, and always have the means to get home - I have had people offer to pick me up from home to go elsewhere and then bring me back - that means I am then reliant on someone else to get home, not a good position to be in as a single female!
Have an arrangement with a friend to text, say 30 minutes after the time of an arranged meet, just to confirm you are safe and happy with where you are, if they don't hear from you, they can call, gives you an excuse if needed then to say you are urgently needed elsewhere if you need a diplomatic escape! Although, I have found usually that if I have not wanted to go further than a cuppa, the feeling is reciprocated, so never feel worried about saying "no", no matter how out of the way someone has come for you.
Finally, simply be yourself, know what you want, insist upon getting what you want, don't compromise, you are in a strong position as a single female in this community, use it!
Hope that helps a little, feel free to ask anything else.
Libertie |
