FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing so wrong!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi ladys ive been on this site for nearly a year maybe more..

I have chatted to many and swapped pics with many who find me good looking and SAY they would like to meet then I get ignored...

What am I doing so wrong... any women in fife want to pop my swinging cherry xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they think you're good looking but then stopped the chat then it's possible you may have offended them somehow.

It's also possible that you did nothing wrong, just something better came along.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ive had over a year patience and this is the 3rd time ive registered in 4years still no meets..

If I was gay I could have a new man every night!!!

I want women lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need patience."

You forgot the "lol"

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im never rude unless asking to meet is rude

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Why did you keep leaving and re-registering?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need patience."

after a year you need a miracle not patience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I kept leaving as no meets... and kept comong back cos im horny 24/7

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Lose the status, and if you have to have a cock pic, make it erect. There's something a bit sad about a flaccid cock. Also I suspect Fife isn't full of swingers - you might have to look further afield.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair if i had to wait longer than an hour for a fuck i'd be disappointed, if it was a week i'd be really fed up and abandon the site. Much as it makes sense to be patient, don't think i could do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need patience.

You forgot the "lol"

-Courtney"
lol yes I did there

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Have you tried getting verified by cam or attending a social?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes people don't find you attractive, but they don't have the calls to say it to you (or they think it will be rude/awkward/etc.) so instead, they say they like the way you look, and then don't instigate further contact.

If you're not having problems getting to the point of sending pics and chatting, maybe there is something you need to change about the way you carry out your conversations. Maybe try to meet sooner? I'm not sure. It is hard giving advice when we can't see the conversations, etc.

Good Luck in the future, though.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair if i had to wait longer than an hour for a fuck i'd be disappointed, if it was a week i'd be really fed up and abandon the site. Much as it makes sense to be patient, don't think i could do it.

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But it is easier for women tho in general as they call the shots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HAHA calls should have said balls...sorry

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

id imagine you'd have to accomodate if you live in fife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I always try to meet.. I guess this site aint for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But it is easier for women tho in general as they call the shots."

That is true.. they do and guess an honest guy aint what women want

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I kept leaving as no meets... and kept comong back cos im horny 24/7 "

can you think of anything you're doing that you could change? Because obviously something has to change....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But it is easier for women tho in general as they call the shots."

If i was a guy i'd feel exactly the same way though. But i would probably stay here for the forums like you do.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"id imagine you'd have to accomodate if you live in fife. "

There are quite a lot of people in Fife. It is not on the moon.

Apart from Dunfermline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

put more about yourself and what you are looking for in profile, 3 lines says very little

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I kept leaving as no meets... and kept comong back cos im horny 24/7

can you think of anything you're doing that you could change? Because obviously something has to change...."

I dont know like I say they like they ask fpr pics

They want to meet.. I ask when and no reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there much action in Fife x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But it is easier for women tho in general as they call the shots.

If i was a guy i'd feel exactly the same way though. But i would probably stay here for the forums like you do.

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That's right and yeah I just use this site for the forum, its the best part of fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try not to keep leaving and starting new profiles, this will send warning signs out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's certainly an uphill slog for men on Fab, it really does depend on whether or not you 'click' and finding that couple can be very difficult.

Even as a couple we struggle to find men we totaly gel with and went well over a year without meeting anyone. You just need to keep trying and like others have said, lose the draining status as that would just put potential people off straight away, a few more pics would help too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in Glenrothes are you lol cause that put me off for a start hahaha sorry I'm joking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No not glenrothes lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I kept leaving as no meets... and kept comong back cos im horny 24/7

can you think of anything you're doing that you could change? Because obviously something has to change....

I dont know like I say they like they ask fpr pics

They want to meet.. I ask when and no

reply "

Firstly, stay on fab. Secondly, think about your photos. One of them is

excellent. Consider having a variety of different photos. As someone has already said, get yourself to a social or get a cam verification. Or organise your own social. Potential sexual partners would possibly maybe prefer to read. Adair but about what you can offer, what you're like as a person, what you're into etc. so they can make an informed decision on whether or not to meet you. If you don't give them much info, they won't meet you anyway. Don't put in barriers, make yourself, via your profile, someone worth meeting. Spark the ladies interest....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

This bloody phone correcting me with crap!!!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've had some really good looking men contact me, but when the messages are like pulling teeth? Ie 1 sentence with no context? I quickly become disinterested, you need to engage my brain long before you engage my body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had some really good looking men contact me, but when the messages are like pulling teeth? Ie 1 sentence with no context? I quickly become disinterested, you need to engage my brain long before you engage my body

Totaly agree, we have had something very similar and I think some men assume they can rely on their looks and cocks alone.

If we get nothing back in terms of banter and chat we lose interest very quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your status is a bit moany and negative, that can put people off too.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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that's what I meant about sparking the ladies interest.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Pretty much all of the above, put more work into your profile and pics, lose the moaning status and try a social to get known... Usually a few in Dundee which isn't too far

Good luck

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

it doesn't say anywhere on your profile about deep fried mars bars?

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Oh and I like a lot of other women (not all) like to get to know folk before I meet so try more normal conversation rather than go straight for the "when do you want to meet"

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Also I suspect Fife isn't full of swingers - you might have to look further afield."

actually i can tell you that fife and surrounding down to glasgow and edinburgh.. and up to dundee, has a brilliant swinging social scene and there are tons of regular events....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way to get laid is to attend a swingers party in your local area, get connected to the people - get your slonger out and wave it around like a Trojan sword, and most of all make the girls laugh! Ps, size matters

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area

OK, you asked for feedback, so here it is:

1) You are a single guy trying to meet women (and only women) on a swingers site, largely populated by couples and single men. Your target audience comprises a tiny percentage of the users on this site.

