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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all, this is our first post to the forums, and we're still fairly new to this site, been here for a couple of months. In those months we've messaged a few women, winked at dozens, but only receive replies from a few.

Even then the conversation is very short, we accept their friend request so they can perv on our pics n vice versa and we even attach face pics so they know we're real n serious not time wasting but soon the conversation just dies. Literally no more messages are exchanged still yet to arrange a meet with anyone on here.

Are we doing something wrong?

Or is it our profile that's not quite right? :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the single mens world, you need patience, its about ing out the dreamers lol, good luck tho and good profile.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Welcome to the forum.

I haven't looked at your profile but your name suggests you know you are looking for the rarest of beasts. Those unicorns might need something more to hook them.

Consider whether you would answer your message, perhaps?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

What's in it for the unicorns?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the forums you are looking for the elusive single bi female that would like to meet couples it is a bit like a needle in a haystack good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all looking for that elusive single female, finding one that's happy to play with you both will be even more rare! They're out there though so good luck, I hope you find what you're after!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps, following the exchanging of faves pics they've decided that you're not their type etc and the conversation just fizzles to a natural end.

It may not be that you're specifically doing something wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're all looking for that elusive single female, finding one that's happy to play with you both will be even more rare! They're out there though so good luck, I hope you find what you're after! "

Jinx x

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

Maybe meet with a few couples and see if the female will 'unicorn' for u guys? I have been asked a few times and me and Mr C are OK with that. It's always up to me whether it happens. Good luck. Miss C. Xx

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think you're profile is quite good. It's nice to see pics of both of you. I wouldn't be interested but that's only because your out of my age range.

Good luck, I'm sure there women out there for you somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you are concentrating on the hardest relationship. We have had the pleasure but do not expect it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would all love to find a bi-sexual female to play with...therein lies your problem, if you're only looking for single females you are up against almost everyone on the site so you have to stand out from the crowd. I don't believe they are unicorns as I've never seen a unicorn but we have had encounters with several single females through swinging. We have had most of our luck through clubs, certain clubs get a good single female attendance and they can see you and chat to you without committing and they can see what you have to offer. Hang in there it's worth it in the long run

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By *heorgasmaddictMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

What on earth is a unicorn???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What on earth is a unicorn???"

A magical mythical creature x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, this is our first post to the forums, and we're still fairly new to this site, been here for a couple of months. In those months we've messaged a few women, winked at dozens, but only receive replies from a few.

Even then the conversation is very short, we accept their friend request so they can perv on our pics n vice versa and we even attach face pics so they know we're real n serious not time wasting but soon the conversation just dies. Literally no more messages are exchanged still yet to arrange a meet with anyone on here.

Are we doing something wrong?

Or is it our profile that's not quite right? :/"

You have done your profile really well, so I don't think it's anything you've done, just that what you're looking for has not come along yet.

Good luck and I hope things work out for you

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Elusive... rare... unicorns... total crap!

There are loads of single bi fems out there who want to play with couples.

If you are chatting with one, and you send face pics, and then the messages dry up, there could be two reasons.

1/ You just aren't their type... this might be the reason once or twice, but its unlikely to be this reason every time... which brings us to...

2/ It's not a bi fem, it's a sweaty hairy trucker called Dave, and as he cant respond with a genuine face pic he bins you.

We have played with loads of ladies, but none of them have been one of these "single bi fems"... but they have all been friends who just happen to be single, female and bi lol!

Stop hunting them, and get out and enjoy the scene, socials, parties, and clubs, and you will soon find yourself knee-deep in friends of the right sort lol!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all for the quick n friendly responses ^_^, we picked our username because we were looking for something a little less forward but also something more original than dudleycouple69 or something lol.

We've had experiences in he past with friends both male n female but we realised we much preferred female company so that's why our profile only says looking for women :p, we figured there's no point stringing on a guy or couple with long conversations if we never have any intention to meet

As for the clubs its something we'd love to try at some point but we're very new to this lifestyle, both very shy, and to be honest a little intimidated by the thought of going to a club :$

Any tips on how to tackle these nerves?

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Thanks all for the quick n friendly responses ^_^, we picked our username because we were looking for something a little less forward but also something more original than dudleycouple69 or something lol.

We've had experiences in he past with friends both male n female but we realised we much preferred female company so that's why our profile only says looking for women :p, we figured there's no point stringing on a guy or couple with long conversations if we never have any intention to meet

As for the clubs its something we'd love to try at some point but we're very new to this lifestyle, both very shy, and to be honest a little intimidated by the thought of going to a club :$

Any tips on how to tackle these nerves?"

Yup, enjoy the buzz that comes with that nervousness lol!

Clubs shouldn't really be a problem, after all, it isn't compulsory to play, we have friends who go loads, but only play on rare occasions.

You can find lockable rooms in most clubs, so if you get horny but haven't found anyone who takes your fancy, grab a lockable room and have fun together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What on earth is a unicorn???"

A single bi female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What on earth is a unicorn???

A single bi female"

My best friend......but unfortunately for others...she has now come off the site again....but patience! I'm sure she will be back (for a fourth time)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What on earth is a unicorn???

A single bi female"
I thought it was a wild animal in afrika?.

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By *rs Mia WallaceWoman
over a year ago

Bathwyche


"Thanks all for the quick n friendly responses ^_^, we picked our username because we were looking for something a little less forward but also something more original than dudleycouple69 or something lol.

