FabSwingers.com forum: any advice....what am I doing wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey guys

Bit of an intro and a help at the same time.

I am new to all of this and finding that I am just getting ignored!

My messages are always respectful, I read profiles in full, I am verified, have made my manhood pics private as I read that many will not respond to males if a pic of said genitalia is in public pics

One lady in particular I ticked every box she said she was particularly interested in e.g. beard, piercings tattoos and my message was straight up deleted

A lot say you need written verifications...how do I get them if I keep getting ignored...Surely everyone starts somewhere?

Not expecting people to fall over themselves to meet me but surely I am worth even a thanks but no thanks

At the point of deleting my account already so any obvious advice gratefully received

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your one photo is mainly of a dressing table with a little bit of bloke somewhere in the middle. Making someone ask for pics is likely to not getting asked, people just can't be bothered as there is plenty of choice where the pics are already on show.

Cock pic issue, to me (the male) if someone said they delete because a cock pic exists on the gallery then I'd want them to delete as they are too up their own backside to ever get on with me. Wife likes to see what's on offer, that it's not an acorn basically (to be blunt). Though 25 pics of a dick is overkill. One or two in a tasteful way is fine.

Your profile text is all about what you want, rather what you offer.

Just a few critiques, hope it's useful to you. Good luck.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

You have to make your profile stand out - inject a bit of humour and personality, take time to take some tasteful and interesting pics - your profile as it is at the moment has nothing to make you stand out from the 1000's on here

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By *rs TootyWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Your profile pic is pretty bad.. If your pic isn't enticing then your profile probably isn't worth looking at either..

Put some effort in and give us girls a bit more to look at.. Not cock pic tho..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same thing same feeling bro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not enough info on profile, says you cannot accommodate and that puts some off as it may mean you are married.

And yeah, the pic is not really very clear, too much in the foreground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Add more pics and more information . You only joined a couple weeks ago its takes time to build your profile on here to attract meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, your post here is longer than your profile.

I'm afraid you're going to need to put in a lot more effort if you hope to get any meets on fab.

Also, you are only photo verified.

Most people here when they say they will only meet people with verifications are referring to meet veri's. A photo verification, while certainly worth having, usually doesn't cut much ice with most.

Try doing a forum search for profile advice. There are dozens upon dozens of threads on the subject, and admin have grouped them all in the Introductions section to make them easier to find.

See what advice has been given to others and see how you can apply any of it to your own profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are one of the million males here, you need patience lol.

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By *akedwife12Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

Got to say the others are right your profile is pretty poor and lacks effort.

Also the valid point about you not being able to accommodate. Is there a wife sat quietly at home?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just jump in here reference the verifications. There is a lot on here that have met but can't verify because they haven't got one. Only get one off a verified user.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys some very good points. As for the wife part no there is no wife anymore!

I do have a partner and I will admit she is not aware of this....difficult to explain but I'm not the scumbag I am maybe appearing by saying I'm prepared to cheat. Sometimes people in relationships are trapped for whatever reason and in order to maintain some happiness in there lives a little secret as long as done safely can be what keeps a person going.

I know my reasoning may sound vague or cryptic but that's just because I don't want my life story on a forum haha

Really do appreciate the pointers though guys

Hope I haven't painted to much of a dim picture of myself

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Hey guys

Bit of an intro and a help at the same time.

I am new to all of this and finding that I am just getting ignored!

My messages are always respectful, I read profiles in full, I am verified, have made my manhood pics private as I read that many will not respond to males if a pic of said genitalia is in public pics

One lady in particular I ticked every box she said she was particularly interested in e.g. beard, piercings tattoos and my message was straight up deleted

A lot say you need written verifications...how do I get them if I keep getting ignored...Surely everyone starts somewhere?

Not expecting people to fall over themselves to meet me but surely I am worth even a thanks but no thanks

At the point of deleting my account already so any obvious advice gratefully received "

Your thread is longer than your profile, if you can't put the effort into "selling" yourself no one is going to ask you anything.

You state you matched what a lady was looking for, how would she know going by your scant profile? Most read the profile before the message. As you have no info and a poor photo taken in a Travelodge...hmmm...conclusions will be made, and you dismissed.

I think you also have to manage your expectations with regards this site and lose the sense of entitlement that comes across. No one owes you anything, let alone a shag!

Good luck!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Thanks guys some very good points. As for the wife part no there is no wife anymore!

I know my reasoning may sound vague or cryptic but that's just because I don't want my life story on a forum haha

Really do appreciate the pointers though guys

Hope I haven't painted to much of a dim picture of myself"

I suspected there was a partner. I think you should mention it for the less cynical than I to enable people to decide whether to meet you or not.

For some it won't matter one iota, for others they wouldn't touch you with someone elses! We will never appeal to all, so make yourself appeal to those looking for you!

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