2) You have no public photos, the profile thumbnail doesn't count. It proves you own a pair of sunglasses.

3) In your first paragraph you describe yourself as an 'average guy' - not exactly selling yourself.

4) Second para "I have no experience of swinging" - not exactly selling yourself.

5) "Attached" - you've lost most of the single woman at this point (remembering they are already a tiny percentage of site users).

6) Not validated, not even on web cam, in a year?!

7) Can't accommodate - well obviously, the wife wouldn't approve, however it counts against you.

In summary, there is nothing in your profile that distinguishes you from the crowd. Furthermore there is plenty to label you as an 'avoid'.

If you genuinely just want to meet single women, then maybe a regular dating site would be a better choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had over a year patience and this is the 3rd time ive registered in 4years still no meets..

If I was gay I could have a new man every night!!!

I want women lol"

know how you feel so many men having a perv haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK, you asked for feedback, so here it is:

2) You have no public photos, the profile thumbnail doesn't count. It proves you own a pair of sunglasses.

3) In your first paragraph you describe yourself as an 'average guy' - not exactly selling yourself.

4) Second para "I have no experience of swinging" - not exactly selling yourself.

5) "Attached" - you've lost most of the single woman at this point (remembering they are already a tiny percentage of site users).

6) Not validated, not even on web cam, in a year?!

7) Can't accommodate - well obviously, the wife wouldn't approve, however it counts against you.

In summary, there is nothing in your profile that distinguishes you from the crowd. Furthermore there is plenty to label you as an 'avoid'.

If you genuinely just want to meet single women, then maybe a regular dating site would be a better choice.

the above is all I'd say.

I know there are many who wont mind you being attached..but finding a 1-1?-doubtful.

best option for u is some gb event..where people dont normally care..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dundee social drinks night on the 28th

we're a friendly bunch of pervs so check out the Scottish forums for more info

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe someone who's been on the site hasn't read all the advice and threads on this subject!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also I suspect Fife isn't full of swingers - you might have to look further afield.

actually i can tell you that fife and surrounding down to glasgow and edinburgh.. and up to dundee, has a brilliant swinging social scene and there are tons of regular events.... "

all lies..lies I tell ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at some profiles...some guys get lots of meets...some get none at all.....perhaps play "spot the difference" and do that whatever it is? Having pics may help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also I suspect Fife isn't full of swingers - you might have to look further afield.

actually i can tell you that fife and surrounding down to glasgow and edinburgh.. and up to dundee, has a brilliant swinging social scene and there are tons of regular events....

all lies..lies I tell ya"

Back in yir box P!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also I suspect Fife isn't full of swingers - you might have to look further afield.

actually i can tell you that fife and surrounding down to glasgow and edinburgh.. and up to dundee, has a brilliant swinging social scene and there are tons of regular events....

all lies..lies I tell ya

Back in my box P!"

anytime

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire, Glasgow

"Is there much action in Fife x"

Some people seem to get their fair share!

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire, Glasgow

Maybe try posting in the Scotland forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your mindset is all wrong. You're horny - great. That deosn't set you apart from any other guy on fab. You're not going to find a lot of women that are going to be made to feel like a free prostitue satisfying your needs.

Try this. Try thinking about satisfying the womans needs. Make her feel special, make her feel appreciated - show respect. Forget about what YOU want, find out what she wants. Make a woman feel special, sexy and respected and she'll want to do the same for you.

Sometimes guys are their own worst enemies. Desperation is the ultimate turn off .... Confidence (not to be confused with puch arrogance) is an aphrodesiac.

I hope this helps.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

To my mind you are doing this the wrong way round. Join a club and meet people in person and show your real personality, build a circle of playmates and use fab to stay in touch with them. Word will get around and you will soon be having meets. Effort in at the start certainly makes it easier in the long run, and unfortunately dashing off a few lines of a message to a prospective playmate doesn't show much effort.

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By *ack Genuine BullMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Sunglasses in your avatar shot = not a good idea, as ladies like to see your eyes.

If you keep on doing the same old things, you will keep on getting the same old results!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women may not want to meet because you're an attached guy playing away which to me implies that your partner is unaware. You've got a relationship can't you just be happy with that. To a single person like myself who would love to have a boyfriend I just think the cheating people are greedy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some women may not want to meet because you're an attached guy playing away which to me implies that your partner is unaware. You've got a relationship can't you just be happy with that. To a single person like myself who would love to have a boyfriend I just think the cheating people are greedy. "

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

But it is easier for women tho in general as they call the shots.

That is true.. they do and guess an honest guy aint what women want "

Ah another honest cheater

this site!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

ou're attached.

You can't accommodate.

I don't do most things on your interests list.

Im into sex not fantasies.

I don't find you sexually attractive.

You are not verified.

Im out of your age range

Not that you asked to meet but that'd be why I said no. Other women have their reasons.

No point in being anyone but yourself.

It won't happen if you keep leaving.

For the record being horny doesn't mean someone is going to deal with it for you.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I already gave you tips last night via PM as you requested and you still haven't acted on it!

Your profile is still all about you! You still do not mention what you can offer a woman on here, or any reason why she would want to meet you.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

Gasp !

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