We've had experiences in he past with friends both male n female but we realised we much preferred female company so that's why our profile only says looking for women :p, we figured there's no point stringing on a guy or couple with long conversations if we never have any intention to meet

As for the clubs its something we'd love to try at some point but we're very new to this lifestyle, both very shy, and to be honest a little intimidated by the thought of going to a club :$

Any tips on how to tackle these nerves?"

nerves: well, I tried booze first off....not always a good way. And then, I went to a club which was highly recommended and looked at it as a social event rather than ...well, putting expectation on it. I go as a single lady and am increasingly likely to play with females/couple in a club than outside of one.

And also, I second what others are saying....I have a couple of female friends who are part of a married couple and are bi-sexual, therefore happy to play as 'single' lady with another couple. It's just a case of checking out couples profiles and messaging a few.

And nature of the site I think, some people you meet up with, some things fizzle out. Wouldn't take it personally. Your profile seems honest and straight forward and would happily message if that's something I readily opt for.

Go to a club. Check out the reviews and drive out somewhere if necessary. its a great place to talk to people in person....and convos only fizzle out naturally then!

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain


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Stop hunting them, and get out and enjoy the scene, socials, parties, and clubs, and you will soon find yourself knee-deep in friends of the right sort lol! "

THIS is the single best piece of advice on this thread folks.

I cannot yet think of a single fem, let alone single bi fem that I've met online or this site simply by messages. They've all been through Socials etc. Men however are another matter - they'll meet right off the bat from the get go. Perhaps women approach things differently & consider options before commuting to a Meet or have safety concerns, whereas men might not.

You're profile seems spot on. Direct, states EXACTLY what you're looking for tho possibly might benefit from trying the "happy to meet socially" first.

As for your nerves & shyness about clubs etc - you will never know until you take that plunge. So make that move & those first steps. That single bi fem might just be at the club the night you're there. They may not, but you might enjoy it, get over the nerves, & meet others who share similar interests. You'll soon chat, share stories & help each other.

Fab is just the conduit to finding the rarest of things, so use it as such, expect little & enjoy the rewards.

Good luck, & don't give up.

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By *khotcouple20Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

We have had a similar problem to you... I think you would be surprised to see who is actually hiding behind some of these so called female profiles... That's our take on it anyways.. It would be interesting to know whether you are indeed actually talking to a female at all... Who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not alone. Think it happens to everyone and we imagine there's another 'layer' all at like bunnies.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

in the interests of being helpful..i looked at your profile as you were so nicely asking and i cannot see what you are expecting..consider adding whether you want an equal three way dynamic or what your boundaries are..concentrate on the wills not the wont's...

i do meet couples through messages.

also consider your age range again,,its about the person and the fit of the dynamic not often about the number, although i understand if you dont.. i agree with going to clubs..not sure if bi nights might be the thing for you..you'd at least get to meet some bi ladies, one might click with you or agree to meet with you on another occasion...happy playing x

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By *ovetolickpussy69Man
over a year ago

south east

I feel your pain lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single straight female but I have played when in a couple with another couple and me and other female have had played at same time. clubs can seem really intimidating but going in together is easier then going in single but I think you find them very welcoming. I did at the spa I go to. give it time you will find the right person to play with. Have lots of fun

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Thanks all for the quick n friendly responses ^_^, we picked our username because we were looking for something a little less forward but also something more original than dudleycouple69 or something lol.

We've had experiences in he past with friends both male n female but we realised we much preferred female company so that's why our profile only says looking for women :p, we figured there's no point stringing on a guy or couple with long conversations if we never have any intention to meet

As for the clubs its something we'd love to try at some point but we're very new to this lifestyle, both very shy, and to be honest a little intimidated by the thought of going to a club :$

Any tips on how to tackle these nerves?"

Find a club that you like the look of, drive to it, park up and immediately get out of the car and walk through the door. Don't sit there thinking about it or you won't go in. That's what I did as a single guy just over a year ago and I've never looked back since. I was quaking in my boots too. In the last year I've made some wonderful friends, some I play with and some I don't.

When you get in there don't hide in a corner and wonder why no one is taking to you, stay by the bar and socialise, make friends, and have fun.

You'll leave at the end of the night wondering what you were worried about xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have had a similar problem to you... I think you would be surprised to see who is actually hiding behind some of these so called female profiles... That's our take on it anyways.. It would be interesting to know whether you are indeed actually talking to a female at all... Who knows "

If the female asks for more pics and What are you going to do to me? It's a man baby

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


"Welcome to the forums you are looking for the elusive single bi female that would like to meet couples it is a bit like a needle in a haystack good luck x"

I'm one of those needles

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for all the advice

we've updated our profile a bit with your help :p, still not sure on clubs yet though, might put it on the bucket list of things to do before we hit 30 haha

Thanks once again

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What on earth is a unicorn???"

A horrible derogatory term for a bi female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

def a bi fem cpl and would love to find a fem or a bi fem cpl for some fun

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By *issy NickersWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm messaged by couples and many of the requests imply they want me as their play thing. Not really tempting so I will only play with couples at clubs and parties - no problems there as everyone's enjoying themselves and you're not invited as performing unicorn/monkey. I'll also play with my girlfriends whenever we can.

To all the couples inviting single men and women into their private homes - don't approach us as if we're primarily for your entertainment.

Good luck

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By *oveyou2Couple
over a year ago

somewhere Kerry

Definitely nothing wrong with you guys or your profile. Bi fems are as rare as hens teeth ON THEIR OWN. We find there is loads of bi fems in couples and they are fantastic. In a nut shell, you are probably evolving into swinging as a couple and what a lifestyle it. It's brilliant . We wish you guys the very best of luck on your journey. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See we have that problem we only look for a full BI couple or male but we don't like the female to touch the male (that's both our preference) but we have met someone on here and was genuine! It's rare to find that FULL SINGLE BI FEMALE

Good luck

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