FabSwingers.com forum: First Ffm

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys... We are new to the scene! Very new! We are seeking a female for our first Ffm and it's proving rather difficult! Some people seem offended by us Not requiring another man or couple... Is this normal? We are not ready to introduce another man to the bedroom! Help us on our quest for our first Ffm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are pretty new to this ourselves. But what I would say is, that by looking for a single female, you are searching for the most sought after member of this site. The amount of messages they have to go through is probably even more than us couples do. So getting through to them will be about trying to seem as a bright a needle as possible in the haystack. Maybe try and pick some catchy message headers if you contact people? It's probably good interacting in the forums as you just have as well.

Then again, as I said, we are new also, so this is the blind leading the blind. Ha.

As for people being offended, Meh, that's going to happen. Some people don't take well to rejection, even if it's done politely. There are plenty of nice people on here though, as we have found already.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome! You have preferences. Stick to them and don't worry about what others think. You are looking for what a lot of others are on here. The site is over run by single men who don't read profiles.

Have a look out for socials in your area. Take baby steps and get yourselves out there. Good luck.

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Peronally i think you will find it alot easier if you go to a club, the club we go to (and probably most clubs)has a Bi night once a month, and you will certainly find what you are seeking there.

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guess we have been lucky finding ours..be friendly non pushy and keep trying ..they are out there..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are on the same search and completely feel your pain lol. We will continue the search and can't wait to enjoy the fruits of our labor. Will be thinking of you in our mutual quest. May we both get lucky (so to speak) lol

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

If you are looking for a bi female for a FFM on here join the back of a very long queue!

The best way to succeed, as someone above has said, is to join a club. That's where I see almost all of my bi female action - but even there it is usually FFMM or MMMMF rather than a simple but nice FFM.

But good luck!

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By *r and mrs willingCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH WEST & WALES

"Hi guys... We are new to the scene! Very new! We are seeking a female for our first Ffm and it's proving rather difficult! Some people seem offended by us Not requiring another man or couple... Is this normal? We are not ready to introduce another man to the bedroom! Help us on our quest for our first Ffm

Although the following explanation may not apply to you, it might help you understand the difficulties around finding a lady for your ffm.

Sometimes couples are looking for a bi woman specifically to fulfil the man's fantasy about watching 2 women together. If the female of the couple isn't genuinely interested In women, it isn't easy to pretend that she is enjoying sexual contact with another woman and I think this can result in the "spare fem" feeling used rather than being there to enjoy a mutually satisfying encounter. There are also issues of jealousy when the woman doesn't want her partner to have any contact with the other lady and this is really off putting to a genuine bi lady who is looking for fun with a couple. There are single bi fems who meet couples but I suspect they are savvy enough to know all the signs and can pick and choose carefully to make sure they get what they want and don't end up feeling like an unpaid prostitute who is there solely for the man's gratification. I will meet couples for ffm but only when I know them well enough to know I'm not there to put on a show, but for all 3 of us to have relaxed uninhibited sex.

Try the clubs and socials route as has been suggested, otherwise you are just relying on your profile to attract a single bi female, along with thousands of other couples all wanting the same.

Good luck with this though , I hope that when you find the right person, you all have a good time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

talk to the fems - make them the centre of your attention and understand their position and concerns - we have played with single fems and when you get to meet several times over the whole experience just gets better - so many times we read that fems feel they are there for the guys pleasure only to watch 2 fems playing (saying that - we know a fem who wants to be our plaything - but thats a whole different story)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judging by the amount of messages I get, most people seem to be looking for just a single female to play! (I prefer a couple where I can play alone or bring a playmate)

The things that have grabbed my attention are being able to chat to the female and not just the man as that makes me suspicious, them asking for a social first as I find that more respectful, them sending face pictures with their message so I can see immediately if they are my type and most importantly.....

Them actually realising this about my pleasure too and not just being a little play thing for them. It's also about what I like and need

I have to say, I have been very very lucky!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for feedback guys! Well, it happened! And well, what can I say??!! Wow!! I think he rather enjoyed his birthday treat... Needless to say, so did we

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for feedback guys! Well, it happened! And well, what can I say??!! Wow!! I think he rather enjoyed his birthday treat... Needless to say, so did we

Lucky him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're normal... Unfortunately most couples are looking for the same thing and that means single women can be very choosy with who they decide to sleep with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we come as a cpl but that doesnt mean mr E wants to play, he is more of a voyeur so if any fems or cpls looking for a bi fem look this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have played with couples in the past for ffm although never full swapped with the male (my choice). From experience there has to be total trust and no hang ups/jealousy issues! It does happen, it can take a while to arrange, I agree! Let the lady do the talking when looking for another female x hope you find what you're looking for ! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"we come as a cpl but that doesnt mean mr E wants to play, he is more of a voyeur so if any fems or cpls looking for a bi fem look this way

Thanks for the invite, however after looking at your profile, I'm a little on the larger size for your preferences (no offence taken - each to there own)

But I'm still damn sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is very hard truing to find that needle on the haystack , but we have found it after a long search . At first we just had males watching us then couples watching and then invite the female to join in with us . Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im finding hard getting a couple, im thinking its because of my age x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single girls are very hard to find but I think we have been very lucky with the ones we have had the pleasure of finding on here in the short time we've been in the site.. We never force the subject and make it clear from the outset what we and they are looking for in a meet, seems to work well x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"im finding hard getting a couple, im thinking its because of my age x "

I'm only 24 Nd think that may be a turn off also? Maybe I'm wrong? I realise that a lot of women don't want to just be a play thing but let's be honest... That's all fb's are! Of course we would care for there needs also but all the single females seem to be miles away!! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"im finding hard getting a couple, im thinking its because of my age x

Only 24 and***** X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im finding hard getting a couple, im thinking its because of my age x

That's what we are all here for not a relationship but our alto egos and enjoy them xx

Only 24 and***** X"

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"im finding hard getting a couple, im thinking its because of my age x "

I am having difficulty finding a couple ..... Its probably my age (or that fact that i am an idiot and post silly messages in forums).

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By *llNatural36FWoman
over a year ago

Denbighshire

If people get offended then that's their tough luck, manners and respect go a long way and having been a "couple looking for another bi fem" I know the struggle. Good luck with your search and don't give up there are those rare ones out there

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